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16/f. honors student..
i lost my drive to study and do schoolwork for the past 2 months...alltogether.
but then i got angry with myself, started studying and am doing SO much better. Practically all As and Bs now.
but the problem remains with one subject; chemistry. i hate chemistry, but i know im gonna need it in the near future when i study in university to become a doctor.
but i cant force myself to study it. i study for everything else, read over for every other subject..history, math, english, you name it. but i just cant force myself to sit down with a chemistry book open..and actually study. this is due to the fact that my chemistry teacher doesn't really teach us anything. i know i can get the motivation. but how can i force myself to study? i'm falling way behind on this subject..and we're already one of the slowest classes.
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If you can find a dedicated study partner, that might help. Espcailly if your teacher isn't very good, it's often frustration at not understanding something that will make a person just want to give up. Having someone else to talk through the problem with can help you figure it out AND stay positive about it.
Also make small rewards for yourself like: If I do five of these questions, I can have a peice of cake OR if I really focus for the next 30 minutes, I can play a game, or such, afterwards.
You might also want to consider getting a tutor. I know it's a pain and a bit expensive, but look at it this way: You KNOW now that studying more really helps, and your parents can see you struggling to put in the work you need to in order to be successful. But inspite of that, you are still struggling with Chemistry. Talking about this way would let your parents see that you really are dedicated, just still struggling.
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is it ok to still be taking birht control if ur already pregnant? ive been takin it for a year and if i get preg. is it ok to still be takin it?
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If you think you are pregnant, stop taking birth control.
It is not okay to continue taking the pill during pregnancy.
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before I ask, I'd like to make a point: I am completely aware that males find sex important and especially in the teenage years. I know that alot of feelings could be driven by this (especially in the teens again), but if I were to say that my boyfriend and I have been together a year and still we have not had sex (we've been waiting for me to get ready and be prepared), would this surprise you? Given that yes, we are still in our teens.
My real question is, do guys fall in love easily? Or is sex one of the main things they go for? And if they do say, fall in love with someone, do they still scout about for other girls?
I am kind of looking for a link to my relationship - remember! A year, no sex... and we are very, very happy just as that :)
Thanks, Faye
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I do apologize if you found me patronizing. That wasn't the intention at all.
You had said 'I'd prefer no reference to age', so I made none. I spoke on what I knew of men and women in general, not of teenage men and women. So I am confused somewhat by your feelings on that subject� I'm only 23 myself. I'm not exactly in the position to be looking down my nose at anyone.
So I humbly suggest with all respect and frankly with no cocept of your age (you could be 13 or 19 for all I know) that you shouldn�t be quite so sensitive and certain that everyone older then you is out to disrespect you! Most of us aren�t. I simply share my views in a clear and decided way. I'm arrogant like that.
Secondly: what seems to be your main point of contention with me is that I assumed why you were making this question, you said �it was a matter of interest� and that I assumed you were �asking questions for [your] own pleasure.� Ignoring the fact that a matter of interest is most certainly grants a degree of personal pleasure ;)� please let me address what I think lead you to feel this way:
My statement that your questions were leading: Your questions have a certain bias them. The bias that 1.) sex is inherently more important to males and 2.) that for some reason men, may or may not or not fall in love �easily�. Easily compared to what? Women! So, the unsaid, but implied questions you were asking were �Do men fall in love easily or less easily then women?�
I took issue with your questions because they betrayed a culture bias that men are somehow less capable of non-sexual love then women. I am SURE, this was not your intention, but in phrasing your questions that way the bias was most certainly there. This bias didn�t lead me to judge you as either immature or insensitive or less intelligent. My pointing out that bias, was not out of disrespect to you, but out of the belief that you were clearly intelligent enough to persue this line of questioning and would be open to understanding the biased nature of the questions you had asked. Although that bias is prevalent in our culture, I believe to be the most insidious kind of sexism and I will always point out as such.
