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born and raised in chi-town.(a.k.a.- chicago- for the slow kids)Last time i checked, i was a girl.and i have 10 piercings- 9 of which i did myself.(all but my eyebrow). fun stuff.
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this isnt exactly about sex, but i think it may have something to do with it.
i have a lump on the very top inside of my thigh, underneath, yeah. well its not always there, but every now and then it just kinda shows up. usually for about 4 days or so. but this time its been there for about a week. could this be something wrong, or maybe just a gland. and if it has n e thing to do with it, i am not a virgin. please help, im freaking out! thanks soo much.
well, just alone with the fact that you are not a virgin- i think the only safe thing to do is see a doctor. things will be kept confidential from your parents, just in case ur worried about that.its no big deal. just be clm aboutit, and let your doctor know that it doesnt seem normal, and you just want it checked out. hope i helped.
My friend told me today that she is pregnant because she was raped. she won't talk to the police or anything and her mother doesn't know. what should i do?
well, not to be disrespectful to her or anything- but depending on how old you are, it COULD be a joke. i remember girls telling each other they wer pregnant all the time in school. but at the same time, if she is pregnant, theres no joking about it. its a serious matter- especially if she was raped. i gues the only thing you can do is wait it out and see. you'll never really know for sure unless you wait. get back to me on this one. hope i helped. lamwithakause@yahoo.com
I'm not sure what to do but i think my best friend might be being sexually abused by her dad...and i dont want to come out and say it but at the same time if it is true i dont want herr to be getting hurt! soo please help me out it wouold be greatly appreciated
well, what exactly is it that makes you think she might be being sexualy abused. get back to me on this one- because it can be embarassing toher if u bring it up ne day, and nothing's going on, or if something is really going on, to not do anything about it. i can help you out. just clue me in. lamewithakause@yahoo.com
I am 13 and a female. I like this one guy who is one of my friends. He has liked every other of my friends except me out of all my friends (not trying to be self centered or anything) I seem like i'd be bettter with him because we have a lot of things in common. we have weird things in common about our family and grades etc. we just seem like we'd be really good together. i have liked him for a couple of years now and he most likely knows that. Why would he not like me?
who's to say if he doesnt like you?! he might quite possibly like you more than any of the other girls, he just doesnt know exactly how to show it. guys are like that. just hang in there,you'll be fine. lamewithakause@yahoo.com
Hi, I take dance class and I'm in the marching band. And I have dance tonight and I'm also supposed to play at graduation. Dance is from 5-8 and graduation is from 6-whenever. So I can't do both. But I have to, lol. For dance, my show is June 17, and I just got new pointe shoes, and I need to go to dance as much as possible to break them in, in time for the show. But I have to go to band, too, because we're turning in our uniforms afterwards. And plus, my band director gets really mad if you don't go to these kinds of things, except if it's an emergency or something (ex. having surgery, family death, etc.) So I don't know what to do! I'd rather go to dance if that helps. I was thinking about asking my mom or dad to drop off my uniform after graduation and telling my band director I was sick. Oh, and if I miss a dance class, I have to make it up, and I HATE making up classes. So what should I do? Please help.
x3 Erin
it sounds to me like you enjoy dance class more than band. ive always thought that no one should do anything they dont want to. and to me, it seems as if band is just a big hassle to you. hopefuly im wrong- but i cant say for sure.dance on, chica, dance on. lamewithakause@yahoo.com
Ok so the guy I like, likes me too I guess, but it's complicated. We're gonna go out on a date and "try it out" see how we are together.
