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hi .... there are two things i dont like much of my personality i am a shy person and very honest, i do tell lies but never to my parents i always follow their rules. i am a teen and my firends always tell me is fine to lie to them but i just dont feel good by lying and its really frustrating because i feel like i am total geek and about the shy thing i just sometimes when i met people especially guys,dont know how to begin or end a conversation please help me should i change? how can i begin a conversation???
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WHAT?! no way.. dont change the way you are , trust me please keep it the way you are. This planet needs more honest and shy people. You have special qualities and you should be proud of it. You can tell so much from your personality that you have. Dont change a thing. And to being a conversation... first like usually should be a hey or hi... then how are you , hows your day, what are you up to , what are you doing, whats up, and then just start talking about something depending on where you guys are :)
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I'm going to be 14 years old in a month, and I just weighed myself, and discovered that I weigh a whopping 115 pounds!!!!! I'm 5'2"...is this overweight? How can I shed 10 pounds?!?!?! (link)
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YOUR FINE! Look up your BMI! Then you can see whats really going on trust me. If you want to loose weight then EXERCISE DAILY!!! But if you get lazy and you like dancing like I have suggested DO ZUMBA! I dont know if you heard of it or not.. but man... zumba is awesome! You can buy it as a game or go to a local gym. Its this dancing fun and you shed up to 1,000 CALORIES IN A DAY! depending on how much effort you put in. Look at peoples testimonies trust me its great :)
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ok um this guy (just turned 16) and he really likes me(im 15 going on 16) and i dont really like him but i wanna be friends, but to him its either date me or noting else. the reason why i dont is cus we already dated and there was to much drama and the day after we broke up i asked him whats up? and he said fucking me!!! also he pretends to be my one of my friends just so he can talk to me (the friend was a guy who likes me too and hess my ex best friend)..so my question is do you got any ideas on how i can deal with this hes my friends cousin (link)
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tell him straight out.. you just want to be friends... thats it not hard to do... well if he acts that way he is immature and is not worth your time at all. Choose the nothing else...trust me when a guy says ''either date me or nothing else'' he is full of it and he doesn't seem even worthy as a friend.Tell your friend to tell their cousin to leave you alone or start acting normally and not being a creep.
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Hai iam a indian girl, 23 year old. I love a guy. He nd his loves me too. But my family hates his family bcoz his mother stays with her second husband. My family thinks he is also a worst guy like his mother, but he is a gem. I unable to tell my parents about my relationship nd his goodness. I want to marry that guy with my family permission. Hey guys pls give me suggestions about my problem quickly. (link)
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So what if his mother stays with her second husband? doesnt mean he will or you will!!! Sometimes people like that... you know their sons and daughters grow up seeing what their mother went through and they don't want to be like that.. I think you should sit down and talk to them about it. I mean its YOUR life.. YOUR marriage.. NOT theirs. I suggest you talk to his parents and try to make a gathering of your parents and his parents. I am sure something will work out. I don't know if you want.. but you should talk to this man you love... It will become great. Just give it time and I think what you just wrote you should tell them...tell them and show them that you and WHY he is such a gem... show them that you really really want this.
Good luck
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I need toloose ten pounds. I was told cutting out carbs and sugar will do the job. So I cut out all carbs and sugar (ill have very minimal amounts)
Its been 3-4 days already and no results. I havnt lost anything ! Not even .1! How is it possible? I cut out carbs and sugar!!! I don't understand and its making me so upset and ruining my self esteem. I want to loose these ten pounds and I'm struggling so much and its not even paying off (link)
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Okay so loose the ten pounds. Okay don't listen to peoples ideas of how to lose weight... especially with cutting stuff like that out. What you need to do is... go back to eating it BUT
dont cut all the carbs and sugars out.. you need to LIMIT it... limit it with all your other foods and most important EXERCISE DAILY! Im talking 2-3 hours a day and no junk food what so ever! Well some junk food.. just dont over do it. Go out and run or even in the house do something that keeps you moving dont sit on your butt asking what to do to loose weight but go out! I would suggest a personal trainer but dang they are expensive so dont worry about that! You have to wait a while to see results.. not after 3-4 days.. it wont happen till two weeks or so. OH!!!! I know! You know what you should do!? Try Zumba? have you ever tried Zumba , you can buy it or you can go to the local gym.. you loose up to 1,000 calories IN ONE CLASS!... well thats putting in effort. I HIGHLY recommend it trust me.. you wont be dissapointed... look up testimonies on people... you can lose WAY MORE then 10 pounds.ITs a great way :)
GOOD LUCK :)
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What does it mean when a person you are dating says "my life depends on you"? (link)
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Well.. depends how long you have been with the person. From what I know... seems a little awkward. If their life depends on you... that means they are not really dependent on their selve and they are relying on you. Seems like this person really well not obsessed,but sure does have feelings for you. This person can either be one of those that fall too quickly and blurt things that aren't true out, actually wants a future with you , or just says it to make you feel better. I think when someone says that they really do have feelings for you and meaning that their life is focussed and surrounded by you and that your the one they will come to for help. You should consider just putting that aside and see if they actually mean it.. most say that.. but little actually fall with the words. If you notice that they are actually legit in saying it... you should talk to them about it. You should talk to them either way. Your asking strangers what it means.. I think personally you should ask them yourself to see what THEY meant actually by it because peoples opinions are diffeernt on what it means to what THAT person who said it meant. It could be made into different context.