Finally, I meant no disrespect at all in my comments about your relationship. You said you were looking for a �link to your relationship� so I concluded with my comments about trust in response to that. They lead logically from my belief that love was not a gender specific experience, but an expression between two people, any two people, even genderless, of trust and respect.
After writing out all this, and re-reading my orginal advice, I find I certainly owe you an apology. I wasn't nearly clear enough on why I found your line of questioning to be inappriopraite. I hope you can now see that I meant you no disrespect at all and I'm sorry I didn't make my explinations clearer in the first place.
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I'm not male, but I really don't think that matters too much here.
You are asking leading questions, which implies you are trying to get the answers you already believe are true... that can cause people to ask the wrong questions.
So are men loyal in love? About as loyal as women are.
Can they live happily without sex? Certainly, there are examples of celibacy and abstinence throughout our world for centuries by both men and women. Although it�¢ï¿½ï¿½s generally agreed that men feel the drive to have sex in a more powerful way, neither men nor women are slaves to our hormones. If we thought that men weren�¢ï¿½ï¿½t capable of happiness and respecting others unless they were getting laid, rape would probably not be crime. But rape is a crime, because we know men are perfectly capable of living fulfilling lives without sex with a particular women.
Do they keep looking? Hell yes. Don't you keep 'looking' at Johnny Deep, Brad Pitt and that cute guy who works at Starbucks? I know I do. Those with eyes look. Those with brains fantasize.
Some people, both men and women, will look much less, or not all, because of their personality and drives. Some will look much more for the same reasons.
I know, those aren't the answers you were looking for, but those ARE the answers. Although men and women are very different, when it comes to the big questions and values: Love, life, trust, loyalty, aspirations, friendship... we are all just human. Some of us are good humans, some of us are less good. To believe men somehow less capable then women of empathy, respect and love, is as sexist as a man believing women are too irrational to vote.
Our society tells and teaches young males certain things about their urges, some of which are generally true and some of which aren't so true. Individual males choose what they believe and value in their relationship according to who they are. Period.
Love cannot be divided on gender lines. Neither can the experience of sex. There are a lot of grey zones in the world hun. Although it nice to pin up generalizations like "Men really like sex", they are still just generalizations and not true for all people.
This however, is true: In a relationship, you must trust your partner. If you partner says they are happy in your relationship (in your case, happy having not had sex yet) is it a disservice and disrespectful to them to disbelieve them because of their gender. If they are lying to you, well, that will become a problem in the future for sure. But unless you think they are lying scum, male of female, you owe your trust and belief.
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so i have a very close friend who has made it almost completely clear that he likes me. i don't like him in a potential relationship kind of way, but i wouldn't mind being able to flirt a little to get his best friend a little jealous, who was at one point my "almost lover." but i don't know exactly how to. every time he has the chance to, he'll try and touch my hair, face or hands. are there any subtle ways of responding to it that would lead him to carry it further?
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I doubt anyone is going to give you advice on this hun.
What you are suggesting is mean and munipulative. You have no right to play with a guys feelings like that just to make someone else jealous.
Enjoy the attention, but don't lead him on only to shoot him down. You give all women a bad name when you behave that way.
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My ex and I have/had a long distance relationship for 3yrs.and I know in my heart that this is going absolutely nowhere. The problem is this.. I have been his lover, friend, comfort, supporter and every thing else that he's needed through and since his divorce. I was his "survial, his life preserver" so to speak. And even though he still says that he "regrets" not stealing me away for these past yrs., he still backs off. This happens EVERY TIME we get close. This is one of those times and I'm so fed up that I need and will love me, now!! I really need closure to end this, and it will be devastating to me (as his divorce was to him). He's treating now as if I mean absolutely nothing. I tell you the truth when I say that I've been nothing but good to this man!!! Why can't he just tell me the truth? I deserve it! But, when I ask him,he"s always "busy" or he'll tell when "we see other."(which isn't often since he lives a one state over) Why is he acting this way. I WANT to let go but I cannot do this without getting the answers I need. I derserve this! If I ignore him, that's not closure and I'll feel as though he's getting away with treating me this badly. I'm so confused right now and I appreciate your help!! Thank u!!
