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Q: I am 23 years old and Me and my boyfriend were together about a month when i found out i was pregnant(with my first)I am now 12 weeeks along and things are not looking good. We have been arguing and i catch him in little lies about stupid things. Which makes me wonder if he lies about other bigger things. I dont think i am in love with him but i am afraid to break up cause i don't want my kid to not have a father.. I only say this because he has a daughter already that he never goes and sees of make an effort to be a good father. Is staying with someone for a baby a bad thing or am i stressing about nothing??

You can not make a man be father no matter what and I know a woman who plays the role of both parents to her 3 beautiful daughters. You cant stay with someone just because of the child. You have to think of your self and how you feel. My husband has lied to me over and over again and it still hurts and no i dont think hell change and he is at his last chance with me and honestly 80 precent of the time I am not happy. but i love my husband and i hope of one day he will change. I dont wish my situation on anyone if you dont love him seperate and maybe hell step up and do what he can to get you back and make you happy.

Q: So for those of who are familiar with the term gray rape, I want to explain a situation to you and you can tell me whether or not this is gray rape. I'm 19 and I have a new boyfriend, and he's really great :), but back in October before I met him, I decided to hang out with my ex boyfriend, who at the time had no idea what he wanted.

I had previously text him sexy pictures of myself the day before that he decided that he wanted to hang out with me. He told me that yesterday made him realize what he wanted. I told him that he wasn't getting laid becuase I did not believe in having sex with someone who wasn't my boyfriend, I'm not really for the idea of casual sex. Well, I got my dad to give him a ride to his house, and we went upstairs in his room.

While were upstairs in his room, we were watching the first episode of this anime series on netflix, and I started kissing him. Eventually he decided to take our makeout session onto his bed and we ended up having oral sex or foreplay, which is about as far as I like to go when I'm hooking up with someone. Well, I watched him take things one step forward, and he put on a condom. He had casual sex with me, and I didn't say no, thinking about that makes me feel really violated.

I still feel really violated from that time, because I felt like he went against my moral standards. I plan on talking to my current boyfriend about this. In your opinion is this "gray rape?"

Honestly no, I think you had sex and then regretted it. I have been rapped and you never told him no. you told him what your morals are yes but you went to his house he didnt force you nor did he try and convince you into having sex your just did. It is okay to feel guilty and wish you hadnt of had sex but i wouldnt call it rape.

Q: Hi. My husband and I had a baby in 1998. She died at five days old and never made it home from the hospital (long story). We had another pregnancy in 2004, but he died at 5 months gestation. We aren't able to try again. The hospital took photos of our daughter after she died as a keepsake. They were very caring. We sent a photo later to my parents and in-laws and have one framed at home. My mother displays Katie's photo very prominently, and for some reason this doesn't feel right, especially after so many years. Katie's face is greyblue and it reminds me of her last day and our pain, and I just can't look at it. I keep my copy where I can look if I have the urge, but I just couldn't keep it out where I'd see it all the time. I think Mom has hers out as a tribute, but it feels like time to put it away and replace it with a photo of another, living grandchild. Should I ask her to remove it or do you think this is still appropriate in her home? Thanks!

I think she feels that nothing can replace that wonderful bundle of joy and I think if she likes having the picture hanging I would let her hanging. I know it hurts you but its her home and it may make her feel better about the situation. You were both hurt by the death of your child but you are both dealing with it in two different matters.

Q: 16/F

I am really worried right now. I'm talking to a friend of my sister's and he seemed like a happy go lucky guy, making jokes. He's a little overweight, really funny, he stutters, but he's still awesome to be around. Well, I've been talking to him privately on facebook and he's talking about killing himself, saying he can't get the girl of his dream, he can't talk right, he's hated, he's reached everything he's capable of and whatnot. He's about 14 or 15. I'm getting worried because he keeps saying he's gonna do it and he's trying to decide which way to do it. I want to tell his mother, someone, ANYONE, but I think I'm the only one he's told and I don't want him to hate me for trying to help. I'm trying to contact his mother. Is this the best thing to do?

