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Fake Boyfriend
16/F
To put it simply, I have a fake boyfriend. His name is "Nick." The reason I did this is because all my friends have boyfriends, and I really want one too. Problem is, there are no guys I am even slightly attracted to where I live. So "Nick" has been pretty great for me. I get to brag about him and everything, but I'm still lonely.
Reccently, I started talking over Instant Messenger with this guy, we'll call him Cameron. Cameron lives in South America but is pretty much fluent in English. We talk almost every day, he's so cute, and he actually seems like he cares about me. I know I will probably never meet Cameron, so don't tell me that. I already know.
I'm just so upset that every guy I'm interested in lives so far away. And here, I know everyone at my school, and I'm not interested in any of the guys here. Yet I want a boyfriend so badly, which is why I have a fake one.
What should I do? Should I "break up" with my fake boyfriend? Should I stay with my fake boyfriend even when I am talking to Cameron? Or should I try to look harder for a guy here when school starts back up again?
And don't tell me that being single is okay. Because for me right now, it's not. And also do not tell me that I will "find someone eventually."
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Yeah. Most DEFENTLY break up with your fake boyfriend. There's really no point in having one and hun, all you're doing is fooling yourself.
I honestly don't think the whole Cameron thing is a good idea either. I've never seen an ACTUAL online/long-distance relationship EVER work. But if you're REALLY into him, then why not.. You can try to be with him a bit.
Honestly, I think you should defently just wait until you find yourself a boy you really like. Go to a party, teenclub, or the local pool and try to find some boys. :) There has to be SOME decent boy for you around where you live. Iuno.
Step one is to break up with the fake one though.
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I completely agree that you should "break up" with your fake boyfriend. A fake boyfriend is in no way similiar to a real boyfriend. There's no real point in continuing to lie to your friends, and real guys will be scared away by your fictional perfect man.
I see no harm in having an online realationship with Cameron. The only thing you need to realize here is that since you'll be so far apart you should both be free to see other people if the opportunity arises. His companionship should keep you company until an available close-to-home guy enters your life. And hey, when that does happen, won't you be glad you're available?
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Yeeeah.
The whole fake boyfriend thing should end now. Why? Because it really won't work out in the end. Say someone you DO end up liking comes up, and he hears you have a boyfriend. He'll shy away from you, even though your boyfriend is fake. Also, pertaining to Cameron, I know that usually long distant relationships don't work out but I guess if you really wanted it to work, it could. I've seen it happen, and if you REALLY like him, then I think you should go for it. But yeah, break up with the fake kid. As for you not wanting to be single anymore, you can't just find someone and decide that you want to be in a relationship with them because you might scare them off & they might not feel the same way. So, rushing things isn't good. Just really look & wait until someone you're really interested in comes along.
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Personally, I would break up with the fake boyfriend to spare possible hurt feelings in the end. You can still talk to Cameron, but it's really unrealistic [as you know] to want to be with him. Maybe get a make over or something this summer-- do your hair differently, be more confident, etc-- and look for possible boyfriends when school starts back up in the fall. Although being single IS okay, I can understand why you want to have a boyfriend. They're fabulous. :]
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well if you don't like this fake boyfriend then theres no point in staying with him because if he likes you it will hurt him more if you continue it longer and he will then know for that whole time it meant nothing to u. Spare him the upset firstly.
okay also if you like to chat to guys online before meeting them chat to a guy who IS near you ask a friend if she has any guys who are interesting.
hope this is of some help x
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