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i dont understand what "ballin" means. people say it randomly. i know it comes from a song but wtf? people are not playing basketball or rich, are they just saying it for fun?
a lot of people say it because they think it means basketball, so if they are playing basketball that may be the case
it also means like pimpin' so if they say it randomly they mean that they are cool,fly,pimpin,ect.
if they say it for no reason what so ever, they are dumb and saying it just for the sake of saying it
hope i helpedx3
Hey guys,
(14/f)
it is really important for me to lose weight in one week. I would like to drop like 10 pounds or around there. If anyone has any methods to help he do this, can you PLEASE tell me!! I will not eat seriosuly if that is what i takes me. Any advice is GREATLY appreactied!!
Thanks in advance:)
it is impossible to lose 10 pounds in one week. simple as that. if you are considering to starve yourself, get help. just run everyday and do sit ups and eat healthy and maybe you'll lose a couple pounds but don't starve yourself because its plain stupidity to do that
I feel like I need to talk to someone, about something that happened to me, but like. I can't talk to any of my friends. because there just no, theyd make a big joke out of it or something. & i deff. cant tell anyone related to me. like im starting to get desperatee. who else could i talk to?
well girlll your in an advice site busting with people that wanna help, just take your pick!
im in the 8th grade and there is this really sexy beyond sexy guy i like but hes in the 6th grade. im pretty short and hes taller then me so thats good. what i want to know is it okay to date someone that young?i know people say age doesnt matter but give your honest opinion!
well to be quite honest with you. if i was in your grade, i'd think it's kinda weird. and i think your friends would make fun of you a lot and stuff. but if you like him i mean go after him! who cares what people think
Ok, well, this year I'm doing softball for my school. & This is my 2nd year playing softball on a team. Well, plain and simple: I suck. And, just about everybody on the team notices. I feel like quitting, because I can hear all the comments everybody makes. I really want to do a sport, it just feels like I don't belong or something, because everybody else has done this sport for more then 3 years. This is fastpitch-and I'm not used to that AT ALL!!!!! There's 2 snobby seniors on the team, if that helps [I'm a freshman]....& Sure, I do have some friends...just about 3ish maybe? It sucks.
To sum it all up, I feel like quitting because I'm not really good...& I'm being made fun of.
So my questions are:
1) How do I get better?
2) Should I quit?
...Any other advice is welcomed.
Please, Please, PLEASE, help...
Signed,
The girl who sucks at softball..
alright well don't quit. don't let them make you quit. take it and use it as a reason to get better.
what you can do to get better is, maybe there is a sports place around that has batting cages and lessons, where i live there is a Field of Dreams. i don't know if there are any where you live, ask your friends or your coach and schedual lessons!
and about how your hands get sweaty. get batting gloves! but just wear one when your on the field (the one your glove is on) it helps alot with the sweatyness.
don't give up, good luck! x3
This is a serious question... I can lick my elbow and everyday the guy I like asks me to do it, to keep up the "tradition." I'm always like ahh no.
What are some cute & clever things I could say so that I dont have to do it..?
haha i have a question. HOW DO YOU DO IT!
but yeah and you could be like. baby why don't you like it. or something hahah or just be like "once you can do it, i'll do it." and obviously they can't because not many people can
hope i helped!
I have a boyfriend and hes awesome and everyhting and we KNOW we are SO gonna have sex VERY soon and ya any tips or advice 4 the first time over here :$ lol haha ya I'm 13 yrs old and my bf is 13 and we're both virgins
I don't want you to say you should wait you're making a mistake your too young blah blah blah Please just some advice for a virgain
k well not giving tips to a 13 year old about sex. it's morally wrong to. your making a mistake and your gonna regret it.
Ok - not the right category, but there's no category for "travel". So here goes.
I'll be leaving to Thailand this Thursday for a university trip. I am SO excited.
Has anyone visited Thailand before? If so, can you give me tips and stuff, what to do, what not to do, etc. How are the people like there? Prices?...I'll be staying there for a week, how much money should I take with me?
Thanks in advance.
well i have never been to Thailand. but i do know that you should never wear your shoes inside of a building, it is disrespectful. and when you greet someone, you should bow your head. that is all i know, but i hope i helped some! have fun and be safe x3
well, i had my first makeout yesterday under a bridge. this isnt something i would normally do because usually i am prude. i kinda feel slutish even though it was only like a 20 second makeout, is that normal? should i feel like that? and are you supposed to swallow during it because the first time me and my boyfriend did it, i swallowed and it made a really weird sound and i dont know if i wasnt supposed to but i dont it just felt weird. and then his friend told me that he said i was good for my first time. is there and do's and don'ts about making out? im just really scared i did something wrong
thanks in advance!
well it's nice to hear a young person actually talking about just making out instead of sex and stuff. but anywho. well seeing as you are usually prude, yeah it is normal. but trust me it's not slutty at all because it was with your boyfriend, it wasn't very long, and it was your first time. so don't worry about that part. and yeah swallowing is normal don't worry, the noise just happens sometimes, there's really nothin you can do. and it seems like your doin fine if your boyfriend said you were good. so don't worry so much, just have fun with it. it's supposed to be enjoyable, not stressful!