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We don't get what we 'deserve' in love darling.
Think about: there are millions of children in the world who deserve clean drinking water, but don't get it.
There are people in this world as well, murders, rapists, violent hateful people, who are loved, not because they deserve it, but because someone gives them love anyway.
You've given him all you have. All your support, all your love, all your patience and understanding. And he has given you, agnst, excuses, his burdens to bare, and now, insensitivity and apathy.
My advice to you is to sit down and write down the answers you think you deserve. NOT the answers that will make him get back togeather with you, but what you think his explinations could possibly be for his behavoir.
That is the only closure you are likely to get AND it might teach you the most valuable lesson you can learn from all this: NOTHING HE SAYS COULD MAKE THIS BETTER.
Closure isn't something you get from another person. It's something you make for yourself. Stop looking to him for the answers, he doesn't have any that will help you with your pain. You are the only one with the answers, and the only one who can stop him from 'getting away with' his treatment of you.
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So, i had sex today. and i ended my period a little over a week ago; well me and the boyfriend didn't use a condom,so he busted his load all in me. should i be worried about becoming pregnant?
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Oh yeah.
Definately.
But you will have to wait until you miss your next period to take a pregnancy test. They don't work until you are late.
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why woman always get a cancer thing a cervical cancer thing, what CAUSE woman get them?
i think penise bang it too much, or too much partner, or it normal, that what i THINK, or sex too much?
if woman get it, how fast they get cancer all over?
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Ahem, some forms of HPV have been strongly linked to cervical cancer.
You can have HPV without cervical cancer, because there are low-risk strains of HPV. You can also have a high-risk strain and still not develop cervical cancer. You can get cervical cancer without having HPV at all. They are linked. One doesn't immediately mean you have the other.
Doctors know that that certain things, like smoking, or having a history of it in your family, or having HPV, puts you at a greater risk of developing certain kinds of cancer.
A women having rough sex IS NOT AT GREATER RISK OF CERVICAL CANCER. Sex doesn't 'cause' cervical cancer. HPV, a virus you can get during sex has been shown to put women at a greater risk for cervical cancer. Doesn't matter if she had sweet gentle sex, or 'too much' sex, if she got HPV, she has a great risk of getting cancer.
Cervical cancer, like all cancers, does not necessarily spread to the rest of the body. If caught by a doctor early, surgery can remove it reasonably effectively.
Cervical cancer is one of the biggest reasons ALL women should have regular PAP tests and gyno exams.
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I'm truly puzzled.I don't get why they seem like they aren't too fond of me.Is it that they don't get good first impressions from me?Or maybe it's because I don't really pay much attention in class.It's like sometimes my teacher picks on me.I mostly like the teachers,and stick up for them when someone speaks badly of them,but they don't seem to like me back.In result,I start to stop liking them as much.13/F
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Then pay attention.
Think of it this way: They are standing up there, day after day, trying to communicate to you. When you don't pay attention in class, you rudely ignoring thier best attempts.
No one likes being ignored. You wouldn't make or keep friends if you ignored them whenever they spoke.
Teachers often 'pick' on the person they know it's paying attention in the hopes that they WILL pay attention.
Paying attention isn't just good for you, it's respectful and kind to the teacher. Be more respectful, and your teachers will like you more.
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I'm getting a monkey but i dont' know what kind. which kind is the smalles and stays small?what kind do you recommend? which kind is the nicest if there is one?
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Monkeys do not make good pets.
They also aren't generally very nice at all. They might bond well with one person, but be cruela and nasty to everyone else.
They live 20 to 40 years. Getting a monkey means you will have one for the rest of your life.
They are also illegal to keep in many states and countries. Even if they are legal, you must purchase a permit and provide the right home for one. Setting up an acceptable enviroment for a Monkey could easily cost tens of thousands of dollars. Not to mention purchasing a Monkey, which even on the smaller end will cost you $8000 or more.
