Member Since: September 4, 2006
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Hey all, I have been with a therapist now for about three sessions(booked in because of my difficulties with men). I have come to really like him, in fact I feel a real bond with him. Three obvious problems-1)I have no idea if he feels the same(have NO reason to suppose so), 2)even if he did, it would be against professional protocol 3) I am fully aware that the feelings I am experiencing MIGHT be no more than what is commonly called "transference" ie the transfeering of feelings for an old boyfriend (or w/e) onto a therapist.
Taking that all into account,I am seriously considering asking him to go out with me when I am discharged. Does anyone think that this is acceptable behaviour, or is it frowned on in itself, as a symptom of instability?
P.S. I googled him and discovered that he was a member of SETI. (School of Extra Terrestial Intelligence). My self, I think it's weird, but if anyone else could shed light on this aspect, it would be much appreciated.
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Honey, this happens all the time! It's called 'transference' or something like that, and therapists are actually tought how to deal with patients thinking they are in love with them. I know exactly how you feel 'cos I've fallen for a therapist before, and had to leave her because of it. Maybe you should do the same?
And as for the SETI thing - that's totally wierd! Don't know what to say about that!
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i know this is kinda long, but if you're gay [female or male], please read.
just so you know, i'm 15/f
lately i've been thinking about dating a girl.
i went through a short bi-curious thing in sixth grade [im in highschoool now], but i found this girl. and she's really cute and amazing. and i honestly would date her. i know women are just generally attractive, but i really like her. the thing is i'm willing to try being with a girl. but i would want them to know that i'm not sure with the whole gay thing. the girl i like is bi, but she knows for a fact she is. i think i would enjoy being with a girl emotionally and physically. i'm trying to figure out if this is just a phase or what. i'm confused as hell.
what should i do? (link)
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I'm a 22 year old bi girl, and I went through almost exactly the same thing when I was your age.
My advice? You should go for it - fuck what everybody thinks! Sexuality is fluid - we fall in love with people not their gender/sexuality.
IMO we're all bi-sexual, it's just that most people won't admit it to themselves.
Tell your gal that you're confused - she's bi herself, so she'll understand. Just give it a try - you might be gay/straight/bi whatever, but you won't know unless you give it a go.
And you don't have to decide right now - if ever- if you prefer guys to girls. You fall in love with whoever you wanna be with, regardless. Hope it goes well!:)
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OK, we have heard a lot of questions about how you can tell if a guy likes you. Well, sorry, this one is in that catagory, but, a little different. I was wondering if anyone knows how to tell if a friends' man likes you or even your guys friend? It's a little more iffy, because they have to be more discreet. They can't just blatanly "flirt" like you would if you wanted to hook up. I am getting stared at, joked with & the occassional "touch" on the arm & things like that. No lectures please, just the straight answer if you know. Thanks. (link)
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Well, I'm a gal whose just broken up with her boyfriend 'cos he (IMO) was flirting with my best friend, so I think I'm eminently qualified to answer this question!
I first thought Matt might have feelings for Alice when they started joking/laughing together *all* the time...there were some playful slaps/punches to the shoulder...some tickling...Alice would touch Matt's face and stroke his arm occasionally - fiddle with his jacket etc. Matt would do things like pull her woolen hat down over the back of her head for her....is any of this stuff sounding familliar?;)
I ended up asking if he liked her, he said, 'Yep!', so if your friends' man is doing that kinda stuff with you then I'd say he likes you! Hope that helps - send me another message if you want:)xx
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