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How am I going to talk to him?
Hi!!( This question might be long...SORRY!!)
Okay, well I just recently talked to my boy friend from when I was like...6 or 7. lol We didn't really call each other ... but we were!! His name is Andrew...and than he was very shy,I think he still is to.Our mothers worked together and they became real close friends. So, we met each other...and we seen each other SO MUCH...than he started to like me..and so on. Well, now I'm 13 1/2 and he's 12. I just talked to him at the end of last month and I started to have those type of feelings for him again. So..I told him I liked him and he said we don't really now each other. Well..I told him we can get to know each other better than we can be more than that maybe, and he agreed. Well... I tried to look him up on myspace...his name on there is just andrew...but I can't find him... would any of you like to try to find him? His last name is Vaughn. If, you find him...please tell!! Also, when I text him during the day he doesn't text back...than I text him back and.it's around 9 or 9:30 he talks to me. So...do you think he doesn't like me?? Is he avoiding me?He acted like it...though he told me that he still has a pic of me and when I asked him if he had a girl friend he said no..than I said I didn't have a boy friend than he said "Cool".. So...what do you people think? Also when my friend and I call him he tells me in a text he doesn't like to talk on the phone...I think he is still shy , or do you think he just wants to talk to me? I gave him my email ...do you think he will email me?? He tells me he doesn't get on the computer much. Well...HOW will we get to know each other unless we talk?? I'm so confused!! Please someone give me some advice!! I'm freaking out!!
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First of all, don't freak out. Calm down and take a breath.
Don't keep texting him or you'll push him away. You don't want to be the "annoying/smothering" girl. If you text him and he doesn't text you back, don't text him again a few hours later. Wait until he text you back.
He might not be avoiding you. But if you want to know, just ask him and tell him that it hurts you when he avoids you. He may have a good reason why he is doing that. He seems shy and might not want to be pressured into a relationship.
Don't continue calling him, especially since he said he doesn't like talking on the phone. You might end up pushing him away.
Give him some space. You did all you could do. Now the ball is in his court. It's up to him this time. Give him time. He'll come around if he wants to get to know you more.
You're 13. There are plenty more guys out there. Don't freak out over one guy.
Also, for myspace. We certainly cannot help you find him. For starters, we don't know him or what he looks like. If you really want to know what his myspace is, just ask him. Maybe you guys can talk on that and get to know eachother more. Even so, you said he doesn't get on the computer a lot so don't fret if he gives you his myspace and doesn't get back to you within a few days.
Hope I helped!
xoxo,
Brianna
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well don't freak. i no exactly what u r talking about. yes i do believe he likes u. the talking on the phone thing, only 1 thing 2 say about it...never 3-way him with ur friends. they hate that. about the e-mils and texts...been there 2. i m there right now. all's i can say is, dont get 2 mooshy and stay cool. talk to him about stuff he wont be afraid 2 talk about. just be cool. he'll be cool back.
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Ah, well. I want to comment on your frantic yet positive personality. I noticed that when you said, "Hi!!!" Not many people say that, it's a nice change. I was eager to answer this one.
Well, at the rates boys mature at, he is about 9 or 10 years old. Girls mature earlier than boys do. It's dumb, I know.
I think you should just confront him in person instead of just text. You can't really tell what people are feeling with text, (I know, people think I'm angry when I'm not sometimes.)that way you can see his facial expression and you can guess what he's feeling.
Also, if he doesn't wanna go out, give him some time. He may be shy, or maybe embarrassed. He seems like a hide-behind-the-crowd person. Maybe he just hasn't adapted to the fact that like him that way. Just talk to him. Tell him your feelings (cheesy but it works... sometimes), about how you think he's avoiding you. He might have a reasonable explanation for that.
I hope things work out.
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Whew, ok. First off, let me say that your story reminds me of mine.
I knew someone from way back when in elementary and it took me 6 years to get the guts to talk to that special girl. :]
Second, I'll list off the people I found on Myspace that MAY be Andrew. It's a slight possibility, but just check all of these links if you really want:
(He should be in this list!)
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Those are all the likely matches on Myspace.
And next time he texts you, ask him for his Myspace URL just in case. That's the key to finding people on Myspace.
What I think, is that your friend is just a bit shy. I mean, you honestly never know what goes through a person's head unless you know them inside out...
Try finding or talking about something that he's comfortable talking about. Find out what he really likes.
I'm having the same trouble with my girlfriend, she's a bit shy. Her hands even turn cold when we hold hands.
Also, you have to realize you two are still very young. He may be a little confused about what he feels, if he wants you as a friend or as something more.
Real relationships begin to make sense once you're past 15.
But for now, try that. Move slowly, don't push him into something.
Think about him too.
-XZ
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Well, he is only twelve. I think you should give him a little bit of space. It seems like he's not really making any of the moves toward a relationship. You're the one that texts and calls him and he's even said that he doesn't really know you and that he doesn't like to talk on the phone.
He might just be shy, or he might not be interested. Only time will tell.
At this point, you need to put the ball in his court. Don't text him first and definitely don't text him again when he doesn't answer. Let him be the one to text you next time. If he wants to talk to you, he will. If he likes you, you'll know by the effort he makes to talk to you and get to know you better.
Also, if you want to know his myspace url, ask him. There's no way us searching his name will work, because we don't know what he looks like and Andrew Vaughn isn't an outlandish name.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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