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Q: 15. female... My ex and i have had some rough times..In june we broke up and then got back together and then again and one more time..In septemeber i finally broke it off for good. Hes been trying to get back in my life and he wont leave me alone, and im one of those people who is nice to everyone...Again, recently he was trying to get in my life..i just cant take him back, on top of everything hes done to me, he lives 60 miles away. What should i do?
please help thanks in advance =/

He can still be in your life and you not be dating. You could try being friends for example. My exboyfriend of 3 years and I just recently broke up a few months ago, he kept trying to get back into my life. Finally I broke down and had a talk with him, I let him know that I was no longer romantically interested in him, but that we could try being friends as long as he didn't interfere with my current boyfriend and I. He agreed and things gave gone great. It is awesome to have someone that you can talk to and that knows you that well, but it can also be a burden on your current relationship, so be wary.
This may not be the best suggestion for you though. If you feel as though there is just no way that you can have him in your life at all then you are probably just going to have to let him know that. Sometimes being nice to everyone just doesn't work out, no matter how bad you want it too.

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Q: f 20
ok well I have been going out with my boyfriend for a year now and i am as much as in love with him as i was the first day we started going out. I was just wondering if anyone who can give me some advice on how to keep the relationship going as great as it is. I know there are ups and downs in relationships. I also want to know how to handle moving into my own place for a year while i am at beauty school and he is working a full time job. thanks and sorry if its confusing

Getting older and growing up can really put a strain on a relationship, it makes it harder to see one another, then trust issues may come up, but in the long run the one thing that matters is: 'Do you love each other enough to make it work?' You seem to. The best advice I can give is to just keep doing what you are doing. Make sure you reassure him, maybe leave him little surprises places. Like, for example, leave him little love notes places that he can find that make him see how much you care, no matter how far away you are. Small things like that are the things that really count.

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Q: The only thing that me and my boyfriend ever do is fight, and i am sick of it, so what do i do?
Also there is this other guy that i like so i am wondering if i should go out with him, and i don't really know if he likes me. How do i know if he does?

Arguing is very normal in relationships, especially if you have been dating for a while. The longer you date the more you will agrue, but if you feel that you argue more than anything else the maybe it is just time for a break in the relationship. Or maybe you guys just aren't meant to be, tell him you need some space and once you get your space and you feel like you miss him let him know and see where it goes. But if you don't then go for the new relationship.

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Q: so basically, I have started to like my friends ex, thing is, you know it's her ex. I've recently stopped talking to her because of an argument, and I'm not sure if it will ever be resolved properly anyway. He so lovely. she dumped him, and she didn't even like him to start with, and nothing happened, they didn't even kiss but they hate each others guts, and I'm still mates with some of her friends, so I don't know what to do, could I please have some help.

Wow this is a very common difficult situation. It is so hard not to step on someone's toes and piss them off. If you really like this boy then you probably need to talk to your friend and ask her how she feels about it, if she says it is okay then go for it, if not then maybe wait for a little while.
If you try and date him too soon it will probably start a huge fight with your friend and all of her friends that you are friends with too. It would probably best to let things cool down with them.
And yes I agree with the person below me: how long have they been broken up and how long did they date?

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Q: my boyfriend & i have been together now for about 5 months.
i am his first serious relationship since his last ex. & they dated for 20 months. they lost their virginities to eachother & everything.
just here recently, has made a year since they broke up. & she was the one who broke up with him, because he cheated on her.

my boyfriend & i made plans to go to a club one night & she was there. she kept giving me awful looks & staring at us. i've seen her before & she's never really acted that way to me.
then one day she sends me a message on myspace trying to say that i was talking bad about her to her friends & telling them that they couldn't be around her.
she & i get in a big argument & my boyfriend basically tells me to leave her alone.
my boyfriend & i go to different schools, but his ex & him go to the same school. & he told me that she came up & was talking to him really bad about me & that she apologized to him & everything. & he accepted her apology.

i'm not sure what i'm asking but i need your opinions on this situation. i've never started anything with this girl & i blocked her from my myspace & everything & i don't understand why she is always trying to talk to my boyfriend.
i mean, is she jealous? because she has a blog on her myspace that is specifically aimed at how bad she hates my boyfriend because he cheated on her, but i just don't understand.

