Hi everyone! I'm andi...better known as sparkle26. im a female in my teens. here's some things about me...i love music...especially rock n roll and i play guitar. i'm also an artist-in-training. ive been painting at an art studio since i was 4 or 5.i'm also a runner. my philosophy is to always look at life at a bright, lively perspective. feel free to ask me a question any time!
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So i am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. we are in colleges about 1000 miles away from each other. he is such a great boyfriend and tells me every day that he loves me and makes a consistant effort to talk to me. however, lately for absolutely no reason i just have been really stressed out and paranoid about our relationship. we have been long distance for about 6 months and i think it might just be because we are so close to seeing each other this summer that i am thinking of all the possible things that could go wrong. the thing that makes me stressed is that he is drinking and going to parties with his friends (girls included) and i just dont know what he is doing or thinking while he is at them. i know i should 100% trust him because he has done nothing in the past but for some reason i cant. my family has also had a history of cheating so maybe the relationships i have been closest to have ended this way and that is why i am nervous. i still love him and know he wouldnt do anytihng to hurt me but i cant shake these unwarranted feelings. any advice? should i talk to him about it or will that just make it seem like its a problem with him, because it really is just my own issue. thanks! (link)
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you just are scared. first of all, you have every right to be worried, but you have no reason to be suspicious of your boyfriend if he has stayed loyal to you. be honest. tell him exactly what you just told me. getting this out will possibly make your bond closer and stronger if the 2 of you know you are honest with each other. if it seems like he doesn't want to talk about it and is avoiding the subject, however, he could be guilty. if this happens, let him go. trust is one of the most important things to have in a relationship. if he is understanding when you are being honest with him, you are on your way to having trust in the relationship. if he is ANYTHING less than understanding, let him go. it's not worth it to be in a relationship without trust, and you have alot of life ahead of you, don't rush finding your true love. plenty of fish in the sea.
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21/F
I've been dating this guy off and on for the last 5 years. I'm in college and he's already got a job in the city so were in different towns at the moment, I had my birthday last weekend and he was suppose to come visit but things happened and I told him to postpone his coming for a day because I was extremely exhausted from studying for a major exam. All I wanted to do was go home and go to sleep, well he didn't take it so well since I've cancelled on him for our past few visits because something always comes up. I honestly didn't think he would take it that badly but he did and ended up being quite mean about it, therefore, the next day I told him I rather him not come cause of the night before. Again he was mad and started calling me names and blowing up my phone, he pretty much ruined my 21st birthday. He then sincerely apologized the next day but told me I wasn't to talk/call him until I was ready to see him and he would come visit the day of rather than making plans ahead of tIme.. The problem is I'm extremely busy with school from now till may and I will never just have a day specified for him... So my question is if I should just let it go and move on and find someone more understanding or continue to try for a relationship even though he won't talk to me until were together.. I think the thing that gets me the most is he knew the only way this was going to work was long distance so he can't expect me to be okay with not talking to him until then, right? I have talked to him since he said that btw but it isn't the seem it's like he just doesn't even make an effort to sound interested in me, so why should I make an effort to make time to see him? (link)
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you should definitly break up with him. he is obviously rude, impatient and inconsiderate. you deserve a guy that treats you the right way who is respectful. second, it doesn't seem like it is the right place and time for you to be in a relationship right now. you seem very focused on your studies, and you don't need a distraction. you are young and have alot ahead of you. it's ok to take your time finding the right guy. there are plenty of fish in the sea...and frankly i don't think this guy is worth it. he seems very short-tempered and disrespectful toward you.
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I was wondering if clorox Bleach works for bleaching your hair or lighting it can anyone tell me I saw a post and someone says it works does it do a good job? (link)
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i would go get it professionally died at a salon. you shouldn't bleach your hair at home because stylists at hair salons know exactly how much bleach to put in your hair and how long for. if you put the wrong amount of bleach, which is highly likely, it could ruin it. it could possibly burn it. once, i was at a sleepover and my friends and i wanted to bleach our hair in order for the dye to show up in our dark hair. i asked a few adults, and they told me to get it done right at a salon. so it does work if it is done right, it doesn't any time otherwise.
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I went on one date with a guy (a friend of a friend) over a year ago. I thought the date went really well, but I never heard from him. My friend says he wants to go out with me again. Should I go on a second date with him or has he lost his chance? (link)
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he has lost his chance. why would you want to go out with a guy who doesn't even have the guts or decency to call you? especially your first impression of him? if he really cared about you, he wouldn't have his friend be the messenger. he should of contacted you himself. if you agree to go out with him again, i feel that it would almost be throwing away dignity. stand your ground. be strong. it may be tempting to call him, but a guy who really cares should make a move to come to you, considering you and him went on a date and had a good time.
