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14|Female...For about two years ever since I found out my dad cheated on my mom...my life has been completely different, i use to feel really confident about my body but now i dont, i feel over weight and ugly (even though im 89lbs)I also have really bad trust issues now..I dont want to be like this anymore I want the old me back, My mom says the best way is for me to talk to someone about it but I cant talk to her because I know that it will upset her about the dad thing and I cant talk to my older sister because she will think im just going through some teenage stage...my mom suggested I see a therapist but i dont know if I want to or not because it just seems weird telling a stranger my feelings...and also I know they cost alot of money so I dont want to just waste money if I am going through a teenage stage but I dont think it is just a teenage stage...Im just really scared I am going to do something crazy if I dont tell people how I feel. So my question is...should I see a therapist or not? (link)
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If you feel like you should see one, see one. It won't be a waste of money, trust me. Just be sure to find a really good, experienced therapist. I know you feel like you're telling a stranger what you feel, but everything is CONFIDENTIAL, unless the information you give him/her is:
1. harming you or others or
2. endangering you or others
then, they MUST call Child Protection Services (CPS). Other than that, you should be fine. My parents went through a terrible divorce almost 3 years ago, and i'm STIL having trouble. Counseling takes time, and it's not all gonna get better the minute you start seeing a therapist. It will take a while. Just be optimistic.
And i definately know what it's like to be told that "It's just a phase/stage!". Well guess what, teens have struggles, and sometimes, THEY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP. Make that clear to the people who don't think you need therapy. I am 14 too, I hate my body, I think i'm overweight, people can't trust me, and i think i have sooo many different disorders, but no one beleives me. WE SHOULD GO TOGETHER. lol. Sometimes, therapy is the only way to go before you do something stupid as hell. But if you don't go, please don't cut yourself, pop pills, or refer to drugs to solve your problems. Honestly? They make it worse LATER in life. Do what you feel is right. And don't worry about $$$, medical insurance should take care of it! =] Hope I did some good. x333
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My hair is brown with blonde streaks, but i want to change it for summer, please tell me how you dye your hair with kool aid and tell me how much it works i mean how well it works , like if it gives off a realyl good color, or is really weak ...and can you dye your hair with hawaiian punch? (link)
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I tried dying myhair with kool aid. so did my sister. It kind of worked, but it didn't really show up all that great. It washes out in the shower, so that's a negative. I wouldn't even bother dying your hair with kool aid because
1). IT SMELLS.
2). it makes your hair sticky
3). it's hard to brush
4). it washes out in the shower
if you really want to dye your hair, then by that hair dye that washes out, and then tell your mom you used kool aid and markers or something...wait, no! don't say that. but yeah, try that, or just ask your mom if you can dye it!
hope i helped...x333
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How do you masterbate? And what's it like? Any websites that could explain it? But I wanna ask you personally cuz you've done it, what's it like and how do you do it?
~Kayla~
Thanx and I added you to my fave columnists.
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well, um...you...(this is kinda weird)...you can start by uh...touching yourself down there, and try and get yourself wet...like...you keep rubbing yourself. and then eventually stick your fingers in yourself and wiggle them. once you get used to it, it doesn't hurt, but at first, it will because you break your hymen (look it up) and that can hurt. the more you do it, the better you get. the better you get, the more you know what sex is like...and the better you'll be at sex. go to www.gurl.com to find out more. and go to www.ivillage.com for more stuff about sex. good luck x333
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I really like this guy and I wanna have sex with him, only, I'm a virgin. I don't know how or what it's like and I'm really nervous. Any advice or tips or could any of you girls tell me what it's like to be layed? Anything will help. Thanx
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from a girl to a girl, "it" freaking rocks. I just recently lost mine, and actually, it didn't really hurt. You wanna know why? Because I heard that if you masturbate and get used to it, it doesn't really hurt when you actually try it...so i did it, and my first time rocked! And when you are "doing it", you might start shaking. just a warning. you can't control it, though. it's just because you're sooo excited...and you will feel absoulutely awesome. but you really should discuss it with that boy you like. use a condom. be safe. not stupid. oh, and read sex tips. it helps...TRUST ME. GOOD LUCK! x333
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well my best friend was like a really good girl that did NOTHING wrong... and we've been friends for a longg time and our parnents are good friends too. but lately she has been getting in trouble and getting grounded..she smoke cigarettes and done weed sometimes and we got in a fight about that because im TOTALLY against it people have asked me to try it and im like nope..never! and my parents asked why she is always in trouble and im like well..because she tried weed and smoked some cigarettes..and theyre like SHE DID WHAT? theyre all worried that i did it and stuff and theyre like you better not do that! since im over at her housel ike 24/7. now my parents and my whole family think i do it or whatever just because she did it! she doesnt even really do it anymore and i always yell at her because its soo bad for her! i dont want my parents to think i am a druggie because im not i would never do that and ive told them that but i dont think they believe me!! what should i do?..i cant stop hanging out with my friend because i would die without her and plus i only really hangout with her and my other friend! ahh this is horrible!! :[
