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I Have Been Talking To This Guy For 2 Months & I Really Like Him So Like How Do I Make Him Like Me Too (link)
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Just be yourself around him, and try to be extremely nice, supportive, and understanding to him. He will respect that, and may start liking you. Try to drop little hints that you may like him, because if he thinks you like him, he might like you more. Swish your hair, laugh at what he says, and complement him. These will all increase your chances. But yeah, mostly just be yourself and act comfortable around him. Good luck!
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y is school so stupid? (link)
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That is one damn good question. I have been asking myself the same thing for a while now! Wish I knew the answer, but for now just know I'm with ya buddy!
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okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons? (link)
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My mom hates tampons too! She told me that they're unhealthy because if you leave them in too long they can poison you. But I play tennis and also hate the feeling of the blood coming out when I'm active. So I just told her (it was awkward) that I was uncomfortable wearing pads when doing athletics and I think tampons would work better. I said I'd make sure to change them frequently. And she agreed. Tell her that they are only unhealthy if you forget to change them. Good luck an hope I helped'
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Okay so my mom is all old fashion and doesn't let me do anything. But I really want to dye my hair. She says it will damage my hair so I'm like FINE whatever! So then I found out about dying my hair with kool-aid but she still wont give in I'm soooo mad about it. So what should I do I'm 12 I'm not a child anymore! (link)
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Parents are so frustrating sometimes, right?! My mom doesn't let me do anything either (I'm 14) and wants me to be "mainstream" even though I feel inside that I'm more the "cool arty type." My advice is to give it a little time- 12 is young, trust me. Even though it might seem so important to you now, your feelings may change. I persuaded my parents into redoing my room when I was 12, and I already don't like it because I changed a lot in the past 2 years, and you will too!
Or, if you're dead-set on this, I would say to make a deal with her. Say something like, "what about when I'm 13?" that would still be relatively soon,, and try to make it sound reasonable. But there's a strong chance that your desires will change, I'm warning you. You are still very young. And remember, in the grand scheme of things, is dying your hair really that big a deal? Or tell her ridiculous things other girls your age want, to try to make your request sound better. I don't know. Good luck!
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My best mate has a crush on me and I no the fort of me getting with a guy kills him, and I don't no what to do I hate hurting him he means the world to me I love him with all my heart but just not in the way he loves me, I like someone else and I have to keep him a secret beacuse I no if he know the girl he wanted was with someone else I would lose him and I just don't want that to happend I really don't no what to do its so hard I no what ever I do I'm going to hurt someone and that kills me knowing that HELP (link)
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I understand you really care about your friend, and that is a good thing because friendships can be lifelong. But if your friend is so protective over you that you have to compromise your love life and doing what you want to do, he needs to back off a little. Think of yourself without thinking of either of the guys' feelings. Do you want to date someone? If the answer is yes, don't let your friend stop you. It will hurt him, but if he is a truly good friend he should respect that you don't have feelings for him in that way and only want to be friends. Good luck! Situations where someone has to get hurt are always hard :( Hope I helped!!!
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Hi!
I want to know who to be. I don't really have a personality myself, and I don't know what to do. It's really frustrating! Please help me! I need to find who I am. I try to be like people I like, but I can't. Help.
