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my name's leticia. [le-tee-see-a]. i'm here to give you truthful, honest answers & nothing more. i don't like to sugar coat the truth because that doesn't really end up helping you out. so yeah. if any of my answers offend, make you angry, sad, etc. well then.. oh well. i was just being honest. aside from that, i hope i can help you on whatever you need help with. :)!but! yes. i'm sixteen. i go to a crappy school with crappy people who complain a lot. i'm really sarcastic & i love humor. funny people make me go like this :D
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ok well just recently my friend sent me a message over myspace saying that we havent hung out in forever and we should. i havent hung out with him since last summer and he is a year older then me and we were always good friends. well he messaged me and said how about friday? and i said sure. so then i just started gettin texts from him and i think he thinks were more then friends and this is gonna be a date type thing. weve never been more then friends and i dont like him like that. i dont want to go out on friday with him anymore beause i dont want him thinkin its a date but i dont wanna blow him off either but i dont wanna tell him that i think we should just be friends because i think he will back off and wont talk to me cuz thats his personality. what do i do?
well, in your question you said that you THINK he thinks you're more than friends. which means you don't really know. so, the only way to find out is to go on this outing & see how it goes. and if he DOES like you that way, then try letting him down nicely. and if he ends up getting mad and whatnot, then it's his loss. you can't just pretend to like someone so they don't get mad. :)
ok so me and this girl were bffs last year we had this huge fight last summer about this guy who we were both in love with!
we hated each other for a long time but recently started hanging out again and became friends just like we were before! well i started hangin out with the guy we had fought over before and started to like him ALOT again. suddenly she likes him again too. i dont know what to do im trying to just not like him anymore cus i dont want to lose her as a friend but i cant let him go!
we are starting to fight over him alot now and i need help i cant lose my bff again but i cant let go of the guy!
oh geeze, this always happens. lol.
um, yeah. talk to your friend about it. literally sit her DOWN and tell her what's going on. because i'm sure your friendship with her is more important than ANY guy. :) im sure. get eachothers feelings on the situation. & get the guys feelings on the situation too. like, does he like you? or does he like her? etc. so that one of you can back off if he likes the other or something.
a guy isn't worth ruining a friendship.
Don't get me wrong, I love my mum and she's not a bad parent but...
Well it's just us, and she has barely any friends and no one to vent out anger onto. So when she's feeling angry (Which isn't very often don't worry) she vents it all onto me. She'll yell at me for the littliest things, ground me and send me to my room. If I try to defend myself...she hits me.
She's been angry lately and I'm scared she'll hit me. She's been saying threats like one day she'll grab ahold of my throat and won't stop until I pass out and I'm getting scared to just do anything. I get really apologetic and apologize for the littliest things.
I can't talk her out of it because any word that comes out of my mouth she yells at me and gets even angrier. She seems to think that because she's the adult and I'm the child I don't get an opinion or the right to say something.
What do I do? When I tell my dad he thinks I'm just saying it because Mum and I are in a fight. I don't trust teachers or councillors and I don't want my mum to get into trouble.
i'm really sorry that you have to go through that. =\ i've been in the same situation with my mom. not that drastic, but close. my mom ticks really easy too so any small thing causes her to get all pissed off & she would hit me, etc.
you really shouldn't just let it slide. talk to someone, a different memeber of your family. tell them EVERYTHING. because it really helps. they could sit her down & talk to her. maybe get her some counseling for her anger problem. because it really does seem like she has one. my mom did. if you don't have any other members of your family that you can talk to, try a friend. or a counselor. because even though you might not trust them that well, they really could come of some help.
letting it slide won't help you at all. your relationship with your mom will just get worse & worse to the point where you'll end up hating her. i didn't get to that point with my mom, because she has gotten better. my aunt talked to her & we went to a family counselor & worked on our communication skills. she still snaps out at me sometimes but she works at it.
so yeah, try getting some help. nothing good can come out of you just letting your mom continue to do what she's doing.