ive never tried ciggs or weed or anything in my entire life! (link)
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i had i similar problem...except the friend was me. but what you could do is:
get your friend to come over (if she's allowed) and sit down with your parents. discuss the problem. tell your parents that they CAN trust you because you wouldn't dream about drugs. your friend might be able to emphasize that fact. tell your friend to say things like, "I made a mistake, and I regret it, but now I know what they do. Whether I like them or not, your daughter is not doing them with me. I care about her too much to pressure her into doing something SHE doens't wanna do." Maybe that will make your parents believe you, if not, then idk what to tell you. But if your parnets hear it from you AND your friends, they might believe you. It worked for me! How do you think I got my mom to trust me? It works...sometimes. BUt give it a try...hope everything works out. x333
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so there is this one guy!! and he is really really cute and seems really funny. ive always had my eye on him since like winter but ive never talked to him because i didnt know how to approach him. well a couple nights ago he I/M my friend and said somethin but she was gone so i was like this is kristen ..shelly is upstairs so then hes like asking me all these questions like what school do you go to..do you know these people? and hes like are you hot? lol and im like uhh..and so my friends brother goes up on his computer and shows him my myspace link and i guess this guy was like shes "aight" soo that kinda lowered my confidence but then i was like wait you play on this baseball team right? and hes like yeah and i was like yeah i was at your game tonight! and hes like yeah we suck but im the catcher..and im like ohh you did good! and then hes like yeah but i got to go take a shower so then he left and i was like allright cya. and how can i somehow talk to him again? i wish he would get my screename from someone and I/M me first because that way i would know he was interested or whatever! i mean ive had my eye on him forever and now i finally got to talk to him! i dont want to request him on myspace or I/M him first because i dont want to feel like a stalker or like him being i dont really even know you?...ive talked to you only once?..
i just dont know! do you guys have any suggestions? and i guess that he doesnt really talk to my friend much they dont hangout at all so i dont think she could help me!
also im so shy and always worried of what people think of me...i know i shouldnt i wish i wouldnt but i cant help it! thats why i dont want to approach him first. but lately this kid is all i can think of!? hes kinda popular so i dont know if he would go for me..since he said im "aight" looking..but i think i could maybe get him by my personality or something??
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you know what you could do? if you have friends who are friends with him, hang out with them when he is around and have your friends introduce you to him. have them say something like, "Yeah, this is Kristen (is that your name?), she talked to you online that one night." or something like that. I used to be shy too, but I don't let it phase me. Guys like girls who are a little open and not too shy. You can be coy, but don't be shy. You have no reason to! Good Luck!
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I was looking at my feedback but I forgot which question I answered so I went back and checked. As I was looking I noticed someones answer and I didn't know if it was true.
I don't want to embarass anybody so i'll just describe the situation. One girl stated that she hasn't had her period in 4 months and was wondering what she should do. Then this one girl answered:
If you have oral sex then there might be a chance of pregnancy, but if not, then it is probably just still irregular. It takes up to two years for a period to regulate, and if you have had your period for over two years, then you should tell your mom or a doctor.
Is it true you can get pregnat from oral sex?
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that's ridiculous. you can't get pregnant from o.s! well unless you were some kind of alien and ovulated from your mouth, then i would worry, but you're a human so no, you cannot get pregnant from oral sex. You might want to use a condom, though because you can still and an STD/I. Hope I helped.
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i'm 17 and have been thinking about birth control. i know you really dont need a parents permission to get it but i'd like to talk to my mom about it. i need help on finding a way to bring it up in a conversation with her. anyone have ideas?? and any suggestions on which birth control? i was thinking about Seasonale but i dont know how much that costs for the year. (link)
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I'm glad I can answer this. I'm thinking about birth control because I'm sexually active. But you know what you could do? Say to your mom,
"I think I'm getting ready to start experimenting with some things, and I just want to be responsible and take the precautions that are neccissary (spelling?). I want to be safe and I think birth control would come in handy."
Try that. Hopefully she will understand.
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Why is it so wrong to be chauvanistic, but OMG SO COOL AND TRENDY!!!!1! to be feminst?
Why is that it's wrong for a man to hit a woman, but if the chick hits the guy, it's considered cute?
Why can girls get away with calling guys every sexist name under the sun but if a man dare say the word chick (ZOMG!!!1!! NOT CHICK!!!! *gasp*) he is called a sexist, and that is not ok? (link)
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I guess it's just "politically correct/incorrect". I agree with you, though
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My mom made me a doctors appotment in August with a regualar pediatricion. (i'm 13)
I'm gonna get a physical or a check-up, I can't remember which one. Thing is, I havn't been to the doctor since I was 7 or 8. So, of course, I've gotten my period since then.