I need this please. (link)
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Hey! Like the person before me said, you can't find who you are if you imitate others. Try being who you naturally are. It might take a while to find who you really are- I just started figuring out myself last year, and I still am seeing more of who I am. What are your interests? What's something you're passionate about? Again, it took fourteen years for me to find something I really cared about--for me it was music and a specific band I loved. Experiment with what you enjoy, and be yourself. Gradually, who you are will come through and be clear to you. Good luck and hoped I helped! :)
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so i just got braces 2 days ago and they hurt like hell. i can't talk properly without being in pain, i can't eat, i feel sick to my stomach and dizzy and weak and it hurts to smile. i was just fine before i got them. i just need to know about how long are they supposed to hurt? and do they always hurt this much when i get them tightened? please help me! (link)
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I remember when I got my braces on. I got them the day before Easter and on Easter I could only eat applesauce because they hurt so much!!! :( I took Motrin the whole first week. They do kill initially but I promise you in a week they'll stop hurting. They will become a part of your mouth. As for getting them tightened, that never hurts nearly as much as when you first get them on. It might hurt a little and specific teeth may hurt, but it won't be as painful as the first week. Good luck! Braces are no fun :(
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All right so me and my boyfriend having been dateing for about a month now. We have kissed and I let him feel me up while we were making out. Now though it seems he "hints" toward wanting to do more. Like when he is touching my chest, he will move his hand down and kinda linger on my belt. I know what he wants and he knows I want to take things slow, but I feel guilty when he doesn't get what he wants(my past b/f's made me think we had to do things). I eventually give in and end up feeling like s*** afterwards. How can I tell him no and stick with it? My self-esteem is not that high do to past experiences. I am always the one who has to say no. He has never said no, or "well we don't have to". (link)
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My ex bf did the same thing to me- on a lower scale because we're only 14. While we were making out he would slip his hand down my shirt... I was completely uncomfortable with it but I let him do it because I would feel bad saying no. However, now I truly regret letting him do that because I wasn't comfortable with it. I ended up breaking up with him because he couldn't seem to keep his hand out of my shirt. If the guy you're dating does not respect your boundaries, you need to end it. Be assertive- say "I don't want to go any farther than this yet. I'm not ready. If you continue I won't want to be with you any longer." If he listens, then that's great and you can go farther whenever you feel ready. If he still won't listen, you need to break up with him. If a guy can't respect you and your boundaries, he isn't worth it.
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For some reason, I am only attracted to older men. I'm 19/f and guys my own age are just so unappealing to me. I'm working full time and I'm also in school full time, so it's possible because I'm around older people so much that I just don't relate to guys my age anymore. But is this weird? My last two boyfriends were 22 and 24, respectively. And I've been talking to this 30 year old I work with and I just don't want people to think it's weird that I can't be with guys my own age. Anyone have any opinions on this? Can anyone relate?
Thanks! (link)
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My dad is about 8 and 1/2 years older than my mom, and they have had a good marriage for 27 years now! Eventually, age differences don't really matter (unless they're HUGE) because people age and it becomes less noticeable. You can date whoever you like, and as long as you are comfortable with them then the age difference won't matter.
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Hi. I'm like rlly worried right now because today I admitted who i liked to girl i don't trust. She said that she would talk to the girl i like for me, and i'm really afraid to talk to her now. should I avoid her? i'm too young to date, and the nontrustworthy girl thinks I'm too old to not be dating. I'm 13. Should I avoid the girl i like? Please help. (link)
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Hey, recently I went through a similar situation- except the person I told (I'm a girl, 14, and I stupidly told my ex boyfriend) told the guy I like with me right there! It was mortifying. I considered crawling into a hole and never coming out again, but then I realized that if I avoid all contact with the guy I like then nothing will ever happen between us. Ignoring the girl will not make her like you. You have to swallow the possible embarrassment (or utter humiliation, in my case) and continue on talking to her like everything's normal. Good luck!
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at my daughters school ,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable, being in a bathing suit around boys. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls (link)
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I'm in 9th grade like your daughter and we are in a swimming unit right now. It is awkward being around boys like that, but our school lets the girls wear shorts over their bathing suit and even a t-shirt if we feel uncomfortable. See if your daughter's school allows this, and if not suggest it because it definitely minimizes the discomfort. As for harassment, I feel that at this age, most of the boys in my gym class are pretty mature and don't make us feel uncomfortable. Also, my gym teacher gave everyone a warning about that subject before we started the unit. He said that if someone makes us feel uncomfortable at any time in the unit, we should tell him and that person will be in trouble. I would call your daughter's school if you are really concerned and mention what I have talked about, but in all honesty the worst part about the swimming unit is having to get into the water during school. And as others have mentioned, at public pools girls are around boys in, often times, very skimpy bathing suits, so it really isn't that big of a deal. Hope I helped!
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I'm on the girl's Division I basketball team at a very highly esteemed school, athletically and academically. The girls on the team are really close and we're kind of close with some on the guy's team too (I'm trying harder to make more guy friends).