Anyway as a joke last night he asked me to tell him something that he could do, that would make me hate him or break up with him. Today he wanted me to write down a long list of those things.. now is he just continuing the joke? Does he wanna know what not to do if we went out, or is he trying to find a way to get me not to like him anymore? I'm a little lost... thanks!
i think he's carrying out the joke, but using it to his advantage to know what NOT to do when and if y'all go out. dont think about it too much. just relax, make ur list, and have fun on your date! good luck. lamewithakause@yahoo.com
ok so this may be a dumb question anyways...i broke up with my boyfriend a while ago n my friend asked him if he still likes me n he goes dont ask me that...could this mean he may still like me..what do u guys think? i told u it was dumb
one tip of advice - dont ever overanalyze ANYTHING a guy says. guys dont think before they talk. (or act), and therefore, many things they say are just there to confuse us girls. just remember, y'all broke up. it hadto have ben for a good reason. and therefore, dont worry about if he still likes you. get over him, girl! hope i helped. lamewithakause@yahoo.com
one of my best friends is fading from me. you see,theres this girl. i hate her. shes so mean to me. and one of my best friends, lets call her hannah, anyway, 'hannah' is turning into such a little slut because of this girl. hannahs 12 years old and shes already been to 1st 2nd and 3rd base! this is all because of the girl that i hate. about her, she called me a fuckin bitch and 'hannah' was on the girl that i hate's side because i stood up for myself. and today she was talking to another girl that i really dont like and she told her all the things that she didnt tell me. she used to be one of my best friends. now she likes people who ditch her for more popular friends better. what should i do?thanks.
i hear these kinds of questions all the time,and all i can say to you and everyone else that is going through this same thing is to NOT GET INVOLVED. let her do her own thing. if she wants to be a slut, then let her. as long as you know what you want in life, then she's losing out by not following along. if and when she realizes that she's lost a great friend (which, it sounds like you are)- then its her loss, not yours. dont blame her mistakes on you. it's not your problem. it's hers. hope i helped.
By the time people are around 20, do you recon they expect sex as part of a relationship?
ive heard that people's sex drives go crazy in their 30's, so im sure by the time youre twenty, youre probably just getting ready for that overhaul. although some people dont EXPECT it in a relationship,that part is pretty much up to you and your partner. hope i helped!
Most of the time my hair is frizzy and not straight. I've tried a lot of methods and my hair is still going to be frizzy. what is the best way to straighten hair?
condition your hair at least twice, use a vented brush to blow-sry it straight, and then apply a straightening serum, and use a straightener to smoothly go over one or two-inch strands. then, put a small dab of hand lotion onyour hands- rub together, and smoothly go over your hair, pretty much focusing on the bottom ends. hope i helped!
I was just watching the Britney & Kevin: Chaotic series and I saw that while they were doing Britney's makeup, they used some kind of concealer stick pencil thing to cover up her mole...I was wondering if anyone knew what it was called and where I can get it? -thanks
clinique makes a concealing pencil. it's for covering up blemishes.im not too sure on how much it costs, but i know that you can get it at carsons, or online.
I was wondering if anybody knew how to get very wavy curls that look natural? Exactly like the ones that Mischa Barton always has. Any help is greatly appreciated..oh and no rude comments, please!
i use garnier fruitics surf pomade. it coms in a tub, and i got it on sale at walgreens for 4 dollars. you gotta let your hair air dry a little, just ot the point wer its damp, and use a little bit of the pomade on a one-inch strand of hair, twist, like you would with a curling iron, up to your scalp, blow dry for about 10, 15 seconds, and SLOWLY pull your hand down. it works great. hope i helped!
Well okay. I want to break up with my boyfriend but i dont know what to say. like, i still want to be friends and i dont want to hurt his feelings, you know? Okay please help me! oh and if it helps i want to break up with him because summers comin up and i wont see him. thanks!
just let him know why you dont want to goout anymore. trust me, there's realy nothing you can say that wont hurt his feelings, unless hes some noncaring jerk, which i doubt he is. if he wants to still be friends, then kudos- if he doesnt, then shame on him. hope i helped.
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ok so i met this kid on the internet (same grade as me... 10th) and we hung out a couple times and i kinda started to like him but then i noticed he was liking this other girl(9th grade) and i didnt really care that much cuz we were good friends... but he goes to a different school and she goes to mine and she has a bad reputation that he knows nothing about... i mean shes cheated on boys many times before and i think he really likes her and i dont want him to get hurt but i dont kno how to tell him with out him gettin mad at me and possibly runing out friendship.... please help!
