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I am getting increasingly concerned with a rash that I sometimes get from drinking, I have a drinking problem that I am working though with fairly intensive therapy but at the moment I still drink quite a alot (4-12 pints a day) I have been drinking a fair amount since about 13, I am now 24. I suppose this Is an excuse but I have had a pretty rocky life so far and recent events have caused me to drink more and on occasions binge.
I have started getting a blotchy reddening to my face that spreads down my neck, back and arms accompanied with with mild astma and a sleepy, ill feeling. These syptoms last for about 3 hours then go.
I used to get this maybe once a month but now up to twice a week, I originally thought I must be allegic to an ingredience but it seems to happen whatever I drink and today happened even though I have not been drinking.
I know not drinking is the answer and I really am working on that. But I wondered if anyone had any Idea of whether It indicated anything like Liver damage, or blood pressure and how much damage I have done to myself?
I guess it depends what you've been drinking as to wether you are allergic to somthing in to alchohol, some people are allergic to the alchohol itself! I think you need to get yourself down to a doctor, as its highly possible its liver damage. The doctor will also be able to get you help to stop drinking, as It sounds like it could be nessisary. *hug* good luck :)
I am a 21 year old female and I have been with my 26 year old boyfriend for 4 years now. We are in love (at least I think he is still in love with me.) In four years he has done more for than anyone would do for just a 'girlfriend'. I love him more than anything in the world but last year I was supposed to move in with him but the day before he told me we shouldn't which left with another year lease at my apartment. Now we are supposed to move in together this fall. Im wondering if he will change his mind again. If he does should I break it off? Another thing is that I am ready to get married and him being 26 should at least start thinking about it. He keeps telling me to be patient. But how long am i supposed to wait? I don't want to be unmarried forever. Please help.
I think its your call here. You need to have a serious talk with him, ask him about why he wants you to constantly wait, ask him if he is still in love with you, ask him why he thought you shouldn't move in together and if those resons apply now. Then depending on what he says, leave him or stay.
I hate to tell you this now, but according to legend, feb 29th is a day that a woman can propose to a man
the past day I constantly feel I need to urinate, what is wrong with me, do i have an infection?
do i need to see a doctor?
what do i do?
i also have a weak bladder control
when you say 'feel the need' does anything come out? if not and you also feel thirsty all the time, you might have diabetis, but thats unlikely. I would suggest getting the doctor to cheak it out, and I hope its nothing serious
I think I do have depression because I was cruious on the symptons, and I seemed to match most of them... but you never know...
Well if you think you may have it, and the sypmtoms are simmilar to what you feel, its probably a good idea to go and see you MD, s/he can fix you up with a counceler or phycothrepist who can futhur assess your condition and help you work though it. Good Luck :)
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He is a friend, a good friend but he recently said; that you remind me of my ex-gilrfriend? i mean what does he mean by that? his ex-girlfriend he used to say nice things about her.
But also he said that; it's like being married to you? i mean what is he trying to say or suggesst with this question! not only that but he also looks deep down to my eye's when he talks and even though my hair is covering it, he still searches for my eye as he looks directly at the pupil.
he also winks at me whenever he see's me and if i say a joke back at him he starts playing with me like nudging with his knee or elbow to me and he me teases alot and jokes alot but he doesn't tease other girls alot or jokes with them he also makes me be the last person to be looked at and talked while i wait in paiently.
he also called me you're such a sex symbol and no wonder guys ask you out alot because you are soo attractive/ caring/ loving and very mature.
please let me know wat u think and thanx for ur replies.xx
Umm, first off punctuation! its a little hard to understand you.
Next, I think you need to ask him if he has any feelings towards you sexually, as I have a lot of guy mates that mess around like this but I know they arn't interested 'in that way'.
Just ask him, and if he fobs you off, with a *shy or teasing*'maybe', then maybe you should wait a while [month or so] then ask again.
Or you could flirt back and see what happens [yes, this *does* sound like flirting to me]
what does kinky mean
Most things 'kinky' reffer to interesting sexual activities or deviations from the norm, such as the Karma Sutra, or Sado-machocism [S&M]. S&M is most often reffered to as kinky as it usually involves role-playing, the binding of a patner, or the use of whips and chains.