In the past year, there has been some drama/cattiness among the girls. There's one girl (Kerri) whom I'm sort of friends with, she's really close with a girl I used to be close with but turned out not being very nice either. Kerri is usually nice to me, but has never really shown much of an interest in being close with me, so we're kind of only aquaintences. We're together pretty much all the time. The reality is, I absolutely can't stand her. She's really one of the most irritating people I've ever met. I could write a book on the problems I have with her but in short, she's a busybody, she has a HUGE superiority complex when trust me, she is in no place to have one, she acts like she's friends with people she's not friends with and fawns over them like there's no tomorrow, she's a social climber, premeditates who she's going to try and be friends with, she's very competitive...I think you get the idea.
She and I are both very academically inclined and serious about our playing. I have to admit, I've been a bit more successful than her in basketball because I'm taller and some aspects of my technique are stronger. She may be a bit stronger than me academically. Ugh, see, I'm doing it right now. I CANNOT HELP but feel in competition with her all the time. I feel competitive not only about those things, but even more so, about making friends. It gives me anxiety when she makes new friends, especially on the guys team, when people give her attention, I HATE it. The fact that she completely fawns over certain people to become friends with them drives me nuts and right now a couple of people love her and give her tons of attention they don't give me and I hate it. but I have NO reason to feel this way because people like me too! There are people who give me more attention than her or equal amounts. But there's this inner drive in me that is desperate for her to be jealous of me and wish she was me. It's foolish, and petty, and not nice but I cannot make these desires go away.
Perhaps the fact that she has such a superiority complex over me bothers me so much because she is in no place to think of herself as better than me. Maybe it bothers me that, she picks who she's going to try and be friends with and she's never shown much of an interest in trying to be friends with me because she thinks I'm stupid, or irresponsible, or just not cool enough (I know she doesn't hold me in the high, "special" regard she does other people), or maybe that she's so close with my ex-close friend, who's very similar to her. I always feel like I have to prove myself to her and I don't know why. We're in a lot of classes together and every time I'm around her, whether it be in class, in practice, at a game, etc. she annoys the HELL out of me. The way she acts doesn't just annoy me, it deeply bothers me and causes me stress and anxiety. She puts me in a bad mood and makes me feel like shit just by being herself. Another thing is that I feel like I can't ever be close with people she's close with because I don't like her and maybe it's my imagination but there's kind of a schism.
The way I'm thinking is absolutely immature and terrible but I cannot help it. I don't need help with confronting my own faults in the situation because I know what they are. I need help with getting rid of them. I want to be able to brush her off and not care about what she thinks of me and the things she says and does and her immense annoyingness. HOW do I do this??? I'm trying but it's not working. I need a new way to look at the situation. And trying to be close with her is 1) not even possible (I know her and KNOW she wouldn't want to be, partly because of our general friends situation, and 2) would bottle up my negative feelings and make it worse. I vent to her to my other friend who doesn't like her either but this doesn't make me feel better. I want to not care so much about her but I don't know what to do. It's taking a toll on me emotionally and giving me anxiety. I can't deal with this for the next 3 years. PLEASE help :'( (link)
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I know someone exactly like who you described! She's so competitive, constantly tries to act like I'm foolish or immature and is a complete know-it-all, and drives me crazy. I still get worked up about her sometimes-but I have found a way to not care about her. What I thought to myself was, why the hell am I trying to be friends with this person??? She makes me feel terrible and is a total bitch. I simply tried to stop caring about her. Why would I want to waste my time thinking about some annoying person? I stopped competing around her, just acted like I didn't really care. And honestly, I just talked to other people and stopped caring about her. There's a ton of really stupid people in this world that make you feel like crap, but I can tell you that that behavior won't get them anywhere. They only hold you back if you let them get to you, and don't let that happen! You need to move forward and push past her. Don't let her waste your time. Good luck and hope I helped! I know how you feel! :)
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I'm afraid im not really a 'family' person. We use to have it all when were little, the nicest clothes, bla bla bla but now the economy is bad and everyone saves every penny (I'm 14 and I still dont understand what a penny will do) But yeah, I've been through some chaos before. And I put this gigantic smile on when in public and you dont know what's going on. Things have simmered down, but now it's me that feels burnt...I just wish I could leave home and go to college and live my OWN life. Tired of living in a household. I just want 4 yrs to go by fast, get out of cruel mean public school and go on with my life. Unlike some bums at school, I actually want to be successful, do the right thing, and make something out of my life. I know I'll need my fams support and my mom will be there. But right now....it just seems like the second to worst time in my life.....ugh!
