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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I'm 16 with very light skin. I have Jergans Natural Glow the medium skin tone(I bought it when I was like 12 so I picked up medium ahah) and I decided to use it again. Every night I shower so last night I shaved my legs then applied the Jergans Natural Glow to my legs. This morning, it made me tan/orange and that's fine however, it's not even all over my legs! So I have white patches all over!! Tonight I'm going to shower again and thinking about putting more of that lotion on however, I don't want the dark spots to be even darker tomorrow. How should I apply it to my legs so everything is nice and even? Also, will it come off when I shower? Advice much appreciated ASAP so I know what to do for tonight so I can wear shorts tomorrow! :D
that usually happens when you sweat it off or get your body wet after you apply the lotion on. Like me, for example. I used that same lotion and I play volleyball, so I wear kneepads. One day after practice I took off my kneepads and my knees were white because I sweat off the lotion. SO i suggest after you put on the lotion, let them air dry for a good 1 or 2 hours. see if that helps :)
i really wanna be popular im not those loner people i have friends and all i just am not very popular and i really want to be popular and also i have acne so yea but not alot but i want that to go away
what is popular..?
just be yourself and people will love you for who you are.. not for who you're pretending to be..
I want to get a tattoo saying that I can look at every day and it will remind me to be me, to keep my head up, never look back, be happy, and live freely. Any suggestions?
I am putting it on the outside of my foot so it can't be too long, but a couple words.
"live everyday as if it were your last"
"no regrets"
"don't look back, keep your eyes on the track"
(this one is kinda long)
"god put eyes on our face so we can look forward, not to look back"
"live, laugh, love"
Last night I had sex, but for some reason he couldn't get me wet, so I definitely irritated my inner lips. I woke up this morning & they're completely swollen, red, & in so much pain. It hurts to sit & walk. How can I get rid of the swelling ?
It sounds like an STI or STD to me. Thats exactly what my friend experienced and she came to me crying saying she had an STI.
do boys get or give more rim jobs
here's an idea.. why don't you go and interview people? survey them and come up with an answer yourself...
so i did a piercing my self in my ear *cartilage* lyke 1 week ago i did it with a neddle i desinfect the needle and//all but when my dad found out he got pissed nd told me to take it off and so i did.i took my piercing out and slep with no piercin in my ear for 1 night.. then ma dad said it was ok so i put it back in and now that i put it back it hurts lyke hell and it iches soo bad!!! IS IT INFECTED OR WAT?
HELP!! and if is infected what should i do?
what should i do to stop iching?
what would happen if my piercing is infected?
OMG! I GOT LOTS OF QUESTIONS!!!
helllp!! pliiz!!
thankzz
well first of all... you shouldn't have done them yourself.. Thats rule number 1 for piercings. Its more risky to get infections that way. Its better to pay some extra cash for a professional to do it. They can give you the proper tools in order to take care of the piercing. They can give you guidelines on how to take care of it. They can give you more tips etc.
Anyways.. I don't think its infected. YET. it could though. Oh and rule number 2 for piercings is DONT TAKE IT OUT. If you keep on taking it out and then putting it back in, you're basically ripping your skin and nerves, which means it can cause infections..
so from now on, stop taking it out. It will only make it worse.
The pain you're feeling right now is probably because you took it out for a day, and then tried to jam it back in. Taking it out for a day (yes.. even 1 day) can cause the skin to form back together. One time i got a piercing and had to take it out for a soccer game. After the game, I tried to put them back in and it hurt like hell because the holes were already starting to close up. so its very very very important you don't take them out.
make sure you clean the piercing very well. It depends on how concerned you are about the hygiene. There are some people who could care less about their hygiene, so they only clean their piercings once a day or even once a week. When i got my piercing, I was so careful and hygienic, I cleaned them 3 times a day. If you really want to prevent infections, you really need to be responsible for the piercing. Clean it more than you expect you should. Its better to clean it more than you need to, than to not clean it as much and risk infection.
The itching may be an allergic reaction too. This is another reason why you should have gone to a professional... The needle you used, or even the piercing you have right now, could be making you have an allergic reaction. My friend got a piercing and her whole ear was swollen because she found out that she was allergic to nickel (the main ingredient for cheap earrings). Now she can only wear gold or silver earrings.
I'm not sure how young you are. You sound pretty young. Don't take this the wrong way.. but when it comes to piercings, its a very responsible thing. You really need to be mature and responsible enough to take care of it. Its not like a pair of jeans. You can't just wear them out and get a few holes in it and be careless about them.. you really need to take the initiation to take care of it. Maybe you should have thought more about this before doing it yourself...
16/F
Hello! Recently I was prescribed birth control pills for my heavy period and he warned me that I may be spotting in between the pills. I've been taking them for about two weeks now and about four days after I started taking them, my period started and it hasn't stopped either. It's really weird and it's kind of heavy now, at first it was light.