goodluck. i hope i helped.
ok so some friends of my family know a girl my age and she just moved to my town and she doesn't know anyone but she'd like a friend so my mother volunteered me to be her rent-a-friend i guess or just friend.lol. anyway im getting her email address and i'm going to write her and sort of say hey welcome to "(my town)" but i don't think she knows that our family friend called us asking me to be her friend so i don't want to be like, hey so and so said you're lonely and now we're gonna be friend's ok?...yeah i have a feeling that would be an akward conversation so...what should i say to her? i know absolutely nothing about her except why she moved her and that she's here and doesn't have friends, oh i do know her name.lol but nothing else, what do i do?
lol, yeah. i've been in the same situation. basically just introduce yourself. & ask her questions that you'd like to know about her without getting to personal yet. try asking her if she wants to hang out, so you can talk more and whatnot.
at night i get really scared to sleep. i always think i hear noises and i cry and shake. i dont know what to do i've been having this prob my whole life. im 13 btw. does anyone have any tips i can do. i have those night time soundtracks but they dont really work and i always get scared to listen to them considering i think someone might be in my house!! PLEASE HELP ME=[
yeah. my little sister has this problem. & she's 11. um, try sleeping with a stuffed animal. when i stopped sleeping in the same room as her, she started sleeping with a stuffed dog & it helps her get through the night. also, just remember that there's really nothing in your bedroom that could harm you. the noises & cracks are the old floors & the wind, etc. think happy thoughts. sing. just whatever will help. & keep your eyes closed :]
does turning up the radio waste more fuel in a car?
nope, it doesn't.
but blasting the music does mess up the speakers. :]
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I love her eye make up- how does she do that?& how does she get her eyelashes to look so long?
It's really easy to do your makeup if you practice. Take a boring day, and practice.
As for her eyelashes, they're probably fake. Tons of people wear fake eyelashes & you can buy them at basically any store.
For your eyes, try to mix colors around & not to go to heavy because then it just looks.. bad.
But yeah, practice. It really helps. This is coming from someone with experience. I was terrible at applying make-up. But now, i'm not so bad. Why? Cuz i practiced :P
14/f
I put a video on youtube of me dancing, but i took it off. A ton of people saw it- and this one guy told a bunch of people that it was a video of me STRIPPIPNG! Then this one girl who was told that told EVERYONE else! Now everyone in my dance studio thinks i'm some stripper whore.
What can I do about this? i feel terrible and guilty. and i'm not even a stripper!
That's annoying as hell. People should seriously get lives.
You should put the video back up & tell everyone to watch it to prove that you weren't stripping.
Make the other people look stupid.
My hair is naturally pretty straight. But more than anything, I'd love to have curly, wavy hair. I want to have the kinda crunchy feeling to it. What are some products that I can use to scrunch my hair that have worked really well for you?
I don't have this problem, but my best friend does. She has really straight hair & she always complains to me that I can scrunch my hair & she can't.
You can either use Gel or Mousse, but I recommend mousse. Gel is so messy. For hair that's naturally straight, you'd probably want to use a pretty large amount and NOT scrunch the top of your head. Try starting towards the middle & working your way downward.
Just take your hair in your hands and like scrunch it upwards then twirl it around.
Play with it.
It might not look like it's working when it's wet, but when it dries off it'll volumize & scrunch nicely.
Hope I helped.
if a girl like never stops talking to me on msn and facebook sometimes until 1am or later does that means she realy likes likes me and wants to go out?
( i have already asked her out and she said she needs to think about it. but i can tell she has some strong feelings for me.)
what do i do?
it could mean she likes you, or maybe she just really likes to talk to you. as a friend.
if you say you can tell she really has some feelings for you, then wait until she's ready to come out and say it. that is, if you're willing to wait.
rushing things is never good. so yeah, try waiting. or ask her again, and see if she responds differently.
I go to the worst school in the area. The girls are bitchy sluts (I'm not saying that out of spite, what these girls have done...) and the guys are just stupid manwhores.
