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He wont tell us!
My friend *George* told my other friend *Jill* that something bad happened to him but he didn't want to talk about it. I really care for George and I want to be able to comfort him. BUt I'm also really worried that like something REALLY bad happened to him and he is too afraid to tell anyone. I'm really worried but Jill told me not to talk to him about it. How can I get him to come clean with me?
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Well, if GeOrqe tOld Jill what it was that happened then it`z best that he tOld sumOne. and as a friend Of cOurse u wud be scared cuz it mite be sumthinq seriOus, but if it was sumthinq that u shud knOw i think Jill wOuld have tOld yOu. sO if i were yOu i wOuldn`t rush GeOrqe intO tellinq yOu, just let him find tha riqht time.
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You need to get him alone and talk to him. Tell him if its something serious u can help him. Tell him u will always be there for him know matter what his problem is. Tell him if it is something serious he really, really needs to tell u
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Sit George down and talk to him. Tell him you're worried that something may have come up in his life, and that you are going to always be there for him. Don't pres the issue, especially if he makes it clear that he does not wish to talk about it. Don't mention Jill, just tell him that you're worried for him. Hope it all goes well!
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You cant force him or trick him to telling you. And you probably shouldnt ask either because, if he wants your help, he'll ask.
Just wait and see. He may very well tell you all about it or he may not. Its really up to him because its his problem or issue.
Make sure he knows he can trust you completely.
(and dont undermine Georges trust in Jill by saying that she told you that, that will only make him think you two talk about him behind his back.)
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I think you just need to work at building his trust in you, and eventually he will feel comfortable with you to tell you. This doesn't sound like the sort of thing you can threaten him to 'come clean with' as it may have been very traumatic for him. Just be his mate and offer him your support
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