Also, I don't know if this helps or not, but just making sure, I am not sexually active and I've also been having some pains in my abdomen area, recently having an ultra-sound done to see what it was, but the note they sent only said 'we did an ultra-sound', nothing else, so I'm confused.
Hey there. I just got perscribed on birth control too :)
I'm just starting my second pack. The exact same thing happened to me too! I started getting spotting (light period) for a few days, and then heavy bleeding after that. It all lasted over a week. I was concerned because i'm sexually active and I heard that a sign of pregnancy was bleeding for more than a few days. So i went back to the clinic and they said it was just the hormones in the pill. My body is still getting used to them and they said it could take a few more weeks/months for my body to get fully used to it. Then it should get back to normal :)
Well, I'm M/15. Recently I've been having trouble trying to clear up my face. A few months ago it was pretty clear. My forehead is the place being hit by ugliness, my cheeks are fine. I have about three dark spots from old pimples that are gone, and a few tiny pimples as well. It looks clear from a distance but if you're talking with me, you'll see a few bumps. Is there any way I can clear up my face pretty well? I've tried different products and I think that those cleansers never work because if they did, they'd be bought less often and have a higher price, it only makes sense. I also don't want to put chemicals all over my face anymore. Are there any types of procedures that actually work? Weather it includes household items, liquid mixtures, and/or types of foods to eat or not eat. I'm sure there's a way. If you can tell me, that'd be good.
i've had acne for a while too but recently i bought some good products which have helped me a lot. This is my daily routine for skin care-
wake up. wash my face with Clean and Clear deep action exfoliating wash. This cleanser cleans your face down to the pores, getting out dirt and bacteria. It also has salyic acid which is used to get rid of acne. It also has exfoliating beads which exfoliate your skin (getting rid of dead skin, which can cause more bacteria and acne). Another good thing about this cleanser is that after you wash it off, your face tingles and feels cool and clean :) After washing my face, I put on Aveeno Clear Complexion Moisturizer. Aveeno is a really great brand because most of their ingredients are natural, which is always a plus. Its made especially for getting rid of acne and to leave skin smooth and maintain an even, clear complexion. After that, i usually just put on some make up (but since you're a dude, i doubt you would want to do that haha)
Then at night I wash my face again with the same cleanser, then put on the same moisturizer, then the final step is to put on Oxy spot treatment. Its this white cream that you apply on the area you have the most pimples and it basically dries out the pimples and makes them go away. You really have to be careful with this stuff though. If you put too much on, it can dry out your skin. So when you use this, put on a little. Less is More. Even if you think it wont cover your whole forehead or whatever, use just a little bit. I usually just use a pea size dot and cover my forehead with that. Another tip- after you put it on, you shouldn't really see the cream. Like when you squeeze it out of the bottle, it looks white. But when you put it on your face, it should blend in with your skin. So if you put it on and your face looks like white spots all over, then you put too much on.
Some more ideas to help get rid of acne are-
-steam! go in a steam room (usually in gyms or fitness centers) or even just a hot shower and stay there for a few minutes. it helps open up your pores, then the steam and heat will kill the bacteria
- drink lots of water. Water is good for you, no matter what. it helps you stay healthy, look good, and feel good.
- if you have a huge big pimple, take a Q-tip or towel and soak it in steaming hot water. Like seriously make it really hot. Then apply the Q-tip or towel to the pimple and hold it there for a few seconds. Dip it back in the water and hold it on the pimple again. Keep doing this. Your face should feel like its burning. The first few times I did this, my eyes watered because it was like burning my skin. But it really works. The really hot water kills the bacteria under your skin. Yes it might burn your skin (which can cause it to dry out, so make sure you apply a moisturizer right after you do this) but it kills the bacteria and makes the pimple go away. Now, i'm not saying it will go away in 1 day if you do this. It takes about 2-5 days for it to go away or at least shrink a little.
This is exactly what I do to get my skin looking clear, and it really does help. But remember, no 2 bodies are a like. So my skin and your skin could be completely different. What works for me, may not work for you. but its worth a shot :)
http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/clean-%26-clear-deep-action-exfoliating-scrub/ID=prod3937632-product
http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/aveeno-active-naturals-clear-complexion-daily-moisturizer-lotion/ID=prod379885-product
http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/oxy-vanishing-spot-treatment-acne-medication/ID=prod3156479-product
How do you know if your breasts are going to develope?
when they get tender, you'll tell.
for example, when something pushes on them softly and it hurts you pretty badly, that means they are tender/fragile. it means the tissue and muscle in your breasts are building up/enlarging and thats when they get tender.
you can also tell because when you get your period, your breasts get slightly bigger. blood circulation helps improve the size too. try massaging them for about a minute a day, this stimulates them and helps promote growth.
