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Q: What is personality? What does it mean? What are personality traits?
I don't really understand this..even if I use a dictionary.

personality is you. its the way you act, the way you think, your sense of humor, how smart you are, everything. when people say "the inside is what counts, not the outside" they are referring to your personality. something only you have as an individual. no one can have your personality, but you. if someone is funny, nice, sweet, etc people will moreless refer to them as having "a great personality" if someone is mean, hateful, has bad self esteem, etc people will probably say they have a "bad personality." hope i could help. :)

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Q: i can't seem to find any stores that sell Chanel purses! i went to chanel.com but it didn't work so well. i alos went to nordstroms.com and saksfifthavenue.com but all i could find was their skin care lines. are there any store websites that have Chanel purses?

try e-bay.com, a lot of those people will purchase a purse in new york from people that sell them on the street for less, but they are the real deal and in new condition. they usually include pictures so you can see what youre purchasing. hope i helped! :)

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Q: i bought those crest whiting things. and well my teeth are not white, and their not really yellow.. but i put them on now for the third time, and well my teeth are not straight.. but my front teeth are getting white spots and its a big differnce.. like only those are starting to turn white.. will the rest of my teeth start to get white like that?..

when you run out of the strips (if that's what you're using) try purchasing the whitening mouth wash. it works excellently. if you will use that 3 times a day when you brush your teeth it will do more then the strips. plus, you won't have the nasty after taste as you do when you use the strips. not to mention, its cheaper! hope i could help. :)

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Q: okay, how to i get my eye makepp to last longerr, (eyeliner, & mascara) without buying new longerlasting makeupp?

thanks :)

try applying a wet concealer to your eye lids, make sure you let it dry then apply your shadow. i've also heard that if you put vaseline on your eyes of a night, and sleep in it until morning it will make your eyelashes look fuller and keep the mascara looking fresh. make sure you wash the vaseline off before you apply any makeup. i hope i could help! :)

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Q: Umm ok soo I need a new swimming suit... I like 2 pieces

My budget is around 30 to 40 dollars only(all together)

I also need some shorts....like billabong or something like that

If u know any examples plese put a link for me..

Thanks

hey, pac sun carries billabong shorts, they have a lot of cute bathing suits as well but i don't believe they suit your budget. i would try looking there anyhow, maybe they have some pre summer/spring break sale. sometimes you'll catch some on sale at hollister, american eagle, or aeropostale as well. i hope i could help. :)

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Q: Ok well I got into a fight with this girl Taylor and ened up callin her a crappy friend. I started the fight by saying "why do you always ignore me" (bad thing 2 say because she got mad)Then she showed this letter to Bianca and got bianca to turn againest me. And i said sorry 2 taylor but she said i am a drama queen. We are bff and now she just ends it. So when Bianca and Taylor had a sleepover they ganged up on me and bianca was my bff and she was like "Ali i have a right 2 know why ur mad at me even though we arent goin to be friends" But i didn't tell them. And now im not friends with them. Theres a lot more but u would get really confused. Well what should i do bec there my bff and one minute im mad but then suddenley forgive them and they are going to take it anymore.

don't let them walk all over you. obviously they aren't the best friends that you call them. they are immature and probably jealous of you so don't let it get to you. i think you should make them think it doesnt bother you because if they know it gets to you then they will continue to hurt your feelings etc because you let them. stand up for yourself and i'd be looking for new best friends. :) hope i helped a little.

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Q: does walmart have good bras. like ones that do both push up and are padded? like i have one bra and it says that im a 30 A and i got it from walmart but not its like a little too small and i want one that does some serous push up and is padded so my boobs look bigger. i might go later tonight..thats why.
thanksss. !

i can imagine they do, walmart has a huge selection of bras from what i have seen. i have never purchased one from there but my friends have and they seem to work for them. maybe you should ask a worker to help you find what you're looking for. :) hope i could help!

