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my friend did drugs...
well my best friend was like a really good girl that did NOTHING wrong... and we've been friends for a longg time and our parnents are good friends too. but lately she has been getting in trouble and getting grounded..she smoke cigarettes and done weed sometimes and we got in a fight about that because im TOTALLY against it people have asked me to try it and im like nope..never! and my parents asked why she is always in trouble and im like well..because she tried weed and smoked some cigarettes..and theyre like SHE DID WHAT? theyre all worried that i did it and stuff and theyre like you better not do that! since im over at her housel ike 24/7. now my parents and my whole family think i do it or whatever just because she did it! she doesnt even really do it anymore and i always yell at her because its soo bad for her! i dont want my parents to think i am a druggie because im not i would never do that and ive told them that but i dont think they believe me!! what should i do?..i cant stop hanging out with my friend because i would die without her and plus i only really hangout with her and my other friend! ahh this is horrible!! :[
ive never tried ciggs or weed or anything in my entire life!
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i had i similar problem...except the friend was me. but what you could do is:
get your friend to come over (if she's allowed) and sit down with your parents. discuss the problem. tell your parents that they CAN trust you because you wouldn't dream about drugs. your friend might be able to emphasize that fact. tell your friend to say things like, "I made a mistake, and I regret it, but now I know what they do. Whether I like them or not, your daughter is not doing them with me. I care about her too much to pressure her into doing something SHE doens't wanna do." Maybe that will make your parents believe you, if not, then idk what to tell you. But if your parnets hear it from you AND your friends, they might believe you. It worked for me! How do you think I got my mom to trust me? It works...sometimes. BUt give it a try...hope everything works out. x333
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About the smoking.... as long as she doesnt do it in front of you or like pressures you into it, don't fight her about it. she'll stop on her own when she gets bored with it. dont get all "i will never try anything like that" and like draw Xs on you hand b/c that's immature and pretty annoying. anyway, about the parents, you could take a drug test for them or like put down the drugs to them, not to your friend, know what i mean? i dont know when they'll believe you but i think they will eventually. don't worry about it, you can still hang with your friend but don't get caught sneaking out or anything with her or then you won't be able to see her again because that just looks like something bad is going on. reassure them that you are your own person and what she does is up to her and wont affect your decisions. if you need to talk, leave one in my inbox with your screename and i'll im you. <3
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you should talk to your parents and try to convince them that you do not do any of that and if they still dont beleive you ask them to go get you a drug test becaus the drug test will not lie and if you smoked weed that usually stays in your system for a while and they will be able to find it in a drug test.
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Tell them again that you have never doneany type of drug in your life, let them know wouldnt they see symptoms of you doing drugs like your grades dropping and you getting in trouble like your friend is. And if they still dont believe you then tell them to let you take a drug test to prove them wrong.
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I'm in/was in a similar situation. My lifelong best friend went from being a good girl to a girl who goes out doing drugs with all these new people.
Unlike you, my parents didn't assume that because she did it, I did it. My parents are pretty laid back and I've always been honest and open with them, so they trust me and know I'm not stupid enough to do drugs. I've experimented with weed and I used to smoke but they know I don't do that anymore.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but at the end of the day you might have to take a few steps back from this friendship. Very recently I asked someone on this website for advice about my situation with my best friend and she told me exactly the same thing. I'm not saying you need to completely cut off the friendship, but I think you should cool it off and give your parents a chance to trust you.
At the end of the day, she's still your friend and you should be there for her but if it gets to the point where you're sacrificing your parent's trust and causing problems with your family for her, then you need to think about getting out of that friendship.
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