Honestly of what you wrote it seems as if he is trying to seek out attention. Yes talking to his mother would be your best bet and if she doesnt understand contact the authorties at your local police department. Good Luck

Q: My mother and father have been divored for about 7 years and seperated for 9. My mom refuses to talk, speak, see or even be in the same room as my dad. My dad has since remarried by the way. It makes everything very difficult for my children and my sisters. My sister is having a baby and my mom refuses to come to the birth if my dad is even going to be in town. My sister is having an emotional time with it plus just being pregnant. Whats the best way for us to tell her its not ok that she's doing this and making all of walk on eggshells. It's an emotional roller coaster for her children and grandchildren.

you can talk to your mother about it but honestly my mom wouldnt even come to my wedding because of it.

Q: i have a blackberry phone. and my trackball in the middle wont scroll down or up. it will only go sideways. i have tried using rubing alcohol to get it to work up and down. but now the alcohol isn't making it work anymore. what should i do? it sucks having this phone....

take it to the store. i used to work at verizon we used to replace the track ball as well as take it out and blow some air into it to clean it out. good luck

Q: Okay, so I had sex last night with my boyfriend, and we didn't use any kind of protection. I'm usually on the pill, but missed a couple at the beginning of the month so I decided to take a break from it and start taking it when the next package starts, so that I won't get too off track. My question is, could it be very likely that I would get pregnant? I'm supposed to start my period in two days, which means I had sex after my ovulation days. And if I am pregnant, would I still miss my next period? I feel like two days would be too soon to tell and I'd start my period anyway. But I am completely confused.

yes there is a chance you could be pregnant.. but it is wayyy to soon for you to be able to tell. With both of my pregnancy i didnt find out i was prenant until i was 5-6 weeks pregnant. my second one took longer to find out i had alot of trouble getting pregnant.you may get your first period it may be a little diff or the same wait 5 weeks or longer and take a test to be on the safe side.

Q: thanks so much :) but everytime I ask her why she smokes she says ''because she likes it''. & she has such an attitude with her parents, she was like ''they underestimate me so much, they think I don't have the balls to do anything. I'm just like wowwww. but thanks again :)

I hope thinks get better for you. I think you should talk to her parents about the problem

Q: So, over the past months I've been second guessing my love for my Boyfriend. I've been dating him for 4 months now, but I've known him for about 2 years before we started dating. Before we started dating you could tell that there was always something more between us. And this year we finally started dating. and It's been an awesome couple of months. I never knew i could care about someone so much until I met him. But this last month, I've been thinkin about everything. Do i really love him? Is this guy the one? and i've been so depressed the past month. I'm so confused. I cry about how I don't know if I love him, then I'll cry about how I'm hurting him not being around him. then i cry about how i don't want him to leave or go. I've never been or acted like this until I met him. and its only been like this the past month. Oh and his family is AMAZING. i LOVE him family and they love me. I feel like i've been dating his family the past month, not him. and i really wanna get back to dating just Him. but when he tells me he loves me, i just wanna break down and cry. i just miss the way things use to be, just having fun with him and not worrying about Love.
Oh and i have a doctors appointment next week, because I'm crying so much and so badly. my mom thinks i have unbalanced hormones because its been so bad.

What do i do? what do u think?

HELP.

If you are second guessing your relationship he isnt right for you. When you think about or end a relationship your going to hurt it hurts bad but you keep your self occupied and with friends and youll be okay and eventually the feelings of hurt go away. maybe your horomones are unbalanced... now i dont know if you are having sex but your hormonos go crazy if you are pregnant. Which i am hoping your not if you are thats the reason of you crying etc.

