Well, I'm a serious sometimes funny type of person and usually my problem evolves in my love life :) ain't as lucky as you are.lol. I'm 16 and somewhat emotional. They say one of my assets is being sensitive to the feelings of others and one of my bad habits is playing with my hands while looking for words.
E-mail: phinyf@lycos.com
Gender: Female
Location: Philippines
Occupation: student
Age: 16
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Member Since: April 13, 2005
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up because he stalked me and he still kinda does.he got mad becuase i hung out with this guy down the street who is 15.me and the guy hung out alot by ourselves and we never did anything like that.my (ex)boyfriend always accused me of doing things with him.not just him but a bunch of others guys and the guys who he thought i was doing stuff with stop talking to me because my ex boyfriend is 6'5 or 6'6 so none of the guys wanted to get in fights.was i right for breaking up with my boyfriend?i was really missing my guy friends=( (link)
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If you really love your boyfriend then let him understand that you're just friends with the other guys. Maybe you were flirting with them that's why ofcourse your boyfriend got jealous but if that's the reason why you broke up with your boyfriend then it's really very shallow reason. If you're missing your guy friends than your boyfriend and you don't have any feelings for him so go on and tell your boyfriend that you're not her girlfriend anymore and be with your friends but if you still have feelings than maybe you can save your relationship by letting him understand.
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i cant tell u my name>>>im 14 years old, im not in a relationship right now..ther is this guy i haev known for along time n that i kind of have a crush on..he says he is getting married to a girl that loves him but he does not love her..he has ruined his life by doing a whole lot of stuff. he is in love with one of my close friends but she wants nothing to do with him..so he thinks gettign married n moving far away is a good idea. now i want him to knwo that i love him very much n care for, him but i just dont know hwat to do know..HELP (link)
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I think before he'll go and get married if you really love him then tell him before it's too late. Don't follow me that when it was too late then I really regret not saying my feelings. So I know you'll regret it too. If you can't say it first then show it to him in little ways then maybe that time he'll understand what you're feeling. Take the chance. You'll never know what will happen. Good luck!
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Theres so many drugs and violence and sex in my school i some times feel left out and want to join the crowd by smoking or drinking or having sex i mean my friends do it and so do my brothers they seem to get all the girls to like no girls like me but they all like my brothers and my friends
Should i join the crowd and get the hot girls?
or
Should i stay sober and not have sex ?
Signed ~Very Confused~ (link)
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Yes, they're right. It's your choice if you'll do that but it's better to stay in heaven alone without any worries than go to hell with many friends but have many worries. Using drugs is very risky and I think you shouldn't use it just to be "in" the group and I think you shouldn't also join the crowd. What if the girl will get pregnant or worse you'll catch a disease or something? You don't have a problem with that now since you aren't in the crowd yet but once you're "in" you'll get more problems than you have right now. Concentrate instead on your studies and leave the others alone if they won't listen to you. If you can't save them, save yourself.
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well i have a best friend you can call her marie. we went walking one day and she is young but,her x saw her and walked with us they started flirting i dont mind that but then he told us he was going to show us his old hang out it was a old shed he started telling her to give him a lap dance and she did well then i walked off because i got scared she would go to far i did not know what to do .so i went back 2 the shed and they were laying by an old boat with her shirt off.i had a cell phone with me so did she i tryed to call her and tell her i was going to leave her but he took her phone out of her pocket.the only good thing was he brought protection.
also she almost did it with her boy friend to night.please tell me something i can tell her or,should i tell an adult?? (link)
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Tell her, if she's ready for the consequences of what she's doing then that's the only time she can go on. What if she'll get pregnant accidentally because of passion, they forgot to use protection? tell her these consequences and if she'll not listen to you then it's past your hands. As a friend, you have done your responsibility.
