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Trust Issues
So i am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. we are in colleges about 1000 miles away from each other. he is such a great boyfriend and tells me every day that he loves me and makes a consistant effort to talk to me. however, lately for absolutely no reason i just have been really stressed out and paranoid about our relationship. we have been long distance for about 6 months and i think it might just be because we are so close to seeing each other this summer that i am thinking of all the possible things that could go wrong. the thing that makes me stressed is that he is drinking and going to parties with his friends (girls included) and i just dont know what he is doing or thinking while he is at them. i know i should 100% trust him because he has done nothing in the past but for some reason i cant. my family has also had a history of cheating so maybe the relationships i have been closest to have ended this way and that is why i am nervous. i still love him and know he wouldnt do anytihng to hurt me but i cant shake these unwarranted feelings. any advice? should i talk to him about it or will that just make it seem like its a problem with him, because it really is just my own issue. thanks!
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To be honest,no relationship can ever work in the distance,I personally have a boyfriend living in the same town I live and lies to me a lot,I don't trust him at all,men are like that,he can love you,though,but if he has the chance to have sex with any girl around him,he'll definitely do it,he's gonna think that the only one is you and the one he trully loves is you,but when it comes to sex he won't care about love anymore,so you have strong reasons to dump him,it won't work,I feel bound to tell you the sad but only truth.
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you just are scared. first of all, you have every right to be worried, but you have no reason to be suspicious of your boyfriend if he has stayed loyal to you. be honest. tell him exactly what you just told me. getting this out will possibly make your bond closer and stronger if the 2 of you know you are honest with each other. if it seems like he doesn't want to talk about it and is avoiding the subject, however, he could be guilty. if this happens, let him go. trust is one of the most important things to have in a relationship. if he is understanding when you are being honest with him, you are on your way to having trust in the relationship. if he is ANYTHING less than understanding, let him go. it's not worth it to be in a relationship without trust, and you have alot of life ahead of you, don't rush finding your true love. plenty of fish in the sea.
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