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he thinks were more then friends
ok well just recently my friend sent me a message over myspace saying that we havent hung out in forever and we should. i havent hung out with him since last summer and he is a year older then me and we were always good friends. well he messaged me and said how about friday? and i said sure. so then i just started gettin texts from him and i think he thinks were more then friends and this is gonna be a date type thing. weve never been more then friends and i dont like him like that. i dont want to go out on friday with him anymore beause i dont want him thinkin its a date but i dont wanna blow him off either but i dont wanna tell him that i think we should just be friends because i think he will back off and wont talk to me cuz thats his personality. what do i do?
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well, in your question you said that you THINK he thinks you're more than friends. which means you don't really know. so, the only way to find out is to go on this outing & see how it goes. and if he DOES like you that way, then try letting him down nicely. and if he ends up getting mad and whatnot, then it's his loss. you can't just pretend to like someone so they don't get mad. :)
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Personally, I think you should go on the outing and see how it goes. If you notice he is acting like it's a more than friends date then just keep your distance and don't lead him on. If he doesn't act like that then you will know he just wants to be friends to! You can always drop hints or you can even bring a friend! Bringing friend's always make things less awkward and can send a message that it is just a friendly outing.
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you should go with him and be straight and forward tell him you have sorta been getting the vibe that you think this is a date... and that you really just wanna be friends because you really value your friendship...hope this helps.
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Well you have a couple of options. You can lie, tell the truth, or employ a more subtle I don't like you tactic and hope he gets the hint. Tell friend boy that you can't wait to see him Friday because he's always been like a brother/cousin to you. Ask him for guy advice. Try to set him up with your friends. Tease him about random girls. The options are endless; he just needs to get the point: boy friend not boyfriend. If he doesn't want to hang out with you anymore then maybe you weren't that good of friends to start with. ~Dani (f/20)
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He is trying very hard to start a relationship with you. You can't soft pedal this. You have to be frank and sincere and make sure he gets the message. YOu have don't nothing wrong, He is making up all these fantasies in his own head. And he needs a wake up call. This is how stalkers behave. It is good practice for you to learn how to be FIRM in getting your message across. This is for your own safety and piece of mind. Too many girls are dead today, or have been hurt by guys to mistook "being nice" with "she must love me!". Please do not concern yourself with his feeling, he is not thinking of you, he is only thinking of himself and how you fit into his life. Your wants, needs or desires don't matter. You may think I am going way overboard with this, but I can promise you. You will not get through life without running into a guy or two he behaves this way. Don't encourage him. Tell him you thought you two had plans to hang out AS FRIENDS< and if he is looking for something more, than you are cancelling. Be firm.
You can always be nice later, when he sees you on your terms.
Hope this helps, and I hope you heed this advice
Michele
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