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how early can you tell if you are pregnant? I am 16 and i am on the patch, i got off my regular schedule of the patch a month ago or so. The past three days i have had nausia and stomach aches, and they feel different than i have ever had. I also just have a gut feeling i might be pregnant, i jsut bought a pregnancy test tonight, and i plan on takeing it toamrrow morning. IT is one of those 5 days before your missed period, and today is fri and i should be getting my period on sun,mon, or tues. I can't wait though, im really nervous. and i am wondering if it does come out negative tomarrow, if it could be wrong just because of how early it is?
now also, do i tell the guy i'm sleeping with? because i am afraid he will not like me ne more, and i am pretty sprung off of him right now. i mean i know that if i am pregnant its early and i could probably take a pill, but either way i am not haveing a baby so is there even a need to let him know? he is jsut gunna get all worked up about it and upset, and he ahs a lot going on right now as it is. (link)
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You need to calm down first and don't think of anything else except doing that. After calming down, find the results. If the result is positive then don't freak out. Decide what you want to do. If there's a way that you can save the baby then don't kill it. Remember, both of you decided to have sex. But if the result is negative thank God for that and that's a lesson learned. Don't have sex when you're not ready for the consequences.
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Ok I went to a school dance at my school like a month ago and I met one of my best friend's friends and the minute I saw him I totally liked him, later on we danced and he stared at me the whole time while we were dancing... does this mean something?! he smiled and after we danced he came over to talk to me more! Also any tips for getting a guy?! (link)
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I think he likes you too. It's pretty obvious you know. Just be by yourself I mean act like yourself because it seems that this guy that you like likes who you are. So don't change anything.
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My back is itching like mad!!!!!! I don't have a back scratcher, and I can't go out and get one! What else can I use!? PLEASE HELP.. I'M GOING INSANE!!! (link)
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I think you need to use a medicine that can help in lessening or making the itch gone. The name is Calladryl. It's very effective. Hope it'll help!
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hey everyone....my birthday is coming up and i don't know what i want to do for a birthday party. Anyone have any ideas? Try not to say anything TOO expensive....but don't just say "have a party at your house" .... like be specific... please help! (link)
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Maybe you can have a unique birthday party. If you want, then you can have a overnight camp beside the beach with your friends and bring along some food. In the morning, you can have a contest and some prizes to those who'll win. In the night, you can have a night swimming and I think it'll be a great experience you know. However, if you don't like that idea then when you have your birthday party at home then you'll be the host since it's your birthday. Organize games, song and dance numbers and etc. Advance Happy B-day!
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OmG! There's this girl that goes to my school, she's one of my best friends. But it seems that she wants to be exactly like me. She bought the same exact digital camera I had, the same battery charger, she has the SAME necklace I have, and the same exact purse. I usually don't get mad over this stuff. But now she's asking for the same cellphone I have. Am I over exagerating? (link)
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I think she idolizes you that much. Don't get angry to her. Maybe she really finds you pretty cool than the others that's why she's following whatever you'll wear or the things you buy for that matter. When she will ask you next time as to where you bought your things then maybe that's the time you can ask her why she always like have the same things you have. Then tell her it's better to be unique than duplicating others.
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I have this friend (( we will call her Lihn )) well she hasreally been geting on my nerves latly and I dont wana be mean and tell her buzz off because I am geting fed up with you so " GO AWAY " i dont wana say that cuz i still wana be her friend but like not hang out every day like we used to. And also if I tell her, her boy friend is like my best guy friend and I dont want him to get mad at me for telling her that or what ever! Plz help me I dont know what to do (link)
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There's another way that you can leave you for awhile yet she'll not get angry at you and that is to tell the truth. Tell her in the best way possible that you need space or if you really can't tell it to her directly then find excuses. Like if she'll ask you to go out with her then tell her you have some things to do or you'll go somewhere. If the time comes that she isn't getting to your nerves then that's the time that you can go back to her. It's a matter of deciding. For me option #1 is better but if you're afraid to hurt her then choose #2.
