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Sometimes when I'm having sex or masturbating and I'm really starting to get into it, like things are hot and my breathing is heavy...I started getting this red rash on my chest and arm area. It's so weird! It feels warm to the touch and it looks like a sun rash or something, but it goes away once I calm back down. It's so embarrassing! What is it? (link)
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That's not a rash. Your skin is just becoming more flush in the run up to an orgasm. This is extremely common and may I say it looks beautiful, too. So revel in the added coloring!
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Is it bad if I'm giving my boyfriend head and I can't make him "finish" because I get too tired?
I feel like I'm better at giving head than giving a hand job. So I will start giving my boyfriend a quick hj and then start giving him head. The thing is, I'll be giving him head and he just won't finish. I know he likes it because he breathes heavy and by what he says, but why does it take him so long to finish! I feel bad, because doesn't it hurt him if i stop and he doesn't cum? I know he doesn't have a problem cumming, so is it my fault -am i not doing it good enough? :( He doesn't get mad at me when I stop, but I personally feel bad or like I'm doing something wrong.
I don't know what else I can do! (link)
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The problem isn't you, it's him. He may be masturbating a lot and that can cause guys to lose some sensitivity so that it takes a lot longer to trip his trigger. The only two things you can do about this is to either get him to stop masturbating for a few months (this is very difficult) or just use your hand more in the run up to giving him head. Absolutely Use lube when you stroke him (some lubes are flavored, too, which can make foreplay even more fun). Lube also feels good, too. Try to keep both your hand and jaw relaxed by letting them go limp so that the fatigue will be delayed.
If he feels he can't stop masturbating or at least radically dial back his jacking off frequency, you may think about getting HIM a chastity belt and no, I am not kidding. Seriously, look into it. That can also become a fun form of extended foreplay, too, btw.
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i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me. (link)
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I think initially she may have been in lust with you but then when she actually got a chance to interact with you found that perhaps the chemistry wasn't there after all.
Also, she knows that you're not going to be accessible to her as much as perhaps she would like because you're married. Then there is the moral question about being the other woman that may break up a marriage.
Just carry on with your life as normal and if she wants something more from you than a casual friendship she will probably indicate that. Put the ball in her court. It will make things easier on your psychologically.
In the meantime, you may want to check out this forum for closeted bisexuals and gays:
http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/index.php
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I've been modeling for years now, wouldn't you think I'm super into myself and love what I see in the mirror? Wrong. I'm SO ridiculously self-concious it ruined my last relationship. I loved my ex boyfriend so much but we rarely had sex just because i was always said no. Obviously I want to because I love him, it's just I can't stand being naked and i have no confidence in the bedroom and he didn't understand that so he left me and it hurts but anyways I was wondering how to become comfortable in my own skin and not be so nervous about getting intimate? (link)
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Part of the problem is the business you're in. You are essentially merchandising your looks for cash. Nothing wrong with that because we all do it in one form or another. It's just that modeling is perhaps an extreme form of that. As a result, you get used to constantly analyzing your looks for flaws and you're wary of how judgmental not only the camera is, but since women tend to pick at themselves anyway you also worry about what those who view your images or look at you from an audience as you strut down a runway are thinking. Women tend to be very sensitive about what others think.
You may also be fed up with being looked at and scrutinized all the time and because you can't rebel against that professionally, the only sphere to do so is in your personal life.
The solution to this is to compartmentalize your profession from your personal life. In other words, separate in your mind what you have to do for your job and that which is necessary to relate to other folks, especially those you love. Try to keep things simple. Have a "model mode" for work and a "regular person mode" for your social life. Know that your boyfriend has an entirely different agenda from the people you work for when you do modeling jobs. Your boyfriend wants the total you, not just that which will be obvious in a camera image or at a fashion show.
The problem, of course, is that your boyfriend may feel he is being punished for your psychologically becoming kinda gun shy about t he constant scrutiny of your body and face when it isn't his fault. You can leave your modeling career behind so that you will no longer feel so stressed about having to look like a million bucks all the time and can be with someone who is a lot more forgiving than the camera or a fashion designer or you can compartmentalize.