The school is run down, and because I'm the most real person in that place I get picked on.
I dunno...It doesn't really hurt me what they say, but no one seems to care. It sucks how I'm the only kid in my year level getting CONSTANTLY picked on.
I have no friends either, someone spread a rumour about me bitching about them behind their back and without proof or hearing my side of the story ditched me.
Anyways, I seriously can't take this. I can only move schools in 6 months and I can't even take one day. I don't mean to sound like an attention seeker here but I once overdosed on pain killers 'cause of school and I'm scared I might do it again.
Obviously there's nothing I can do to stop it, believe me I've tried.
But my question is: How should I manage 6 months of school? If I can find a way to manage it, even slightly it will help.
wow, that's a pretty terrible position to be in. i was in a similar position a few years ago, during middle school. i didn't have any friends and i hated going to school because i was really quiet and people picked on me because they thought i thought i was better than them.
which wasn't the case.
i'd try homeschooling, explain your situation. talk to your principle. counselors. the school board if it gets that bad.
no one should EVER hate going to school & cause themselves harm because of it.
Tomorrow I'll be starting my first day volunteering at a hospital. Most of the patients are elderly. I was wondering what I should talk to them about. I'm terrible at talking to adults as it begins with, so I'm a bit nervous as to what I should say to the patients. I do know senior citizens enjoy talking about their life, so I will ask them about that, but what else should I say? I don't think I really want to talk about my life, so what are other good conversations I can have? Thanks in advance.
aw, good luck working at the hospital. i did some volunteering at a retirement home. and usually the senior citizens do all the talking, and you do all the listening. just make sure you seem to take interest in what they have to say. and if they ask you something about your life, answer it. and like, if you can relate to stuff, you should tell them. they're actually fun to talk to in my experience. so yeah. usually you don't do much of the talking, you do most of the listening. and in the end they really appreciate it.
good luck.
16/F
To put it simply, I have a fake boyfriend. His name is "Nick." The reason I did this is because all my friends have boyfriends, and I really want one too. Problem is, there are no guys I am even slightly attracted to where I live. So "Nick" has been pretty great for me. I get to brag about him and everything, but I'm still lonely.
Reccently, I started talking over Instant Messenger with this guy, we'll call him Cameron. Cameron lives in South America but is pretty much fluent in English. We talk almost every day, he's so cute, and he actually seems like he cares about me. I know I will probably never meet Cameron, so don't tell me that. I already know.
I'm just so upset that every guy I'm interested in lives so far away. And here, I know everyone at my school, and I'm not interested in any of the guys here. Yet I want a boyfriend so badly, which is why I have a fake one.
What should I do? Should I "break up" with my fake boyfriend? Should I stay with my fake boyfriend even when I am talking to Cameron? Or should I try to look harder for a guy here when school starts back up again?
And don't tell me that being single is okay. Because for me right now, it's not. And also do not tell me that I will "find someone eventually."
Yeeeah.
The whole fake boyfriend thing should end now. Why? Because it really won't work out in the end. Say someone you DO end up liking comes up, and he hears you have a boyfriend. He'll shy away from you, even though your boyfriend is fake. Also, pertaining to Cameron, I know that usually long distant relationships don't work out but I guess if you really wanted it to work, it could. I've seen it happen, and if you REALLY like him, then I think you should go for it. But yeah, break up with the fake kid. As for you not wanting to be single anymore, you can't just find someone and decide that you want to be in a relationship with them because you might scare them off & they might not feel the same way. So, rushing things isn't good. Just really look & wait until someone you're really interested in comes along.
welll, our town has this thing called summerfest& it's like a little carival pretty much, theres this guy I like, grant& I hung out w/ him& his friends for like 3/4 of the day- I thought he wanted me too? like he came up to me& we went to his friends house& he was leaving& I was like bye, hes like arent you coming?& I was like uh, I guess, so I did. then if I would slow down to like leave them& go w/ my other friends grant would stop& then be like you walk slow, I thought he wanted me there, then afterwards, it was almost closed& megan& I were sitting against a wall& grant& his friend brenton come up& start talking to us& then brenton was like wow this is the most you talked all day, you kinda just followed us around, did he mean that like I was annoying or what? do you think grant wanted me to come w/ then? i'm so confused!
