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Why do people act like it's so easy to tell a guy that you *like* him?
it's the scariest thing. i am so afraid of rejection! even when it seems like i have a chance with a guy, sometimes i'll even kind of sabotage things cause i don't want someone else to hurt me. i just wait for the guy to make an obvious move, but that has never happened. but then again, maybe that's why i've never had a boyfriend, despite not being physically unattractive, at age 18
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The first and most important piece of advice is one that is admittedly said an awful lot, but is still relevant: Don't ever be afraid of them saying no, please don't be; if they say no then it wasn't really going to go anywhere if they did say yes. Also don't be afraid of saying no (That was my the problem I had, I went from a life in the countryside to that of a city, and being a typical country boy I'm fairly well built and I'm just naturally nice to people) In the long run you will just end up hurting the other person more.
And, just because other people say that it's easy, it doesn't mean that they actually find it easy. If you really do love them then it will be hard to "I love you" to someone and when you do it's a great relief off of your shoulders. Another thing, if you wait for them to make a move they may be doing the same and may think that your not interested in them.
Lastly feeling the need to sabotage a relationship to protect yourself from emotional fallout is natural it happens to more people than you may think, and if they still try to make amends with afterwards then they probably like you either in an intimate way or best friend way, either way you've found a special person! Keep them, they wont try to hurt you.
P.S: Not having a boyfriend at 18 isn't a bad thing, I'd say it's a great achievement.Believe me, I've had countless girlfriends and I'm ashamed of myself, it's not a great feeling, because I know that in some way I've hurt them emotionally. So, holding yourself out is rather admirable. Hope I could help, have a good day :D
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be confident in yourself. go up to him and b honest. tell him how you feel. ask yourself..wud u rather never take a chance and there never being a possiblity u r together or never taking the chance and always thinking if it could of been? if he doesnt like you back at least you know that for a fact and arent wondering and there are plenty of fish in the sea. his loss. the biggest risk of all is not taking one.
ihope i helped
good luck:)
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