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Stay or Go?
I have an issue. One of my close friends who I've known for many years isn't being very...smart, per say. She hurts me and our other friends mentally and physically, and she makes terrible choices on purpose. She's refused to let our other friends and myself help correct her bad behavior and downhill lifestyle for over a year. I kept persisting, but now I think I'm wasting my time if I keep trying. Should I try to keep helping or leave her on her own?
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i was in a similar situation. my best friend, who i had known since kindergarten, started changing for the worst about 2 years ago. she started intentionally making me feel bad and lower my self esteem. every time i tried to talk to her, she would start laughing and making a joke about what i was telling her. if your friend no longer makes you feel good about yourself and puts you down ask yourself this...is she really your friend? do she really care about you? don't blame her horrible behavior on yourself. you're doing nothing wrong. she has to be responsible for her own actions. a friend, especially a best friend, should always be there for you through the good and the bad, support you, and make you feel good about yourself. it is up to her to change her ways. if she doesn't, its her loss. get another friend who actually cares about you. if she really cares about your friendship, she will come to you and apologize. my friend never realized her mistakes. she continued being the person she turned in to. i had to move on, because i didn't need a "friend" who brought me down. i found friends who cared. surround people yourself with people who care about you. IT'S NOT your fault. some people unfortunately change for the worst.
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That really isn't fair that she's treating you all that way. She might be going through something at home which is making her act out the way she does. It's great that you are trying to help her, but their is only so long you can try. Sit her down, let her know you don't like the way she's treating you, which you've probably already done, and tell her you won't be sticking around if she continues it. Also, you might want to talk to a counselor at school and inform them on her behavior, because she really might be having a lot going on that you guys don't know about. You can stay anonymous when you talk to the Counselor, so that your friend doesn't find out. Hope I helped!
-Bri
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Mmmm...this is very serious,too bad I'd say,it's very hard when it comes to friends,so I'd suggest that you look for another kind of help,I mean,professional help,maybe she's suffering a great deal and doesn't know how to ask for help,you amazed me when I read'physically',how come?you should try to keep on helping her,don't leave her alone,this is the moment when she might be needing you the most.
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