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I have been dating a woman for a year now. We have shared so much with one another, love happiness, and even upsets from other people, but at the end of everyday we could each say that we were in love and truly mean it. Then out of the blue, she told me that she wasn't sure about how she felt, becasue she is returning to college in august, and we will be going to sperate schools. But it hurt her to say it, becasue she cried. We believe in morality so absolutely nothing happened physically, but emotionally we were there. I have tried everything about explaining how I felt and how she felt, she just refuses to listen to me. How to I get her to see how she truly feels? She is the only person to ever of love me, and I can't lose her. What do I do? I am a male, of 22. (link)
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I'm not that well experience as you are but I want to say that maybe you should prove how great your love is to her. Not only that sacrificing for her sake will maybe open her eyes to the truth that she loves you too. If there is still hope then try again to talk to her. Don't give up. Make her realize that you really love her so much not in words but also in actions.
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my boyfriend and i broke up on monday. and i knew it was gonna hppen since a week and a half ago. but. i still like him. and i need to get overhim, hes a very bad person. i need to stop thinking about all the good feelings and times we had together. because i start crying again. i want to be over him. i wake up every morning with a heavy heart and i dont think he even cares. thats what gets me too. any advice on how to forget? (link)
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Like you, I long to forget someone who have broken my heart. I know it's really really pretty hard. Many things remind me of him and maybe it applies to you too and like you, I also have a bad day to start with. Whenever I go outside, It's like I really wanted to see him but I know it's hopeless. In the first few weeks, it'll be really hard for you but as time passes by, like they said time heals all wounds. Don't push yourself to forget him. Instead you'll just forget him when you're ready to forget him. Slowly, pick things that he has given you or reminds you of him and dispose or hide it. Be sure not to open it again otherwise the pain will start again. It's a painful process but worthwhile to start living without him.
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i recently went on vacation to visit my brother. my brother is a marine. so i met other marines and i met one of his friends and we hit it off. the problem is that i have a boyfriend of 9 years. we have three kids together. but i have no sexual intrest in him at all. i felt this way before i went on vacation. we are supposed to be getting married in july. what should i do?? (link)
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I think you should tell the friend of your brother that you have 3 kids with another guy. By now, you should choose between your boyfriend of 9 years or the guy you just met. Sometimes when we lose someone, that's the time that you'll realize how much that person means to you. So you should be careful in choosing. 9 years is already a long-term relationship and it'll just come to nothing if you'll choose the friend of your brother. But if you really really wish to choose the friend of your brother, make it sure that he knows that you have 3 kids and also he welcomes you inspite of that. Remember having interest on someone because of sex is not a guarantee of a solid relationship.
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why is it that sometimes when i'm near the computer my ears start ringing? like.. theres this high pitched beep and it won't stop until i get away from the computer. i'm not asking how to prevent it but i mean, it would be nice. but all i'm really curious about is why my ears are ringing when i'm near a computer. well thanks in advance, bye (link)
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Maybe because your ears are sensitive. There are some people like that. Computers are very complex. I'm sorry I don't really know much as to why that happen since I haven't experience that but I hope it helps.
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I was going out with this boy for 2 months and I decided it was best we brake up and stay friends but when I broke up with him I thought he was going to doit and the same day we broke up he got together with his ex.When I found out I fell and started crying I still do cry about it when something reminds me of him I really want to stop and move on but I still see him at school and all I want to do it get with him again but I don't know what to do I miss him so much and I still care about him as much as I try to find a reason to hate him.Please help!!! (link)
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In the first place, why did you broke up with him if you aren't sure of your feelings? Well, we can't change that but I think it's because when we lose something/someone that's the time we realize how important it is in our lives. I myself had been in a process that really really hurts. Forgetting someone you really care about. Like you, I cried many many times but I can't change anything with that instead I became stronger and time will just heal. But if you want to give one last try, then you can approach him and see if he still have feelings for you. If he made it clear that he doesn't like you anymore or if you see that there's really no hope, that's the time that you give up. In my part, I didn't try to save my relationship so it was really painful since I didn't try and now I keep wondering what if I tried? I hope it wouldn't happen to you.
