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I'm writing a 4 page essay about fast food in biology. So I need your opinion on a few things.

-Does fast food have negative health affects? And what are those?

-Should fast food companies tell people what's unhealthy in their food ? So they can decide whether to eat it or not?

-Are people addicted to fast food?

I've already written a few long paragraphs but I'm out of ideas.. so I need some help. Especially for the first one. I need some biology terms in it and I'm not good at it.

This is a great topic. I hope you get a chance to watch a movie titled "Supersize Me". It's a non-fiction and the guy it features started off with no health issues. After eating a few meals at McDonald's for a month he had a high cholesteral and his health was at risk. Fast food is for convience not health. They have healthier alternatives, but in my opinion it's the public's descision if they want to eat there the promoters are just making a living.

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im doin a fundraising thing where i have to sell magazines and if i ask people they say no how do i get them to say yes

Don't let "Would you like to buy.." be the first phrase they here. Inform them of the cause you're representing and say "Would you like to support" or "Would you like to help". All you need to do is re-word things and you'll get more customers.

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i feel sad and depressed all the time no one understands me and i want to find someone who will say that they love me but i can't i just want to die. i know i sound like i am wallowing in self pity but i just feel so sad and alone. i asked this one guy out and i was rejected my mom says i am stupid and i am just feeling so alone what can i do?

People are just like that sometimes. They will criticize you to relieve stress. You really don't have to believe anything anyone says. Find out for yourself..Are you really stupid? I don't you are: I mean, you're realizing what the problem is and what you want to do about it, so its not always accurate to put trust into criticism. I don't get support on a lot of things I do, but that should just make you want to put more effort into what you're trying to accomplish. People do and always will love you-it's just a matter of letting them know you want as much love as they're willing to offer. Make the distance dissapear and open up more than you already have. If you were really alone in this world there wouldn't be people with the same problem as you're dealing with right now-try joining a group to talk about it or something that would be even better is to join something like drama because you can do anger scenes and people will think you're acting. Try to get those suicidal thought over your head:that's not a solution.

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ok so there's this girl in school and well she's a big dork and she doesn't shower daily. She's pretty much the biggest skank ever.

well lately she has been getting this scab on her top lip and on her bottum lip i mean they are huge! The bottum covers 75 % of her chin and the top covers like 25% well her lips are gross to. but these scabs are like red around the edges and yellow puss looking stuff on top. i can't figure out wat it is. and i want to help her get rid of it cuz she's helpless to it. wat should i say to her about it? and wat do you think it is? i don't think she is sexual active so im guessing its not herpes or anything like that. shes only in the 7th grade so i really don' think thats a factor in this. its really gross and she is being made fun of for it i feel sorry for her please answer allllllll the questions!

It doesn't seem like you're concerned about helping her. You say "dork" like it's a bad thing. I can't even imagine how it's possible for someone to be a dork and a skank at the same time. I don't mean to come off as just trying to bring you down, but you need to be more selective of your words. Don't pity the girl or anyone else in life how about being a friend to her?

-Oh, & chill. This answer was from last year. You clearly have some issues.

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im in drama and every time i try to do my act, this girl keeps taking over and keeps saying im not doing it right on every little thing. how do i become good enough so she wont say anything, she doesnt only do it to me, she does it to other people and they get mad too. any advice to this situation?

Say, "Great, you seem to know so much when it comes to critiquing me, so I'm excpecting you to have a flawless performance!" Make her aware that she's being a snob by that phrase and if it's starts conflict-then;that's life..Defend yourself

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my boyfriend has the same name as my dad, jerry, and it's kind of weird to use his name since it's also my dad's name.. so i was wondering if there was any nicknames for 'jerry' that i could use? i dont like using terms like 'hon, dear, sweetie', etc... something close to his name will be great :) thanks

Jear Bear..like Care Bear!! Kinda corny, but it shows he cars about you if he'd actually let you call him that!!

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what is the best black pencle eyeliner out there??
i want eyeliner that goes on smooth help!!

At CVS a great brand is Milani. Possibly 3 dollars? All of their products are great actually.

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This boy & I fight a lot, over the dumbest things. Like I'll jokingly say something slightly rude, and he'll take it so so so personally and not talk to me for a week. We are extremely close, and getting in these small fights about every week stresses me out badly. Is there any tips you can give me on how to avoid these fights? (And he jokes too, I just don't take it as bad as he does)

I have the same problem you have-except it's me who gets mad..like I'll make a comment to someone, but if they ever said something like that to me I'd go berserk!! Find a level of respect for eachother. Maybe your style of humor is upsetting him. Insults are funny, but not to the person in the spotlight getting made fun of. If you're a random person then say more random things around him instead of insulting and offensive things.

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i know this is kinda long, but if you're gay [female or male], please read.

just so you know, i'm 15/f
lately i've been thinking about dating a girl.
i went through a short bi-curious thing in sixth grade [im in highschoool now], but i found this girl. and she's really cute and amazing. and i honestly would date her. i know women are just generally attractive, but i really like her. the thing is i'm willing to try being with a girl. but i would want them to know that i'm not sure with the whole gay thing. the girl i like is bi, but she knows for a fact she is. i think i would enjoy being with a girl emotionally and physically. i'm trying to figure out if this is just a phase or what. i'm confused as hell.
what should i do?

I'm 15 too and it's like you've spoke everything I couldn't put into words!! Definetly try it out. It's not permanent: you can always change your mind so why not?

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i love singing. but the problem is i dont know if i sing good or not. so is there a way to see if you sing good or not?

sorry if this questin is weird..

If you post a video on www.youtube.com {if you own a digital camera} I'll let you know..honestly it's all about opinion it all depends on the style. I'm willing to help you if you can get a video running.