14/f
Ok so this cute guy in German class, if you've read my previous questions you know who he is, I can't talk to him during class. Every day I give him a tiny paper bird. Once I went so far as to give him a note saying 'Du bist schön' (you are cute). I have no idea if this is a good idea or not. Is it? Any suggestions? I'm not an experienced person in this field of mushy crap. :) Thank you
I think its a wonderful idea :)
its cute because you're leaving a little note on his desk while he isn't looking. Its a surprise for him. Plus a bonus for writing in a different language (which to guys is attractive).
keep it up and maybe advance a little more :) touch his arm while you're talking to him, laugh a lot, smile a lot, stare at him (not creepy though) and let him catch your gaze (to let him know you are thinking about him). If you're brave enough, ask for his number and talk to him. maybe ask him to get together and study for a german test coming up? or even just to hang out and grab something to eat or watch a movie :)
hey so for the past couple months i've been trying to get in shape for summer and working out every day. i've never had any period troubles in the past but ever since then i haven't gotten it since. i think i got it today but i'm not sure because its reallyyy light and dark..like brown. i dunno. is this normal? oh and i'm not sexually active so i'm not pregnant.
yeah its normal. It can happen before your period (also known as spotting) or it actually is your period. It might just be dried up blood. Its no big deal :) you won't die or anything haha.
Also, spotting and irregular periods are more common for athletes because their bodies are always changing and either becoming stronger or weaker. So since you're working out every day, it could just be that :) I wouldn't worry.
Well me and this guy plan to have sexx in the summer time and i trust him and all and he even says he loves me more than anything but we are both virgins i was just wondering is it good or bad to to have your first time with a virgin?
Because many of my friends tld me its a bad idea.
So can you help me out?
nope its not bad :)
i lost mine to my boyfriend who was also a virgin :)
It actually felt good to know that I was his first and he's my first. It lets me know that i'm the only girl he's ever thought about doing it with. :)
Well this is not just love and life...This is about alot of things happening in my life...I feel betrayed and used ..I also feel like a failure...Well someone I really liked supposedly showed me that he cared about me and then he made me believe he liked me when a few months later he chose another girl over me...I felt so bad because I feel like ive been lied too...and I feel so mad because he looked at me with those eyes making believe he felt love for me and all was lies...I met this other guy ,,,I was falling for him after the first night he made me believe so many things///that he missed me and wanted to be with me showing interest..he almost kissed me..a few days ago I saw him writing about another girl who he loved...I feel so stupid ...Ive gained alot of weight and it keeps me hard to loose it everyday I eat more and more...I wanna stop this get my life in track loose the weight,,,and find love...someone who wont lie to me because ive been lied to much and feel very useddd help me pleaseeeee
yeah.. love sucks sometimes. but honey.. thats life.
you gotta risk it to get the biscuit.
I dont know about you, but I would rather get hurt and lied and betrayed a thousand times than to live in fear every day. Want to know why? because when you get hurt like this, yes you do crash and burn.. but then, a miracle happens. you become STRONGER.
i've had a ton of shit happen in my life. i took many risks and i've gotten hurt numerous times. but you know what? when i look in the mirror now, i see confidence and strength in myself. i realized that I'm stronger because of these things. My heart has been broken so many times, but without those "heart breaks" i wouldn't be as strong as I am right now.
my point is.. if you live in fear everyday, you won't gain experiences. which means you won't learn new things. which means you won't become stronger and be able to face different issues.
honey, i know its hard. i've been there and done that. but you know what? it gets better. just like the other person said, give out love. when you give out something, you're always going to get something back in return. Karma. If you do good things, then good things will happen to you. Bad people in this world have sucky lives because bad things happen to them. Good people in this world live in happiness because their good deeds are payed back to themselves. Keep your head up high. Be confident and proud of yourself. Every little heart break or dilemma in your life will make you a stronger person.
I'm into a guy that i really shouldn't be. The wierd thing is is that i really don't know what it is about him that draws me to want him so bad. I told myself that i would never in a million years hook up with him, but i did anyway. I know in the long run it's probably in my best interest if i stayed away but he's all i think about. So should i just say screw it and have fun anyway? Or should i stay clear when i know it's for the better?
Go with your gut feeling.
I've been in plenty situations like this. "should i risk it and have fun? or should i do what is the right thing?"
these are the questions i asked myself endlessly when i came to a huge dilemma. unfortunately.. i made the wrong decision :( i decided to risk it and "have fun" thinking it would be fun and harmless. but BOY i was wrong.. instead of having "fun", i had to worry constantly every day about getting caught. every single day i would live in fear. yeah it could have been fun at first, but after that.. i started getting really scared about the consequences i could face. the feeling of fear was bigger than the "fun" i thought i would have. i should have listened to my conscious and my gut instinct..
don't make the same mistake i did. go with your gut.