Will my doctor want to take a look "down there"?
(Sorry my spellings kinda messed up, I'm in a hurry) (link)
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Probably not. That's what gynecologists are for. Your doc might ask you when you got your period, and how many days you bleed and if it's regular, but other than that, it shouldn't be a problem. Your doc might check for hurnias, though. He/she might make you take your pants off and slide your panties down a bit...but he/she won't look "down there". No worries! (I HATE DOCTORS TOO. I GET SO NERVOUS. EXPECIALLY WHEN THE MAKE ME PEE IN A CUP.) GOOD LUCK! :)
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ok so i only want to lose 5-6 lbs in a short period of time any one know how if so please tell!!! (link)
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I love answering these! Google this thinger called Oxysicise (i think that's how you spell it) It's this workout thing where you breath a certain way. THe fastest way of losing weight is by breathing. NO KIDDING. My mom lost 20 pounds in 2-3 weeks. JUST BY BREATHING. It really works!! And it tones your muscles too...so you're getting even more benefit from it. TRY IT! I do it..and it's working for me. If you wanna lose like 5-6 pounds, try it for a week. or more...people are different...but it WORKS. Good Luck!
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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.
mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.
This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.
what about breast enlargement?
are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?
is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?
i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!
Please HELP ME! (link)
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sweetie, breasts aren't just for the pleasure of being there. You need them to nurse a baby. It shouldn't matter how big they are! If boys don't like you because of that, then they are NOT worth it. Honestly! I was like that when I was like...12 but now I'm 14. Maybe it's just your hormones. Ask your doctor about a hormone pill. PLASTIC SUREGERY IS NOT THE ANSWER. IT HAS SERIOUSLY EFFECTS. it makes your boobs hard. guys like girls with soft, massageable boobs. NOT HARD AND STIFF ONES. lol. Big boobs aren't fun. Maybe a C cup would be okay, but nothing bigger. Seriously, ask your doctor about a hormone pill. Maybe birth control could help. Plus, surgery hurts afterward...and it's expensive. Be smart. And plus, boys want girls who are natural (well the boys who aren't horny bastards). Some might like girls with fake boobs, but if i was a guy, i wouldn't want that. So go the natural way...or try to. if it doens't work, try the suregery. Hope I helped
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Okay, so im 15. f.
i guess ill start from the beginning
i knew this guy named "joe" who had a friend named "kyle". me and joe dated for a while. kyle hated me because i was always with joe, and he never spent any time with him anymore. After i stopped dating joe. I started talking to kyle for some reason. We would honeslty talk like 4 hours every day on the phone, about like nothing. We were inseperable, we would always be together, he was my best friend, and he was my first guy that i actually fell in love with. But I dont really know what happened, but as soon as summer started everything just seemed to go down hill with him. I went to one of my friend mikeys house to help him with one of his problems, kyle found out by my brother because when he called i left my phone at home, and my brother told him where i was at and he got jealous, over nothing because me and mikey didnt do anything. so i called him back that night, and he just wouldnt talk to me, so i was said "well i have better things to do then if your not going to talk" and he hung up on me. and i didnt bother to call him back. like 3 days later without talking to him i finally did apologize over txt, he said he had to go somewhere so he couldnt talk for the next 4 days and he would call me when he got back. so i thought everything was okay again..wrong. he never called me back, i called him back like 6 days after the day he told me he had to go somewhere, and we talked for about a minute, cause he was tired and watned to go to bed. i thought it was just one of those mood swings he was goin through..but i dont know we havent talked for about a month now, and i still think about him alot, and im still completely in love with him still..and i dont know what to do, my friends tell me to move on, but ive tried and i cant, i dated one person after him, but i had to break up with him because i knew that wasnt fair to him that i was still in love with someone else. but now..i really have come to a drop dead end. and i dont know what to do..should i call him? or should i just give him his space, and wait for him to call me, which i know might take forever..and i dont know if im willing to wait that long? i cant move on..so thats defintaly not one of the options. any advice would help. i rate high for any advice. thanks for reading (link)
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you know what? I wouldn't waste my time waiting for some guy to call me. What I would do is...give him some space...for a while. Maybe ask his friends how he is doing. Don't ask directly "Is he mad? Does he hate me?" or anything like that... just ask, "So, how is kyle (that's his name, yes?)? I haven't seen or heard from him in a while." or something of the sort. See how it works out or try what Cat said. Both suggesstions are good. Good Luck!
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this may be a little weird...but i was wondering, is it better to sleep with a bra or without one? thanks (link)
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if you want your boobs to be healthy and not all weird, sleep with out one. I had to learn that the hard way...
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