15/f
theres a girl at my school who i used to be good friends with at the beginning of the year. its my first year at a new school, so i was making friends. one day, she decided to flip on me, and cuss at me, calling me all these horrible names and trying to offend me. although, it didnt bother me too much, just the fact that she was picking on me. it stopped for a little while, and i talked to other people, and just made more friends. yesterday she writes on my facebook wall accusing me of telling another girl that she was talking bad about her. when i NEVER did such a thing. i have no reason too, why should i talk about someone who i have no desire to like? but, then today, she keeps bringing it up and calling me all these rude things. im friends with a lot of her friends, so i sit with her at lunch. not next to her of course. i know i shouldnt be scared to stick up for myself, but i am, and im usually not like this. if she says something to me in school tomorrow, should i say something back, or just ignore it? people tell me to ignore it, which is what i did for the first time it happened, and it seemed to go away, but, i dont want her thinking im super nice and will let her walk all over me. when she was rude to me over facebook, i was rude back. i think its just when im in person.
anyone have any ideas or advice on what i should do about this situation? please dont say "be friends" because we both really dont like eachother, but this whole thing is about something so pointless.
I say ignore her for the most part. If you decide to speak up for yourself, be calm about it. If you did nothing wrong then you don't have anything to prove. She's doing it for a reaction which you shouldn't give her. Girls can be vicious.
I wouldn't bother with her anymore. Hang out with anyone and don't acknowledge her.
By not responding doesn't give an appearance of "I let people walk all over me" That's not how I would view it. It just makes me think that you don't care what she has to say and you're not going to bother to respond to her BS.
If you ignore her and give her no reaction then there's no satisfaction on her part. Eventually she would give up.
I would delete her from facebook or at least block her to show that you have no concerns for her.
There might be a reason behind her behavior. It's a pretty common situation.
I agree with xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx:
"If you keep your cool she'll be the one freaking out and will look like the idiot."
I've seen this happen many times and the one that causes scenes usually loses friends. If you don't like someone you usually don't pay attention to them. But for any other reason, like jealously for example, a person would hang on/fight/etc.
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Okay so I'm 18. I started my period when i was 13 and it's always usually been regular.
In October last year I got my period 2 times which my mum said can happen(its called an early period) so I didn't get my period in november and the doctor said It's because when i got my period early the month before and twice, it messed up my cycle a little. On December 30th i got my period which lasted the normal amount of days for me but On January 30th this year I didn't get my period. I'm about 3 days late and i know for sure I'm not pregnant. I'm suppose to be stayin at my boyfriend's house next week but now I don't want to incase during the day i get my period and i don't realise until we have sex or something, cause' it would be embarrassing.
Is there any way at all that i can make my period come on it's due date?
Get on the pill. Irregularity should be a good enough reason to get on it. That way you are more prepared.
Don't worry about it. Keep an eye out but continue with your plans. If you're good to go, then have sex. If you bleed a bit and it's on the condom (which i hope you would be using :P), don't be embarrassed, just say he hurt you. haha
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I have a lot of solos in my band class this year. And whenever I play, my face turns bright red, no matter how high the note. So If I have a solo, all the attention will be on my red face!! Does anyone know how I can just relax when I'm playing?????
What instrument do you play?
It happens to people. You can't help it.
If it bothers you a great deal, try wearing a powder foundation (or liquid) to cover up.
My face used to get red randomly and now my skin looks all 'neutral'
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From being in the band, I've gotten a lot of irratation, blisters, and cuts on my lips. Now they are large and kind of misshaped. Is there any way I could bring down the swelling so I look normal again??
You need to carry chapstick[s] with you.
Wrap some ice cubes in a towel and apply to your lips.
OR
You could put a towel in warm water for 15 minutes and hold to your lips. The heat will reduce the blood in the area and swelling should go down.
Try using a medicated lip balm like Blistex. I think there's a regular stick and a roll on liquid one. Carmex is good too.
Drink more water and get more of Vitamin C & B.