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A few months back, a boy from my college started talking to me on facebook. He asked my friend for my name and starting making regular conversations with me being quite flirty and complimenting my looks. He never takes his eyes off me and notices my every move. I went to a party about a month after which he also attended, i ended up having sex with him and spending the whole night together. Ever since this happened, he just gets really shy when he sees me. When we talk, we cant look eachother in the eye, he goes shy but seems like he doesnt want to leave. He only makes eye contact with me if hes far away and when he does he will stare in my face for absoloutely ages until he gets closer he'll go red and look away. Are these signs? Does he like me? i like him alot and im really curious about whether he likes me too. Please help :( (link)
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he might do this because he is trying to avoid an awkward moment, or he likes you and doesn't want to look bad in front of you. be honest with him. tell him how you feel. the biggest risk of all is not taking one. if he doesn't like you back, at least you're not wondering if it could have been. there are plenty of fish in the sea. but if he does like you, there is a chance of you being together. if you don't tell him how you feel, you'll never know if it could of been. everything happens for a reason. have confidence in yourself.
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What should i nickname my bf Bailey? Whats a good nickname for that name?
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Bay
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So me and my boyfriend have been "together" for about 3-4 months. He used to be obsessive over me and want to hangout ALL the time. About 2.5-3 months into our relationship , I guess you could say I started to act more interested and wanting to hangout more. I could tell he wasnt as happy as he used to be so I asked him what the deal was. He told me he basically "calmed down" and isn't as excited to be with me as he used to. I suggested a few weeks of a "break" but he said he didn't want that and he wanted to stay together. Lately we have been hanging out half as much as we usually do, but he swears he still likes me and cares about me a lot. I just don't get how he could be obsessive one day and then not the next day.Is it normal for guys to get like this? I'm afraid to lose him :/ (link)
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ask yourself this...do you want a boyfriend who is playing games with your mind? do you feel alive and happy when you are with him? do you feel a strong connection? if you don't chances are he's not your true love. if it were me, i would move on. don't be afraid to lose him. there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you deserve a guy who really cares about you. don't force the right guy to come along. be patient, take it easy, and he will come to you. everything happens for a reason. don't try to force you 2 being together. from what you are saying, it seems like the love between you and him is forced and controlled and isn't natural. if it is a true love, every minute spent with each other should feel right, natural, and happy. if he doesn't like you as much but doesn't want to break up, he doesn't feel natural and right with you. he is messing with your head. it's his loss if he isn't crazy over you anymore. no guy is better than you. so ending the relationship with him would be best. let the right guy come to you.
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13/f
I'm a freshman this year and I got really close with this senior. I thought we were really good friends, but all of a sudden, he stopped talking to me. I was hopeful, thinking that he was a little busy, and he would just talk to me when he had time. But it turned into months and for awhile, I blamed it all of me until I found out he did the same thing to one of my friends. Then, I realized that he's a player and is so self absorbed with himself that he can't have a true relationship with anybody. So now, we haven't talked in....about 5-7 months. And I'm really in pain. I know that there was nothing I could have done about our friendship, but I still feel like crap when I think about him. Every time I see him, it hurts. And I want nothing more than to get over him. Part of me has, but I feel like I'm holding on to it. I just don't know what to do. (link)
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have confidence. it's obviously not your fault he stopped talking t you. why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is so self-centered? no guy is ever better than you. he only wants attention...don't fall for someone who doesn't treat you the right way. there are plenty of fish in the sea. you have plenty of time in high school to find someone who truly cares about you. don't lose your dignity over him. don't doubt yourself. try the best you can to distract yourself from him.don't worry if you feel like you can't get over him. you will. you just have to find the right guy. but don't try to force it, just give it some time. he will come to you in good time.