'Sticks and stones may break my bones but whips and chains excite me.
So throw me down and tie me up and show me that you like me.'
i meet guys of the net becaue i am unable to make real friends in person. I meet this last guy on the 5th december for sex . We got to no each other b4 this and got on well. NO i cart help but real used. I have my personal reasons for wanting to meet friends of line butno he says it was just about sex and he likes me but y did he get so close and next min i could b his dream girl what is he playin at? im just so confused i thought he was mr right hes such a great guy
Forget him and move on. He sounds like some kind of jackass only after sex, whereas you want somthing more meaningful, so just forget him and try going to a pub.
how can u tell if someone is flirting and what is the body language if you're just close friendz? what are the fliting hints frm guys?
Most of the flirting signals I've gotten can't really be explained in words, but them looking at you in a sugestive manner; asking pertinant questions about your home, hobbies or about themselfs [eg, 'is this your Local pub?', 'Would you say I was crazy?']; touching you more than usual, even 'acidental' touching; them paying more attention to you than usual.
Often you will just 'know' either during or afterwards that they were hitting on you. This is stuff thats not really scientifuc - can't be explaned in words, but that is gut feeling. So, go with your gut, and if in doubt, ask.
how to know if the guy likes you more than just friends would he say gd things about u all the time and touch ur arms and shoulders and giv u lots of eye contacts as well as teasing u alot but in a gd way!
wat would you say?
Well, he could just be a very 'touchy-feely' person, or... He could be very into you. Try fliting back and see how it goes, or maybe you could just ask him.
im always expecting the guy to stay with me for a long time. i want a long time relationship...im only 13. im homeschooled so i cant date a bunch of guys. theres hardly anyone my age around my house and if there is they are all drug and/or sex addicts! i hate this! i need to be more...kidish. i flirt alot but it doesnt seem to help. what should i do?
Wow, yes you are a little young to be looking for a life long partner. If I were you I wouldn't bother dating at all untill you are older. If you feel you need a lasting comitment from a guy then you probably need to wait untill males have the same amount of maturity.
And it not like its absolutly nessisary to start dating so young. Thats just a stupid thing that scocity is trying to make you do.
There is this kid at my school, I feel so much more than a "crush" I feel a feeling I've never felt before I wrote his name on my hand one night just out of the blue.. I alway see his face, and when I dont see, it comes back.. its like hes haunting me.. I love him so much.. I just dont have the guts to ask him or to tell a friend.. He is is like the oxygen I need to breathe! He is the perfect one I've been looking for... And if I ever got my chance I wouldn't want to lose him!
What does this all mean? What do I do? Im so confused!!
Raven
It sounds like a very heavy crush. If you truly belive he's 'the one' then you need to go for it, the worse that can happen is he'll laugh in your face. If you don't think you can talk to him, slip him a note.
Hi im one of your fellow advice columnist!
I'm asking this question because i'm desprete! (no offence) My mom has this hatrid for schools and so i'm home schooled but I don't get taught anything! Some of you may think this is great but I want to go to collage and my mom is excepting me have my GED when I turn 16 which is in 2 years. My mom says thats its my responsability to remind her to teach me. Its just that I don't like to remind her because all she does is give me the same stuff to that she has been giving me for the last 6 years. My mother REALLY depressed and I am having a hard time with her. this year when school starts I should be in 9th grade and in high school but I amm really scared about what to do! because if the state knew that I'm not getting any schooling they would take me away. I mean I'm getting to the point to where I'm going to tell the state. Please don't tell me tell my mother to put me in school because I have done that MANY times and trust me my mom isn't pretty when she is mad.
I have taught myself to read and write play the piano and many other things that I could learn to do in school. I am very advanced in piano and I write poetry and I have one that is published and I have storys published in magazines too. i am very good at cooking and baking. sewing.
So you see I'm not stupid but I cant go any futher now. I NEED to be in school.
I really could use your advice! i really would like an aults point of veiw on this but will take anybodys advice.
thankyou you can e-mail me at kutekrushkat@yahoo.com
signed
not stupid
Its not your responisbility to remind her, its hers as your legal gardian and 'teacher'.