If the swelling doesn't go down in a few days, it may be a viral infection.
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People say my eyes are really pretty in the light; they say they look like the inside of a kiwi and they sparkle. Is there any make up (no eyeshadow) that would bring out that characteristic??
Chocolate brown eyeliner will make your eyes pop. Black *might* be too harsh, depends on what you like personally.
If you decide to use eyeshadow: browns, golds and sometimes plum look great.
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I don't have time for a shower in the morning, so I take one before bed. And sometimes I'll wake up and my hair is frizzy. Is there a quick way to bring down the frizz????
Wrap your hair in an old t-shirt while it's drying. If you must use a towel, don't rub- just wrap and let the towel soak up the water.
I've tried that Frizz Ease serum and it's okay, just gives off this greasy feel/look (hair and hands)
Sometimes mousse makes your hair frizzy.
Rinse with cold water and try finger combing instead of using a brush.
A good flat iron can bring down frizz.
You might have damaged, dry hair and/or split ends. Try a deep conditioner treatment once a week.
You could mix some conditioner & a little Extra Virgin Olive Oil into a bowl. Heat it up in the microwave for 10 seconds and there's a cheap hot oil treatment. You could do without heating it up and do an overnight treatment during the weekend.
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I'm a 15 year old female physically active with very soon-to-be 18 year old guys. One is a fuck buddy who raped me at age 14 but for some reason after it all happened I was too confused to leave. The other's my good friend. They're both 18 in less than a month. Is this illegal and, if so, am I putting either of them in any danger?
thanks
Rape is illegal.
An adult having sex with a minor is called statutory rape and it's illegal.
It does not matter if you are a week or so away from your 18th birthday, it's still statutory rape. It also does NOT matter if you gave that person consent either.
If you say you are having sex with an 18 year old, they WILL put that adult under arrest and try to do a rape kit on you. (Witnessed this)
Drop the rapist. It's not unusual for someone to willingly continue having sex with the person they got raped by. You were forced against your will. It's not right. A real friend or good person would not do that. If you can't get the guy out of your life then try getting the cops involved.
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okay boyfriend trouble. i've been dating this guy for about a month now and im a little confused. i can tell he has very strong feelings for me and he knows i have strong feelings for him too. but he hasn't said i love you yet.. i don't get it. i mean all my ex's had said it way earlier than a month. he's almost said it like 3 times but i have this wierd feeling telling me he's afraid to say it cause he doesn't know what my reaction will be. i know im intimidating at times but i try to soften my expression whenever im with him. what can i do to make him not scared to say it? without losing my way of spitting game and without saying it first. any advice would be grand:) thank ya.
My boyfriend said that within a week of dating and I told him to stop. I've watched many relationships end because things were rushed.
He hasn't said it for a reason. I think that's a good sign considering you have been dating for about a month. Every person is different.
Some are waiting for that right moment to make it special or don't want to say it to avoid any possible awkward reactions. Cause I'm sure everyone has heard "she/he said it too soon and the other person freaked out" thing.
I didn't want a relationship that said that within the first few months because half of the time you are still getting to know that person.
Even if you have known that person for awhile (months-years) a relationship is still a big step and saying it could be intimidating on it's own.
You should say it when you know the feeling is mutual or when you've dated for many months.
You should try not saying it the first time in this relationship and see how it goes. He's with you for a reason though, just remember that. He likes you and cares about you. Waiting can be good.
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I read that you wrote once, "I used to have that problem and my boyfriend broke up with me over that.. because he thought he was a disappointment when he couldn't see me. Don't get upset.. look forward to the day you see each other. Give him some space or if you are too clingy, he might get annoyed. So do your own thing.. like rent some movies, play a game or read. Plan a date for you and him, something special and it will be worth it. This worked for me. The longer you don't see each other.. the more he would miss you and then he would be the one trying to hang out with you."
Did it work? We have a date planned for saturday just me and him, to have alone time. I've already backed away and given him bro time, and scaled my text messages. I just wish I didn't feel so stupid that I actually have to monitor myself over this. Any tips?