Use google. Google 'pet monkeys' because you have a lot more reading to do before you should even bother looking at breeds.
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So if i wanna teach kindergarden to grade 1 or 2 i can do a transfer program with a college (2 years in college and transfer to a couple more years in university) and then i'll be qualified to teach kindergarden and stuff??
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Likely. Probably. Possibly.
ASK SOMEONE WHO SPECIALIZES IN KNOW THIS OR FINDING IT OUT, like a guidance or career counselor, or better yet, maybe a early grade school teacher.
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Hi I want to eventually become a teacher. I live in toronto and i knwo its hard to get into teacher college. I was planning on doing a transfer program with a college and then going to university but what if i don't get into teachers college. What kind of diploma will i have because teachers college and what kind of work can I do. Can i still work in a day care centre even though i did not complete my full ece program in order to transfer. OR can i complete a full ECE program and then after I get the diploma can i apply to a university and try and become a teacher. The reason why i am not going straight to university is because i did not take academic courses in highschool. I AM SO CONFUSED and don't know what to do. This is my dream and i want it to come true but don't know what route to take. PLEAE HELP!
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First off dear: You need to clarify your dream.
If you want to work in a public school you will need to (probably) do 2 years at college, three years at a university to pick up your degree in something... including two teachable options AND, because of how difficult it is to get into the teaching degree programs these days, you should probably volunteer in classrooms and get some teaching and mentoring experience too. Then you will need 12 to 24 more months to get your Bachelors of Education, at university. Then you can teach in a public school.
If you want to work in a day care, you don't need your teaching degree. Really, you don't. You'll need one or two years at your college and then switch into Early Childhood Education University program for two to four more years to get an BA in ECE.
Only the earliest grade teachers (Kindergarten teachers through second grade) hold ECE degrees. The teachers of the higher grades hold everything from English to History to Science Bachelors. ECE is for the years under 8. If you want to work with children from birth to 8 years, then you want your ECE.
Talk to your guidance counselor now, keep talking to career counselors when you are in college and just KEEP ASKING QUESTIONS! Of everyone you see who has a job you think you might like, of everyone in a program that looks interesting. That is the only way to figure it out.
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I am so confused. Im from toronto and I really want to go to college but im not too sure how OSAP works. I don't have the money to go to school and pay for it myself but I really want to go. I need to apply and get accepted by the school before I can apply for OSAP right? If this happends and I apply and OSAP does not cover me what do I do I applied I got in and i have no money. what will happen. Do i need to pay for the tuition. Plus all the fees before getting accepted i need to pay for myself. I don't know how this works but i want to fulfill my dreams and don't know how PLEASE HELP!
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If you accept the position at the school, you will still need to pay your tuition until you inform the school you are dropping out.
Your OSAP will be confirmed, or denied, before the bulk of your tuition becomes due about half way through the semester (that is if you met the OSAP application deadline). So basically, you'll be stuck owing the school your initial payments and fees, but you can drop out and not owe them any more money if your OSAP doesn't come through.
However, most people look into other forms of student loans if their OSAP claim is denied. You can re-apply to OSAP almost immediately (and perhaps correct whatever mistake made you unable to claim) but you can also get students loans from banks which aren't quite as great as OSAP, but will still get you through school.
Talk to your guidance counselor, they can tell you if there is any reason you wouldn't get OSAP, but basically, if you apply by the deadlines and do everything else correctly, you’ll get something from OSAP. Maybe not everything you need, but a damn good start. BE PROACTIVE! Get a job. Save your pennies. Apply for scholarships and enter competitions. Make a budget.
Being smart about money can keep you from being stressed about money.
Once you understand OSAP, ask your questions and read about it, and make your back up plans, you’ll start to feel better.
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I'm 17, my friend that I like is 19. So all of the signs point to this guy liking me (I'm not talking silly things like "OMGHELOOKEDATME" either) except for one: while texting, he never initiates the conversation. During the week our only form of communication is texting, because he's ridiculously busy working till the wee hours of the morning.(Like, from 11 in the morning till midnight) However, he never texts me first, he'll only start once I initiate the conversation. I went a day without texting him to see if he would, but he didn't. Otherwise, it seems certain that he likes me, but this really bothers me. Am I overreacting, or should I worry?