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I am sick and tired of being shy and I just recently figured out why I am. I know I have to just accept not everyone in not gonna like me but...It's hard for me. How can I do this? Is there a way to just forget about caring? I have a good set of friends and have no reason to be scared of this but I am and it's an obstical in my life that I want to overcome because it's blocking me from doing what I want to do. Thanks. :D (link)
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Practice makes perfect. Start interacting with people and putting yourself out there. If you are confident in yourself, others will see that. The more you interact and socialize with people, the more comftorable you will feel doing this and the easier it will get. When your more social people will respond in a positive way. If people don't like you, don't let it ruin your self confidence. It is a part of life. Everyone has to deal with people who don't like them, but that's their loss
I hope I helped
Good luck:)
Sparkle26
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it's the scariest thing. i am so afraid of rejection! even when it seems like i have a chance with a guy, sometimes i'll even kind of sabotage things cause i don't want someone else to hurt me. i just wait for the guy to make an obvious move, but that has never happened. but then again, maybe that's why i've never had a boyfriend, despite not being physically unattractive, at age 18 (link)
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be confident in yourself. go up to him and b honest. tell him how you feel. ask yourself..wud u rather never take a chance and there never being a possiblity u r together or never taking the chance and always thinking if it could of been? if he doesnt like you back at least you know that for a fact and arent wondering and there are plenty of fish in the sea. his loss. the biggest risk of all is not taking one.
ihope i helped
good luck:)
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21/F
boyfriend is also 21
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months. I know it doesn't seem long, but we were talking for 3 months before that. but officially been dating for 4 months. anyways, things were going really good we never really fought and if we did we would figure things out pretty quickly. we go to the same college and so we see each other a lot but we give each other space too so we don't get annoyed of each other. 2 weeks ago things started to get a little different and he told me that he just doesnt know anymore. he's super confused with himself and doesn't feel completely happy. i asked if i did anything to make him feel this way and he said no, that it's all him. he doesn't know whats wrong with him and he doesn't know what to do. i asked him if he wanted to break up or be single and he got all teary eyed and said that hurt really bad to hear that. he wants to work things out and wants to still be with me but he's really confused and doesn't know what to do or how to help himself. and neither do i. i have no idea how to help him. he says it's killing him inside because he knows he's hurting me. he said the only thing that bothers him with me is that my mood changes and he doesn't know if he's the one that's making my mood change or what. i've told him that it's never him. it's just school and other things. and i've been trying to change so that my mood doesn't go up and down all the time. he knows i'm trying. he would never cheat on me and i know this for a fact and i would never cheat on him. we both have been cheated on and so we both know how it feels.
the main thing is he just is so confused and doesn't know what he wants. and he just wants to be happy again. i have no idea how to help and thats what i really want to do. i'm worried that he's going to break up with me but i already asked if he wanted to and like i said, he said that he didn't want to and if he wanted to he could of done it already.
i guess what i'm asking is if anyone knows any suggestions of what i could tell him, how i could help, what i can do, or something.. (link)
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i would give him so time to think. stay with him, just keep a distance. if he is alone, maybe he'll figure things out and realize he needs you, or if he needs to go a separate way. tell him it is up to him and that you'll be supportive of his decision no matter what he decides. if after some time he hasn't decided, i think you both should go your separate ways from now and let it be. if by chance this does happen, it will be OK. you have a wonderful life a head of you and starting fresh can have a really positive impact on your life. remember everything happens for a reason and there are plenty of fish in the sea. it shouldn't JUST be based on what's best for him though, you should also take into consideration what you want and what will make you happiest. ask yourself this: "will he have a positive impact on my life?" "does he make me feel happy and free?" "despite his emotions, can i mantain a healthy relationship?" so, basically what i'm getting at is: let him and you take some time to think, keep a distance, don't break up for a little while and give it some time. when you have both come to your decisions, then you can either go your seperate ways or stay together. do what is best for yourself and what you think is best for him. if for some reason you decide to go your separate ways, you have a wonderful life ahead of you and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
i hope my advice helps you.
good luck:)
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Wow, okay so I have alot to say! Ok so I broke up with my old boyfriend because I felt the relationshup wasnt really going anywhere and so I told him I only wanted to be friends. Now, I have a new boyfriend and he is amazing! I love him so much! We hangout really offen at lunch and inbetween classes. Online, we get into fights though but we always find a way to get through them. I could never live without him and he has told me that without me his life would be incomplete. We recently got into a fight that almost cost our relationship. =/ Worst thing ever! We got through it though but now he says that he likes my best friend a tiny bit. I told him it was okay because I love him more than anything and I know most people would be mad but Im surprisingly not.. I never want to loose him. Should I be a bit mad that he likes my best friend? I love him so much and I could never move on, he's perfect for me! Advice? (link)
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you have every right to be mad at him. i can see where you're coming from, but if he really cared about you, chances are he wouldn't have feelings for someone else. when someone loves you, they're devoted to you. you don't want him taking advantage of how patient and carefree you are of him being attracted to someone else.