I think you took the way he said it the wrong way. I think maybe he thought you didn't want to be there since you were so quiet, and the fact that you tried to inch away and go with your friends. He must've actually been surprised that you were having a conversation with them. But by the way you explained it, it seemed like Grant did want you there. Since he stopped whenever you were going to leave to make sure you were still coming with them.
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**I'm adding onto in response to what you added, It seems to me that you're STILL taking it the wrong way, but the only way to be exactly sure is to just ask Brenton if he likes you or not. That way you know if he does or doesn't & you don't become all paranoid. Not saying that you are or anything. :]**
i have a kodak camera, one of the newer ones, its a nice one, and like whenever i take a picyure i turmn ouit pale, and im not pale. how do i fix this
If you ARE using flash, turn it off. Especially when you're outside, it just adds more light.
Also, try changing the brightness/light settings, make it darker. Or you might have the light settings too high.
Play around with your camera until you get it to where you like it.
how do i do my hair like this?
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That's really pretty.
You should use a fair amount of hairspray, just like hold it about 6 inches away from you so you don't spray too much in, because then your hair becomes difficult to work with.
To make it curly, you should just curl halfway down, so the top part of your hair is still either straight or wavy.
I think that hairstyle would look cute even if you don't have the kind of fringe that she does.
Ok this is kind of long so sorry. well i have this cousin lets call him frank. frank and i are reallllly close we tell each other everything and we have sooo many memories but after he turned 15 he wasn't fun to hang out with anymore and he started calling me names and just being mean to me. and so i finally just decided to stop talking to him. im 14/f btw. i mean he wished that when i went to florida my plane crashed! ridiculus right???? well the thing is we used to talk on the phone for like 3 hours everyday and we were like each others diaries and he keeps sending me emails guilting me so i will forgive him but he makes me sad. should i forgive him? or should i just forgive him so i can talk to him? I havent talked to him in a week and a half and im a wreck! how do i get over him? i just need advice! and im on vacation with my family so i cant just hang out with friends.
Yeah, I think you should forgive him. I mean, if you were like best friends for most of your life I'm pretty sure you can go through this little phase he's going through. You might get a little more distant, but he'll still always be there. And when he gets over the phase of calling you names/ and putting you down, you can get back to normal.
Hi everyone. I really need some help understanding my boyfriend.. This is ridiculously long so... but advice is soo greatly appreciated. Please.
All right, so my boyfriend & I have been together for almost five years (we're both 21, so we've been together since we were 16). We've been through so many different things; bad, good, everything. Last year we broke up because he felt like he wasn't ready to fully commit to me. After months of being, I guess people would call it, "friends with benefits" we still acted as if we still together anyway. We broke up because he wanted to experiece the partying thing & the whole nine. *rolls eyes* In February, he wanted me back. He said he didn't want to go backwards anymore by messing with other girls. He wanted to move forward & that meant by being with me again & rebuilding our relationship. Things have been great between us ever since. Our relationship felt incredibly real & I believed that this was the real deal, that we were finally on the same level now that he got all that stuff out of his system.
Tonight he texted me this: "I'm in miserable state of mind right now and its not because of u. Youre everything in a girl a guy would want. I'm in a state of depression right now. And its not fair for you."
He thought it'd be best if he was alone.. that he needs to figure things out in his life. It was out of nowhere. I know he has different shit going on in his life but I didn't know it was that serious. I mean yeah its serious but it never seemed to effect him this much before..... & I don't understand why he can't be with me. Maybe I sound selfish, I don't know. But I was depressed for 8 years & knowing how it feels, I would have thought that instead of pushing people away, that instead you'd want to keep the people you love close. & he says he loves me & still wants to be with me & that knows he's making a huge mistake. He says he wants to marry me & everything but he just can't be with me. I just can't seem to understand.