It worked back then when I was still dating that guy. Eventually it just turned into a habit and I didn't come off as clingy into my next relationship
I think what you are doing right now is great. Keep yourself somewhat occupied and have a life outside the relationship. The longer you date someone these things sort of fall into place without having to think too much into your actions.
Clingy just gets bad when you call over 5 times when you know they are out watching a movie or something. That sort of thing.
Hanging out with your own friends is a good sign. It's pretty common for couples to stop doing that. Works for some, doesn't for others.
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You heard it right! I can't believe it but I am very allergic to earrings. My ears are pierced so what do I do now? Do I just let them heal over or is there something else I can do?
It could be an infection.
I wasn't allergic to nickel until around 5th grade. It would be constantly irritated, crusty and itchy. You could try soaking your ears in sea salt to soothe it and help it heal. If it doesn't get better in a week or so. You should try getting titanium or hypoallergenic earrings at like Walmart/Target/Other cheapy jewelry stores.
http://www.simplywhispersstore.com/
You could go to a real piercing/tattoo shop and get good quality titanium earrings.
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I am looking for a new line of hair shampoos/treatments. I need a new line that suits my hair, which is frizzy, very dry and damaged, straight but poofy and has a lot of kinks in it.
so far i've found
Pantene Pro-V
-time renewal
-hydrating rinse
-deep treatment
-anti-frizz serum
Aussie
-3 minute miracle
-moist shampoo and conditioner
Garnier
-smoothing milk
-leave in cream/serum
Sunsilk
-thermashine shampoo
-pin straight shampoo
Herbal Essences
-hydralicious shampoo
can anyone give me recommendations or their opinions on any of these lines and products? which ones work better?
thank you!!!
Anything with sulfates will dry your hair out more. If you must choose out of those, I'll go with the Aussie.
Damaged, frizzy and dry. You need to shampoo less and condition more. Use leave in conditioners. I would leave a mix of extra virgin olive oil and sulfate free conditioner in my hair overnight. Mix in a bowl and heat it up for 10 seconds in the microwave. Hot oil treatment!
Also poofy! You probably need to get a trim, layers or get it thinned out.
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What is wrist banging? I heard girls talking about it but they kinda shut up when they noticed I was listening. Is it like sexual? Orrrr....?
Thank you!
Wrist banging is another self harm method :/ You get a bruise instead of very visible cuts.
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15/f
I have a funeral coming up and I dont have anything to wear. Does anyone know where I can get a black dress for a funeral?
Wearing black or a dress isn't required. Just tone down your wardrobe. Any teen clothing store should carry a black dress but if you can't get your hands on one, wear a dark coat/jacket over jeans.
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hey i have dry and oily skin, i get breakouts easily and my face is not evenly toned. What's the best facial product that's cheap but really effective??
and do facial masks really work??
please help!
18F. phil.
Sounds like my skin!
There's no best product, use whatever works for you.
You need a good oil-free moisturizer and an astringent/toner for the oily part. Get a facial wash with beads to exfoliate. Like Clean & Clear's Morning Burst for example. I also used their astringent since it's gentle.
Exfoliate to even skin tones. People with oily skin tones have dead skin cells build up and improper and harsh exfoliating can damage your skin. You don't get instant results so there's always makeup. Concealer or powder. I've tried everything and it just didn't give me the results I wanted. So I've been using Jergens natural glow daily moisturizer on my face. You can use a little opposed to going out all tan. My nose and cheeks are no longer red. My upper lip, chin and eyelids are no longer a shade lighter than the rest of my skin.
I've never had good luck with facial masks because they are too drying on me. I've been hearing raves about Queen Helene's mint julep masque. Based on reviews, it seems worth a shot.
I would only use masks for spot treatments. I've been using that tiny mask from Proactiv for my breakouts!
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I work with a hot guy at work and i want to be more than friends . the only problem is that he has a girlfriend he says there not serious but i want him.