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well, first off, guys you meet online can never be as good as the ones you meet in real life.i dont exactly understand how you can say that you like this guy, when al you have between you is emails and IMs. it doesnt seem to make too much sense to me. also- let him do his thing, girl. if he wants a nasty girl in his life, then let him. he'll learn eventually. hope i helped, hon.
I have tried to eat exactly 3 meals a day iwthout anny snakcs, but I'm having trouble. As soon as I come from school I NEED a snack. How can I keep myself occupied while I'm doin homewrok so I don't snack?!
dont ever deny your body of food, if it's there for you to eat. that is the one of the worst things you can do for your body. if yure hungry- EAT! there's no reason you should deprive yourself of food, unless there's none there to eat, which i doubt is the problem.
People say opposites attract, do people who are alot alike attract just as well?
i believe that there is truly only one person in this world for each of us. you have one, and i have one. i just think we all need to take the time out to realy search for that one person. so, regardless of wether opposites attract, i'm positive that similarities attract as well.
ok. well one of my best friends is best friends with my enemy. ok lets call my enemy sally and my best friend holly..ok anyways sally used to be my best friend but she dumped me..(long story) and she is really mean to me now. and now she is trying to get all of my friends like holly to be her friend. ok and when sally is around her new friends that hate holly she is mean to her. and also sally is really mean to me and it just drives me crazy of how holly and sally are always doing things together and holly talks about sally behind her back and stuff...im just really confused and how could i get them to not be friends or do you have a better way i could solve this without there being a fite?
i dont believe you should get in between things, and cause them to not be friends- that could really cause a riot. i think you should just let 'holly' do her own thing, and when she realizes how much she's being hurt by this girl- hopefully she'll know to walk away. i think thats all you can do at this point.
Ok, so there is this girl named christina and she used to be my friend, but the reason I quit bein her friend was because she couldn't shut the hell up about two of my other friends, I mean she would just blow up on them for no reason when I was around but when I was gone and she was the only one there, she would be all nice and stuff because there was no one els there but anytime I was there they could jus sit by her and she would scream at them.So could you help me on what to say to her to tell her off and make her get off my friends!!!
well, im a girl, and i know if i did that- the only reason i would do it would be if i felt that the two other guys got more attention from you than i did. hopefuly you understand what im sayin. i think she just felt left-out of things. i really dont think there's any reason to tell her off. just let her be, and if she decides to apologize, then more power to her, if she doesnt, then forget her.
i'm in 8th grade and everyone i know has had or has a boyfriend, but i have never had one. i am kinda shy and i'm friends w/guys but nothing ever happens withour friendships. but anyways i am moving at the end of the school year and there is this guy i really like how can i get him to ask me out or get a boyfriend before i leave?
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first off, i agree. it sucks to not be hoked up with someone when everyone else around you is. but i think that is something that will pass in time. i believe i may have gone out with 2 or 3 guys back in the 8th grade, and i am no longer with any of them. granted we're still friends, tho. i think kids these days use a boyfriend or girlfriend just as something to show off, so they can feel more grown up. im not necessarily talking about you though- because i was the opposite. if i wanted a boyfriend, it ws because i liked the guy and i wanted to call him my own. and you might very well be looking for the same thing. but dont you think it would make more sense to get or find a boyfriend where your new town is?- i do. i recently moved and me and a guy that had gone out in the past wanted to hhok up again, but we both figured it was no use, because we wouldnt even see each other all the time,and trust me, long-distance relationships suck. just give it some time. hope i helped.
Theres this guy that i like name joe. And his friend always ask me if i have called joe yet. And i always tell him..joe doesnt like me so why call. Why does his friend keep doing this to me? Do you think joe has said something or what?
this friend is probably just giving you a hard time because he knows how you feel about joe. guys can be stupid like that. dont overanalyze anythng a guy says or does. he more than likely didnt think about it first.