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Q: what is nair or nare or something everyoen says to use it for waxing or something over the bikini line. where is it and where can i get it

1st A: it is nair, it is a hair removal product that is suppose to not hurt and keeps you from shaving. my friends have used it before and they seem to like it but i have never used it. you can purchase it at walmart and possibly a drugstore such as rite aid, walgreens, etc. hope i could help. :)

2nd A: as far as i know you can use it anywhere, if you purchase it i'm sure there will be instructions as to where you can use it :)

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Q: Ok, well I'm kinda basically in love with my best friend. And he knows that. He said he liked me too, but chose someone else over me. So now he has a girlfriend. He's still my best friend but he confuses me a lot. I know that he loves his girlfriend and would never want to leave her. But like, since he's had his girlfriend, he's kissed me, held my hand, and the other night me, him and my other friend were just kinda hangin out in my room. We were all sitting on the bed & me & him were just like lying down. & he put his arm around me. He always tells me he loves me. But that's because he really does, but just as a friend, I think. This confuses me alot. I don't know if he really does like me, but less than his girlfriend. Or if he's trying to just be nice to me cuz he knows I like him. Can someone please help me understand this? Like what should i do? And what do you think is going on?

i think your friend has feelings for you, he is just confused as to what to do right now. maybe he is afraid that if you date and break up it will ruin the friendship you have which sounds amazing. i would rather have a friend forever then a boyfriend for a while, because most relationships as a teen do not last forever. maybe you should talk to him about the way you feel, tell him you cannot keep going on the way you have been (as far as kissing, etc) because its only hurting you girl. hope i could help! :)

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Q: i wanna purchase a corvette coupe 2007 but i want it used because i don't really have the money for a new one. how much would a used one be?

when you're asking this question you would probably want to find a used one in your area due to the expensive shipping costs. i would go to www.google.com and type in what you are looking for, there should be some sites and they will ask you for your zip code so they can locate what you're looking for in areas close to you. that sounds like an amazing car, i would love to have one! hope i could help. :)

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so yeah there is this guy at my school. and i'm pretty sure he liked me a lot! he looked at me like he's in love. everytime his friends saw me they winked at eachother. and he smiled at me a lot 2. i admit i always ignored him cause thats just the way i am but I think THATS what made me interesting or whatever on the last day of school he smiled AGAIN.
but now since half term is over he kinda ignores me. his friends don't say anything anymore. they just pass me. but last monday there was this soccergame at ma school and he came. his teacher was standing next 2 me and he wanted 2 talk 2 him so he sorta came between me and his teacher and sorted it out. after that went right behind me and yelled weird things like how much they suck in playing and stuff like that l o l so yeah he was kinda showing of but after a wile he went back 2 his friends. did that mean anything or was he just standing there because of his teacher? i'm just wondering cause he's really confusing me

help?

oh yeah and yesterday when i entered the school he was standing right at the door with his friend but just ignored me. then i randomly turned around and i saw him looking at me???!!!!

sometimes we all seem to think that if we show interest in a guy that it will make us seem less challenging therefore we don't mean as much to them, but in some rare cases the guys like us to show that we like them or they will feel as though they are wasting their time. maybe you should flirt with him and show him that you are interested but don't come on too strong just yet. hope i could help! :)

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Q: Ok, so lets start out by im 14/f. I started my period 2 or 3 months ago. Now, i have this stuff in my underwear or hanging down from my vagina that is like jello, accepy clear. Its sticky and smells like pee. What is this and what is causing it? Should i go to the docter or am i fine?

discharge.
it's perfectly normal and you have nothing to worry about. sometimes it can be very annoying and make you feel very uncomfortable so i suggest you buy some panty liners at walmart, any drug store, etc. if your discharge becomes a dark shade or smells incredibly horrible i would see a doctor but as far as now everything seems normal from your description so no worries! :) hope i could help.