It sounds like you may have to go behind your mothers back, and get into a state school.
Or maybe you could suggest that you think your mother isn't coping well and could you get the state to send you a tutor. That way your mother wont have to worry about you being in school, but you will still be learning.
On a personal aside, I really admire you for being able to teach your self to read and write ect.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
My Mom:
I ask her if I could dye my hair maybe 2 months ago, and she said talk to me about it later, so acouple days Ago I asked her...
Me- So is it a yes or no to dying my hair?
Mmom- Im going to get my hair cut soon so ask my hairdresser about it..
Me- Why??
Mmom- because she knows how to do it
Me- But ur my mom and IM asking you, so if she said no i couldnt?
mmom- YES
me- WHY? its my hair! and she isnt my mom, she isnt even related to me
mom- Dont ask me right now
(I run into my room *steaming with anger*
My moms BF: I went in my moms room just to say hi, and he was watching fucking porno clip.. and he was all like CANT DO ANYTHING WITH THESE KIDS AROUND.. And my mom was liek what BRITTANy, get out.. and I was like fine, god I just wante dot say hi.. and I slammed their door and said maybe you should keep the door lcoed.. cuz the door was wide opened! He threw a tiny box at me while I was leaving..
Sometimes I like him and sometimes I dont.
My life is all screwed up! Well witht he relationship of my family anyways...
My Mom always rags on me.. and we live with her bf so if I told her I didnt liek him at all she wouldnt do anything cuz shes happy.. but shes a b*t** to me. I never spend time with her...
Im always in my crappy room, I wish It wasnt so purple, I didnt get to choose the color, I want it black and peaceful!!
And the kids at school make it worse, always making fun of me, I sit alone at lunch most of the time... People stare, but they dont care..
They just dont care, I have like 3 friends at school, not really, cuz if they were my friends they would sit with me..
WHY IS MY LIFE SO FUCKED UP!??!! what should I do?
Im sick of this
IM the same person who wrote about This Kid I reaaallly love and I wrote his name on my hand.. Its under love if u havent read it yet...
And I cant fall asleep and she always tells me go to bed, and I cant
err whats wrong with me, Why am I even here?
How old are you? Do you have any older siblings or mates you might stay with for a while, just to get a time out?
Also its probably a good idea to talk to a trusted adult [teacher or other] about what is going on at home.
Insomnia is quite normal, just read before you go to bed or have a warm drink.
With the dyeing you hair, it could be that your hairtype isn't dye-able so thats why you have to ask the Hairdresser. Mare than likely she will say its ok though.
As for the BF I think you'll just have to grin and bear him untill you can move out.
But still find and adult to talk to.
As for why you are hear, I don't know about any of 'gods plans' or whatever, but as the Desiderata says, 'You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.'
I think Im losing alot of weight, but I am or was 90 pounds and Im 11.. and now thes epants that fit dont fit anymore.. I dont like to eat for some reason.. I once skipped lunch in school.. and plus i heard from a teacher the lunch ladies dont wear gloves nor hair nets.. Its awful! I only drank milk that day.. and people keep saying I look skinnier, IM not anerexic and I dont wanan be I try to eat as much as I can! But I dont like food.. Its kinda hard to explain...
Raven
So your question is? I would suggest talking to a trused adult about how you feel, and in the meantime take some vitamin suppliments. Not wanting to eat [or just being to lethargic to eat] can also be a symptiom of depression. Is there anything going on in your life where this might be the case?
You really need to talk to somone about this.
My 29 years old sister suffered from fibroadenoma, two and half years ago, which was removed surgically. Now, again she has felt a lump in that same portion. the size of the lump reduces after her periods. there is no pain, no discharge. but in the previous case,pain and discharge was there. she is also planning to get married very soon.
will it be advisable to marry with the lump?
What should she done?
Is it true that fibroadenoma disappears, when she will be pregnant?
Is there any non surgical method for this?
Please help
The only thing I can suggest is you get your sister to get it checked out by a doctor. This isn't really the sort of thing that can be told on the internet.
