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Q: Okay, I'm 14, and I know I have a lot of growing to do in the future, but I'm wondering.
Both my generations before me (my grandmother, + my mom and her sisters [my aunts]) have big boobs, they're all have D+ sizes.

Now, being about a little over 14 and a half, i fit B36 in womens (not juniors, in juniors i'm a 36/38C).

So what i'm wondering is, do boobs grow like from jeans of your mother, or is it all just a within your body sort of thing?

Thanks in advance. :]

Chances are if your mom and your grandma have big boobs, you will to.

Q: Please, help me. I don't have a lot of room in my kitchen, so, I keep all of my pans & things in my oven, including a plastic, flexable cutting board I had. My daughter went to make something & preheated the oven & it melted! The racks aren't too bad. Most of it went to the floor of the oven. I scraped most of it off, but, there is a thin layer that just won't come off. Any ideas?

The same thing happened to me. My brother put a bowl of shrimp jambalaya in the oven because he didn't want anyone to eat it. It was a plastic bowl and I didn't see it when I turned the oven on. The best way to get all the plastic off is to clean it while it's hot. You're going to have to heat the oven again, so the plastic will get soft. Then you can scrape it off with a metal spatula or big spoon. But be very careful, because I still have a scar on my arm, where I burned myself on the rack. Sorry so long, but I hope I helped.

Q: I was looking at my feedback but I forgot which question I answered so I went back and checked. As I was looking I noticed someones answer and I didn't know if it was true.

I don't want to embarass anybody so i'll just describe the situation. One girl stated that she hasn't had her period in 4 months and was wondering what she should do. Then this one girl answered:
If you have oral sex then there might be a chance of pregnancy, but if not, then it is probably just still irregular. It takes up to two years for a period to regulate, and if you have had your period for over two years, then you should tell your mom or a doctor.

Is it true you can get pregnat from oral sex?

&&thanks

It is ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant from oral sex.

Q: my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my mom says my dad molested me when I was about 3 or 4 why would she wait untill I was 17 to tell me?I asked my dad about it and he said he didn't do it who should I belive I don't know who to trust anymore please help me.

Your mom waited to tell you now because she wanted you to be old enough to understand. And of course your dad would deny it. As to who to believe, that really depends on the relationship between your mother and father and the relationship between you and your mother. You're going to have to search your heart and ask yourself some really tough questions. Do you really believe your dad could do something like that? Would your mother make something like that up to get back at your dad or turn you against him? Does your mom have a history of talking bad about your dad? Do you have any recollection of being abused? You should talk to your mom and let her know that you are having a hard time dealing with this and maybe you could get into counseling. Psychologists have methods that they can use to bring up repressed memories. If your mom is telling the truth, she shouldn't have a problem that. Good luck!

Q: I`m going to start out by saying this will be long, but thanks so much to anyone who reads this all and helps me out.
I have this best friend, Casey. Words cannot descibe how much of a bff she is to me. She knows everything about me, and always knows what I`m about to say. Were with each other 24/7 and we hardly fight. She`s practicly my sister, we do everything together.

A week ago, she got this new boyfriend, this guy that I didn't like before she started dating him. His name is Nick, he`s 12, shes 13. Casey is a virgin, he isn`t. They`ve already done sexual stuff together and its their first stupid week together.

Last night I was hanging out with both of them and Nick lit up a ciggarrette, and exchanged some pot with another older guy. He offered us both some, Casey would have taken some, but didn't when she saw how mad I got. We were way back on the golf cart paths somewhere, and it was raining, I didn`t want to be in the situation so I started crying and ran away. I was lost along the paths cause I had no clue where I was. Casey didn`t follow me, even though she promised me earlier if I wanted to leave she would come with me. Nick chased after me, blew smoke all over me, and burned me with his ciggarette to make fun of me. I ended up calling Jordan, my other best guy friend, he and his mom drove 45 minutes back into the woods to pick me up only to find I was stained with the smell of ciggarrets, and crying all alone, cause I knew my best friend was slipping away. I don`t know what to do, she used to be a good girl, she never would have done any of this. Now she won`t listen to me, at all, she said she`ll never accept any of the drugs, but I know she will, she almost took them last night and she told me "they were no big deal" She got mad at me when I left cause I was being "immature and embarrassing her" When my dad picked me up, after Jordan dropped me off at her house, he smelt me and now he thinks I`m a smoker, and won`t belive that it wasn`t me. What should I do? PLEASE PLEASE guys, I`m really upset, I`m losing her, please.

I'm sorry to say, but you two are growing apart. You should write her a letter and let her know how you feel. Even though it'll be hard, you should give her some space. Make sure you let her know that you'll always be there for her, and hopefully when she comes to her senses, she'll realize what a good friend you are.

Q: My sister just had a baby and he husband's last name is Wood. Well, my sister has always wanted to name her daughter "Holly". So we just need a few HONEST opinions here.