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Q: well theres a guy. i feel comfortable talking to him online (like myspace,email,IM, etc...) but in person it's like i freeze up or something and i can't think of anything to talk about. what are some good ways to get over this?

try talking to him about things you both enjoy, something you could both do together. you will be having so much fun if it's something you like you won't be worried about how nervous or uncomfortable you are. eventually you will start feeling more of the ability to be yourself around him and things will be better between the two of you. if you cant be yourself around him it makes it harder for him to be himself. hope i could help. :)

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Q: alright so i have itunes on my laptop but then my laptop started to not work so i installed itunes on my dads computer.. now theres no music in the itunes library on my dads computer and if i were to add songs into my ipod from my dads computer, and update it does that mean only the songs on my dads computer will update into my ipod or the songs from my laptop will still be there? help please thanks

it would only update the songs from your dad's computer and all other songs would be deleted. i really dislike that myself. i had many songs on my i-pod but it's hard to pay $1.00 for a song if you have a colossal song collection so i tried updating my i-pod on my friend's computer and it deleted all of my songs and added all of hers. perhaps if your laptop is fixed all of your songs will be restored so you won't loose them. hope i could help. :)

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Q: what does thug mean? like im sure it has to do with rap. i mean i listen to tupac everyday & all other, but never REALLY knew what it means? ( thug) do you guys have any ideaa? & what happens if i wear a red flag, ( my boyfriend is a blood) Anyways, thanks for the help & if you guys need help than ask me anythinn!

http://www.wordwebonline.com/en/THUG

Noun: thug thúg
An aggressive and violent young criminal
- hood, hoodlum, goon, punk, tough, toughie, strong-armer
Derived forms: thugs

Type of: criminal, crook, felon, malefactor, outlaw

Encyclopedia: Thug

- if you would like other results go to google.com and type in "definition of a 'thug'."

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Q: So I'm going on a shopping spree this spring break, because I've been saving up for a LOOONNNGG time! I have about 1000 dollars saved up, but I don't plan using more than 200 of it!!

Anyways, I'm absolutely in LOVE with rhinestones, so thats basically what I want to spend the majority of my money on, but I need a list of rhinestones.

Heres my list:
*Sunglasses
*Belts
*Accessories (earrings, bracelets... etc)
*NO shirts or pants

Anyone have any other good ideas?

you could look into rhinestone purses, headbands, shoes (rhinestone flip flops, or flats), rhinestones for your cell phone that stick on, and maybe a rhinestone wallet for your money. haha hope i could help. :)

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Q: 17/f Ok so there was this dude and he was practically perfect in every single way, we were kinda dating for a little over a month, we werent ever official but still. Anyway one day hes like 'err Im too busy to make a commitment, keep in touch?' and obviously i was a bit gutted but it was ok really. However, its now a month later and i still think about him all the time and really wish we were together. How can I get over him?

if he doesn't have time for you then you shouldn't be expected to make time for him as he told you to when he asked you to keep in touch. the best way to get over him is to look for other guys, one to date. don't use him to get over this other guy but maybe you'll find that you will like him better. the other guy will probably get jealous and feel guilty for what he did to you but don't forget the other guy if this happens, it will only show the boy you cared about the first time that he can have you whenever he wants you so all in all you won't be a challenge to him which makes you seem less valuable. don't let guys walk all over you girl. :) hope i could help!

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Q: my "best friend" is going after a guy I like. I introduced them and I told her I liked him before she even met him, but now she's going after him behind my back and aparently he likes her.. am i the one being messed up or is she?

don't blame yourself. your friend is being very disrespectful to you in doing the things you said. if they were friends before you began dating him that would be a different story. i would talk to her one on one about how you feel before it blows out of proportion. if this continues she is apparently not a true friend. i hope everything works out for you. :)

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Q: hey

do u guys like long or short hair better?

it depends on which one compliments your face. i prefer long hair myself. there is a website you can go to www.clairol.com and upload a picture of yourself and see how many different hairstyles look on you. hope i could help. :)

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bio

i love jesus.

my family and friends are amazing.

smiling is my favorite.

i'm usually a pretty happy person.

i'm kind of shy, not stuck up.

i'm addicted to texting.

the 70's and 80's own me.

we will probably get along. (: