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Friends lie.
my "best friend" is going after a guy I like. I introduced them and I told her I liked him before she even met him, but now she's going after him behind my back and aparently he likes her.. am i the one being messed up or is she?
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Well, that is pretty rude. I don't mean to offend you or your friend, you guys probably been through a lot and are really close but doing that to you when she already knows that you like that guy is pretty selfish. If she is your best friend, that is even worst- doesn't she understand that friends are more important than guys? However, it can't be helped that people can fall for the same person. If she had told you before about her liking the same guy- it could be understandable but if she didn't and just went behind you and is now going after him- that is pretty rude. If you really treasure your relationship with her or want to keep your relationship, talk with her. Tell her how you feel and question her. It is best to solve things, guys don't stay forever, it isn't worth it to lost a best friend for something that isn't permante.
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Well, she isn't being very nice, that's for sure. However, you can't let it get in the way of your friendship. I let that happen to me in high school when I was in the same situation, and I'm still not talking to the girl.
Remember that boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever.
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don't blame yourself. your friend is being very disrespectful to you in doing the things you said. if they were friends before you began dating him that would be a different story. i would talk to her one on one about how you feel before it blows out of proportion. if this continues she is apparently not a true friend. i hope everything works out for you. :)
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Honestly, I find the whole idea that a guy is off limits because your friend has a crush on him to be quite high-schoolish. I would never in a million years mess around with a friend's boyfriend, but crushes have to go two-ways for anything to come of them. So if they like each other, that is great. That means the two of them can move past the 'crush' phase into something more. If nothing more was happening between you and him, I think the mature thing to do would be shrug your shoulders and be happy for her.
She shouldn't be going behind your back though. It's much healthier for people to be upfront about these things. Talk to her calmly about it and get the real story. She is your friend after all. You might be a bit hurt, but she hasn't betrayed you in any way.
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