Q: Hello, im 14/f. My bestfriend of like 9 years now smokes ciggarettes, pot, spice, and probably other things. She also drinks alcohol. She does it all with one of our friends, and some guys in like college. they do it in her neighborhood. She always peer pressures me to try a ciggarette or weed, but I always say no. until the other day I tried this rosemary spice stuff that they were smoking. i took a little puff and decided i wouldn't do it again. i am not going to smoke. im really worried about her & i know that shes only doing this to seem cool and impress people. i always help her hide it from her parents and stuff & i don't want to tell on her because she would get in so much trouble. i dont want to tell my parents either because they would instantly tell her parents. i dont like her like this :( what do i do? thanks.

Her health is in a great danger and her safety you can do a lot of stupid stuff while being under the influence. You should talk to her one on one go out to lunch and ask her why she smokes find out for yourself what she is really thinking in her head. Now remember word carefully because even if their not smoking at the time of the convo they have an attitude. if this does not work talk to her parents about it but explain to them jumping on her wont help the situation watching her a little closer and catching little details will help

Q: My husband and I are from another country.We have a 2 year old daughter.He is very good to her.When she was 4 months old ,we went to his house for a week long stay.His parents,especially his mom tried to harm her physically.As I was extremely vigilant,she could'nt do anything,but still was vocal about her wishes.She said that she wanted to burn her fingers,put hard solid foods like pickles,guavas and insert them into her throat with her fingers,took her to an angry dog of a neighbor and asked the neighbor to free the dog from its leash.I kept my baby in my arms and told the neighbors not to do it.She wanted to scare her in a variety of other forms.Also when baby rolled up her legs, she put her legs down saying that she was immodest ,though baby was wearing diaper and shorts.She suggested tying up baby with a rope.Also,she told mu husband that the baby is very ugly though many people in the USA call her pretty.After that we did not go there for a stay.We did visit her and she was the same.Now my husband wants to stay there for a night with our 2 year old.He gets angry when I try to reason out with him.WHAT SHOULD I DO?should I go with the stay or not?
PLEASE ADVICE

you need to not go for the safety of your daughter not over night. I would be terrifed that woman is nuts. you need to explain to your husband she may kill her if you go there

Q: Hi! I'm not sure what to give my girlfriend for Christmas this year. I already got her boots and a ukulele for her birthday and anniversary, but I am stuck on what to give her for Christmas!!! I was thinking of giving her a Build-A-Bear because I think it would be cute (something for a change because I always get her practical things), but I asked my sister what she thought, and she said she wouldn't like really care for it if she got it for Christmas. So now, I'm really discouraged about getting it. What do you guys think? Thanks.

My girlfriend is 20 btw, she likes playing the guitar, and she's really into cooking. Maybe that will help.

The build a bear is a cute idea, or a locket with the picture of the two of you in it, or a promise ring. you could even get the build a bear with a necklace around the stuffed animals neck.

Q: Okay i love my girlfriend so so much but i don't know if i can believe her but i know i love her and i believe she loves me but like i really want to know if she is a virgin or not cause when we first met she told me she wasn't a virgin and she is bisexual and then she told show she had sex and told me how many guys and u know i had a little problems with that cause i usually dated girls that are virgins cause i am one myself and i told her that so she knew i didnt like girls that much wasn't a virgin but i will try to work with it but then 5 months past and she was keep messing up so we broke up and i started going out with another girl and out of no where she texts me and says FYI im still a virgin and i figured she said it cause she knew i liked girls that were and she knew i was going out with a girl that was and she wanted me back so then me and that girl broke up cause we wasn't working out so me and vanessa got back together cause i did really miss her but now to this day i still dont know if she is a virgin like i asked her tons of times but she keeps saying she is a virgin but i dont believe her but i love her so much i just need to know if she is a virgin but i dont know if i should believe her cuz she lied to me before Please help somebody this thought goes thru my head everyday :(

Honestly what does it matter. Why is it so important for you to be with a virgin just because you are. Her being with someone else shouldn't bother you because that her past. My husband has a child with a past relationship as well as I do and im fine with it. I dont know how old you are but I am just 19 and I think its sad she has to lie to you just to get you to like her and it probably hurts her as well. Im sure shes not a virgin if the first think she told you was that she was a virgin.