Do you find it tacky to have a girl named "Holly Wood?"

I think the kids will give her a hard time later on, and besides that I'm pretty sure there's a porn star named Holly Wood. She might want to consider that.

Q: For a cell phone, does it cost money if you want to keep your provider but change your number for privacy reasons? If so, how much?

Or does this depend on the service itself. Thanks, any info is appreciated.

The charge depends on your service provider but it shouldn't be to high.

Q: im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

You are too young to even be worried about this. Your body is still developing, just give it time. Besides that, do you really want a guy that only likes you for your boobs? Big boobs aren't all they're cracked up to be--trust me I know.

Q: is anyone particularly good at drawing designs? i need some one to draw the image i want for my tattoo. i would be very appreciative of anyone who can do this for me!

www.tattoodesigner.com is a website that offers custom designed tattoos. You enter a description of the tattoo that you want and the price range that you are willing to pay for the design. Then tattoo artists bid on it. You get to chose which bid you accept and the tattoo artist will get to work on your design. I'm waiting on a custom design myself.

Q: so my boyfriend and i were fooling around about a month or two ago at my friends house. it was our first time n everything. He tried to go "in me" like twice.. barely making it in at all cause it hurts really bad..(im still a virgin).. is there any way i can be pregnant? does that count as having sex? i had ended my period two days before that.. if that changes anything.. this was in april.

i get really paraniod about it.. i think im looking bigger... i havent had my period since.. yet im always irregular.. its never on time. ever. i can suck in my stomach and it seems like its just fat.. im not fat at all but my tummy is kinda flabby.. i love to eat too. but i can still pinch the fat. my stomach isnt hard. but would it be hard by now if i was?

any help would be greatly appreciated.. i know i should just get a test.. but im so scared it might be positive.. i dunno how it could be. but im just paranoid. thanks so much

Even with slight penetration there is a possibity of pregnancy. The only way to know for sure is to take the test.

Q: I like this guy, Nick F. I think hes realy hot and I think he like me. But theres a problem, he cheats on all of his girlfreinds. Hes realy nice to me and I realy like him. But my freind wentout with him and she says that he abused her. But she has been nown to lie about her boyfreinds. So I dont know what to do. Please help.
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If you know he cheats on all his girlfriend, why would you want to put yourself through that? Think about it.

Q: This isnt really about job searches...but what does it mean if someone in realestate says "a half bath short of a condo???"

Real estate property has to be a certain size to be considered a condo. So if it had a full bath it would be a condo, but since it only has a half bath it's not quite a condo. You probably know what a half bath is, but just in case- A half bath only has a sink and toilet and no tub or shower.

Q: possibly the best subject ever for a question.

My sister shaved our dog today as he's a labradoodle and has a fairly thick coat, that was just getting unbearable for him in the heat. However, my sister being the person that she is, didn't read any of the instructions, and did it while no one was home. Now my poor puppy is stuck with a bad case of razor burn. He's been scratching at it, and I was wondering if there was anything I could use to help soothe his skin. I've looked at the pet store and most of the skin care seems centred around fleas, so is there anything I can make at home, or a people lotion that is gentle enough to use on him?

This might sound a bit strange, but it'll work. Give him an oatmeal bath. Just add a couple handfuls of dry oatmeal to warm bath water.

P.S. This also works for poison ivy.

Q: i still dont have my period and i am scared because in like a few months i will be 15 and in high school and i will be like the only one that hasnt started thier period!!should i see my doctor?am i sick?do i have cancer?am i gonna die?am i pregnant?please if u are 14 and dont have your period talk to me!!!

I was 10 when I started my period, but there's no set age that you should start by. Some girls don't start until they're 18. Just relax, there's nothing wrong with you. Actually, enjoy this time because there's nothing good about getting your period. Once you do get it, you'll wish you didn't. Trust me!

Q: Ok I can answer almost anything and know I am stuck on a single family problume! Ahh but thanks for your help ahead of time!!! Ok my parents are always fighting I mean always! They fight over my dad always yelling at me cussing me out and stuff like that! Then this past school some girl who I had never talked to only maybe once or twice. Told the office that I was being abussed because i had bruises on me. Yeah my da had hit me and so on and so on, but they didn't even let me talk very much or anything to say my side or anything. They called childrens services and they came to my house. My dad lied to them in front of every onen else in my family and he said that it was just from be that I was falling of my horse running barrels and he grabed me because he didn't want me to hurt my self! He yells at me all the time and he is hardly ever home but when he is I am always in the worst mood because I don't want to be around him! He once told me to get the hell out of his life! I tryed to run away this was about a year ago! And i have also tryed to run away in the past as well! But I don't do that any more because my mom swares that if she lost me she would get killed! But know onto my brother... he is just like my dad except the beating of him is worse! I will do one thing wrong like leave up the foot rest on our couch and he will sit there and screem at the top of his lugs at me for it. I cant look people in the eyes I never have it makes me feel weired but then he punches me and kicks me and things like that! he does it all the time! he has cut me with knifes and spoons and thrown me down stairs! Too What i am saying is also he is getting married and she wants kids! I have tryed to tell her but she is too in love with my brother to understand me! I am worrried for my brothers fiancee(sp?) and his future kids and also what can I do about my parents and my brother? I am so stressed out I don't know how to handle it!!! Please Help I need it bad! Also Sorry this is soo long!!!

