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Q: i don't get it. when i get into a relationship and i want to be serious about it i let all my guy friends go, and my guy friends are fine with that cuz they understand me and how i don't beleive in cheating and shit.
but my problem with my boyfriend now is that he kind of makes a big deal out of it, i just finely got him to fix his damn myspace top friends thing, cause it was me and like 50 million other girls.
i trust my boyfriend, but shit like that makes me 2nd guess, he hasn't done anything to prove me wrong, if i'm not at his house we are on the phone will we go to sleep pretty much.
i just don't know what i need to do. cause i think it pisses him off when i bring shit like that up. but yet he is glad i tell him so he can know.
and it really hurts his feelings when i tell him i have a hard time trusting him sometimes.
but i've been cheated on way to much these days.

well i'm pretty much im in the same boat. lol i do trust my boyfriend but at the same time i can be a very jealous girlfriend. like when there's 398712487 other girls on his myspace..yeah i question him but then he just reminds me "im not your ex i havent cheated on you and i dont plan on it trust me. i love ya too much to do that" or something like that. but he does get offensive about it so i stopped asking becauses it causes unnesscary fights. Just keep this in mind HES NOT YOUR EX'S. lol that's a big one for me. if you keep that in mind then it'll probally help your nontrusting issue a lot. it did for me. hope i helped some. (:

//PLRx

Q: ok my boyfriends friend just died. liek i have no idea what to say to him. i feel so bad

well i haven't had my boyfriend's friend died but his grandpa died recently & that was tough on him. all you can really do is be there for him like you know what you'd want if that happend to you. you'd probally want just somewhere there to give you a hug or hold you & let you know things will get better & everything happens for a reason. you know stuff like that. right now he just needs someone there & who's better for that then his girlfriend. Oh and try not to get mad @ him over little stuff and just know he's going through a tough time like if he snaps fast at you or yells he doesn't mean it. bottom line: be his shoulder to cry on basically. just be there & let him know you care.
im sorry though you have to go through something like that. hope i could be a little helpful to the situation.

//PLRx

Q: so i'm 14/f and i weigh 130 and i'm 5'4 almost 5'5. i want ot lose weight like 10 15 pounds cause i feel like i'm over weight, can anyone give me some pointers to losing weight kinda fast? my dad said that theres a new diet, and you eat alot in the morning and when your at school and stuff you burn it off and then you slow down at dinner and stuff, does that make any sense?

i am that exact same height and stuff. well i weigh 119 now but i did weigh 130. i didnt really understand your dads diet thing but i could tell you what helped me to loose weight. i'd eat like ceral (special k especially.) or something kinda normal for breakfast & not eat lunch for the simple reason school food is gross & then id eat a smaller portion of what was for dinner then usual. i know it's not like an actual diet plan but yeah i lost 10-11 pounds with it so it worked for me. it might for you. lol i hope it does! (:

//PLRx

Q:
ive had a thing for this kid named joe for as long as i can remember. i met him as a freshman and im a junior .. so at least 3 years now .. we dated 10 months but then we broke up. its been 3 months .. i still think about him all the time and no one compares to him to me .. ive tried SO hard, numerous times to get over him. i dont know what is so appealing. our relationship wasnt all that great. we didn thang out that much, but he always could make me laugh more than anyone else .. i miss him..

well my friends are all like well you have to get your mind off him .. date someone else. so this friend of mine named ian whos like COMPLETELY and totally nice and i are tryin to date. but yesterday he told me he loved .. and we've only been togehter 2 days. and that makes me nervous. i dont do the quick feelings thing well. and i cant say it back .. cus i dont love himm . im not over joe yet =/

i dont think its fair to be with ian and still love joe or whatever .. but my frineds are like its exactly what you need to get over him ..

suggestions?