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He's busy, and frankly, from another person who works full time, texting is inconvenient, rude and can make you appear irresponsible to your employers.
I've had to re-train many of my friends to understand that I'm going to text them back while I am at work, because I am at WORK. Working. Not chatting with them.
You are over-reacting, and you might also want to ask him if he is comfortable with holding conversation by text while he is on the clock.
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um, right well I dont know what u know about religion but is it ok for a christian to date an atheist? any help would be apreciated. Thank you
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This really is something each individual must decide for themselves.
However, this is what I do know for sure:
It is very difficult, if not impossible, for a faithful person do date someone who thinks faith is evil.
Atheists all have different ideas about what thier 'atheism' means to them, just the way Christians have all have different ideas about what thier Christianity means to them.
An atheist who, despite thier own disbelief, is respectful and understanding of the value faith can have in a persons life, could certainly have a happy relationship with an equally respectful person.
However, an atheist who veiws religion as fundementally stupid or evil and for the weak-minded and irrational, is probably not someone a Christian wants to date.
Besides that, it really is up to you. If you decide that you are only willing to date people who share your faith, that's okay.
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Hi…Just to give you a little background on my situation, I am a 22 year old female that has been involved with my 32 year old boyfriend for almost 4 years now. I discovered his online porn collection after about our first 6 months of dating. Now four years later I am still struggling with the same issue. After our first year of dating he moved away for work and things became stressed because of the long distance. Year two he moved even further away creating more stress. So year three I decided to move with him. Long story short, about a month after I moved in he cheated with someone long distance—go figure! I moved out of his house and after about six months we got back together again.
Back to the porn issue, the amount of money he spends on porn is ridiculous. I would approximate 5-6 online subscriptions per month. Keep in mind each subscription is around $29.99. I have tried talking to him about it. Basically all he says is I shouldn’t be snooping through his personal stuff and he needs a visual to aid in masturbation since we are long distance. I can understand the second part but why does he need to continually download more videos and pictures. A couple of years ago I would find his porn downloads and delete them so he purchased an expensive external hard drive just for his porn.
When I look at his porn collection it makes me feel like I will never compare to the women he is fantasizing about. His collection mainly consists of extremely large breasts (DD and above) and extremely large rear ends. I have neither of these things.
Recently I decided maybe since his obsession with porn will not go away I should somehow try to become a part of his fantasy. I took pictures of myself and sent them to him. He claims this will make him stop looking at porn. Later that night I checked his email and he had ordered two more online subscriptions. I already accepted him back after he cheated once and I almost feel like his porn habits are another form of cheating. Should I move on or try to deal with his obsessions? HELP!
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I feel the need to clarify, since I have been woefully misunderstood by the other collumnists.
I DID NOT SAY anything was wrong with porn. I don't believe there is anything inherantly wrong with a person, in a relationship or not, enjoying pornography.
I DID SAY that although he might have an problem with porn, it is not his behavoir regarding porn that is the serious issue in your relationship.
Porn is simply being used a smokescreen for your real unhappiness and the true depth of your miscommunication with oneanother.
So once agian I say:
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Porn isn't the problem.
He might have a problem with porn, and a porn addiction might be HIS problem, but it isn't yours.
Your problem is that you are dating a uncommitted, lying, cheater who you trust so little you actively snoop on him.
You are deeply insecure and he is a user. It's a match made in the deepest pits of hell.
After four years of being with a guy you picked when you were eighteen, take a step back and take a serious stock of what it is you've got here: You might love him, you are probably definately comfortable with him but if you are looking for a life long commitment based on mutal trust and respect... then it's time to grow up, and look elsewhere.
I repeat: Your problem is that you are dating a guy who will not commit, who sabatogued you moving in togeather by cheating, who flat-out lied to you about his porn habits to try and make you feel better, and who isn't and probably never will give you what you need. That is your problem. Porn is just one very small symptom of that problem.