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Hey there (apologies for the length!)
Hm I don't even know where to start with all of this this..
Okay so basically 7 months ago the night of my 18th birthday I went out with a bunch of my friends to celebrate.(18 is the legal age here) anyway my drink got spiked pretty bad. I suffered a major reaction and doctors say it caused a chemical imbalance in my brain. Basically I totally tripped out I was hallucinating and became super paranoid around people. My mood went from completely up to completely down. I essentially suffered a psychotic break down. All of this couldn't have happened at a worse time as a few days after my birthday I was to receive my exam results and head off to college. I was placed on medication to reverse the effects. Anyway the day I received my results I was still pretty out of it. I did exceptionally well but missed out on my dream course by one grade in a particular subject. So I decided not to go to college this year (given everything that happened I wasn't in a fit state) and to re apply for a similar course next year.
All of my friends got what they wanted and headed off. so basically I'm feeling completely left behind. All of my friends have moved away and begun new exciting lives. We all still keep in contact and they have been extremely supportive over what happened to me but I'm still sad all the time. It kills me hearing about all their stories when they are home at weekends or when we have get togethers. Looking at their photos on facebook I just get pangs of jealousy seeing them with their new friends and I don't want to feel that way. I used to be such an outgoing vibrant girl ready to take on anything excited for college etc. But now I feel like i've been replaced with this shy girl. I get nervous before meeting up with my friends because I worry I won't have anything to talk to them about even though most of the time it goes fine. They even threw me a surprise party to celebrate me coming off the medication a few weeks ago. I just feel like my life was turned upside down. I was soo excited about college. I start next September but now instead of being excited I'm terrified. I don't feel as confident as I used to and I'm so scared I won't make any friends. I also fear I Won't be able for the course work. I feel nervous all the time. I worry i'l never be able to accomplish anything. I worry about silly little things that shouldn't be a big deal but for me they now suddenly are. One friend in particular keeps asking me to visit her in college but I keep putting it off because Im actually scared of traveling on my own! something I used to do all the time!
I used to go out and party all the time and now I hardly ever. The only thing that keeps me going is my boyfriend who has been so amazing to me. I'm just feeling lost. I don't know how to break free from all this and get back to how I used to be?
I suddenly compare myself to people all the time. The medication made me gain weight not a lot but a little to make me feel even worse about myself. Ive come a long way since all this happened but I'm still not there yet. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
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don't let one mistake define your life. you have alot to live for. when was the last time you ran out in the sunshine and took in the beauty of what it is to be happy? imagine yourself at a time when you were happy. you are still the same girl. in order to prepare yourself for college next year, try to explore your surroundings and see the world in a whole new light. maybe there was a reason you made that mistake. when i feel like i'm not myself, turn up the radio and list all my favorite things. i go outside to knock some light back into me. be confident. you can get through this. the bad things in life we get past make us stronger people. don't give up on yourself. in the words of the Beatles, the world is at your command.
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I have an issue. One of my close friends who I've known for many years isn't being very...smart, per say. She hurts me and our other friends mentally and physically, and she makes terrible choices on purpose. She's refused to let our other friends and myself help correct her bad behavior and downhill lifestyle for over a year. I kept persisting, but now I think I'm wasting my time if I keep trying. Should I try to keep helping or leave her on her own? (link)
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i was in a similar situation. my best friend, who i had known since kindergarten, started changing for the worst about 2 years ago. she started intentionally making me feel bad and lower my self esteem. every time i tried to talk to her, she would start laughing and making a joke about what i was telling her. if your friend no longer makes you feel good about yourself and puts you down ask yourself this...is she really your friend? do she really care about you? don't blame her horrible behavior on yourself. you're doing nothing wrong. she has to be responsible for her own actions. a friend, especially a best friend, should always be there for you through the good and the bad, support you, and make you feel good about yourself. it is up to her to change her ways. if she doesn't, its her loss. get another friend who actually cares about you. if she really cares about your friendship, she will come to you and apologize. my friend never realized her mistakes. she continued being the person she turned in to. i had to move on, because i didn't need a "friend" who brought me down. i found friends who cared. surround people yourself with people who care about you. IT'S NOT your fault. some people unfortunately change for the worst.
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what does Lauren mean?