Whilst very drunk, i enlisted the services of a prostitute she started to give me a blow job but i changed my mind after it had entered her mouth twice, i did not cum. Is there any risk of me contracting aids?
I don't think so, unless you had any cuts on your penis or she had any sores in her mouth.
This site has some good details on HIV and AIDS: http://hivinsite.ucsf.edu/
So I've been doing my taxes and looking over all these papers I have, which is a LOT. I've got bank statements and credit card bills and cable bills and all this old stuff that's been paid and taken care of but that I kept anyway, just because it seemed like a good idea. Do most people keep all this stuff? For how long? I've got copies of old bills from 1998, I know I've got to throw somethings out here.
Credit card bills and bank statements you should keep forever.
Card recepts and invocies that were payed with a card you can keep untill the statement comes out, then once you have checked everything is ok then you can tear them up.
Cheque book stubs I think you have to keep forever. Tax papers its a good idea to keep forever [this is going on the uk tax, FYI]
For anything else not covered, try asking an intdependant finactial adviser or your bank.
This is a link to a UK tax site that might help you somewhat: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/working_lunch/default.stm
i was wondering...i'm the ultimate good girl...i haven't done anything remotely sexual. i haven't even gotten kissed yet. but i'm curious...about fingering, blowjobs, handjobs. can someone please explain to me how to do those? hah. i know that's rather stupid and could leave u open to lots of answers...but i need answers. and also pubic hair...shave? trim? i'm lost..any help is appreciated. and when you stop laughing at me maybe u can gimme some advice. ;) hah.
I wonder what exactly you want to know?
Fingering- is when the person you are with puts there fingers into your vagina in a pleaseing way. there is no way to get pregnant from this, but you should take care that your partners hands are in good shape and the fails are too long or jaggedy. That hurts. I personalyy don't really like this, its fun for a while, but then gets uncomfotable.
Blow job- when a bloke has his penis put into the moth of his partner and is pleasered oraly. Never done this, and farnkly the thought sickens me, so no advice on this one, other than you can't get pregnant this way either.
Handjob-when a bloke is masurebated for him [ie the partner does it] possiblity of preagnacy, depending on how close one is. Make sure you have a very strong wrist if you want to do this.
Pubic hair. Personaly i just trim. A lot of people shave with an electric shaver or bread trimmer. It really depends if your partner is going to 'go down' on you a lot. Having to fight to get to the vigaina probably worn't be nice for your partner. Also, when you have your period, if you don't wash very regulary the blood dries in the hair that is very long and can be painfull to get out.
Going down- the partner putting there toung inside you and doing pleaserable things to you oraly. Can't give advice on this much as i've never done it ;)
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My friend *George* told my other friend *Jill* that something bad happened to him but he didn't want to talk about it. I really care for George and I want to be able to comfort him. BUt I'm also really worried that like something REALLY bad happened to him and he is too afraid to tell anyone. I'm really worried but Jill told me not to talk to him about it. How can I get him to come clean with me?
I think you just need to work at building his trust in you, and eventually he will feel comfortable with you to tell you. This doesn't sound like the sort of thing you can threaten him to 'come clean with' as it may have been very traumatic for him. Just be his mate and offer him your support
One of my best friend in the whole word really needs help. lets call her 'Katy'
Ill start from the beggining:
He mother commited suicide when she was a baby and she now lives with her stepmum and dad. Her stepmum is so horrible she doesnt let Katy out of the house she throws away all her make up, mobile and other stuff, she beats her up and everything. ( the dad stays out of it and if he has to takes the stepmothers side.)Katy is so lovely but shes getting into drugs and shes tryed to kill herself loadz of times - she came into school with big slits on her wrists on Friday. She has social workers, councilers and the school are involved (but none of them no about the drugs and the suicid attemps) but they dont seem to do ANYTHING to help her.
What should i do i treally worries about her!?
You need to get katy to tell her scoial workers what is going on at home, so they can get her out of there. She also needs to tell them about the drugs. No conseler is gonna be able to compete with that.
You can 'just bee there' for her; be able to listen to her, offer her shelter and food. Just be her mate :)
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