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I went to the tanning bed sunday and all monday and tuesday I was itching terribly. I thought maybe i had a rash but then i thought well maybe its from the tanning bed. And then i kept getting this tingle..all day..it hurt soo bad. I didnt use ne lotion..wat was happening?

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I think you're just sunburnt. You really should wear lotions, even in tanning beds, cause it's just like being in the sun, 'cept a bit worst. WEAR LOTION

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Do u use an eyelash curler on your bottom eyelashes ? I dont think u do but my friend says ur supposed to.

aren't the bottoms ones already curled enough? They're too little anyway. Just curl the top ones.

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For some reason pretty girls make me jealous. I don't have a man that I think they will steal but just seeing them makes me hate myself even more then I already do. There are only 2 things I like about myself, my eyes and my voice. But there are all these pretty girls out there and I am just not one of them. I don't know how to make myself feel better about it. I have tried making myself look good...but I can't even do that. Any idea on how I can get over this?! PLZ ~N~ thank you!

*~Carrie~*

I`m the total opposite...i try to be friends w/ pretty girls altho i'm not sure why.
Think of it this way: if YOU don't think you're pretty, how can you excpect other to? When i look in the mirror i tell myself that i like how i look and i have a positive attitude. It really helps because then you seem so bright and positive about yourself and people will see that. Be confident.

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I met this guy that my friend jeni and her fiance roger wanted me to met. so i was ok it couldn't hurt so i ended meeting him september 19th(two saturday ago). He's 21 and i'm 17. so we all ended up going bowling. I talked i him a little bit.
This past saturday we all went to roger's house to watch movies. Jeni and i ended up getting there by 7pm and we did our homework until 8-8:30pm. We finally started watching movies at about 8:30-9pm. We watched star wars. John(the guy i met) started explaining the movie(s) of star wars since i had never seen any of them before. Which was very sweet of him to do? anyway i didn't get home until almost midnight. This time i got to actually talk to john more and kinda flirt/goof off with him cuz i was much more comfortable with him. Do u think we're dating, seeing each other, or being friends? What do u think about the age difference(17 and 21)? should i tell my parents about him (i haven't told them anything yet!)? how do u think the relationships going? you can also im me @ Lady4Marmalade on my aol instant messenger or email @ Lady4Marmalade@aol.com

Thanks Crystal

First off: How could you know nothing about Star Wars?! *l0l* Sorry i had friends who wer obsessed w/ it and they forced me to watch it all the time ((NO WE ARE NOT GEEKS)).

Okay on to your questions!

1) Do u think we're dating, seeing each other, or being friends? ---> I would personaly say that since you've only hung out like twice, you're still in the friends mode. But i'd say if you hang out w/ him, like, 4 more times and things keep going great, then i'd say that you guys would be sorta seeing each other.

2) What do u think about the age difference(17 and 21)? ---> 17 and 21...4 years isn't bad. It's a tad more than i would prefer but age shouldn't matter. do what you believe is right!

3) should i tell my parents about him (i haven't told them anything yet!)? ---> If there's anything i've learned in the past, it's don't hide boyfriends from parents! It's the most stressful thing in the world! They'll find out eventualy so why tell them right now?

4) how do u think the relationships going? --> Sounds like it's going just fine! you guys are getting comfortable w/ each other and are interacting which is really good. Just keep at it and in no time you should be more than friends!

Thanks for the question! Hope i helped!

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i know this may sound like a weird question.. but some girls i know shave down there completley. and other only shave what shows when they wear a baithing suit. i was just wondering if i should shave compltley down there or what..

Well, personaly, i shave everything. It's much cleaner and guys like it way better. Also, if you shave everything, you never have to worry that something will show when you are wearing a bathing suit. If you're shaving down there anyway, why not do it all? Hope i helped and thanks for the question!

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i dont see my b/f very often so its like every time at home at school any where im always thinkin about s*x i have this very intense s*x dreams as well as fantasies its like i want have s*x every day im a freak not a h*e i had only 2 s*x partners my first and my b/f i have now its like my first turn me out is it normal 2 feel this way i'm 16 female and he's 16 both juniors in high school

So you've got a high sex drive...i'd consider myself lucky if i was you! Then you can keep up w/ your boyfriend! You're not a freak either...alot of girls are obsessed w/ sex but society in general thinks it's just guys who always think about sex. There's totaly nothing wrong w/ it at all! To prove that you're normal, just watch an episode of Sex in the City! Hope i helped and thanks for the question!

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im a 17 female and need tips on how to lose weight. i cant go to the gym so ill need tips on what to eat and how to exercise at home .. thanks soo much !!

I'm trying to shed a few pounds too and i'm way too lazy to drive all the way to the gym every day. I've found that Pilates are great. You can buy kits that explain how to do all the different excersices and stuff. REALLY cut down on the junk food and sodas. Drink juice but not the cocktail kind cause they're full of sugar. Whole grain breads intead of white bread. Water should be your best friend and check how much fat there is in everything you eat...some products may surprise you! Good luck!

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You're totaly cute! I *LOVE* your hair in your pic! Is it naturaly that straight? How do you stay so pretty? What size are you? How tall are you? How much do you weigh?

*l0l* Okay too many questions!
1) My hair isn't naturaly straight like that, actualy that's an old pic and it doesn't look like that at all anymore. It's naturaly wavy and i always have to spend a little time on it in the morning to get it straight and sleek. It's my natural hair color tho.
2) Thanks for the compliment and i don't do anything to look like this...born w/ good genes i guess!
3) I'm not sure which size i am...sizes are always different around here and i'm sure they're different from where you're from. I'm 5'6" and weigh around 12O lbs.

