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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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how do you remember something you've studied.. for example you memorized all the words for the definition.. and on the day of the competition .. you FORGET. how do you NOT do that and NOT forget whatt youve been studying? Please help

for example: tests, spelling bees

A good way to start is by relaxing, convincing yourself you can do this. Stretch you body so that your muscles and nerves become relaxed. You obviously study until you are confident enough the night before that you are ready. Eat something large the night before that way you won't be so hungry the next day. In the morning eat something light just in case you get nervous. Get at least 10 hours of sleep and wake up so you have enough time in the morning to go over what have learned in case you have forgotten anything while you were sleeping. Stretch a little before you take the test etc. Also breathing in and out will help with the nerves. And tell your mind you have the capability to do anything so this should be a breeze because you know you are ready. When you tell your mind that you are ready it will trigger something in your body convincing it to relax. It is one of those mind over matter techniques.

15/f
I have feelings for this senior, at one time I thought he might like me too. (ie..We never talked and he threw a paperball at me..then he picked me for his group and sat right next to me, he had his arm touching me the whole time and everytime he said something to me he looked me in the eyes. And he would nudge me with his shoulder or his leg. And he was teasing me and laughing with me. Note there were two other girls in the group. One sitting on the other side of him and the other in front of him.) But anyways i thought he might have had feelings for me too and you can see why. But then he started to kinda drift off and he wasnt talking to me as much. (He had a girlfriend the whole time, but when this "drifting" began to happen i heard they had broke up) And he would occasionally talk to me. One day he was sitting in the corner alone staring at the floor and i said "what is wrong with you cj?" and he started to mumble under his breath, and i said "yeah i heard nothing you said" and he began to smile and said good you werent supposed to. And i said ok then and began to smile and laugh back. But then i heard that they never did break up. And everyone is telling me i should go for it and ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend. But I couldnt do that. I would hate to think how i would feel if that happened to me. I am not the kind to steal a guy from another girl, whether i like her or not, i just dont feel its right. But i really would like to get to know cj if you know what i mean. But he has college and basketball, and the girlfriend. My friend said that we should write a note between each other talking about how i feel about him and his girlfriend and what she thinks as well (my friend) then stick it in my binder and when he checks it for our class then he will see it and read it (because everyone loves to read notes). What should I do?? I know he is a senior and everyone says seniors want freshman for their body. But we grew up in a small community and it just isnt like that with most of us. If that is true it is the senior girls and freshman boys.

What should I do about all of this

PS his girlfriend is a cheerleader and im not, i know that most jocks like cheerleaders, but i have this feeling that there is something there between us

sorry it is so long!!

I had a similar expereince with aman that I fell madly in love with. If you stop talking to him then he will lose interest in you becasue a an thinks that if a girl doesn't talk to him that must mena she doesn't like me. Surprisingly odd guys think like us. They are self-concious and continue to talk to themselves about what they should do. I think what he was mumbling is I want to get out of my current relationship. Most cheerleaders are a pain when it comes to being in a relationship. They are needy, really self-concious (who would have thought!), constantly suspicious, and no fun at all because of shopping. Have you ever seen the movie A Cinderalla Story with Hilary Duff in it? Well she liked the popular guy and he ended up falling in love with her even though he had a girlfriend that he wnated to dump but didn't have the guts to until he met the right person. My suggestion is to talk to him everyday or whenever you have a chance. Get to know him as a friend first, you will hang out more, he will fall for you more and more until finally he realizes what he has been missing. The key is communication, if you have that you are invicible compared to everyone in that stupid school. It is not true that a guy who is senior only wants a freshmans body.

How do i get girls to love me?!?

I would suggest experimenting a little with your look. Mayeb change your style of lothing or even the way you style your hair. A girl likes someone who willing to put themself out there and be friends with them. I know from experience that guys that come on to strongly kind give me the desperate vibe so maybe just mingle a little with someone. Even if it means starting out asking for a pencil even if you have one lol. You need to get to know women a little more by observing but not in a stalking way to understand how to get them to fall in love with you. I can honestly tell you that every girl is different so observing different ones will give you an idea overall.

