I made this advice column to help kids and teens with their problems. I have personally had deal with siblings, friends, parents, school, and basically anything and everything else. I know what it feels like to be upset when life gives me crap. I assure you guys, the advice I give will not be like, "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!" No. I don't believe in that bull. I'll give advice that will help guide you and maybe help you make the right choice. The advice I'll give would be realistic and straight forward. No nonsense. I remember hating it when adults told me to look on the positive side of things when I was upset, I mean, what the hell? It's so hard to look at some crappy situation positively. Like when my grandma died, how the hell am I supposed to look positively at that? Couldn't you guys just let me mourn and leave me alone? But a teacher who was just like am I now gave me some advice that actually helped. She told me some things that helped me cope with the loss. Unfortunately, I haven't seen her since grade five. Oh yeah, one more thing, I do not appreciate stupid questions because there ARE such things as stupid questions. So don't be asking for homework help or anything like that. kkthanx
-Wicked
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quakers chewy bar.. are they healthy or not? (link)
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Well, not really. I can't say anything is really 'healthy' for you these days. Even fruits and vegetables are grown with chemicals.
But Quakers Chewy Bars are better for you than some other products out there. When buying food, you should check the Nutrition Facts and the ingredients before making purchases.
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how can you tell when your having sex, if the guy is a virgin?
and how can you tell when your having sex if the girls a virgin? (without them telling you obv) (link)
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I would say the best thing to do is just ask.
For girls, you know for sure they are a virgin if they still have their hymen. You can tell if they bleed the first time you have sex.
For guys... I don't know much about them, maybe their lack of experience?
But as I said before, best thing to do is just ask them.
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For my 17th birthday my best friend made a scrap book of our lives and she had a custom picture frame made that was engraved with our names and nick names for each other and they are the two most treasured things I own.
Now in June it'll be her 17th birthday and I am clueless as to what to get her. Last year I had her present planned out by January. And she's been through a lot this year and I really want to get her something special and at the end of the year I'll be moving out of state and might not be here for her next birthday.
A little about her:
she's the strongest person i've ever met
loves lacrosse
ben&jerry's ice cream
marine biology
eco-friendly things
books about classic romances (like the notebook)
she likes elephants
sour patch kids
lillies
the beach
Thanks a bunch! (link)
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Maybe you should get something for the both of you? Like something you two can treasure and whenever you look at it, you think of your friendship.
I'm suggesting you get something like a heart shaped locket. Inside the locket, you can put something like a picture of the other person, or a note (maybe blood if you're not too afraid). Something the other person can carry around and remember you when they look at it.
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Hi!!(Long.. I'm sorry. please read!!!)
Okay this guy ...his names Matt...makes me so miserable!! I'll start off by saying I use to like this guy...like..love this guy, well I'm just 13 1/2 so its not REAL love. Well, he absolutely hurt me.. so bad, he told me he didn't like me...the worst way possible...he let his sister bash me on his Myspace...and he didn't even delete the comment for me.Well...that was a long while ago and...we got into a fight like last month and he STILL hasn't became my friend again and I don't know why. He was mad at me because a day last month, my friend and I were talking...and we called matt and we were talking and joking around...and he said to me " I don't like you and I never will".( I have no idea if he was joking..my friend said so..because he ws acting silly) He said that out of no where! So...we called him back we got his message machine my friend was acting real mean...I told her to stop...and I didn't even talk..she told him I have a boy friend so he needs to shut up. So..he told me off the next day and now he won't forgive me. I told him that it wasn't my fault but he didn't care. I told him sorry just recently. My boy friend had my phone...and I told him that.He said " Ok. No...don't lie like that...that was you who was calling me names." I told him " It was my BOYFRIEND". I said .He said "Ya..right..I'm not going to be your friend after that..and WHO'S your BOYFRIEND"? I told him his name and stuff and he says " I don't have a problem with you , but were still not friends". I told him that he was making me upset and he told me if I new his personality I wouldn't be upset!! I know his personality. So...after all this..I'm over him, but now my friends think that he likes me now...and he just doesn't want to date me because I'm in 7th grade and he's in 8th and he popular. Well..I think he does to..because when I was at the pick up area (Yesterday)waiting to get picked up.. Matt walks up to me..and stands in front of me.. than...he stands beside me..he turns to me ..I look at him...than he leaves to go to his car!!Now WHAT the heck is that about? Was ...he trying to talk to me? Well, today..I was outside waiting again..he walks out..and stand a few inches away...lookin around and stuff. Than...I saw my moms car and walk off..than I see him look over his shoulder .. whatching me , I got to my car. Well...I put my books in my car look at him and he's RIGHT there by my car talking on his phone...he followed me. Whats going on?? I've been feeling like he's coping me..or following me..because I was at wal mart..and as I was walking out, and I see matts car..I look in and I yep It was i think,cuz when I looked back..I thought I saw matt's face. That same day I got a hair cut..and on Monday he HAD ONE TO! Weird huh? My hair cut is awesome..so is his..and I think he likes it. What do you guys think??
