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I feel like my boyfriend doesn't like me as much
So me and my boyfriend have been "together" for about 3-4 months. He used to be obsessive over me and want to hangout ALL the time. About 2.5-3 months into our relationship , I guess you could say I started to act more interested and wanting to hangout more. I could tell he wasnt as happy as he used to be so I asked him what the deal was. He told me he basically "calmed down" and isn't as excited to be with me as he used to. I suggested a few weeks of a "break" but he said he didn't want that and he wanted to stay together. Lately we have been hanging out half as much as we usually do, but he swears he still likes me and cares about me a lot. I just don't get how he could be obsessive one day and then not the next day.Is it normal for guys to get like this? I'm afraid to lose him :/
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I hate to say it-but yeh this is normal.
After the happy clappy stage of 3-4 months shall we say, you arrive at the settle down stage.
This is where the majority of people break up.
It's just because the original excitement and anticipation has gone.
It sounds like he's a little bit insecure to me. Like he's too uncomfortable to be on his own, and so is staying with you just because it looks good. Face it, if this guy really was in the realtionship for the right reasons he'd want to do anything to make it work out.
Whatever you do, staying this way will lead to breaking up eventually. If you suggested a break up for a few weeks and he said no, break up with him. Now, no ones saying its forever, but absense makes the heart grow fonder.
If you want to work it out, the you need to put excitment back in the relationship. Suprise him with sweet gifts and dates you've never done before. Also sometimes its best if you do your own thing during the day and like see each other in the evening, so that you have things to talk about and when you do see each other it'll seem exclusive and special.
Whatever you do, make it a prority to speak to him about this. At least if you try to liven things up then at least you can say that you were too good for him as its not you're fault he can't be bothered.
Good luck :)
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ask yourself this...do you want a boyfriend who is playing games with your mind? do you feel alive and happy when you are with him? do you feel a strong connection? if you don't chances are he's not your true love. if it were me, i would move on. don't be afraid to lose him. there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you deserve a guy who really cares about you. don't force the right guy to come along. be patient, take it easy, and he will come to you. everything happens for a reason. don't try to force you 2 being together. from what you are saying, it seems like the love between you and him is forced and controlled and isn't natural. if it is a true love, every minute spent with each other should feel right, natural, and happy. if he doesn't like you as much but doesn't want to break up, he doesn't feel natural and right with you. he is messing with your head. it's his loss if he isn't crazy over you anymore. no guy is better than you. so ending the relationship with him would be best. let the right guy come to you.
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