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my friend's crush
15.f
hey i have this friend, same age, and over the summer she started talking to an upperclassman guy via a social networking website. well, all in all, he's kind of a player & she ended up telling him she likes him after they hooked up a few times. he seemed really happy & all, but never admitted to liking her back, and now they're talking less and less. she feels really badly because had she not told him she liked him, he would have still wanted to hang out with her & such. so he was pretty much just using her sort of to get some.
i KNOW she should stop liking him, but if YOU were my friend and you really liked this guy, what would you do? or what should i tell my friend to do? if you say "tell her to stop liking him" you're gonna get rated down.
note: i do not know the guy and i only know his first name. so i can't "talk to him" on the side or anything.
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Tell her to give it some time and some space, and not to go trying to 'make' him talk to her.
He proved himself to probably be a bit insenstive, and certainly not interested in her, so he isn't the person who is going to help her start feeling better.
Although it's always said to loose a friend, and even harder to loose a crush, it's better that she realize his feelings now then after she was even more involved.
Keep her distracted and encrouage her not to speak to him anymore until she has gotten over him. Only when the feelings have passed can they be 'just friends'. Anything before that will only confuse and hurt her.
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Well, she should stop liking him, sure. But she can't until she gets over it all. Nothing you can do about that.
What you CAN do is remind her that it's really a good thing that she said she liked him. By doing so, she discovered what kind of jerk he really is before she got more attached than she already is.
Remind her that, though it will take a little time to get over it all, it's really for the best. The guy was just using her.
Other than that, be a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen. Not much else you can really do.
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You should really try talking to your friend let her know that you think this guy is using her. She may not want to hear it in the beginning but sooner or later she will realize. Also you could try getting her mind off of him. Take her out and keep her occupied. In the end all you can really do, after you tell her what you think, is to just be there whenever she needs you. Whether they break-up, get together, or he completely blows her off in the end she just needs you to be there as a support system. The job of a best friend is to give advice when asked and whether she takes it or not be there when she needs you. She will love you for it later.
Hope I Helped.
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