My friend thinks that he doesn't want to be my friend because he wants to be more than that..and I said ...that doesn't make sense to me...does it to you? Do you think he likes me now?? How can I get him to forgive me?? I really want to be friend, he's a nice guy well,when he wants to be..lol
Thanks SO MUCH FOR READING!
I'll rate fair!!
Thanks! :) (link)
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This sounds really confusing but I'm following as best I can.
This guy sounds like a real... erm... no swearing allowed right? You get the idea.
My question is, why would you even WANT to be friends with this person? He is nothing good and to be honest, a jerk. He's the type of jerk you want to avoid like the plague!
Just avoid him. Stop calling him! Don't email him, leave the dude alone and he'll eventually stop bugging you. If that doesn't work, confront him and tell him to stop stalking you.
You have nothing to be sorry for, and he has nothing to forgive. He doesn't want to be friends, his decision. Don't annoy him by calling him or texting him, whatever you do. Cut him out of your life, he no longer exists. (Please, don't take it to an extreme and bully him by not talking when spoken to, unless he's insulting you.)
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I dont know why but i think i may be losing my friendships with my friends. A lot of my friends aren't talking to me anymore and when i try to talk, they ignore me. This never happened before and i dont know why or how this started. It started a few months ago in my freshman year at high school and just keeps increasing with more friends as time goes on. Many of the friends i had before are now just acting different around me. They seem to dislike me and keep distance with me. If i try to talk, they just say nothing. I dont know what to do and im scared about this situation. They used to text me, talk all the time, and we used to hang out and now its stopped. Whenever i try to hang out with them, they are always with the other people there and if i try to talk they just answer and get back to the other kids. I feel really depressed and i dont know why this is happening. They act like they dont like me when i'm around and even ignore me. They act like i'm invisible or as if i'm not there. I need advice on this and want to get back to how everything was before. I dont know what is wrong with me, or why they are like how they are. I really want to fix this so please give any advice you have. (link)
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If they are doing this to you, it's probably because you've done something wrong, or they just don't wanna hang out with you anymore. If they are using this approach, maybe they're not your true friends.
My advice to you would be to make new friends, or try to talk to them. Talk to them about how you feel and demand an explanation. No one deserves to be treated this way.
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to get a tattoo. ima pretty short girl 5'1 and i want to get a tattoo of a scorpian im a scorpio but i dont want a big one. i was thinking maybe right side of my stomach...or maybe upper shoulder...let me know. i dont have any right now and i just want one. (link)
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I personally think you should put it on your shoulder if you wanna show it off but on your stomach if you wanna keep it a secret and let only certain people see.
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Let's start from the top, shall we?
He's perfect, in so many ways. He's the perfect height, and his eyes are the kind to fall in love with. And I have. That's just the start.
He's always one to make me laugh and smile, even when I've had the worst day ever. I found out my dog of 11 years died, and he still was able to help me forget, and I don't even think he knows that he does it.
He's the guy that shows up in my dreams. The one that always seems to know what to say, even if he doesn't say anything at all. And I know all this sounds super cliche, but it is so much true.