I had a problem similar to this awhile back in december (me & my ex dated for the same time too. werid. lol) but anyways first off dating another guy to get over one is badddd. take this from experience. if yall break up & yall probaly will because you aren't over the other guy the guy you used will hate you. believe me. the best thing you can do to get over joe or whoever it is is just time. like be single, hang with friends, flirt but dont get into another big relationship untill you are COMPLETELY over your ex. Trust me You'll find a guy ten times better when your not looking and your friends arent pressuring you to find someone. I know I did. & I know right now it seems like you can never get over him but eventually you will. & about that time he will realize he wants you back & you'll be long gone. it always happens that way. lol but i hope everything works out for you. (:

//PLRx

Q: does chewing no or low calorie gum for a long time burn calories? like the physical action of chewing the gum?

Whenever you move it burns calories so this would do so if you're chewing more than the calories the gum is itself. if that makes sense. lol hope i helped. (:

//PLRx

Q: is it normal for a puppy, to eat its own wastes,(poop)?

well my dog did that for the longest time and she turned out a normal dog. i mean she's still alive and going to be 7 yrs old in human years next month so obviously it doesn't hurt them that much. lol it is disgusting though. it's good your concerned about your puppy, hope i helped your worries. (:

//PLRx

Q: Ok so I don't get it anymore. Me and my one best friend have been best friends since forever it seems. In like 7th or 8th grade she started to hang out with this other group of friends. I was hurt at first but it's not like she can't have other friends. The thing that hurt me the most was when she would ditch me for them or not even invite into their plans, even though I was friends with every single one of them in that group. I tried everything, but eventually she came back to me and we were really close in 9th grade. Except she lied to me and I don't know if I can trust her anymore... it was a big thing her lie.. but I won't get into that. Anyway, she keeps talking about two of the girls in their "group" about how much they hate them and that they never have time for their "grouP" anymore and if they asked them to hang out then they wouldn't hang out with them. All the while I'm standing there listening trying to pay attention but frankly I could care less. Anyway Friday her and another girl in their group asked me to do something but I had other plans, and they were like "we should ask the two girls that never want to do something with us to do something tonight because I know they won't want to, but let's do it just for fun". I was like okay go have fun if thats what you call fun... anyway, Saturday night on my best friends away message was the she was having a sleepover with her best friends and they were the group including the two girls they talk about all the time. I have a few questions....
1) what should I do about their group? ignore it?
2) i really don't want to lose this friend and I have confronted her about the group and she just blows it off saying I'm her best friend even if she doesn't show it. any suggestions?

Sorry this is so long but I thank whoever took the time to read this because I really need help with this situation

first off, your friend isn't really being your friend. like i mean friends can have different friends but she seems to be blowing you off and disincluding you which isn't a friend. i would try to talk to her about it and be like put yourself in my shoes or something like that. if she still doesn't see where you're coming from then it might be time to get a new bff. after all high school is where you find your true friends..quite frankly that girl don't sound like one. :-/ hope i helped some. (:

//PLRx

Q: my hair isnt normal =/
one side of it is straight and fine, and the other side is fuzzy. But my hair has alot of split ends. I recently got about 3 inches cut off of it to try to help get rid of split ends. But the thing is, they keep comming back! I dont rip through my hair with a brush or anything!

What are some shampoos/conditioners/other hair care products that will restore my hair and keep it that way and where can i get them?

And since i got my hair cut off, is there any way that i can make it grow faster. Like any vitamins or hair care things i can use on it to make it grow faster? where can i get them at?

hey hun! If you are looking for a shampoo and conditoner to make your hair grow fast i suggest Mane N Tail. Yes, it's horses shampoo but its people's too. I promise! heck i use it. lol You can find it in the pet section though at like most wal marts and places. It made my hair grow really fast and usually my hair takes foreverrr to grow. But I suggest you use a different conditoner after you use both the Mane N Tail shampoo and condtioner just to keep your hair from being dry. Oh and about the fuzzyness I'd suggest SunSilk if the whole horse shampoo doesn't work out. It did for me though and I had around the same problem with my hair. Well hope this helped a little! (:

//PLRx

Q: well i'm a little slow, so what is phone sex and how do you do it?

hey dont feel bad i just figured out what it means a few months ago! But it's basically where the guy is jacking off and the girl is fingering herself while they're talking dirty to each other on the phone. Yeah, well hope that helped. (:

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