Im 20 years old, im engaged and getting married this july. and im a virgin. i am TERRIFIED of the thought of having sex. my fiance says he will respect my feelings, but it just really scares me. i dont kno what to do. i love him so much, and the idea of sex, like connecting with someone because you love them so much is nice. but im terrified of the what happens. i know that probably sounds ridiculous to a lot of people, but i could really use some advice.
Thanx
alright well first of all, congradulation =) hope you guys have a long life together.
and to your sex phobia. you shouldn't be feeling forced to have sex. seeing has your fiance said he will respect you for it. eventually one day your gonna feel ready enough to make love to him and it will be very special. don't feel like your weird because of it, it's a comman fear. just wait till it feels ok. that's all i can tell you.
hope i helped and congradulations again x3
okay..
i met a guy a couple years back we hungout a couple times two days in a row and i kept in touch thru the internet. BUT we haven't hungout only those two times a couple years ago..
he hated me and he was always rude over the internet. then i changed my look around and we hungout about a month ago. and he thought i was way cuter... i was like in love with him still from those couple years back.
we eventually had sex.. all of those memories just built up and i think that was for a reason.. he asked me out and hes a really nice guy. we have been together for about a month or two.
my question is should i breakup with him?
im afraid of falling for him harder and getting my heartbroken once again.. and im scared he still has feeling's for his ex's? i asked him about it and he was like crying because he thought i didn't trust him..
he told me he didn't have feelings for anyone but me.
should i be with him still?
im getting really attached.
i want to marry this kid.
16/f
and hes seventeen.
girl it's obvious you have a ton of feelings for him, so why fight them. i mean he obviously cares for you too. but i mean you can never experience love if you fear it. if you run from it, then you'll just have a bunch of meaningless relationships. i mean everyone's scared of getting hurt and never being good enough...but one way or another you have to get over that fear and i know its hard and i know that you'd just rather run and never be hurt but you gotta take a couple risks here and there. and now it sounds like you found yourself a good guy that you fell in love with and it sounds like he has no intentions of hurting you. so all the pain he's ever made you feel before, just forget it. you should stay with this boy but if things don't work out, they dont work out. but that leaves new oppertunities for you and it may hurt if things dont work out with him, and it may hurt for a very long time...but you cant cry because its over. you have to just smile because it happened. and you should really just play this one out, don't let go of something that you know feels right.
What are some good graduation songs that are sure to make the graduates cry, but not totally sob or anything like that.... You know, just to add a lil' bit of drama at graduation day....
Thanks in advance!
just to add to those lists, because they pretty much covered most of the good songs
Forever Young by Rod Stewart
Hello!
My good friend and I are gonna hang out.. (both girls) just a girls night out.
We cant drive yet. We are kinda sick of the mall and we want something to do that hott guys are at. No clubs are anything like that.
Any suggestions?
thanks
well like the person below me said, beaches and movies
or maybe there is a dance at another school you could go to. or a sports event. or maybe go ice skating or something. hope i helped!
16/f
So there's this guy that I really like, and that I have liked since the beginning of the school year. I talk to him on a daily basis and we're pretty good friends.
The other day, I was sitting next to him and he got up out of his chair and blew in my ear, smiled, and walked away (to get something out of his bag, or something.)
Does this mean anything? it was kind of weird, but it's not the first time something like this has happened. He's been extremely touchy-feely towards me in general lately, and also has been open with me, (like telling me about how stressed he is and how he experimented with drugs to cope, which shows that he must trust me,) but he has a girlfriend, and while I thought their relationship was rocky for a while, they seem to have recovered. Is this a point towards, 'he likes me,' or am I looking into this too much?
Thanks!
well i mean it really does sound like he has interest in you, no doubt. but he may just see you as a great person and a very trust worthy person. so maybe you should talk to him about it, maybe ask "hey hows your girlfriend doin, you still liking her. (if he answers like yeah i guess) then say like oh really do you like anyone else then. and see what he says. and maybe you should tell him you like him too! but that's totally your call. good luck x3
This is extremely embarassing for me to ask.