Good luck :)
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I met this guy a few days ago and met him once he seemed interested and chased after me to get my name. But He lives a bit away and I have now ay of gettin in touch, I dont even know his name, im failing at this dating thing and it makes me doubt myself, why can't i do anything right, what should I do> (link)
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Well he chased after you , he sure was interested so you must be doing something right! You never know... sometimes living far away does work if both the people are wanting to actually do it. No , don't doubt yourself.. there is no reason to be doubting yourself. There are probabaly guys chasing after you like you said with this guy chasing you after you. Do you like the guy? if you do then you should see where it goes. Well.. you should go out more often to places that are more social and get you up and talking to people especially men. Dont doubt yourself because you wont be able to go far. Remeber no matter what.. if the guy likes you he will for who you are. You can do lots of things that are right. Right now your asking for help which is doing something right. You should not sit here and wait for replies to your question , but go out and see what can happen and what is out there. Go and be very social.. go out with a group of friends and have a blast. Like one of those hangover things a whole group and just go out and have fun. I think you should flirt more often and not just observe guys and what they think BUT interact with them. You only can do that , no one can do it for you. When you will interact with them more you wont be doubting anything... and trust me you might be failing now but you wont be failing soon.
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I am not getting the grades I want nor need. I am currently doing my b.tech from india. However, I can't seem to get A's on any of my quizzes or tests.
I study all the time. In about 1 - 2 hour increments a couple times a day. I am taking org chem 1, physiology, pre-cal, and communications. I am not worried so much about communications and for pre cal i just have to practice. As for organic i do the practice problems in the book over and over again. Then sometimes when the quizzes come i make stupid mistakes. I think i have test anxiety.
And for physiology i record the lectures and listen while in class, then go back over the recording and type out the notes later in the day. I never go out on weekends. I work about 10 hours on weekends, then the rest of the weekend i study. Then I workout and lift weights about 5-6 days a week as well. But thats all i do. I never hangout with friends or anything, shouldn't I be getting A's?!!
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Well just because your not going out with friends and not really a social life doesn't mean you should be getting A's. Maybe you need to check out the test anxiety because maybe thats whats causing you to keep failing. Dont be depressed. I think you should use your school facilities and ask around about good tips on studying maybe your not studying the way you should be... it depends on the person on what and how you like to study. Also, when you make mistakes like through quizzes you might be a bit nervous and you freak out , HENCE the anxiety. I think you should go see a doctor to calm that down.. or just take a breather and tell yourself your going to get through it dont rush through anything just take your time. I am sure your doing everything fine.. but if your studying and putting effort in and your not getting A's.. well I think it might be the anxiety. You should get it checked out.
Good luck
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Ok so here is the situation, my sister and I are best friends like we are really close. I'm the oldest and recently she did something that I thought was really foolish and very dangerous, so I told on her. My sister is a lot more advanced than me as far as sexual things go (I'm a virgin, she isn't) and so I don't know I think the big sister part of me kicked in. She war really mad at me but she isn't big on holding grudges, Do you think I over reacted by telling on her? (link)
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Well.. I mean sooner or later your parents would find out so its not that much of a problem from what I see. I think a lot has to do with just letting go with what she says. Dont worry about her , she will get over it. You did the right thing to tell whats she been up to.. I mean she is younger then you , they have the right to know shes still growing and needs to learn right? Its fine.. you didn't overreact... it happens :) So stop worrying and be proud.