I don't know. You know how every now and then, there is someone that you can see yourself with for the rest of your life? Well, it;s just like that with me. He's that one. And, granted, he does know that I exist. After all, we seem to always be bumping into each other (figuratively, of course).
And I always somehow embarrass myself. I either trip over my own shoe, the flat surface of the school, fall down the stairs, fall out of my chair, or get super hyper so that I have no idea what I actually end up saying, and about every other thing that I could possibly do to embarrass myself.
Normally, girls tend to do this in front of people that are super hot, and super shallow. But he's not like that. You can see in his eyes that he actually cares about people. About what people actually feel. I've seen plenty of guys in my life, from every end of the spectrum possible, and yet I have never seen anyone like him. Never met anyone like him. Never had a chance at anyone like him.
And that doesn't even begin to cover what he does to me. Whenever he's around, I'm hyper-aware of any and every little movement he makes. I hear his name, and my heart double-times it. Talking with him usually leaves me light headed. And there is so much else that I can't even put into words. With as many words as there are in the entire English language, I have yet to find a words that describes everything about this whole situation.
Wow. Looking back at this, I have to admit: DJ does seem to be right. I seem to be in love with him. But it just doesn't feel right to say that I'm in love with him. Major like, definately. But love? I just don't know. This is one of those questions that more than likely won't ever be answered. At least not anytime soon. Oh well. I can't think about it anymore. It's just.....too hard to understand and think about.
Anyone have any kind of advice for me?
♥Dinky (link)
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So you're question is... do you love him?
That is for you to answer. I can't give you a valid answer, sorry.
But what I can say, is that you are one lucky girl to have such a fabulous guy. He seems like Mr. Prince Charming.
My advice to you would be to not focus on that question. Cherish him, be grateful for what you have, not what you might have; love. Love is just a word, it doesn't describe the feeling entirely. There is really no description for love. Just go with your gut instinct and you'll find the answer yourself.
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to get over a guy i was with for 9 months. i still think about him when im not busy. i try to stay busy and since our break up i went on one date, which was like hell because he talked about his ex. lol but i need to get over my ex because i know he has already got over me, he told me himself. i dont look at our old pictures, i dont look at his myspace page, i dont call or text him or look at old memories of us. i just want to stop hurting. (link)
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I know how hard it can be to lose someone you cared deeply for, who you may have loved. But to get over it is even more painful.
Things take time, you will heal eventually. I know it may seem so hard right now, but remember that it will be better. Time heals all wounds.
Try to remember the old days... were they all that great anyways? He talked about his ex frequently and you were jealous. Now, you can move on with your life, you are free. It may hurt now, but once you find that key to happiness, it'll be better.
My advice to you is to find happiness. He wasn't your life, though he might have been a huge part, but he isn't what makes you. You have friends and family that love you. Go out with friends instead of moping or whatever. Find an activity you like and do it.
One day, you'll meet someone who is totally made for you, like you guys were born to be together, and you'll forget all about that guy. But patience is a virtue. You have to learn to walk away from him, away from the hurt and move on with your life. He wasn't everything.
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i wanted to know wat the longest lasting mint flavored gum or mint is to have after eating. (link)
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Longer lasting? Or better effects?
Stride gum is longer lasting but Excel has a stronger lingering scent or flavor. To have after eating, I think Excel would work best.
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Me and my boyfriend have been having some tough times. First of all he lies a lot and then he said he would never do it again once i told him it was his last chance. Well i found out he kept something from me over the weekend. My parents hate his guts but for some reason i still like him after he has betrayed me and lied so many times. I also found out my friend was talking bad about me to him before also. So, im not really sure on what to do. I still have lots of feelings for him even after all this stuff. Please help. thanks! (link)
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I think you've given him too many chances. Just ask yourself this, "Does he really deserve you? Is it worth making yourself miserable for him, after he's lied and cheated several times?"
My personal opinion, dump him. It's obvious he's not the guy for you. He's unfaithful and doesn't feel as strongly for you as you do him. You can always find a better guy who treats you well. A guy who loves you and doesn't take a glance at anyone else. You've been hurt enough, just leave, move on. Sure it will sting for a while, but would you rather get hurt again? This is for you to decide. Only you know what's best.