If they aren't serious, he wouldn't be in a relationship or he would have ended it by now. Something is keeping him together with her. Whether it's actually her or sex, who knows? It sounds one-sided. Almost like he's picking up or at least flirting with other girls and keeping his girlfriend on the sidelines because he knows she will stay.
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okay, so i've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. we've tried to have sex a couple of times but we can never seem to get it in. i end up getting frustrated only show it and give up. i really want to share this experience with him - is there a way to get his penis inside of me easier? we've already tried fingering.
he claims it was in before when i was on top - but i didn't feel anything. is it supposed to hurt?
thanks!
Fingering with 2-3 fingers should do it.
Lots of lube with a lubricated condom will help.
Relax and wait, he needs to push it in harder. Usually the head isn't easy to get in at first, but once that's past.. it shouldn't be a problem.
It didn't hurt for me but I definitely felt it, so maybe just the tip of his head got in.
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How much blood comes out when you pop your cherrie? Because I had some blood in my underwear and I didn't get my period and it was like the size of a quarter. Did I pop my cherrie?? Thank you!!
You can "break" your hymen and not bleed. Most girls "break" it by doing some sort of activity. I didn't bleed my first time. The blood could have been anything, like spotting (period!) You won't know until you go to a doctor to get checked out.
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I masterbated about everynight for 3 nights, in april, and i haven't had my period since april 7th, and its already june 6th, could something be wrong? or is it a miss period or irregular? i know i can't be pregnant because i NEVER had sex in my life, or even got near a penis in my life time, so what's wrong? does anyone know? im kinda scared, what about yeast infections?!
Irregular. I didn't get mine for months in the beginning. It slowly changed to a week difference or a few days off. Irregularity is normal. I don't know why people think it's not because so many women are like that. There's nothing to worry about unless you don't get one within a few months. If you want a regular period, ask to go on the pill. I was on it for more than a year and now I'm regular without it.
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my the flabby bit of my vagina (i dont no the real name for it) is sort of split in 2 u can pull it apart sort of. Also its really dangly. I used to masterbate by rubbing my vagina on a bed post and it really felt like i was having sex. I am really ashamed of it and i dont do it anymore. could this of affected my vagina?? or maybe even affected the start of my period as i havnt started yet and im 13. And looking at me you would think i had. PLease help because im really worried.
That's how a vagina is. Every girl's is different.. Longer "lips" or shorter.. Some people start later than others. If you haven't gotten it by late 16 or 18, you need to check in with a doctor.
You can't just look at someone and just assume that. A certain age or appearance doesn't mean you got your period.
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well i've been wanting to get something done on my face for awhile now, and at first it was going to be a stud on the nose. but then the whole universe decided it was a good time to get that done, so eh, i thought maybe a lip piercing isn't too shabby after all. most people are against my decision, saying it'll look bad. but i really want to get it done, regardless, so i ignored those remarks. but one grabbed my attention, my sister who knows quite a lot about piercings had told me i could chip my tooth on it, it could destroy my gums, i could swallow the back. so i was wondering- are these really as big as they sound or is it just an over exaggeration? and before i get it done, what are some things i should know? thankyou.
I've had my lip piercing for a couple of months now. A stud is easy and best to start out with. A ring constantly moves and isn't good for healing. I don't know anyone that got a chipped tooth from a lip piercing. If you go to the GOOD place (read reviews or get recommendations) then they will pierce it in the correct spot so it won't give you gum issues. It is possible that you can swallow the back part of the jewelry, just like how you can swallow a loose tooth, etc. You can always go back in and get them to replace it. But they tighten it pretty well.
My tips are
-Don't touch it at allll. Use a q-tip!
-Sea salt soaks mouth rinse with 1/4 teaspoon of sea salt and cup of warm water
-Alcohol free mouthwash only for the first few months
-Soak the outside with sea salt too
-Rinse and brush after every meal for the first few weeks
-Get a large gem on your stud
-Try to avoid spicy foods
-Brush your jewelry too
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