I know this is not the answer that you want to hear, but I have to give it anyway. You need to report him to child protective services. I know that he is your brother and you love him, but he needs help. You're right to be concerned about your future nieces and nephews. Your brother obviously learned this behavior from your dad and he'll pass it along to his sons, if no one puts a stop to this now. Believe me, I understand that you love your brother and your dad but no child deserves to go through this. The only other option is if you have a trusted aunt or uncle that would listen to you and that your dad and brother respect, maybe you can go to them and tell them what's going on. They might be able to intervene. It's up to you. You are in the position to prevent this kind of abuse from happening to your future nieces and nephews. I know it's hard, but if you can't do it for yourself do it for them. I wish you the best of luck and all the happiness you deserve!

Q: I need help to lose weight. Im not fat its just that I think my thighs and butt are to big.

The Atkins diet works great. You can find all the info you need at atkins.com.

Q: I have a 2 year old guinea pig who is white and SO cute. He stinks up my whole bedroom and my mom wants to get rid of him. I love him and I just wanted to know if there was any special cages that they have or odor sprays. Also how much they cost. Thanks a bunch!

It depends on what kind of bedding you're using. I've found that the cedar chip kind is the best because it has a woody smell. The trick is to use a thick layer of bedding, because it will absorb better. Make sure you clean the cage every 2-3 days. Don't just change the bedding. You have to wash the cage and all the pieces or toys and dishes with mild soap or dish detergent and hot water. Hope I helped.

Q: My throat has been hurting for a very lond time and I was just wondering if there was any special way to get rid of the pain.(other than medicine)

I know that alot of people have already suggesting gargling warm salt water, but I know a slight variation to that. Dissolve an aspirin in a glass of warm salt water and gargle it. Also cup of hot tea with lemon is great for a sour throat.

Q: Hey people. I've been a columnist for a short time, only from May 30, 2006. I love giving advice, and my rating is a 5. I love to read medical books, especially about puberty and stuff. Some girl here told me I know nothing about sex! Now I know that's not true, but whenever I'm insulted, my confidence goes down. And I enjoy advicenators, and helping people. Can someone say anything to boost my confidence up. And my columnist name is Triple.G, can you go there, scan my answers, and tell me if I do give bad sex advice? Thanks.

I'm in a sad mood, so I'll just give 5's.

I too enjoy giving advice, and it does hurt a bit when someone gives you a bad rating. You really shouldn't take it personally. Sometimes when people give bad ratings it's because the truth hurts or you didn't tell them what they wanted to hear. Don't worry about it, just do your best and keep giving advice. It will be appreciated.

Q: Hey... ok, this question is crazy so don't say I didn't warn you.

I think I'm looking for opinions more than advice... and I want to hear what you all think!!

Ok, I am a 20 year old female and I am about to start my third year of college. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about 3 years. We actually went out for 2 years, then broke up for 8 months because I didn't want a relationship, and have now been back together for a few months. He is deffinitely the love of my life, and we intend on getting married in the future.

Why in the future and not now? Well, he recently joined the army and will be in it for the next 4 years. He is now stationed across the country and is going to Iraq for a year soon. He visits as much as he can, and we have no problems making the relationship work. We always talk about getting married in 4 years, because that is when he will get out of the army and I will be finishing up college.

So what is my question about? Well, we got to talking the other day, and the idea of us getting married NOW came up. The reason this even came up is because if we do it now, he will get payed twice as much for being married and in the military. Not only that, but I will also be able to get on his health insurance plan provided by the army. And lastly, the army would pay for my last four years of college... and because I am not eligible for financial aid, that would save us about 150,000 dollars in loans (after interest) once I am graduated.

If we get married now, there would be no ceremony since it's too last minute... he leaves for Iraq in 2 months. We would just sign the papers and be legally married. In your opinion, is this a mistake? Is it selfish or in bad taste? We both intend on getting married to each other, and we both love one another and have faith in the relationship. If we get married now, we intend on having a big ceremony in a year or two. What do you think? I mean if we are getting married anyway and love each other, shouldn't we just do it now and make our lives in the future easier?

All opinions are welcomed and appreciated! Thanks! :)

I think if you both really love each other, the there's no reason to wait. Get married now and you have the rest of your life to have the perfect wedding. Follow your heart and everything else will fall in to place.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.