So I ask.....what should I do? What will help me get through 4 more years? And how will it all go fast? (link)
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Hey, I'm 14 too and have been experiencing the same thing as you. I get annoyed with my life easily, and somedays I love my family but other days I wish I could be in college. I think that every teenager has this feeling and desire to become independent, it's because it's preparing us for when the time is right for us to go to college. And because of hormones. But what I would suggest doing is finding some sort of hobby you like doing or something that you enjoy. This is what is getting me through this annoyingly difficult time in my life. I play tennis and am fortunate enough to have a radio show at my school. These too things are outlets that allow for me to kind of relax and forget about other things. Also, I have found that listening to music is a savior for me. It calms me down. Haha, as I'm writing this my mom is harping on me to clean my room. Well anyway, know that this a difficult time for tons of teenagers, including me. Just try to find something you enjoy doing and do it. My parents say that once you enter high school, these next four years go by really quickly. Hope I helped and good luck!! :)
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Hi,im 22 year man from south africa .don't have experience in relationship,i met this girl now ,i want to kiss her so i never kissed someone before. How to kiss her or which portion of her lips i have to hold with mine.help please (link)
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Hi, I'm 14 and had my first kiss this summer. I was very nervous about it but it ended up fine, as will yours. All you have to do is find the right moment, lean your head to the right, and part your lips slightly as you move closer to her. She will lean into you as well, and just aim for the middle of her lips and go from there. Good luck! :)
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My life is a wreck. I was naturally just born ugly. My life felt like it was falling apart starting in fifth grade. I had buck teeth, short curly hair (I had extensions then), I was a good foot taller than everyone else(I was 5 foot five, they were 4 foot 5), and I also got acne really early so my face was always a greasy mess. Now, going into seventh grade, I have no friends. I'm terrible at every sport even though I am a "nerd". I have braces, acne, and I'm going to have to get glasses soon. I also wear a back brace because I have a curvature in my spine and if it gets worse I might have to get surgery. I just feel like an awkward lonely loser. All I wanted this year was to be popular. School's starting in three weeks and I really don't want to screw things up this year.
By the way if it helps, I'm twelve, five foot eight and ninety-nine pounds. (link)
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Hi, I'm in ninth grade and was never "popular" during middle school. I wasn't really a "nerd" and was kinda pretty but I am a quiet person and didn't have much of a social life. I was so hung up on being popular and envying the popular kids that I ended up hating myself. However, during eight grade I became friends with this girl who I had always thought was kind of weird and arty because she looked and acted very different from the rest of the kids at my school. I am so thankful for this friendship because it taught me an extremely important lesson. This girl did not care what her social status was. She taught me to be this way as well. Popularity does not matter. I know it seems like it does right now. But you have to start living life without comparing yourself to other people. Except yourself for who you are, and stop caring what those people think of you. So what if they think you are a nerd? When all of you are adults, nobody is going to remember who was popular and who wasn't. It doesn't matter. I know this will probably be hard, but stop caring about popularity and you will be so much happier. That's what I did and it worked for me! Also, you sound like a really nice and honest person, two traits that will get you far in life. If the popular girls are anything like the ones at my school, the traits that they have won't get them far at all. Hope I helped and good luck! :)
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would u really think it would be ok if i let my dog eat me out? (link)
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NO. As the person before me said, having sex with animals or doing sexual acts with them is considered abusive. Besides that, a dog's mouth is hardly clean. Dog's eat some pretty disgusting stuff, and you do not want to get some of the bacteria in their mouth inside of your vagina. Not a good idea.