Whether his porn habits are 'normal' or not, doesn't matter in the least. Even if he stopped with porn altogeather tommorrow, you'd still have a problem. Your relationship is problematic.
Oh, and you also have a problem where you actively spy on your patner. Part of the growing up I suggest should probably include not doing that anymore.
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Sorry it's so long...Okay, I'm not sure if I'm over-reacting but my boyfriend (age 20) is literally in love with his mommy. The birthday card he gave to her read this....
Mom,
May this Birthday be a special day for you, just as special as you are to me. First of all I want to thank you for raising me by yourself and doing a great job at it. I know it seems as I get older I need you less but that isn't true. I am still learning things from you every day.
Even though I am not into all of that religious stuff, I beleive you are an Angel. You were put on this earth to help and guide others. I want to thank you for all you have done for me, and guiding me on to the right path of life.
Mom, you have done so much for me and I can't even begin to tell you how much I appreciate it.
You will always be the best MOM in the world!!!
The older you get the wiser you get and you will always be beautiful.
He is 20 years old and his mom still cooks his dinner, washes his clothes, and tells him how to live his life! Not to mention he just forgot our THREE YEAR anniversary...he also went on vacation w/ his mom during my sweet sixteen (I got no card or call for that matter). I'm at a loss. We have been "dating" for three years but we have NEVER been out on a date together!!! Yet, he takes his mom out for dinner all the time! He is always rubbing her back or massaging her head but for me, it's like pulling teeth to get a massage!! AND I'M HIS GIRLFRIEND!!!! I would greatly appreciate any advice, because I've been trying different approaches for three years and no luck yet!! THANKS!!
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Ahem. Let us state the obvious:
You are upset with your boyfriend's immaturity and lack of attention to you.
This is made even worse by the fact he treats his mother well, but his mother really doesn't have anything to do with your real problem. Your real problem is that you don't feel appreciated or cared for.
The relationship he has with his mother that you've described here is abnormally close, but you haven't said anything to make me think it's inherently unhealthy. He might just adore, appreciate and enjoy his mother's company. The trouble is that he should adore, appreciate and enjoy your company just as much, if not more.
There is only one approach to try here: talking to him RESPECTFULLY about your needs. Don't attack him about his relationship with his mother, explain to him what it is you want of your relationship together (that has NOTHING to do with his mom.) Rather then criticizing him for his love of mom, you should praise him for it and help him understand that it is that kind of respect and appreciation that ALL women are looking for. Express to him how much it hurts you that he seems to understand that and give it to one women in his life, but not too you. It makes you feel unloved, and the relationship can't go on like that.
Take a step back, calm down, appreciate the man you have and explain what it is you need in order to be happy.
If he can't provide, end it. Three years is long enough to either expect your needs to be met, or realize they never will be, and move on.
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ok
so my best friend K is going out with D
and D really likes me
but i dont like him
K is in love with D... and D likes her but he is in love with me
i dont like him
and even if i did
i would NEVER hurt K like that
what should i do...
and please dont say tell K because she already knows
thank you in advance
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Tell D, in no uncertain terms, that it will never, ever happen.
Give yourself permission to be downright mean if you need too. Better he be a bit hurt but understand NO, then he feel okay but think you mean maybe.
Then reduce the time you spend talking too, or hanging out with D.
K will have to make her own mind up about what she will do about this.
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So i am going to go on birth control for my irregular periods and i have a really small chest. like hardly an A and its so embarassing. i know the pill also makes your boobs grow and iwas wondering how long would it take to grow a whole cup size?
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The pill does not make your breasts 'grow'. It can cause them to swell a very little bit, or you might gain some weight, which increases the look of your breasts, but the effects are small and only temporary.
Your breasts will return to thier normal size when you go off the pill, or when you loose the weight.