Is it a turn-off to guys if a girl has low self-confidence or in other words is shy?

I don't think it is a turn-off when a girl acts all shy. Actually most guys love the sweet, quiet, shy type because they have the most fun trying to get them to do crazy things. I am the same way until I met a few guys who became my best friends but they loved the fact that I wasn't a risk taker. If someone is willing to do anything it is no fun while a person you would never expect to do those things makes it more exciting when they a guy gets them to do them. Stick to your strategies and I bet you will meet alot of guys who will like the shyness in you.

does anyone know where to buy tickets, and where in new york theyre having it???

thanks!!!

I usually go into macys or kaufanns to buy all my tickets. There are two different dates in New York. Baffalo, NY and New York, NY on on 7/22 or 7/26. You can also purchase tickets on ticketsnow.com but you will have to have someones credit card or a bank account so they can withdraw the money off of it. Usually in the department where you can sign up for credit cards. It is the main office area.

i won my school spelling bee and on march 8, im moving on to the district local spelling bee. i am not experienced, so give me some tips to do good and not be scared and nervous! confidence tips and spelling tips if i dont know the word, and how to accept if i dont move on to the nevxt round... well because i am a very COMPETITIVE competitor, and i have NEVER experienced anything like this before and for me to lose this thing for the first and last time, i would DIEEEEEEE.

I want this so bad. More than anything else, for me to move on to at least the regionals would be perfection, especially coz im NEW to this, as i mentioned earlier.
Ive seen akeelah and the bee and she won even she was new to it, and i really want to win this year, especially because it is my last year. [im in eighth grade]

SO I ASK OF YOU TO GIVE ME SOME SPELLING TIPS, AND CONFIDENCE TIPS.

thank you very much and WISH ME GOOOOOOD LUCK AND HOPEFULLY I MAKE IT TO THE REGIONALS!!! :)

The first tip is to breathe and relax. The excitement and pressure of moving on is making you nervous. Eat something large the night before that way you stomach is full through the night because you want to eat light before the competition. Stretch before the competition it will help loosen your nerves and muscles in the body that causes tension. A good way to know that you are on top of the game is to buy a dictionary and browse the words. Even by looking at them you have a good idea how they are spelled. Get someone even to test your skills make sure you are on top of things.

okay so i was with this guy and like almost everyday usually 2 times a day for like 3 in a half months we had sex.. and i havent had sex in like 6 months soo my question would be.. i have a new boyfriend and were ready to take it to the next level hes a virgin and hes a little smaller than my boyfriend was so do you think.. he would think im lose? im just afraid of that.. since hes smaller dick wise?.. or do guys not really notice that? i dont know

He is a virgin so I am expecting he won't know what he is doing. He most definitely won't even notice especially when all he wants is you. Just because you are experienced doesn't mean you are loose and he won't look at it that way either. I think it is probably best to have someone in the party who knows what they are doing and it makes things easier. He will like that fact.

I dont have a camera so i cant put a picture of me on myspace.I wanna know how do you put a display picture but its not your picture??Like how do I put a graphic as a display picture??

First you find the picture you want. Right click the picture, go down to save as, and left click the words. A screen is going to pop up that wnats to know where you want to save it. I would save it in documents that way you know exactly where it is. Go to your myspace, go into upload pictures. You are going to click browse, then find the picture wherever you put it. Left click the document so that it highlights and press the button in the bottom right hand corner. It should say upload and beside that it should say cancel. Then the screen will disappear and press upload. Then make the picture as your default so it will show.

I'm Estonian, but I've lived in Belgium for 6 years. I'm going to finish school here.
I am interested in going to university somewhere in the states.
I'd appreciate it if anyone could recommend good uni's which aren't TOO expensive. Also I'm interested in doing something art related.
Like graphic design or photography.
I can speak Estonian, English, Decent Dutch, Decent German and some French (I'm still learning Dutch and French as foreign Languages)

Thank you!