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Ok so me and this guy I like were flirting alot. & we started asking each other questions I asked him if he thinks" he's a good kisser?" he said "yeah maybe I'll show you sometime."
We both know we like each other & were playing to hangout in the next few days @ the lake. I really want to kiss him but I'm nervous. P.s. Im a girl and almost 15. How do I make it were we kiss thou? (link)
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Well... why don't you kiss him? you both like each other right? well then whats the wait? you shouldnt have to wait for ''sometime'' to kiss the person you like. Its the 21st century, girls are allowed to do the first moves. But this is the thing, if you go and kiss him at the lake like you said, if you do kiss him, after the kiss wait for him to make the first move. You can either wait for him to kiss you ''sometime'' or you can kiss him and then wait for him to make the next move :). Where you kiss him is your personal choice and I think when you want to you should.
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I'm 17 & I've cut myself 4 different times I told my mom cause I wanted to cut again & I didn't want to Hirt myself cause I felt if I did it I won't make it .... So I told she cried & said she wil get me help it's Been 5 days & nothing ... I wish I never told so I can cut myselfvin peace cause my grandma told me I can't do she was crying tellin please don't do it again & I can't do that to her yet I wanna cut so bad I wish I never told !!!!!! Why am I like this ?? I know I shouldn't do this to myself & I know I should've like the fact I told but I hate it why ??????? What's wring with me ?????? (link)
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You need to seek help yourself. Dont wait for you mom or your grandma to get you what you need. Its your choice and your body. You are probably suffering from bad depression and something must have happened in order for you to do that obviously. I suggest you need to get yourself together go get councelling and definatley FIND SOMETHING TO DO . When you find something to do... trust me it will make it a lot easier and you won't even think of cutting yourself. You need to get a job or focus on school or go out with your friends. Dont worry ... nothing is wrong with you , you just make some wrong choices thats its though.. its normal ... now its just your turn to get back on your track.
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There is this boy i like, he is also one of my close friends but he is not the same guy as the guy i was talkin about in my other question 'I have a crush on my best friends major crush',i have taken that advice and have gave up on his crazy signs and fighting with my friend for it.
I have liked this guy for a while now,even when i liked the other guy.
He is really sweet and nice to me, we hang out a lot and talk to each other on social networking.
i think he likes me and have been giving lots of signs, i am not sure if askin for his number would be awkward and will make it obvious that i like him or if it would seem like a friendship thing.
We are great friends and dont keep secrets from each other, all of his friends thinks he likes me and my friends think we would make a great couple.
I dont know if i should tell him how i feel or how he would react.
i really like him and am not sure what to do.
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Well you guys dont keep anything secrets like yoiu said , his friends THINK he likes you , your friends telling you to , ALL POSITIVE THINGS! Why not ask for his cell phone? trust me if you ask for it and if he does like you like his friends THINK he does then why not ask? he will give you his phone number without a problem. I think you should ask him for the number.. you asked for the number and now you should wait and see what he does and says... and judging from that wait for him to ask the next move , trust me if he likes you he will come to you :)
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Id like to hear yalls opinions about tongue rings on girls 18+. Ive always wanted one because I loveee piercings/tattoos, I like the way they look, and I always like to have something in my mouth like straws, pens, cigarettes (i really want to quit). I wouldn be that girl whos always showing it off and would want it far back enough where its not terribly noticable.
Do you think its trashy when a girl has a tongue ring? (Like i said, not showing if off but if you just noticed when she was lauging or something)
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What? Don't even ask that question. If you want that tounge ring get it girl! Screw people. There is nothing wrong with getting a tounge ring. People have different styles and tastes for example im not really into that stuff , but heck if you want it go get it! :) I mean yes people will judge you like the earlier comment said about ''must get into a lot of trouble'' ,but oh man don't worry about it. If you want it and how you say you love it , get it :) I actually love it because you are expressing yourself
Its your choice and im sure you would be happy:)
Good luck!
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how do i know that a guy likes a girl?
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Hm.. well there is a lot of different signs. If he invites you to hang out with his friends, or the fact he looks and smiles at you. If he tries to talk to you somehow. Then again, be careful into thinking that even though he looks at you and smiles it might not mean he likes you. Most of all, a guy will like a girl if he makes an effort into seeing you and asks you to hang out or the obvious, go on a date. When a guy really likes a girl, he will show it and you will know.
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do spacers hurt when you get them on?