Thanks for your question!

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Okay, im thirteen and i have a boyfriend who is the greatest thing in my life right now, hes so suportive towards me..and i really would like to spend the rest of my life with him and i know alot of people are gunna tell me that im 13 and alot of things are gunna go on in my life that might change and i dont even know what love is, but trust me i do i know exactly what it is thanks too him, but anyways...we both wanna go further..cause we both have the same feelings for eachother, and i wanna go further but i dont know how far..i mean we have made out alot...and like fingered..whats next? help me and ill rate you

Alright; i know you don't wanna hear it but you ARE too young. Trust me, I KNOW.

First off i'm super happy that you've found someone who shares the same feelings as you and that you guys really care for each other.

It's 1OO% true that you're gonna go through things in the next few years that will really change everything about you. I have changed dramaticaly from the age of 13 and the decisions i made then seem so stupid now (and i was quite a mature 13 year old).

Just because you guys have really deep feelings for each other doesn't mean you have to express it w/ sexual activities. Why can't you just enjoy being w/ each other and enjoy being young? You definitly don't want to rush into having sex and dealing w/ all the complications and stress that it can bring.

IF you DO want to go furthur sexually, i really want you to consider educating you on everything involved. Check up on some really good websites that will inform you and answer your questions or ask someone (i'm willing to answer any questions you have). If you already think you know enough, don't jump right into sex. Experiment w/ other stuff and leave sex alone for awhile to make it more special.

Hope i helped and much

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I'm 14, and I have yet to wear a tampon! All of my friends do it, so I just pretend I do!.. I mean I've stuck one in there before, and it worked and it sticked, but I'm afraid like its going to go further, or I'm gunna try and pull on the stringy thing and its gunna break lose. Do you think any of those things could happen? Pllease help!

I didn't wear tampons till I was about 15 or 16. I was just scared that it would get stuck or it would hurt but after awhile i just decided to try it and it wasn't that bad. I haven't ever heard of anyone having the string break and it's CANNOT go furthur so i say go for it.

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Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?

I'm just the same way...not that my boyfriend talks dirty...but i just find it's incredibly stupid and lame. Don't do anything that makes you uncormfortable or you won't enjoy yourself. If he loves you he'll understand why you don't want to do something so dumb.

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Hey i've ben straightening my hair for about 2 years and i just feel like blowdryin it straight wut is the best way to blow dry it straight and make it not look so puffy? THANK YOU!!! * i rate *

I bought this awesome stuff called Brilliant Brunette Simply Sleek straightening balm that you just put in your hair and blow dry and it makes it really nice, not pouffy like usual!

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I don't know where to put this. Anyway, when I wash my hair I just use normal shampoo, whatever is in the shower. But my hair is sensitive, I have this scalp...thing and it makes my hair look really dirty really easily. If I use too much moose, gel, or spray, it looks oily and dirty and makes my scalp flake. Nasty, I know. But I was wondering if there are any shampoos or products I could use that aren't that strong, but would give my hair a really straight, sleek, shiny look without making my hair look greasy? Thanks for any help.

Pantene Pro-v rocks!

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What's the best fall style's this year? I've been shopping at American Eagle, and Maurices. I heard Gadzooks is a good place. What else?

I'm also trying to impress my crush. xD

I personaly

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i just found out i get my braces in 13 days any tips to help the process?

Braces are so not as bad as you think. I had 'em for 3 years and i just got totaly used to them. I'm not gonna lie, it's gonna hurt for the first few days. It's not like a "i wanna die" pain...it's just a sqeezing numbness i guess. For the first few days, avoid eating anything hard and anything you have to chew alot. DO NOT EAT APPLES!!! Or anything else that might cause the brackets to break off cause that sucks. Also i tried to stay away from bread as much as possible cause it ALWAYS got stuck between the brackets. Buy some Anbesol and use it often to help dull the pain. Good luck!

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what is the difference between a flat iron and a straightener..and which one works better? don't say they're the same thing because I know they're not =) thanks!

It's pretty much the same 'cept flat irons work way better. They make your hair REALLY straight. But they're really $$ expensive $$.

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OK. i just bought this really cute mid-thigh length white denim skirt and i have no idea wut to wear with it. i know this is probably the stupidest question on here, but if you could help me, that'd be great.

o yea and i rate.

White denim...hmm...i'd say match it w/ a really cute tropical colored shirt. Like hot pink or tropical orange or aqua! That would look great!

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I'm going to be a junior in high school and I have no idea what I want to major in, where I want to go, or even what I really want in a college. How can I start narrowing down the search and decide where I want to apply??

I didn't even know what i wanted to do when i applied to universities. I just applied to a few i liked and finaly i chose the local university because if i was wasting my time doing something i didn't want to do, i'd at least be spending less money. So i'm in my 2nd year here and i've finaly decided i want to be a teacher...but i only decided that this past summer. It's so hard to chose what you want to do for the rest of your life...you've just gotta kind of narrow it down to the things you love the most and work from there.

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hey does nair really work? because i have a hard time shaving my legs and getting all the spots and i thought it would be nice but i want to know if it works first. thanx.

I bought some of that Veet Rasera stuff and that worked good. Nair doesn't work all that great and it stinks. I think what would work best is this new Nair mousse that's comming out. It would spread alot easier and hopefully smells better!

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