Q: My best friend, who I completely consider my brother, is considering suicide. I've told him over and over that he can talk to me anytime. I don't care. And that I don't care about anyone else, I'm always here for him. I love him to death. But he keeps thinking about it. I no longer know what to do to help. Please give me advice!

If you have tried speaking with him about the situation and he is still considering it you need to speak with someone. I had a friend who keep cutting her self and I finally confronted her mom about it and they got her help. because she lied to me told me she quit cutting and i caught her doing it again. her mom thanked me over and over again i felt great and shes doing great.

Q: i think i have an over-eating issue.
im a skinny girl. 5'1 110-108 pounds.
but im obseed with being skinny.
i do a lot of starvation diets then i binge and eat ALOT.
ill have like 4 chocoalte corissants, 8 oreos and a lot of nuts and pasta.
then ill take laxatives.
and i do it every day. it goes in cycles
once im in the mod i cants top and i just eat for weeks liek this!
im scared for my health and im scare dimg una gain weight.
what do id o.

you need to see a doctor and a theripist to help you work threw this you shouldnt be woried about gaining a little bit of weight but exercise and eat health. but no one here can tell you that you have a serious health problem

Q: Hey! I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. So I was at this party last night and there was this guy that used to go to my school (he got expelled for getting busted with pot) so he goes to a school nearby (he's a junior, 17). So I barely even knew him until last night and a few factors, ahem, impaired my judgement and I went up to him and sat in his lap while he was playing cod. He taught me how to play and then we stared dancing. For awhile. And we hooked up, but just making out. He asks for my number and I give it to him. He texted me today. I don't know what to do. Im kind if interested in him but I know he's not what you'd call a "good kid". Okay I'm not exactly a good kid either but I've never been interested in a guy this bad (I try to avoid potheads) and I know I barely know him but there's something that's making soooo curious about him and I dunno why.

Everyone is atracted to someone they dont think they would be atracted to. think of these things before you jump into a relationship. you wont try pot just because he does it? who knows maybe he would quit because you dont like it.? you cant not go for it just because its not someone your used to dating. im sure you dont have a type

Q: My friend always brags about all the things she gets, how can I ask her nicely to stop? I don't mid hearing about it sometimes, but all the time gets annoying.

There are just people like that. I work with someone who is pregnant and all she talks about is being pregnant but once in awhile itd be nice to go into work not hearing about being pregnant. you just have to deal with it sometimes just compliment her or what ever on the new thing she got and chage subject. I think telling her it bothers her or asking her to stop could indeed offend her and cause conflict she may not talk to you as much any more because she wont want to bother you with what she got or her problems.

Q: I know this sounds odd but i'm curious. (this is mostly for girls but guys can answer to if they want).

Would you feel comforable watching porn (or a sex scene in a movie) with your bf/husband?

yes my husband and I went into an adult store together and picked a movie out it spices things up sometimes.

Q: Hey so I've been dying my hair for the past 3 years and I have had it professionly dyed blonde, chocolate brown and aburn before. But, every time I dye it, it eventually turns to a brassy gold color or a redish color if I dye it brown. I would like to know why this is and if I should dye my hair a certain color to prevent from turning brassy or a reddish color. Also I would like to know if there are any tricks I can use to make my hair grow faster or/and thicker.
Thanks!

when you dyed your hair blonde did you bleach it? I bleached my hair and i didnt like it so i waited the couple months that my hair dresser told me she thinks i shoud wait and then i dyed it back brown. Now my hair always turns back blonde just parts like blonde high lights. i think it was because of the bleach

Q: 18-f
ok this might sound a little gross, but im starting to worry ? yesterday, i went to the bathroom and my stools were like flat out green..? i thought it was a little weird and was like whatever. tonight, i just went to the bathrom and the same thing happened? that is not normal i dont think. does anyone know what caused this or anything? thanks!

It could be something you ate or a viral infection. More and like an infection where you recently sick? you may have been a little sick and not even known it.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.