Remember that the greatest enemy of any woman is to overthink. Relax, keep things simple, don't pick at yourself, and that your boyfriend sees you in a more holistic way than the fashion crowd does.
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i am ghanian,age of 15 and want nike to sponsor me (link)
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You have to be prominent enough that others want to be like you and so show a company would want you to wear their products because your fans would buy them. At age 15, I doubt you have those kind of credentials. Thus, at this point all I can tell you is to work hard at your sport, become one of the elite in the world at it and then Nike will call your agent.
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Okay, so let's start by saying that I'm a 17 year old female and my main problem is that I've never been kissed before. I've never even had a boyfriend before nor have I been kissed and this worries me. I'm not socially awkward or anything, and I get along well with other guys, but apparently not on a romantic level?
What should I do? Should I stop worrying so much about this, because it really does bother me. :( (link)
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Like most people, you want attention. Very understandable. The only things you can do, though, is make yourself accessible to the men who like, be relaxed and since guys are really dumb when it comes to reading signals from women be a little forward. You'll be fine. Things happen slower for some people compared to others. No big deal.
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I understand if you have co workers on your facebook but when my gf who works at a retail store has a bunch of girls on there and she will comment on there statuses or what not but wont say anything on mine or act like she has a gf on there. One made a comment to my gf's status about it being hot the girl said id say so... well I got upset and shes like she didnt mean anything about it its always hot in there. What should I do? (link)
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Facebook is for idiotic attention whores.
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I am thinking about committing suicide. I've made some really bad decisions and feel that it would be best for everyone if I were gone. My family would get insurance money and would be taken care of financially. (link)
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Are you sure?
There are policies that have exclusions for suicides. So not a good idea, no matter what the rationale.
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This is probably going to be long, and I'm probably going to sound clingy and pathetic, please bear with me.
A little less than 2 months ago, I met the man of my dreams. It sounds bizarre that I'm so sure of myself because it's only been 2 months, but I'm completely confident that I'm in this for the long run. He feels the same way. I spend literally every possible minute with this man. Here are a few problems.
He's going back to college for his sophomore year at SUNY Albany, which is a little over 2 hours away from my house. I'm going to our local community college.
Problem 2: He's a Marine. He's most likely getting deployed for 7 months in December. The thought of going more than a day without him upsets me. Thinking about 7 months without him makes me literally nauseous.
I've become so attached so quickly, which is so unlike me. I've been in love before, but I've never been so in love with anyone in my life. How can I cope with the thought of him not being in my life as often as I'd like him to be? I'm terrified of how much it's inevitably going to hurt. (link)
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Well, there are certain compromises you make when you go out with someone who is active military. You can't control it, so all you can do is look at his deployments as part and parcel of who he is. Moreover, while you may need him on a personal level, our country needs him more.
What colleges you guys go to shouldn't be any sort of problem nor should the distance. Don't get hung up on it. Just do the best you can in your life.
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i am a 13 year old girl and i have a question: how come my interests constantly change and hardly ever last a long time? like i went from being obsessed with gothic clothes and emo and scene guys to falling in love with the beatles and girly vintage clothes. @ first i was thinking that criss angel and a bunch other dudes who have a dark bad boy vibe and then a month or so later, im obsessed with every one of the beatles! im still in this beatles stage cause it started only about 2 weeks ago but im completely obsessed! im even listening 2 them right now (tee hee!) but anyway, all im asking is why my interests change so drastically and quickly. none of my interests stay the same with the exception of very few. please help me out and answer this question. kisses! (link)
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Your brain will keep developing until around age 25. So your sensibilities are going to evolve a lot over the next dozen years. So that your interests seem to shift with every change in the wind isn't unusual. So just roll with the changes.
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im falling for a boy but i think to him our relationship is all about sex should i tell him that i want a relationship? (link)
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You don't receive unless you ask.
Btw, nothing wrong with a relationship that is based merely on sex if that is what you want. There is nothing dirty or evil about doing the wild thing. Enjoy!
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I'm 13/f,and I'm going to start a band.We agreed that I'd be the lyrics writer,and singer,but I just need the other people.Should I start a band?And if so,how do I go about doing this? (link)
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Do you have the discipline for it? Being in a band is basically a job. You have scheduled times to show up (for practice), you rehearse a certain number of hours and you try to manufacture product (songs).