For one she is a girl and two she probably really cared about him and she probably doesn't like the fact that he is starting to get over her. She is trying to get in between you guys over this and force you against one another.
I can understand completely why you would be mad about this I mean, he tried to say you you started it, then accepted her apology when she was talking bad about you, this probably makes you feel like he still cares for her.
There will always be drama between exgirlfriends and currents thats just a give, but I guess the key is to just try and let it slide off, but that in its self can be very difficult. Talking to your boyfriend could be helpful, but he may not understand why you feel threanted, boys often don't.
Do what you are doing, ignore her, don't let her know that it bothers you. Maybe if you do that things will stop. Most girls do it to get a rise out of you, then once you stop letting it bother you then they stop. Don't let this pull you and your boyfriend apart. Good Luck =]]

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[haha totally my bad this is just like me best friends situation sorry]

Q: i've been dating this guy... its been about 6 months and i think i love him.... but i dont know for sure... he is pretty crazy about me i think but at one point he kinda cheated on me. so im worried it will happen again. this is wat happened we took a break and then mended everything and that day it all got better he went to a party adn this chick wanted him adn was laying down completely naked on the bed downstairs. she called his name and he walked downstairs he saw her and got excited started walking towards her adn they made out then he was like oh shit.. and stopped he called me and told me everything immediately so i forgave him. but still ya know. i want to be loyal to him but i too have had a few problems... and cheated twice with my ex when he left to basic training for the army... he doesnt know but i want to tell him.. i was really drunk and know i will never do it again and i want to be with my bf so badly how do i tell him and how do i stay loyal. and how do i get my mom to like him also cuz thats a bit of a problem too

You should have no doubts about loving him, if you do then you may not be ready for a huge commitement, but if you feel like you really want to give it a try then I think you should tell him. He told you about his slip-up, so why not tell him about yours, it may make you feel alot better about the situation and make it easier to love him. But you don't have to tell him, it is really up to you.

For the loyalty thing that is really all up to you, but somethings to help are keep yourself out of situations where you may be put to the test, hang around people who won't pressure you, etc.

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Q: so i like this guy and this guy likes me. we've been talking for a couple months and finally expressed our feelings over the weekend. i was thrilled. we planned a date and when i called him to confirm times and such the next day he said that he can't be in a relationship right now. i know he still likes me but what does it mean that he can't be in a relationship right now? what are reasons that a guy would say that?

He could be nervous about getting into a new relationship and getting involved with someone. Or he may just not be ready for a relationship at this time or not want to ruin your friendship.
It could be a number of things. I suggest talking to him about it. Let him know where you stand and that you want to know where he does too.

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Q: ummm ok..so we were in my aunt and uncles car, driving from their house(where we had lunch) to my grandparents...so there isnt' enough seats cause its just a little car and im the youngest (15) and i always get stuck sitting on someones lap...so my cousin,,,18 yea he was the lucky one..so the road was really bumpy, and i was sitting on his lap, and i swear i felt "it" getting bigger... i always feel really akward when im around him now, but i was kinda turned on a little to by it
and now i thnk im a freak, cause id nvr do anythng with him cause im not an incestious person and i just feel dirty! nothing prob happened with him right,, like he wasnt prob turned on right, cause im soooo creeped out!

It may not have been that he got turned on, it could have simply been his 'bulge' or so they call it. Even if he did, there is nothing that you should be embarrassed about. It is human nature for somethings, such as getting an erection. Most boys cannot control this, so I wouldn't be embarrassed. He probably meant nothing by it and couldn't help that it happened.
You have no reason to be creeped out but this and it doesn't make you incestious.

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Thanks for the question.

Q: what does it mean when he says he still loves me but doesnt know what to do??
15/f

He may just be unsure about his feelings and standings in the relationship at this point or he may just not be in LOVE with you anymore. You can love someone but still not be IN love with them anymore. I know it's weird and it doesn't make sense, but life doesn't sometimes. Maybe you should try talking to him about, ask him what he is feeling and what you can do to help.

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Q: hey im getting a boy puppy and i dnt know what to call him... he is a malteze cross shitzu and iv always wanted to call a dog tobey but now im not so sure does anyone have good dog names?? im getting him next week so i need heaps thanks

Awww puppies are so cute wish I could get one haha. Let's see here a few good names...
Bryant, Turbo, Deuce, Hornet, Avalanche, Rex, Juno, Sampson, Cody[i think that name really suits shitzu puppies]
Then you have the regular old ones like...
Spot, Mack, Max, Shadow.
It really depends on it's personality so you may just have to wait til you get him to see what you want to name him.

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Q: uhhhh...well i really like this guy and i dont know if he likes me. and like third period every other day we tlk alot and he makes me laugh so much and my friends tell me tht me and him make a really cute couple and tht i should ask him out. but i dont kno if he really likes me. like really i have no clue wht to do.

Well you can just look for signs that he does like you. For example, if he goes out of his way to speak to you and flirt with you then he may. The next choice is to just let him know that you like him. You can either tell him straight out or hint around to it if you want. The easiest way about it all is to just talk to him about it and let him know that you like him and ask if he likes you.

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Q: Ugh... GUY PROBLEMS... AGAIN. Haha. Well i will keep it short bc i myself hate reading long ones. Well i like this guy who is a friend. We talk a lot on myspace and aim. He's always the one to say hi first and stuff. Idk i kind of get the vibe he likes me but i'm not sure. we talk in person too but not so much lately. I really like him. Ok but some girl from another school asked him to her sadies. Ugh the little slut. Haha not really a slut. Ok so how do you think i can win him. Or just get him to like me. Are there any techniques to hinting i like him? HELPPPP

First of all you should let him know that you like him. Leave subtle hints to him, like flirty comments and flirt with him in person. He may not even know that you like him and that is therefore why he went to this dance with this other girl.