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i really like this guy and he likes me too but i'm afraid to do anything with him because one of my good friends dated him like 3 months ago and was devestated when they broke up and the other one used to like him but currently has a boyfriend but got a little upset when we were flirting and when i fell asleep on him at a party. i mean, he doesn't like either of them in a relationship kinda way and i don't think its fair if they got pissed at me if we dated...should i ask them anyway? (link)
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I think you should just confront your friends and tell them you like him. If they don't respect that, maybe they're not very good friends. But consider their feelings too. I mean, one of them used to date him, and she still might have feelings for him. As for your other friend, she has a boyfriend, and doesn't like him anymore.
Just talk to your friends and if they're good friends, they'll understand and hope you the best.
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but it's normal for married fathers to.. watch porn, right? i'm almost 15. i havent CAUGHT him, .. like confronted him, but ive seen it on his screen when he x's out of it (as i come into the room). its kind of obvious. but it's normal and okay, right? (link)
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You can always check his history, unless he's deleted it.
I would say it was normal. A lot of people watch porn and it's fine really. I wouldn't do anything rash. I would confront him though, ask him what he's doing. If he says something else, leave him alone. Pretend you have no idea what is going on and it'll be fine. Like I said before, it's fine.
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Right. So I have this guy friend who's basically only sexually attracted to me. I mean he's cool and all and we're friends but he'll talk about how he wants to have sex with me and stuff. I've told him I'm not dating people right now because I'm just taking a break to focus on the more important aspects of my life. He knows I won't date him but we're really close so he invited me to this date thing the football players are having. They're projecting a movie onto the side of our school or something and it's supposed to be really cool and all the football players are gonna be there... well he asked me and I kinda want to go because I like meeting new people and I've been a hermit lately because of all our end of school testing and my needing to study. So it'd be a break from that and I think it'd be fun. However, I'm afraid if I go there, two things could possibly happen;
1) I could be leading this guy on because he thinks it'll be a date
2) The other guys wont talk to me because the guy that i'm going with will probably brag about bringing me or something and tell them that I like him :/ which I don't... and I really just want to go to meet some new people...
So... do yo think I should go or not? I don't want to lead this guy on but I want to meet other guys :) thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, I definitely think you should go. That's what you WANT to do, right? Besides, there are football guys there.
Just sit down and talk to your friend that you're not interested in dating him, but make sure he gets that through his thick skull! Tell him that you will be attending the event as his friend, not date.
My advice to you, just talk to him about it and if he's a good guy, or more important, your friend, he'll understand.
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I've noticed over the past year or so that I have been having a serious perspiration problem. I sweat when I get nervous (or over heated, of course) and even just a little seems to leave unsightly "pit-stains" and give me sweaty smelly feet. I have tried using Secret Clinical Strength and odor eaters foot spray but all they do is mask the odor. I'm still just as wet when I use these products. The problem is that it's a vicious cycle because thinking that I have sweat stains on my clothes or that I smell bad makes me nervous about my appearance which makes me sweat more. Thanks for your help! (link)
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Uh... well there IS surgery if you really want to stop your perspiration and if you're really desperate. I wouldn't recommend it though.
You can try antiperspirant, but I've heard that it block pores which prevents sweating, which is bad for you in the long run.
My advice is to take a shower every morning and put on some DEODORANT, not antiperspirant. Buy the kind without aluminum.
About the pit stains, wear a jacket over top. Make sure the jacket is loose and made of a breathable material.
Hope this helps, if not, I'm sorry. (I'm no doctor)
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I got tampons from school because we were learning about puberty in June of 2008 , now i have my period i wanted to use it but the thing is i opened one before is it ok to use now or is it unsterilized? (link)
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I really think you should use pads when beginning to get your period and tampons for swimming and when you're older. But if you plan on using tampons right away, I would strongly recommend you not use the one you already opened, for there is a chance it's unsterilized. You certainly do not want to be putting anything unsanitary inside you. But again, I recommend you use pads. (Tampons can tear your hymen and that's a very unpleasant feeling!)
