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Why won't he finish/cum!?
Is it bad if I'm giving my boyfriend head and I can't make him "finish" because I get too tired?
I feel like I'm better at giving head than giving a hand job. So I will start giving my boyfriend a quick hj and then start giving him head. The thing is, I'll be giving him head and he just won't finish. I know he likes it because he breathes heavy and by what he says, but why does it take him so long to finish! I feel bad, because doesn't it hurt him if i stop and he doesn't cum? I know he doesn't have a problem cumming, so is it my fault -am i not doing it good enough? :( He doesn't get mad at me when I stop, but I personally feel bad or like I'm doing something wrong.
I don't know what else I can do!
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The problem isn't you, it's him. He may be masturbating a lot and that can cause guys to lose some sensitivity so that it takes a lot longer to trip his trigger. The only two things you can do about this is to either get him to stop masturbating for a few months (this is very difficult) or just use your hand more in the run up to giving him head. Absolutely Use lube when you stroke him (some lubes are flavored, too, which can make foreplay even more fun). Lube also feels good, too. Try to keep both your hand and jaw relaxed by letting them go limp so that the fatigue will be delayed.
If he feels he can't stop masturbating or at least radically dial back his jacking off frequency, you may think about getting HIM a chastity belt and no, I am not kidding. Seriously, look into it. That can also become a fun form of extended foreplay, too, btw.
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my bf is the same way. some guys just cant cum like that. trust me i felt the same way but dont feel bad its nothing you're doing wrong it's just how some guys are:)
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It's good that you're using your hand first because it helps for the finish. I think that he's masturbating a little to much and probably does it right before you get together. A lot of guys do that before they go out on dates when they plan on having sex, so they will last longer. If he tells you it feels good, you shouldn't feel bad about not making him cum. I hope this helps and good luck.
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It's not a case of not doing it good enough, everyone's different, so you're going to have to see what works for him specifically.
Have you actually asked him to tell you how he likes it? Ask him to communicate more, at the time you're doing it, so you know what works for him and what he prefers. Slow, fast, etc.
Have you tried using your hands (like you would a hand job) at the same time as giving him oral?
Take notice of his breathing patterns - that's quite a big give away with whether you should speed it up etc.
I wouldn't stress about it - just have him help you out a little bit on the way. Experimenting is all part of the fun. :)
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