I am an 18 year old girl from Egypt, but I moved to the USA when I was seven. My parents got me circumcised when I was six. I am worried that no one will want to marry me because I am circumcised, and will think I am gross. I am very worried because when doctors look at me (just check ups, nothing is wrong with me) they gasp, and make a very big deal out of it.
Please any feedback is so appreciated.
well i'd just like to say i'm sorry you had to endure that. it's not right nor fair that they would do that to you, though it is part of your culture and religion.
but like everyone said, doctors are aren't used to it.
and if a person really loves you, it won't matter. but maybe tell the person so they know, and if they leave because of it. THEY ARE SCUM! and you can do way better and find someone who loves you for you, not for sex
I've been denying it for ages but i have to face facts i like him, but i don't know what to do. He's sort of nice and funny...in an obnoxious way. What do I do?!?
13/f
well start flirting with him. like always give him hugs and like idk maybe tickle him or something. and just be flirty type. and maybe get his number or something and call him and like become really good friends with him. and on occasion ask him who he likes and stuff. and when your finally comfrotable tell him that you like him. haha hope that was better
i really like my boyfriend and i have been going out with him for alomost 6 months and im starting to have feelings for another guy...but i still like my bf a lot...idk what to do..please help.
well i suggest sticking with your boyfriend. because i mean it could just be a fling with the other guy and you'd be left with nothing. so stick with him but still talk to the other guy. and if you both really start to like eachother. maybe you should dump your boyfriend and try this new guy out. best of luck!
uhm why did britney spears shave her head and now wants 2 kill herself?
and i haven't heard about the killing herself part
but what i conclude from her shaving her head was that she was going to have a drug test and they use your hair for that. so she shaved it off thinking she wouldn't have to take it, but that moron doesn't know they can take an eyebrow or something.
I'm really..lost.
In the short 1 1/2 years that we were "best friends", she had this "habit", that at first, only slightly irked me. Now, it's the reason we're no longer friends. Except, she doesn't even know that she does it (and she won't listen to me), and she thinks I'm a complete fool, and a liar, etc.
She always has to be right, and she is always picking a fight with anyone who isn't willing to back down.
(example of conversation we had today)
Other Girl (her "new best friend): This guy I know, named Jim is pretty hot.
Me: He's in weight training, which is in the same classroom as me.
Her: Weight training isn't in the same classroom! (she does not even HAVE weight training). Weight training is in the morning!!
Me: What?
Her: For weight training, you have to come in the morning too.
Me: Okay, cool.
Other Girl: I wonder if he has a 6-pack or something.
Me: He doesn't. We were in the weight room together, and he took off his shirt. he doesn't have very many muscles.
Her: Just because you can't see them, doesn't mean he doesn't have muscles.
Me: I know..that part was sort of implied. He doesn't have any, you know, BIG muscles.
Her: What? Now you're contradicting yourself (meanwhile, rolling her eyes. The Other Girl says "Calm down, don't waste your time") Then she gets up in a flurry, and leaves.
Every time I don't see something exactly her way, she gets angry. Was it really necessary to argue over the technicalities of the human body?
Because of stuff like this, they now have notes about me in this "Note Book", where they continually write horrible things about me. I've been mean to them in the past (as a result of fights we've had), but I apologized, and for the past 6 months, I've done nothing to them, and pretty much stayed away from them.
What the heck is her problem? Another example. I said "I think nachos are the best food in the world!" She goes "Just because you like them, doesn't mean everyone does" (talking to me like I'm 5). Then I go "I'm not saying that, I'm just saying that I like them. Then she rolls her eyes, etc.
I've seen her do it with other people, too.
she sounds completely ridiculous to me. you shouldn't even waste your time with her if she's writing all these nasty things about you and is an asshole to you. it's not right. maybe you should just stay away. or confront her on the subject. i think her problem is that she really feels the need to be a jerk to people, is she conceited at all? or maybe she just loves to fight and maybe your her favorite person too?. seriously confront her because she shouldn't be yelling at your for stupid stuff. but if you don't wanna do that, i suggest just staying away
I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.
alright well i will never tell you or any other soul to commit suicide. it's the worst thing to do. i know things are bad for you but you can't give up! there's still hope in the world for you. what you need to do is go to a doctor and list all the things that are wrong with you. they can give you medicine and such to help you. and then i would go to a phycologist just to talk about your problems because they really help. and once you start feeling better get a job! maybe if you didn't graduate college go back and graduate and make a career and buy your own house and make a family! there are a million possibilities out there for you! and you will never get to experience them if you kill yourself. and no one knows where you will go after you die. you might just be stuck on earth if you think about it. just as a spirit. so either way your are going to be on earth! don't kill yourself, seek medical and emotional help asap and change your life around. I BELIEVE IN YOU!
if you need anything else please inbox me i'll help you to the best of my ability