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I know, I have very irregular period but i don't know why I am worried this time, i had my period in march break but i didn't get it in april and i didn't get it yet...is this a problem..I never had sex..is this normal to miss your periods? (link)
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Wow, you sound freaked.
There's nothing to worry about. Your period is irregular when you first get it. You will skip months sometimes. It's going to regulate later on, about a year after your first period. If, by then, you are still irregular, ask a family doctor for help.
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to guys like girls who play hard to get? and how can you play hard to get but at the same time let the guy know that you're interested? (link)
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Playing hard-to-get would just make the guy think you don't like him or he's not good enough for you. It's not like those TV shows where the guy tries his best to win your heart, no, this is reality. The average guy is probably really shy about making the first move and you playing hard-to-get would make him even shyer. Instead, you should try to get closer, but not enough to freak him out. Get to know him better, see if you are compatible. If you are, he may ask you out, or you can ask him out. Shameless flirting might also do the trick.
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ok so after my period i had this really weird dishcharge and it hasnt gone away. And it smells is this a bad thing??? its like your normal dishcharge but ive never had it smell. ive had sex but we used protection. should i be worried??? thanks! =] (link)
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There is absolutely nothing to worry about. You will continue to have discharge even after you've had your first period (sucks, I know). Discharge will smell, yes, that's nothing to worry about. It helps if you wash 'under there', keep the area clean.
But if you are really concerned or something doesn't seem right, you can go see a doctor.
Hope that helped!
-Wicked
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ok. when my girlfriend and i are making out in bed and things she sometimes puts her leg in between my legs so that her upper leg is pressed against my crotch. i was just wondering what thats about or what it means or anything? (link)
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Most likely, she's feeling you up. To see if you're getting hard or not. She may even want to go all the way... lucky you.
My advice, don't do anything you're not ready for and if you do, make sure you're safe, but of course you already know that, right?
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Hi!!( This question might be long...SORRY!!)
Okay, well I just recently talked to my boy friend from when I was like...6 or 7. lol We didn't really call each other ... but we were!! His name is Andrew...and than he was very shy,I think he still is to.Our mothers worked together and they became real close friends. So, we met each other...and we seen each other SO MUCH...than he started to like me..and so on. Well, now I'm 13 1/2 and he's 12. I just talked to him at the end of last month and I started to have those type of feelings for him again. So..I told him I liked him and he said we don't really now each other. Well..I told him we can get to know each other better than we can be more than that maybe, and he agreed. Well... I tried to look him up on myspace...his name on there is just andrew...but I can't find him... would any of you like to try to find him? His last name is Vaughn. If, you find him...please tell!! Also, when I text him during the day he doesn't text back...than I text him back and.it's around 9 or 9:30 he talks to me. So...do you think he doesn't like me?? Is he avoiding me?He acted like it...though he told me that he still has a pic of me and when I asked him if he had a girl friend he said no..than I said I didn't have a boy friend than he said "Cool".. So...what do you people think? Also when my friend and I call him he tells me in a text he doesn't like to talk on the phone...I think he is still shy , or do you think he just wants to talk to me? I gave him my email ...do you think he will email me?? He tells me he doesn't get on the computer much. Well...HOW will we get to know each other unless we talk?? I'm so confused!! Please someone give me some advice!! I'm freaking out!!
Thanks for listeing !!
I'll rate fair!! (link)
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Ah, well. I want to comment on your frantic yet positive personality. I noticed that when you said, "Hi!!!" Not many people say that, it's a nice change. I was eager to answer this one.
Well, at the rates boys mature at, he is about 9 or 10 years old. Girls mature earlier than boys do. It's dumb, I know.
I think you should just confront him in person instead of just text. You can't really tell what people are feeling with text, (I know, people think I'm angry when I'm not sometimes.)that way you can see his facial expression and you can guess what he's feeling.
Also, if he doesn't wanna go out, give him some time. He may be shy, or maybe embarrassed. He seems like a hide-behind-the-crowd person. Maybe he just hasn't adapted to the fact that like him that way. Just talk to him. Tell him your feelings (cheesy but it works... sometimes), about how you think he's avoiding you. He might have a reasonable explanation for that.
I hope things work out.
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