Or do you mean you just want to mess about on instruments with your friends when you're in the mood? And how well can you guys play? If you are all beginners I would suggest learning your instruments for at least six months before you try to begin assembling a set list and writing songs.
In any event, go to the forums on Harmony Central and Ultimate Guitar for information about being in bands, songwriting, etc. Lots of good and often hilarious information/commentary.
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me and my boyfriend are going strong and its almost 4 months [i know its not that long, i dont need you to tell me that]. i want us to get promise rings. this may be a dumb question but oh well. will boys wear promise rings?
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Why is the jewelry necessary when you have each other? Relax, put the kabosh on the promise ring idea and just enjoy being together.
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i read an article online where a woman cut her calories.
she ate like a person of the goal weight she wanted ate (that amount of calories)
for example if she wanted to weigh 115lbs shed consume as many calories it takes for someone at 115 lbc to maintain that weight.
she lost 26lbs in 1 month doing this. with little to no exercise really.
is this truly possible? i want to loose that amount as well.
she lost 15 in 2 weeks.
how is this physicaly possible?
could i get the same results?
im 121 lbc 5'1 and i want to be 108lbs (which is my normal weight. i recently gained 12 lbc on a vacation and cannot loose it) (link)
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If you think about this, the 26 pounds in a month eating like a 115 pounder makes no sense.
First, you have to eat about 2000 calories to maintain your weight, even at 115 pounds. So if she truly did eat like a 115 pounder she would have lost no weight.
Secondly, even with a daily diet of about 1200 calories (which isn't that much---that is about two packets of ramen noodles, for example) with no exercise, you will only lose maybe, if you're lucky, 10-15 pounds.
Furthermore, if your food intake gets too low, including on what you eat in a day, it goes into famine mode and your metabolism slows down. This is an evolutionary survival mechanism.
So the plain truth is, eat 1500 calories a day, exercise vigorously 1-2 hours a day (or at least five days a week), keep the fat intake low and just let things happen in their own time. That is all you can do.
By the way, if you got down to even 115 pounds, you would look good. So don't be so desperate to try to lose the weight all at once. Diet in a sane, healthy manner.
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Well a year ago my dad came back from Mexico and I was very thrilled but one thing that did tick me off was that my aunt would ask me when he was coming back and would always ask me about him . And after he came back I called and texted her to tell her he was here and she didn't even care . ! She didn't even call him or texted him . And he's been back for about a year, about 2 months ago she had called me asking me why I hadn't called her or vistited her and all this stupid stuff and I had told her "Who is the adult here ? Who is/was suppose to keep contact with her brother and family, me or you ?" and she got upset and asked me if he had a phone or if I was able to pass him the phone for her to talk to him and I told her off, yes I lied and said no he doesn't have a phoone ! Was I wrong for protecting my dad and family from this lady that supposably cared for us . ? ! And her side of the family would and still are asking him for money, and favores and honestly I want nothing to do with her but am I wrong for yelling at her and wanting nothing to do with her or what . ? ! (link)
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It seems to me that this is between your aunt and your dad. You should butt out.
You're welcome to your personal feelings about her, though. But just don't get in the middle of that drama, okay? Your dad is a big boy and can handle his business himself.
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Ok, I had a group of really close friends in middle school and high school, me and three other girls. We would spend EVERY weekend together, all weekend, despite the fact that we all went to different high schools. I'm not trying to be egotistical but I was the popular, smart, athletic, and pretty one in our group, the other girls got didn't have any interest in boys, C-averages, didn't play sports, and were a little on the heavy side, but they were my best friends. Now we are sophomores in high school and the guy that one of my friend likes, likes me and she's bitching at me, because she is basically blaming me and saying I was to, I don't even know, likable I guess? But I tried to explain to her that the only reason I even talked to him was because i was trying to hook them up, but now he likes me and I don't even know him really. I need to figure out what to do. I have grown apart from the other two girls because they turned on me for no reason and made better friends since but I don't want to lose another best friend over something so stupid. How Do I Get My Friend Back?