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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?
signed congused GIRL (link)
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I think you should clarify to your friend that you just like your guy friend only as a friend and not exceeding that and you don't have any plans to take him away from her. That way maybe you can stay friends/bestfriend between the two. You can also help her get closer to him so that she'll really realize that you treat him as a friend only.
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I met up again with a boy I had been talking to online for a while an hadn't seen in a bit. He was totally ecstatic to see me! He gave me the best hug of my life and all. But ever since, our conversations have been duller and there are more gaps. He told me before we met that he was starting to really have a serious crush on me, and I felt so happy because I had liked him for a while. But I can't tell if I did anything wrong or anything. Is he losing interest in me? How can I tell if his crush is growing, shrinking, or not progressing? (link)
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You will know if his crush is shrinking if his answers are like no consideration to your feelings. They aren't nice anymore and not at all entertaining. They're boring and he doesn't care if he'll talk to you once in a blue moon. You'll know if the crush is growing if he makes it to the point that he talks to you everyday or if not everyday then he always finds a way for you talk together. You'll know if the crush is not progressing if it's still the same. He's not getting sweeter and the time he spends with you is still the same.
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My life is running on a basis of two things-acting and writing. There are (obviously)other things in my life, but these seem to be my strongest activities. I have had major roles in plays and have been very sucessful with writing as well, winning a $125 prize, a newspaper contest, etc. They are both things that I love doing and are good at, and find it hard to decide hich one I shopuld focus on. I would really like to choose one so that I may start to try out for plays or write for the paper or something, but I find it hard to decide. I am a straight A student, so grades shouldn't be a problem. Please help!
~WILL RATE 5'S!!!!~ (link)
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We don't know what you really wanted to do. But you're lucky to be a jack of all trades you know. It depends on you on what you wanted to do the best. Acting is really nice. You've got to act something that's different each time. On the other hand, writing uses imagination or facts. You're good at both but what would give you the most benefits? Acting or writing?
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No matter what i tell myself to do. I can't do it. I like this guy. I say to myself I'm going to go say hi to him, but when i see him i can't. I feel weird saying hi to someone that i don't have eye contact with. what do i do to get him to want to talk to me and look at me in the eyes not stare at me when he thinks that i'm not looking. what do i do? (link)
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I think he's shy to talk to you because why would he look at you when he thinks you're not looking. That's one of the signs he likes you. It's just normal that if you'll see him you'll be afraid of his rejection. But if you're ready to talk to him then talk to him about what he's bringing in his arms like for example he is bringing books then ask him are you going to the library that kind of topic. I myself have the same situation. But you're lucky he's still there within your reach. Mine? God knows where he is, but me no. I wasn't able to say my feelings or even talked to him you know and now I regret it but I've spent endless nights crying and getting desperate to find him. Now, I've accepted it. So while he's still there then talk to him and befriend him. It'll be all right, you'll see.
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why is it that guys say thingsto the girl to get what they want out of a relationship, but when that relatioship is over or they don't get what they want, they brush it off like they never said it? i am thoroughly confused by this. if you know why or think you do, please explain it to me. thanks in advance.
confused & hopeless (link)
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They do that because ofcourse they're desperate to get something out of that relationship fast. After that, if they won't get it then they wouldn't accept the responsibility of what they've said. In short they're not true to their words. They're not sincere in what they're saying. They just said it to get what they want. If you've encountered someone like that then try to distance yourself. Everything they'll say may or may not be true and you'll find yourself asking if what he's saying is true or not. Men like that are complicated. But sometimes there are exceptions to the rule. Some realized their mistake before it is too late but some wouldn't change.
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