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it means:bay or laurel plant
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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut! (link)
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Don't hate yourself. you are not a slut. you are strong and confident and you can get through this. Mistakes only teach you lessons and make you a stronger and better person because of it. be honest. talk to your doctor right away and tell a trusted adult. don't let a mistake made in the past define you as a person in the future. from now on, just promise yourself you will be responsible and don't have sex again until you're in your 20s. because you have so much to live for!!!! start fresh. turn the next page of your life. everything is going to be OK. if your boyfriend and/or your friends were forcing you in to something you didn't want to do, they don't really care about you. they should care enough to talk you out of having sex at 12, because it is putting yourself at risk and force you to grow up way too fast. if your friend or boyfriend felt it was ok to make you feel bad about yourself, unhappy, and grow up too fast, they were selfish. don't blame yourself for that. you are strong and can get through this if you reach out to your trusted friends and family.
go out there. feel the warm sunshine on your face. be brave. be strong. live the wonderful life you have ahead of you and leave the past behind you by reaching out to the people who really care about you.
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Is this website legit?
http://www.onesourcetalent.com/models/ (link)
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yes
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I'm a 27 yr old attractive female. I'm smart and I have a loving family. I have thought about killing myself since I was 13. I now live in a new city with my fiance, but I know no one here, I'm so lonely and becoming so needy and therefore unhappy. It's not that I was to die so much as I cant go on this way. I don't know if I'm strong enough to pick up the pieces on my own. My fiance says he loves me (he really is the love of my life) but where is he? I don't know, out drunk with his friends somewhere. So, I know it seems ridiculous but remember, I have been thinking this way for 14 yrs, I've thought a lot about it. Any way I can do this somewhat painlessly and not end up in a hospital with brain or organ damage? Please help me (link)
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you have so much to live for. don't ill yourself. do you feel alive and free and beautiful in new york with your fiance? have you ever felt beautiful, alive and free at any time in your life? if you have, think of that time. ask yourself if you rather kill yourself and never see the beauty of life again, or get a new perspective and see the beauty of life...taking you back to that happy time. It is up to YOU. go out there and live. feel free again. it seems like you are in a situation that makes you feel miserable, but you're not a miserable person. list all of the things you hate and all the things you love. ask yourself if you are willing to say goodbye to all the things you love and let the things you hate take those things away from you. be strong. be confident in yourself. walk out in the warm sunshine and take a breath of fresh air...and see the beauty of life .
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There is this puppy i'm attached to. It's up for adoption.
I'm more attached to her than my other dogs.
My mom and me want to keep her, but my dad doesn't seem like he wants to.
My brother likes her, and my other brother doesnt. But my 3 sisters like her. We all want her except 2 people.
Well, here is my point: If I don't have that puppy, I will have NO reason to live. I don't know what to do. (link)
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i went through the same exact thing. i wanted a dog for sooo long. my dad was the only one who was keeping me from getting one. i finally won him over after persuading him and doing things to prove i deserve the dog by doing chores and helping out around the house. if your dad sees you have motivation and that your are NOT giving up he might see how hard you're working and feel you deserve the puppy. i thought my dad would never give in but one day...my hard work paid off! if you have your mom on board, maybe she could talk to your dad and it will help. DONT GIVE UP!
good luck:)
p.s. make an aggreement that you will take care of the puppy.
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I have been with my bf for 3 years. When I met him he was very depressed & not mentally all there so i guided him through the hard times he had & he turned out amazing. Now its been 3 years and a couple of months ago he started to slap & rip my hair when he gets mad! I said I am not going to accept this & left then helped him seek help about his problem. When I began to see improvements in his behaviour I stupidly forgave him & come running back. Now he close fist hits me & I have had enough. Each time I try to walk out the door he gets more mental coz he knos I am the one who helps him. But I dont understand why I have to get a fist to the face when I havent done anything wrong. Should I stay & help him through this like I have been or forget him & move on?? I love him & I kno he has potential to improve its just the waiting & anything can happen from here on end. HELP PLEASE :( (link)
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Get out of the relationship right away. if you don't leave him, you are putting yourself at risk. have confidence. stand up for yourself. you have NO right to be treated that way and deserve better. he shouldn't be taking his problems out on you. its one thing if he has emotional problems and helping him through the bad, but its another thing if he takes out his emotions on you. you deserve better than being a boy's personal punching bag. in the words of bob marley, stand up for your right! there are plenty of fish in the sea, and im sure a wonderful guy will come along that will treat you with respect and make you happy. true love never involves violence. go find your real true love
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