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First, your friend needs to realize that she can't control the behavior of others. It isn't your fault you're popular or pretty (or so you say) and she isn't. That was the genetic luck of the draw. And it isn't your fault the guy found you more appealing than your friend.
Listen, shit happens in life and you just have to roll with it sometimes. Your friend either needs to learn that or you can tell her to piss off.
As for the other girls, well, listen, friendships come and go. It sounds to me like you're better off without them. Don't be so captive to the whims and jealousies of others. It is your life and so you do what makes you happy. Your friends aren't you and so don't let them determine what you do.
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13/f. for those who read my question on the guy who's my bff Connor,well we are back talking now,we started talking 2 days ago.But know,he's really in need of help.His bestfriend is in the hospital,and might die,and he said that he might dump his girlfriend,because she doesn't even care about how torn he is,this his bestfriend is in the hospital,all she cares about is their relationship status,so today he told me he might dump her.I told him if he does,then he should make sure it's something he really wants to do.I decided a few days ago,that I'd let him be happy with his gf,and stop wishing he was with me instead.But there's still a little liking for him inside of me.Is know my chance to ask him out?And what advice should I give him about the situation he's in? (link)
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Oh my God, you chicks are so self-centered!
Let the guy have some space, for crying out loud! His buddy is dying and he is obviously grieving over it. Don't even think about having a relationship with him for another month.
And oh yeah, his girlfriend is a cunt. And you can tell her I said that.
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i am a 18 yr girl and i love a guy since 4yrs like hell.last month i found tht he is having an affair with another girl since 6months,he begged me alot to continue the relation and also promised me tht he will nt talk to tht girl again,on my insist he changed his number too bt today i caught him again while talking to tht girl.i cant trust him now though he said me tht he loves me and want to marry me .i cant live without him nor i can forgive him .i am frm india (link)
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You got yourself a lying, cheating man there me lady. Dump him. Marriage has never stopped anyone from having an affair.
My policy about this issue is this: if you feel you need to cheat you need to end the relationship you're in because it is, in fact, over. So I suggest that you find someone with a little more integrity.
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I'm a fourteen year old girl and he's fourteen guy. We've been really close friends for almost a year now, and he trusts me with ANYTHING. We even have little pet names for each other, and we aren't going out.
But he recently said that he tried pot, and he likes it. I know what it can do to you, and I'm not trying to oppose it, because it's ultimately his choice. I told him to be smart about the situation, and I'm so scared for him. I'm scared that he won't be the same guy I love as a brother and he'll slip away from me if he does it. But I'm scared the same thing will happen if I tell him not to do it...what should I do? (link)
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First, you have to realize that the brain keeps developing up through age 25. The upshot of that is even without the weed both of your sensibilities are going to evolve a lot over the coming years and that could even mean you will reach a point at which you grow apart and are no longer friends. So don't get too heavily invested in your relationship with him. Friendships come and go. It's just part of life.
Pot itself is pretty benign. I smoked it all through high school and even into college (though I reduced my usage of it to once in a blue moon when I entered university) and graduated with honors. Like you said, he just has to be smart about it. He will likely grow out of it. Most people do.
One thing to note is that at least he isn't drinking. Alcohol makes people violent while pot just makes them want to giggle at dumb You Tube videos and decimate a box of Oreos. So look at it that way.
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Hello I want to lose approximately 20 pounds within the next 3 months. I do actively work out about 3 times a week for about 1.5 hours. I have stopped drinking soda all together and i'm working on eating healthy. I was wondering if there was any diet pills that could help me shed the extra pounds? Has anything worked for you? I'm a female if that matters. Thanks and any weight loss tips would be appreciated!!! I do rate thank you everyone. (link)
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You don't say what your height and weight is. My advice would be to workout five days a week (three on, one off, two on, one off) and keep on a low fat diet. If you go down to 1500 calories a day you can lose the weight in two months and change.
Swimming is great low impact exercise that will work every part of your body, but you have to do sustained numbers of laps. Plus it will improve your aerobic fitness and make you physically stronger. However, you will also gain some muscle and that is heavier than fat. So if you choose swimming or weights don't get obsessed with the number on the scale. Rather, go by how your body looks.
Diet pills are usually some form of amphetamine. So you can give that idea up.
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