Okay I have friends, but no one close. I don't have any girlfriends that I can call whenever I need to talk and advice. I have family , but we all know that's... different. I just need someone... how do I go about making a new friend.... help!
hey! your question is seriously my life. I'm in the exact same boat as you! I have plenty of friends, but i don't have a true loyal honest good friend that i can talk to about anything!
I found out that if you're the first person to reach out to people, it helps a lot. Like right now for example. I'm reaching out to you first. If you notice someone you have something in common with, reach out towards them and make the first move. say hi and introduce yourself. say something funny to make them smile. and just let the conversation flow from there. don't force things, just let them happen naturally.
anyways, my email is twixtwix26@gmail.com if you ever need to talk to me, i'll be here! I know what it feels like not to have anyone to talk to, so my job is to prevent other people from feeling like that :) just like the other advicenator said, we can be friends too!
so basically me and this guy josh have been dating on and off for several months.
im always the one dumping him.
but recently we've been talking ALOT, and acting as a couple over the phone.
he tell me all the time how much he likes me and how hes gonna ask me out. but i tell him i want to hang out first. i do like him, but im not sure if its in the relationship kind of way.
im not physically attracted to him, but i do like his company.
im going on a camp very shortly and im worried i will hook up with someone and he'll find out.
i dont want to hurt him but i dont want to loose him either...
please help me!
oh goodness... please stop leading this guy on..
i know how you feel. i've been in the same exact position as you. I hooked up with a guy and liked him, but at the same time wasn't sure if I wanted to be in a relationship with him. you want to know what happened..? DISASTER... we fought for so many weeks and all hell broke loose. drama drama drama... and then some more drama. all because i couldn't make up my mind about him.
so please take my advice, because i've had experience.
stop leading him on. it will hurt him. it will hurt you. it won't end in a good way.
make your decision now. either choose to be in a relationship with him and be COMMITTED to it.. or stop hooking up with him. either way you go, stop leading him on. hooking up with him is not going to help.. no matter how much you and him enjoy it. let him know you need to think about this before you make another silly mistake like hooking up.
oh and by the way, i can tell you're young and still immature because you're mentioning "hooking up"... hooking up is not a good thing sweetie.. all it does is cause problems and drama. if you want to hook up with a guy, be prepared to be called a slut and hoe. and truthfully, thats not a good name to be called..
but hey, its your reputation.
So theirs this guy I'm dating for 4months .everything was going Gd till last week.he made arrangements for us to meet up on Friday and Sunday..Friday came and I didn't hear nothing from him till 11pm wich was aalready to late to hang out so I when to bed mad....Sunday came and I didn't hear from him till Monday night and all he text was.."I thought my phone was lost" I ignored him cuz he didn't even appologized so the next day I text him to stop wasting my time..he reply baack by saying "I been Bussy were koo relax" so finally we talk on the phone and He is clue less of y I'm mad.so I tell him y diidnt he ditch me on the date of Sunday and he said he had forgotten cuz he had so much things to do that I should Of Reminded him..I should just cutt him of ?or take his excuses? ..I really like him and I don't want to stop talking to him but I know I Should. But its hard.
you're thinking in the right way. yes it was very wrong of him to stand you up like that. yes you should stop talking to him... BUT.. it depends on how many "excuses" he's used in your relationship.
if something like this happens frequently.. then i say stop talking to him.
but if this just recently happened and nothing like this has happened before, then i say cut him some slack. give in to his excuses just this one time. people make mistakes. if this is one of the few mistakes he's made, cut him some slack. but like i said, if he makes mistakes like this a lot, then its time to stop talking to him.
Hi people I don't know, I have a few questions about art based stuff~
How do you draw anime style? I try with the eyes and hair and outfits and stuff but it just doesn't work.
Also, how to make a good claymation? I've just started with this, and I'm kinda terrible.
Thank you answerers :)
Pardon me, my answer may not be that useful.
but you could try youtube. there's videos about everything on there. try searching anime drawing and i bet there's a ton of video tutorials on it. same thing with claymation.
hey i know to let fate take a hand but we have dated in first and fourth grade a litlle and now i am scared to tell him how i fell because i realy do love him with all my heart.
Just tell him!!!
Stop living in fear. You won't get anywhere in life if you just keep wondering and over-analyzing things... Just do it!
i realy like this boy named orry snyder and i am scared to tell him that so how can i get him to like me but not scare him away when trying to get him to be mine. will you help me and soon please.
thanks
be yourself and just let fate take care of the rest. if it was meant to be, then it will happen on its own. don't force a relationship to work. take it from someone who made the wrong mistake and learned her lesson....