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My friend just started to smoke
I'm a fourteen year old girl and he's fourteen guy. We've been really close friends for almost a year now, and he trusts me with ANYTHING. We even have little pet names for each other, and we aren't going out.
But he recently said that he tried pot, and he likes it. I know what it can do to you, and I'm not trying to oppose it, because it's ultimately his choice. I told him to be smart about the situation, and I'm so scared for him. I'm scared that he won't be the same guy I love as a brother and he'll slip away from me if he does it. But I'm scared the same thing will happen if I tell him not to do it...what should I do?
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I can understand that you're scared but the best thing really is to tell him how you feel. Being so that you guys are 14 doesn't necessarily mean you'll be friends for life considering you guys will go through lots of changes in the future to come. Just always remind him that you're going to always be there for him whenever he needs it. That's probably as much as you can do right now.
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First, you have to realize that the brain keeps developing up through age 25. The upshot of that is even without the weed both of your sensibilities are going to evolve a lot over the coming years and that could even mean you will reach a point at which you grow apart and are no longer friends. So don't get too heavily invested in your relationship with him. Friendships come and go. It's just part of life.
Pot itself is pretty benign. I smoked it all through high school and even into college (though I reduced my usage of it to once in a blue moon when I entered university) and graduated with honors. Like you said, he just has to be smart about it. He will likely grow out of it. Most people do.
One thing to note is that at least he isn't drinking. Alcohol makes people violent while pot just makes them want to giggle at dumb You Tube videos and decimate a box of Oreos. So look at it that way.
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