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I have made up my mind to commit suicide so please dont talk me out of it. If you knew what im going through you'd have mercy on me and shoot me yourself. I solemnly request you to tell me the easiest way to end my existence. I want to over dose. But the problem is that i DONT WANT MY SUICIDE ATTEMPT TO FAIL so please tell me an exact amount of valium pills that I should take ( Im 18 years old) that would ensure that my suicide attempt doesnt fail. My dad beats me. And grounds me. So I cant leave the house and occupy myself in other activities. If I could I would never have contemplated suicide but trust me when I say this that suicide is the only way out from this relentless torture. Please tell me a way that would ensure that my attempt doesnt fail because if it does I'd be doomed for life. I'll wait for your reply. (link)
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I completely understand that your life is torture right now and you can see no way out. If your dad beats and abuses you, call 911. That's serious and he could be arrested. Also, there are always people who can help you. People have jobs designed to deal with cases like yours. Besides, you're 18 which means your dad isn't legally responsible for you anymore. If you have enough money and other things settled, you don't have to stay with him. But seriously, tell the police what is happening with your dad and things will change. Nothing lasts forever. Soon enough you'll be in your 20s and out of the house living a new life. But suicide is NEVER the answer. It helps no one, definitely not yourself. Stay strong, you're life is worth living, even if it is in pieces right now. Hope I helped and good luck :)
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I am a 13 yearold girl and everyone says I'm skinny when I ask or they will just tell me and my stomach is skinny but my legs aren't as good as I would want them too. There not wicked muuscley. how can I get them thinner and have more muscles? I am self conscious in my suit bottoms so please help! :) (link)
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Hey I'm a 13 year old girl also and I feel the same way. I'm not confident about my body and always feel self conscience about my legs... even though all my friends say I'm skinny. I've realized that pretty much all females think they are fat, even though most of them aren't. What I do to try to stay thin is eat right (no chips/salty things, they make you retain water and make you look bigger, no more than one sweet a day, try to avoid soda and drink plenty of water) and exercise is HUGE. And how you get muscle. I am a tennis player, and have gotten a lot of great muscle from tennis. I would just make sure you exercise at least once a day, and there are a lot of exercises you can do for more muscular legs like wall-sits, lunges, and squats. Good luck and hope this helps! And don't worry I feel the exact same way about my body :)
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i just want to know what can be the most unpainful way to commit suicide , I know some of u will try to convince me not to do it … but i’m afraid a won’t change my mind .my life right know is a living hell I really can’t bare it anymore , the thing is that I have a mom who’s driving me mad even though I’m really sensible and a kind of mature no drugs no drinking and certainly no smoking cause I’m really interested in sport , school report aren’t bad at all I don’t know why I have to stand all these things , I’v been really patient but it’s just getting worst I’v never thought I’d end up like this …. However I just want some answers because I can’t afford a gun or anything like that so… by the way I’m 17 years old ps: sorry for my bad English (link)
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Think of it this way: you have one life. Do you really want to let annoying people ruin it for you? I have felt trapped like you before. I have wanted to kill myself. But I didn't, and I realized there is always something to live for. Things will get better, I promise. You're only 17, you have a long, full life ahead of you that is waiting to be lived. You are in charge of your life. Think positively. Every day, think about the good things that happened, not the bad. I've tried this method and it worked. You sound like a great person, and I'm sure you'll find someone who you can turn to. But don't end your life yet. There's plenty more for you to do. There are also tons of people that can help you, like others here have suggested. Just remember you are a unique, good person :) I hope everything works out for you.
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Im 14 and scared and nervous to tell my mom i started my period yesterday. Can someone help me out please.:) thanks
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When I got my first period a few months ago (I'm 14 also)
I did not handle it well. I freaked out when I saw the blood and I said to my mom "um, I'm bleeding... from the front" and stared crying. Real smooth. After that, it wasn't really a big deal. My mom hasn't brought it up and I'm glad I got it over with. Just tell her. Trust me, my friend tried to keep it secret and it didn't end well. Your mom knows you will get it someday, and a period is just a sign of growing up and that everything is working properly in your body. Good luck, you'll be fine :)
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