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Oh I have gotten spacers before. From what I can recall trust me, it will just hurt the first day or two and then you will be use to it and soon enough you will feel like you don't even have spacers :)
Its fine and like the other person said , it will be worth it and when you smile your teeth will shine which will bring out your face and everything. Trust me nothing to worry about!
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theres this guy in my school hes gr 11 and im gr 9
beginning of the year i had a bf and we had to break up cause he was going back to his country. but than after he went i realized that i actually love this guy . we talked only twice on facebook :(
i know he doesnt like me
my classmate is hanging out with him but my classmate is such a bitch . me and him we used to be friends but than we fought and now we have it each other obviously
in school he keeps screaming sayin bitch and all when the guy i love is beside him :( i know he doesnt love me what should i dooooooooo :( (link)
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Well. okay all I have to say is that if you know he doesn't like you why are you trying? you cant force someone to like you... it is either talk to him or move on ... because dont call anyone a biotch or anything , but you need to be precise... and how do you know he doesn't love you? just please be careful!
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I am from india. My boyfriend is unhappy with me. All I can do is cry everyday. I dint treat well in the beggining. Gave my friends more importance n all..I cheated on him once and begged for forgiveness. He said forgave me. But everytime we fight he brings it up. Feels like shit.why is he still with me if he can't forget wat I did. He says he can't sleep without drinking every nite,make him very unhappy and disturb him a lot. But he says he can't be without me. I'm trying to change to make him, us happy but all he says is he's not happy with me. It hurts so much!! I really don't wanna live a life thinking how unhappy I made him. If I die maybe in my next life atleast ican be a better person. When we started going out he was the nicest guy ever! Then I changed. God knows why. I was really rude to him amd fought a lot. And he changed after that too seeing me all differnet.we both are so fuckn unhappy. He doesn't easily forget any small mistake I make. Anything I say by mistake also he'll fight with me. If there is any advice to make things normal again, please give me. Or else atlease tell me how to kill myself. Whatever I try I'm scared I'll end up alive and be a huge disgrace for my family.I really love him so much and I'd even die if my non existence makes him happy too. Its because of me he's like this now. I can never forgive myself. Never. (link)
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No one is perfect..... everyone makes mistakes. By killing yourself? what is that going to do to him..he will just become a drunk addict... he will never let it go.. trust me it might be like that now but he needs to let go of it. If he loves you..well he obviously does if he is still with you , he is just not over of how he got treated.. but you need to remeber when your in a relationship.. please do not cheat because the truth is YOU WILL GET THE KARMA back... you love him so much.. you say well you do because you care..but please dont kill yourself... it is not right and it it against God's word. If you really want to have a good thing to go on between you two , please sit down and talk to him about how you feel.. talk to him and show him , well show him more then talk with him because actions speak louder then words. You wont kill anyone or yourself because it is against the coming back to the circle of life you can end up worse then you are by killing yourself. Please for the sake of him and for you and for everyone do not have those thoughts, please repent. And please talk to him , tell him cry show him how much you care about him. I understand that is not a small mistake that is a bigger mistake.. but you cannot go back in time.. please do not do that again if you love him so much.. you shouldn't be cheating on him.
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I am a 21 year old female having no kid,inlove with a 28 yr old guy with 2 kids.we've dating 4 almost abwt a year,and he's also inlove wit the mother of the kids..we r in da sme flat and da mothr is livin in far in anada village while we r in town,but evrytym whn she visit ma bf i always have to be alne no matter she gonna sty 4 a mnth??he dnt cl nor cum 2 see me? And he does'nt even tel me abwt his plnz 4 da future...wts da best way dump or be patient?? (link)
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Wow.. you should know this answer... DUMP! Get AWAY FROM HIM! in love with the girl of the kids? not only that not telling you the future?... have to be alone? does not want to show you off? oh wow.. please girl you can do SOOOOOO much better then this guy... PLEASE dont waste your time.
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Well there's this guy who's close to my family. He's about 2 years older than me and I don't really see him that often. The thing is, I keep on having this feeling that he likes me more than in a 'friendly' way. Some reasons are: he always says 'hi' and my name to me whenever he see's me. He also smiles at me most of the time. He once touched my arm (it may have been to get my attention), but it was in a really sweet way. Also, he used to always stare at me and sometimes it was like we were staring at each other for ages (but maybe its just my imagination).