I didn't want to be selfish so I let him go. He's doing it for himself & I can't hate him for it. I told him to think on it but he seems sure that its best for him to be alone. I don't know how sure he can actually be since he said it just came out of nowhere right then & there. I don't think he's lying & I know there's no other girl or anything so its not a bullshit ass excuse just to leave me. I just think he needs more time to think about what he's doing with me.
Before we talked on the phone, in the text I said to him that I'm not going through another break up & then him realizing he made a mistake & then us getting back together again. I told him I'm not going through that shit again because it hurts & if its over then its over for good. But after talking on the phone & understanding that he's doing it for himself & not because he wants to go out & be a guy, I regret saying that. Because it would be wrong for me to walk away because its not like he's breaking up with me to be with someone else, you know. But he said to me that he doesn't want me to ever take him back because he doesn't want to keep doing this to me & because its not fair... & we won't talk or see each other ever again... He knows how much it hurts me. He's right, it does. But still... he's going through depression & I can't hold that against him.
I guess I'm writing this because I want to know what you guys think about this whole thing. Why would someone who is depressed want to break up with a person who loves & cares about them & wants to help them to get better? Is it even good for him to push me away when he knows he loves me & still wants to be with me? Is he being selfish or am I being selfish by still wanting to stand by him? & are we really over for good? He usually knows when he makes a mistake & comes back to me & when we say we won't speak or see each other again, he always ends up calling eventually. I just don't know about this time because its just so much more serious. What can I do? Should I just let him be?
Any & all advice or thoughts would be great. Sorry about the length. Thank you so much.
I'm really sorry =\
But, my advice to you is try & sit down & talk with him. Person to person. Because I can understand where you're coming from with you not wanting to leave him & everything. He probably doesn't want to be with you anymore because he knows he's going to keep hurting you and he doesn't want to put you through that. I think it's fine that you want to stick by him even though it hurts you. I mean, who wouldn't? I wouldn't agree with someone who says it's a good idea for someone going through depression to push away one of the people that loves & cares for him the most, but maybe he's not thinking. So talking to him would be my best advice.
is this close friend or just friends?
-talk to each other a lot
-talk to each other in AIM and myspace
-tell each other secrets
-comes to me when she have a problem
-talks about deep stuff
-used to call& text each other
-we talk in class
-we walk together after class
-we know each other a lot
but we dont
-we never went to their house
-we dont hang out like going somewhere like movies and etc.
-we dont hang out at lunch
-we never saw both of our parents
-we dont get invite from eachother's bday party
are we close friend or just friends? we both knew eachother for 2 years.
I'd say you're close friends simply because it seems that you have a great trust in eachother. Perhaps it's about time that you tried taking your friendship outside of school. Suggest going somewhere together, you could always make the first move.
there is this guy that i like and he likes {liked} me..we have known eachother for about 3 years now. we have always had a little like, thing i guess. we would hang out and just mess around, and he really did like me he wasnt using me i know that. anyways he has had this on and off thing with this other girl, who i used to hate {not for that reason} but now were great friends. anyways last year we were very close and stuff, and i saw him a few weeks ago for the first time since last year, and they are together again. he still acts like he likes me (player it seems i know haha)and i cant help but like him. i noticed ive stopped talking to him as much since they were together again, and im sure hes noticed, but i dont want to make it obvious that i still like him. how do i still talk to him and act the same as i use to and just be comfortable around him?
A ton of people go through the same thing, but the best advice I think I can give you is to shrug it off. Give it try. If you can't hang out with him without feeling uncomfortable then maybe try talking to him about it. Even though the "player" types are always hard to talk to about situations such as those. If you think it's worth having to suck back your feelings just so you can hang out with him, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd say step off before you get in too deep & you get hurt.