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My parents are always in my business and my little sister too!! it doesn't help that my door doesn't have a lock. My mom always peers over my shoulder to look what i'm typing on facebook or AIM. It's so annoying. I have to close out all my windows when i hear someone walking in the hallway.
my sister goes in my room and looks in my journal. I read ONE entry in her journal and now she trys to find mine all the time. I try to find places to hide it, but i'm not very good at that sort of thing. Right now she can't find it, it's just i don't want her to be reading into my personal life, but i want to be able to express myself through my journal without having to censor it.
any ideas how to keep my sister away from my journal, and my mom to stop peering over my shoulder. Maybe some computer tricks to quickly minimize pages without having the name at the bottom?
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Continue to hide your journal and take this as a valuable lesson: Your little sister looks up to you and will copy things you do. You reading her journal once told her that was an okay thing to do.
If you haven't already, apologize to her profusely, and explain that what you did was very wrong and that neither of you should behave that way anymore.
As for your mother: I'm afraid I think she's got every right to do that. If I had teenagers, I would keep the computer in a public room, like the kitchen or family room where I could monitor their internet behavior, just like my mother did. The internet is a dangerous place and your mother is checking in on you just the way she would want to know the details if you spending the night somewhere else. It's totally rational and 'fair'. It's just a pain in the ass as well.
Again, your best bet would be to talk to your mother about this and ASK HER why she is worried and what she is worried about. Sharing her concerns and addressing them beforehand might make her feel more confident in your ability to behave responsibly online. And try not to just wail things like “I deserve privacy!” or “You have to trust me!”. People living in their parents home do not deserve privacy, it’s a privilege, and she doesn’t ‘have to’ trust you, you have to earn her trust and privilege. As unfair as that might seem to you, it is in fact completely fair, and part of good parenting.
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The Question
Okay well we'll start with the basics. I'm a female, and 16 in a month and 11 days. I started having sex about a year ago. I've always gotten my period, sometimes late and sometimes on time. Last month I got my period but it was a few days late. On the other side of this story, I applied for a job and have to take a drug test. The last time I smoked was about a week and a few days ago. My friend gave me some niacin and some detox7 pills. I've been taking about 6-8 niacin a day and 4-6 detox7 pills.
Okay now to what's been happening to me since sunday morning. Saturday morning I took the 6 niacin and 4 detox7. Saturday night I went to Tommy Bahama's for a friends sweet sixteen and the pasta I order didn't really taste good but I ate it anyways. Afterwards, we went to her house to stay the night. I didn't fully go to bed til maybe two but I felt fine. Sunday morning I woke up with a nauseated stomach. I threw up once and then went to eat breakfast. After I ate I felt fine. As soon as my mom picked me up and brought me home, I puked out the pancakes I had eaten. I never puked after that day. Sunday afternoon I finally took my pills 6 niacin and 4 detox7. Went to bed around 12 and felt fine. I woke up nauseated again. I drank some milk and ate some yogurt. On my way to school I had my carpool pull over so I could throw up. That's the only time I threw up Monday. Monday night I took 8 niacin's and that's it. I went to bed at around 12. Tuesday morning(today) I woke up at around 4 and had to puke. There was nothing in my stomach so I threw up a yellowish bile. This continued til about 6. I threw up about 6-8 times. And went back to bed soon after. I'm awake now and do not feel nauseated at all.
Now for my question.
I have a doctor's appointment at 3. Are these effects of the niacin or do I have morning sickness and pregnant?
The Answer
Tell your doctor what you've been putting in your system and let the doctor give you a diagnosis.
But seriously, next time do some damn research before you put shit your system. Not only is niacin toxic in large doses, its been proven again and again to have NO EFFECT on the traces of drugs in your system. Dextox7 fundamentally a fiber supplement, which will certainly clear out your bowels, and many people believe that will help, there is no actual scientific evidence that this will increase your THC metabolism
Be honest with your doctor, or they can’t help you. You might be experiencing the toxic side effects of niacin (which is deadly serious) or you might be seriously dehydrated due to the detox7, or maybe you do have food poisioning. You wont know until the doctor figures it out.
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