Anyway, so do you think he has feelings for me or am I just overreacting? (link)
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Well.. the fact you said he says your name.. he touches your arm... smiles... those are all those signs that he likes you , but might be just REALLY friendly.. I mean you never know.. I think like the other person says he does like , I agree with the other person saying that he does have feelings just no idea how to express it.. just please be careful! You are not overreacting on anything... it's clear what he says.
Now it is just up to you if you like him or not!
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Alright, here it goes. I like a guy (yes, I’m a girl), and it’s hard to tell if he likes me. We’ve been talking on Facebook for the past three months. He also goes to my school. A few weeks ago, I told him I liked him, but before he said anything I asked if we could just stay friends. He said friends is good. I mean, he probably doesn’t like me. He’s two years older than me, and we’re complete opposites. He’s a football/basketball player, and all the girls looove him. Me? I’m the quiet freshman that’s nothing like him. We run in different circles, you might say. I mean, I’m sure he only talks to me still to be nice… right? That’s why I think he doesn’t like me. But part of me thinks he does because he’s flirty a lot when we talk. And my friend knows him really well and told me that he only flirts with girls he at least has a little thing for. She wouldn’t lie either.. she’s a little too honest sometimes. Before I told him I liked him, he would literally stare at me at school like, in the hallway. Whenever we walked by each other, it’d be kinda like a staring contest. Haha. But after I told him, he wouldn’t even look at me anymore. I was sure that he didn’t like me, and he didn’t want to lead me on. About a week after all of this happened, he walked by me and smiled and did a little wave. Yes, I’m sure it was to me because we were the only people there. Maybe he did it to be nice? Or maybe he didn’t do it when there were people around. I don’t understand.. if he didn’t like me, he wouldn’t waste his time talking to me, and he wouldn’t smile/look at me. (Oh by the way, he started looking at me again). But if he did like me, he would tell me. What I think is that maybe he just is unsure of what his friends will think/say if he dated me. Like I said, we’re complete opposites. That’s why I’m surprised he even talks to me. And seriously, he didn’t say he did/didn’t like me when we were talking about it… so that probably means he doesn’t like me, but he didn’t want to hurt my feelings… right? But another thing. I actually asked him one time why he always confuses me like this, and he goes “reasons”. He’s stupid. He always “beats around the bush” but never gets to the point. Sometimes he acts like he doesn’t like me. Other times, he looks at me a lot, flirts with me, smiles, and whatever else. He’s so confusing! And I want to just ask him about it, and I want him to tell me how he really feels about it. But I’m scared that if I bring it up again, he’ll get annoyed and he just won’t say anything back (on Facebook, of course). Maybe I’ll be surprised and he’d say he likes me, but I highly doubt that will happen. I want answers. I know I shouldn’t demand them, and I should just wait. But if I don’t bring it up or ask him about it, we may never talk about it again. That’s another thing. I start every conversation. I mean, he did once, but that doesn’t count. Haha. But seriously!! If he felt something, he’d start the conversation at least a couple times, right? I mean, you’d think he would. But since he doesn’t say anything first, I often get the feeling that he just doesn’t want to talk to me. So I usually take a huge risk and say something to him, and we end up talking for 2 hours, or even longer. If he didn’t want to talk to me, he wouldn’t talk to me for that long. Even if he is nice, he wouldn’t do that just to make me happy. Maybe he got turned off when I told him I liked him. Maybe he thought I was being too sudden or something..? I don’t know what‘s going on in his head! I know, I know, boys are confusing. I understand that. But they can’t all be THIS confusing..
Help? … Please..?
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Yeah most guys are confusing , another reason why they suck. So , first of all , trust your own instinct. I mean first off, the only way to find out if he actually has a ''thing'' for you is to go and be patient. If he comes to you like smiles , and talks to you FIRST on facebook ,not you because you said he did just once.. not good enough. You have to let him come to you that is the only way you can really find out if he has a thing for you. Forget the whole does he like me? oh he smiled at me , oh he doesn't talk to me , oh sometimes he seems like hes not interested in me... that is all bologne. The only way is for him to just come to you. Maybe he does just flirt with you and what not maybe your firneds right only flirting with girls he likes... or has a thing for... if you believe that that is up to you. Just please do not get hurt... I mean he might like you maybe he is just in a phase where hes confused if he likes you or not or maybe at times he has those feelings and other times it just dissappears... I think you should just not worry about it so much and put him aside. If he does like you and has a ''thing'' for you let him come to you.
- Its better for him to wait for you then you waiting on him..
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