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Q: what does friends with benefits mean?

Friends with benefits means a friend that you have sex with.

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Q: my boyfriend.. who i love so much. and been best friends with for 6 years but we have only been dating for about a year. hes had wayyyy more relationships than me, and with one girl he decided to make a sex tape. he keeps it. i told him i didnt like that. i dont get why he has to have it if hes not with her and he doesnt watch it. yet he brings it up all the time in jokes and stuff. so its not out of mind. im afraid if this relationship goes further he wont get rid of it. should i even want him to get rid of it? i just dont understand why he still has it. and its not like were engaged ot anything.. wev talked about it. but were not currently. if i do ask him to get rid of it when should i and what should i say?? i dont want to ruin our relationship over a stupid tape but i feel he should just be over it and theres no reason to keep it. any help please, thanks so much.

If you don't feel comfortable with it then you really should talk to him about it. Talk to him about it and let him know that you really do not like the fact that he has this tape, especially with another girl. Let him know that it makes you feel as though he isn't completely over her.

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Q: 15.f

hey i have this friend, same age, and over the summer she started talking to an upperclassman guy via a social networking website. well, all in all, he's kind of a player & she ended up telling him she likes him after they hooked up a few times. he seemed really happy & all, but never admitted to liking her back, and now they're talking less and less. she feels really badly because had she not told him she liked him, he would have still wanted to hang out with her & such. so he was pretty much just using her sort of to get some.

i KNOW she should stop liking him, but if YOU were my friend and you really liked this guy, what would you do? or what should i tell my friend to do? if you say "tell her to stop liking him" you're gonna get rated down.

note: i do not know the guy and i only know his first name. so i can't "talk to him" on the side or anything.

You should really try talking to your friend let her know that you think this guy is using her. She may not want to hear it in the beginning but sooner or later she will realize. Also you could try getting her mind off of him. Take her out and keep her occupied. In the end all you can really do, after you tell her what you think, is to just be there whenever she needs you. Whether they break-up, get together, or he completely blows her off in the end she just needs you to be there as a support system. The job of a best friend is to give advice when asked and whether she takes it or not be there when she needs you. She will love you for it later.

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Q: for a while now i have been getting really horny and all i want is for someone to eat me out. like i am almost tempted to ask some random neighbor hood boy to eat me out and i dont even talk to him. so should i go for it? or should i try to fight the feeling? and also how can i fight the feeling?

I think this is a very very bad idea. You really don't know where this person has been or them at all for that matter. They could have an STD or they could take advantage of you in some way. I think that you should just fight the feeling or maybe masterbate more often, maybe that will cure the craving.

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Q: I am so in love with my boyfriend and i even made him a youtube video about it, and i say it all the time. But somehow i just dont think thats enough. is there any way else i csn show him i love him?
14/Fm

Well your boyfriend should know you care about him you shouldn't have to show him and do all that. You may even be doing to much. You really don't want to suffocate him, but you want to let him know. Tell him you do, write him cute little notes and leave them places, but don't over do it.

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Q: Okay this is a long story, but bear with me...
I was best friends with a girl (we'll call her S) for eight years. Over the summer, S got with her boyfriend (We'll call him J). They started leaving me out, and the only time i got to talk to S is when her bf went away to see his dad like, once every two months. So i got in a HUGE argument with S, and we havent talked since. But now, i've become really close friends with another girl (Who we'll call R) that S doesn't like. So now S is making R's life miserable because she is jealous that i'm not her friend, but R's. It's not my fault, and S knows it, she just doesnt want ppl to be happy if she's not...what do i do to make R happy and S leave all of my friends alone?

This often happens as you grow up, you lose friends and gain others. Also as you grow up and get boyfriends, it becomes difficult to involve your friends in it. Talk to S about it and let her know that now that she has a boyfriend she has been leaving you out and so you decided to get a friend you could hang out with while she is with him. Let her know that R isn't trying to take her place and that you still want to remain friends with her.

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Q: hey, my name's samantha and i really want a cool nickname that could actually come from my name. i couldn't think of anything, since i think sammy and sam are a bit boring. anyone have any ideas? you can also use my middle name, lyn. oh and i'm 13.

Hmm lets see here...
There is Sambo, Sammi Lyn, Mantha.
There are a few.
Samantha is a difficult name haha like mine.
My name is LaKrisha, so my friends usually just make up random ones, like inside jokes about it.

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Q: Why do guys like blowjobs so much? is it mindblowing?

Well it really depends on the guy I guess. Most will say it's mindblowing but others will say that it isn't the greatest thing in the world. But I still think that most of them would prefer sex in the long run haha.

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