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questioning orientation
i know this is kinda long, but if you're gay [female or male], please read.
just so you know, i'm 15/f
lately i've been thinking about dating a girl.
i went through a short bi-curious thing in sixth grade [im in highschoool now], but i found this girl. and she's really cute and amazing. and i honestly would date her. i know women are just generally attractive, but i really like her. the thing is i'm willing to try being with a girl. but i would want them to know that i'm not sure with the whole gay thing. the girl i like is bi, but she knows for a fact she is. i think i would enjoy being with a girl emotionally and physically. i'm trying to figure out if this is just a phase or what. i'm confused as hell.
what should i do?
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I'm a 22 year old bi girl, and I went through almost exactly the same thing when I was your age.
My advice? You should go for it - fuck what everybody thinks! Sexuality is fluid - we fall in love with people not their gender/sexuality.
IMO we're all bi-sexual, it's just that most people won't admit it to themselves.
Tell your gal that you're confused - she's bi herself, so she'll understand. Just give it a try - you might be gay/straight/bi whatever, but you won't know unless you give it a go.
And you don't have to decide right now - if ever- if you prefer guys to girls. You fall in love with whoever you wanna be with, regardless. Hope it goes well!:)
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Many, many girls your age are interested in experementing with dating other girls. Even if they don't admit it. If you like this girl you should give it a shot with her, you should tell her that you are not 100% sure about your sexual orientation yet, but that you really like her. I'm sure that she will have gone through a simmilar experience before she decided that she was bi. She will most likely understand what you are going through and try help you through the confusion. DO NOT refer to her as an experiment!!! That can be offensive. Don't worry about anything that anyone else says, most people who ridicule gay/bi people are trying to cover their own confused sexual feelings. It might just be a phase, but it might be for real. If you enjoy being with this girl then you should be with her. Don't worry everyone is confused and questions their sexual orientation at some point, especially during thier teen years. I know it can be very frustrating and confusing, just remember that you have to face these feelings and you are not alone in any way. I hope I helped. Good Luck.
Love, Rainbow
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Do watever u want! If you want to date a girl then date her!! As long as your happy. Because sooner or later, your gonna die and before you die, you have to make sur you had a great life and that you were happy.
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I'm 15 too and it's like you've spoke everything I couldn't put into words!! Definetly try it out. It's not permanent: you can always change your mind so why not?
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