I would have to say that the best school in West Virginia that is not to bad is Bethany College or Akron University in Akron, Ohio. Both of these schools have good representations on its art backgrounds. In Bethany you are awarded a scholarship for transfering so it will help with the cost.

I am having so many problems with my recent breakup! I can't stop wanting him and thinking of him! I need him!
People say go out and live your life and flirt...but I just can't flirt. I never could!
I don't want to cry anymore and I want someone to make me feel better!

I know it is hard especially when you break up with someone you like alot but the best thing to do is find a common hobby. Think of something that you always wanted to learn but never had the time. I just got through a terrible breakup myself and decided to learn how to play bass guitar. Learnign how to play made me focus all my anger and energy into the music that it made the thought of him a little less painful. The more I practice the more I enjoyed playing to the point I don't even remember what he looks like now. I wouldn't say go out and flirt until you have fully gotten over the guy. Maybe take some time to find yourself and what you like to do.

i can't eat or swallow anything because my throat is so sore. what will this do to me?

Check the inside of your mouth to see if you have some spots in your thorat. If so, you have strep and need to get a prescription from a doctor. If you don't then drink some warm lemonade like in the can that you put in the freezer. You can find them in any store like krogers or even walmart. This will help soathe your throat and eating popsickles will help fill your stomach up and feel good on your throat.

I'm completely miserable and pretty much want to die now. I can't stand the winter weather anymore. I can't sleep anymore. I'm really sick with a sore throat and fever that won't go away. Things with my boyfriend which were going perfectly, my family loved him and he was living at my house are totally ruined because my dad walked in on us having sex and kicked him out and he's "not welcome in our home anymore". So things are awkward between me and my whole family and him now. I'm doing badly in school and still fighting with my sister. I hate my job. I'm completely miserable. So should I just say f*** it and like kill myself or something?

There have been signs of the same cold spreading thorugh the entire US. People have died without proper treatment of this thing. Suicide is never the answer. Even when you die your problems won't go away they will just get worse. Think about living forever with the pain of not solving the problem you are feeling. As for school you can't really do anything until you are physically and mentally well again. I knwo that it is tough to live in a household where the awkward tension is unbearable but there is a time when you have to be the bigger person and pick yourself up again. If you love your boyfriend and want to be with him then screw your parents. They don't control your choices you do. Talk to him and say maybe you two should live together. Never think about suicide because then you will have to live with these problems forever and forever is a very long time. If you want I can help you with school. My email is foxychick6798@aol.com or even my myspace which is www.myspace.com/darkesthourforme. I can help more than you think because I have the darkest depths of a persons soul when it has nothing left.

If I texted someone from another area code/state, would that cost more even though I have a texting plan? And would that number show up on the bill?

It doesn't matter what number you text at, they are all the same. I saw on my cingular bill that they raised text messaging to 30 cents a message if you don't have a plan. If you use all your texts then they start charging you ut the prices never change no matter how far you text.

these are expensive. $40 for 7 days! i hear they work but still.. can they undo the damage of not not teeth that have touched coffee/tea/teeth-staining beverages but years of bad/barely brushing teeth that have become yellowed? anyone know?

I bought those strips they only get rid of a smalla mount of the stains off. They did get the cofee and tea stains off my teeth but there was still some left. I ended up having to go to the dentist to get them removed.

