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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.

I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

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my mom is always saying im ugly. last sunday for church, i let my hair dry into natural curl/waves and she said it was ugly and i should brush it (badddd idea) and wear some makeup because my face looked "bad". i didnt wear earrings & she always says i look bad when i dont wear them. when i do wear makeup for other occasions she says i look like a prostitute. i dont know what to do anymore! i cant always be best dressed and miss cheerful like she was when she was my age. shes always telling me how thin she was and how everyone liked her figure just to rub it in my face that i have no womanly shape. my dad says i look ok because he sees what it does to my self esteem. everytime i get the slightest blemish, shes the first to point it out. i hate it! someone please help me! any advice will help! ill rate 5s...

Awwww. I'm sorry that your mother talks to you like that. It shouldn't be that way AT ALL. It doesn't matter what you look like, expecially not to your mother! I would kill to have natural waves/curls in my hair, it takes over 2 hours for me to curl my hair AT ALL!! Feel lucky, don't worry about what your mother says! She's wrong because EVERYBODY is gorgeous in their own way. Just because your mother says things like that doesn't mean anything. Maybe she is trying to live vicariously through you; just don't let it get to you! I hope you feel better hun!
♥ Melissa

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first of all i am sorry if this is long. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and i love him with all my heart. But recently i get a call out of nowhere from this guy that i had a huge crush on when we were younger (i moved away so thats why nothing ever happened between us). So he calls and asks if i wanna hang out with him one day... so i did. Ok i havent seen this kid for about 11 years but when we spent the day together i dont know what happened but i really started to like him again (and i know he likes me he always has). Him and my boyfriend are two completely different people i find that when im with both of them i myself am two different people but i kinda like who i am better with the other guy. So i did the smart thing and the next day i told my bf about my feelings for this other guy and of course he was heartbroken and we broke up... for about an hour... then we got back together. Only the thing is the only reason i took him back was cuz i saw how hurt he was and i felt bad for him. I do really still love him but i dont know if i really wanna continue this relationship but i don't want to hurt him anymore...How do i do it?

If your feelings are strong enough for another guy, then you shouldn't be with your boyfriend anymore. Not even out of pity. If you like yourself better when you're with the other guy, then that's who you should be with, because in the end, it's all about how you feel about yourself.

It seems to me that you should be with the other guy and not with your boyfriend. Feeling like a better person, and happier, is what should matter most to you.

Go with your heart, because in the end that's what will make you most happy.
♥ Melissa

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I am having some friends over today and there gonna be over for like 5 hours before our cheer practice and I have no idea what we can do I don't have a pool just a trampoline I mean I live in a place where we can go for walks and stuff but thats boring anty ideas on what we can do? I'll rate high

Going on walks is fun. They're your friends, they shouldn't care what you do, you can make ANYTHING fun! If you really can't think of anything, why not some fun cheerleading things? I'm a cheerleader and when we get together we like to make up dances, do stunts, tumble, etc. That's always fun. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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(13,female) ok so me and this kid were going out for 4 months and we're at 2 different schools but then he dumped me and said it was because we don't see eachother a lot but then i found out it was really for another girl...but then after a few months we went back out and hes asked me to makeout with him before but i'm kinda scared to cuz i don't want to mess up or anything i mean i'm going into 8th grade and a lot of kids makeout but like idk i'm just kinda nervous...i mean should i just makeout and hope i don't mess up or just wait..?

It will come naturally. Don't worry & don't be scared. If he REALLY likes you, it won't matter how good or bad you are at making out.
♥ Melissa

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why is it that my friend one day hes all over me and flirts iwht me and the next he acts like i dont even exist then another day he goes bak to the fliritng self...ah it drives me crazyy i have no idea how to read this kid!

You NEED to talk to him. There's no reason for him to be treating you this way. Are his friends around when he's being like this? It may depend upon who he's around as to how he acts. Just ask him about it and see what he says. If you aren't comfortable asking, just wait it out and see what changes. Good luck!!
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I am seventeen, and I've had my period for about 4 years. It has always been regular [never late. always early or on time.] Right now it's 2 weeks late, and I know irregular periods are completely normal for someone who's had it for a couple years. But shouldn't it be pretty regular by now? I am NOT sexually active, so there is no way I am pregnant. (My mom is freaking out and telling me to confess already, ha.) Anyways, should I be a little worried that it's THIS late?

It should be regular by now, but that doesn't mean anything. Each person is different, so don't be too worried since you aren't sexually active. If you're still uncomfortable with your period because irregular, get put on birth control and that SHOULD regulate it.
♥ Melissa

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Ok, this might sound really stupid, but this bugs me so much. My mom normally lets me get my hair cut before each school year starts but this year she won't. She told me she doesn't feel like I really need one cuz she gave me a trim a couple months ago and she also said she wasn't gonna let me get it done for a whole year! I thought that was pretty harsh. My hair bugs me cuz it gets in my face when I play basketball and I told her I'm not gonna tryout unless I get it cut. How do I convinve her to let me cut it, or ways for me to like my hair.

You should be able to get your hair cut more than once a year, that's the only way it's going to grow. If your mom won't let you cut it, then you should go to someone and get it done yourself. There's no reason why you can't get your hair cut more than once a year, and it's unreasonable for you not to. If all else fails, cut it yourself.
♥ Melissa

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