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hey i just started musical theater and i dont know anyone else whos doig it...and im soo terrifyed.i wanted to do musical theater cause its my passion...i love it but im so afraid that no one will like me or somthing..how can i get rid of this fear?

Chances are you're going to find others in the group who are just as passionate and usually that's enough to relate to a person with. As long as you're considerate of others and take direction well, there is not a legit reason to be worried. Things are only what you make them and if you walk in nervous that's no way to stand out from every one else because everyone has those feelings. Try to be the outgoing one.

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There's this boy that I am on and off with. I mean I really like him but I have a tendency to find the tiny bad things in people and trip over it completely and normally that's why I have dumped him a lot. I don't know if I should give him a longer chance and stick with him or move on... But I do really like him and I always will and I know that I get jealous when girls flirt with him. What should I do?

Just a guess, but maybe you're like me and afraid to commit. Like you have things to be done of your own interest and aren't ready to worry about someone else as deeply. I used to find things in people that would be total turn-offs, but they probably don't have more quirks than anyone of us. It's just that if we always focused on such small things we'd be missing the big picture and when you miss that: it's gone and it's not always something you could redeem.

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but how do i get him to like not interogate me? i talked about me enough and it was overwhelming. mostly becuase there was this other guy there and both of them just kept criticizing. like "o my gosh you don't like music what's wrong with you?" or "what do you just stay at home and do nothing" or he'd ask what do you like to do and the other guy would be all "schoolwork" right away just becuase he thinks i'm a nerd. the guy asking really wasn't that bad i just don't want him asking anymore.

The reason this is upsetting you is because you're buying into what he has to say. He's making you think there's something wrong with you when there really is not. You're giving him the ability to make you feel threatened. Don't allow that to happen. You need to accept yourself and give people a chance to see who it is you really are..There is no amount of advice that could control a person's actions, so what he does is uncontrollable by me, but how his words affect you is your choice.

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how do you tell someone you don't really hang out anywhere special (your mostly at home) and what you like to do when most of that stuff is at home without him thinking your like a freakish loner? i mean he already thinks im sooooo wierd because i said i don't like music i don't play (no criticism)but wierdos atleast have friends. i do have friends though. just how do i swing the conversation aroud to...anything but me? usually i like to talk about myself but i feel like this guy's interogating me!

I like to hang around the house and I'm a really friendly person. It's nothing you should want to hide or avoid. It just means that you are more grateful and are content with things that others may not be. Wow. I always change the conversation around to me! I think the way to change that is stop feeling like you have something to prove and give others the chance to teach you. You'll get your chance to talk about youself!!

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well my one friend is having like a party and she invited me to go tommorrow night and sleep over afterwards. i asked my mom and she said yes as long as the parents are home. well today i found out no parents will be there and itll be like an open house. I really really want to go. but now the guilt is coming to me. What should i do? I mean i don't always wanna be such a goody good. please help i really wanna go?! whats your advice. thanks

Just be grateful your parents care enough to ask about supervision. Don't even think about disobeying them. I'm not a goody-good, but without parents there the chances of something happening that shouldn't really could. Seriously, I don't want to have to list the things that could occur, I think you can figure it out. I'm not trying to be harsh, but these are not plans you should follow through with.

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Today i got my senior picture proofs back and i emailed the ones i liked to my grandma. She looked at them and told my mom that i should of worn nicer shirts that showed more clevage and that i should of worn more make-up.

My cousn is the same age as me and shes getting senior pictures but her are going to be Glamour shots.

My grandma told me that i should of gotten glamour shots because they do the make-up for you.

I dont wear alot of make-up because i believe people dont need to wear it. Im nothing like my cousin shes really slutty and wears enough makeup for 10 people.

How do i tell my grandma that im not my cousin.
it hurts how she doesnt like any of my pictures.

thank you

I agree completly with you-I actually don't wear any makeup and it's good that you don't either. Simply tell her you are two different people and she needs to appreciate that because you aren't going to change to satisfy her when it comes to something having nothing to do with her. Not the nicest way to word it, but she doesn't have much of a say on this topic.

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What and where are some tips to becoming a better singer? I want to be better for the 8th grade advanced chorus and school starts soon. Please help me

Try not to sing so early in the morning especially if your voice isn't warmed up from talking and exercises. Don't drink as much cold water it will strain your vocal chords when you try to sing-drink room temperature. Hands should be at your side and shoulders shouldn't be stiff, so definetly stretch before. Open your mouth wider when singing-on those vowels it really helps. If you scream a lot try not to because that will make you damage your voice.

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Im going into my sophmore year of High School, and for some reason, this past year I have been getting really harassing phone calls/voicemails, messages on myspace, and IM's from screen names I dont know. I never did anything to deserve it, but people keep calling me a slut and a whore. I dont understand why they are calling me that, and I dont know how to stop it. Its so unfair :(

Technology is allowing people to say things they wouldn't normally say to your face. Delete your myspace-people don't need to know your life story. As for IMs it's a good way to communicate with your friends because you're just talking and they're not stalking you by looking at your pictures and comments and so on..Your cell phone is okay too. Just limit the time you spend on these things it's a huge part of the problem.

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Okay, well, I'm usually an optimist. I love and appreciate all that I have. I just have one little problem.
Since school started, it seems like all of my friends have had guys who have liked them, or have gotten boyfriends. It all seems so perfect for them, but look at me. I've liked this one guy for a while and he likes me as a friend. I guess I'm still hoping he'll come around and realize that he could like me.
It hurts when all of your friends talk about getting kissed and going on dates and you can't.
What should I do?

I feel the same as you do as time-not as far as boyfriends lol, but here's some advice. He might just see you as cute because of your tone of voice and facial expressions that's not a bad thing, but if you really want to a relationship with him start flirting and be a little more assertive.

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