16/f..i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago..and i got over him, he's a jerk and all he wanted was sex..
now he's trying to make me jealous by listing all the possible girls and "omg so many girls asked me out/hooked up with me"

Yes acting like you happy that he is hooking up with all these girls will drive him crazy. beign happy makes you give out the vibe you are friends who want to help and support each other. He won't be expecting that reaction and thats what it will drive him crazy. Or even find someone else for yourself. Scope the school and see if you have any prospects, if so, then you go for that person and that will give him the vibe it is finally over. If you have someone to brag about then he will stop bragging about his people.

ok so my one friend is the kind of person who is always happy,totally random, is ALWAYS smiling, can make ANYONE laugh...just happy in general. well one day someone told me that they saw her walking down the hall ccrying. i was shocked cause i didnt think that i would ever see her cry. so when i saw her 2 periods later i asked if she was ok. she said she was and not to worry.well i couldnt help but worry cause she is the happiest person i know. so after that class was over...i went to wildcat.i was sitting therre trying to convince myself that everything was ok. i couldnt. i just got htis feeling that something was seriously wrong. then one of my other friends walked in and said that she was in the bathroom crying. im worried that first of all something is horribly wrong. and second of all that our friendship isnt as good as i thought it was. i am really worried about her. i dont want to ask her about it cause she obviously doesnt want me to know.

WHAT CAN I DO FOR HER/OUR FRIENDSHIP?

I had a friend in the same exact situation. What you can do is tell her that you are there for her every step of the way and saying it is ok if you don't tell me but I hope that you trust me enough to tell me. She will say ok and you leave her alone for awile. She will have time to think about it and come to you with the problem. If you constantly ask her she will never tell you. This is a technique that lets a person know you are there but you also give them space to sort things out. If they can't fix the problem themselves then they will come to you. Its not about not trusting you but it is something she feels she can face by herself. Knowing you are there for her will make it easier to figuare out. She will come to you just give it time and patience.

Do you think it would be great if Miley's permanent partner (lover) in the show (hannah montana)is David Archuleta? (It was my friend's idea)
Anyway if not, who do you suggest?

Remember just Asking

I think that would be a perfect match but I also picture her with someone she meets in school. Someone who knows how to act like a normal kid but also understands the obligations of her being a popstar. Its hard to find someone like that even in real life but it would nice to see something like that on a show. I don't know of any specific person but maybe if they created some character in the script for that.

Alright so this may be an intresting question...

I want to know if each of these things is considered good or bad, ok?

-My b.f has an 8inch penis (hurts me sometimes)
-He doesnt cum for like 2 hours (this is the one that worries me a lil)
-he never gets tired after sex

haha thanks in advance!

If you like the man then size doesn't matter. If he is a little rough then maybe he should tone it down a bit. As for the 2 hours late, thats a bad thing. Ask him why it takes him so long and what was he doing. If he doesn't talk then you have a problem but communication is the key to any good relationship. The man may be the mocho body but the woman is the neck which means she can turn the mans head any way she wants. If you are tired tough luck for him. You tell him what you want and that should make things alright. It is kind of bad when he is never tired means thats what he is always thinking about.

ok see around sept i tried datin my best friend who happened to be a guy. well we dated and like we were in love with each other so much. but i moved and we both broke up and moved on. but the whole time i was gone we both had feelings for each other still. well i move back and everytime i see him he always touches me and all that. but he got out of a bad relationship and i feel im just a rebound to him. i don't know but i took his virginity... and i don't know he says he wants to date me again but i don't think i could...what do you think i should do...i really dont think he likes me cause he likes to many people..hes always over everyone..

In this case you should do what makes you feel comfortable. If not getting back together is what you want then you have to tell him for now that what you want. Maybe tell him that you want to stay friends for now and see where things end up in time. Over time he will get over his last relationship and by then you will be able to tell if he is wanting you or just someone else to keep him from being alone. Do what you feel comfortable with no matter what the other person wants.

I want to get better at singing . any way i can like online lessons and throat excersizes you know?

There is a DVD called Zen of Screaming. It is by the singing instructor Melissa Cross. You can buy it in Walmart. It works wonders for those who want to get the innner voice. Not to mention that famous musicians went to her for lessons. The DVD comes with a CD where you can practice hitting the notes and staying on key right in your home. She will show different techniques that will help train your voice on a whole new level.

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