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Q: 13.m.fl(8th grade)
i like this girl a lot that goes to the other jr high in our area. i met her a couple weeks ago from her friends that ive known for a few monthes. i recently asked her out but she said she doesnt think she knows me well enough and is now going out with sum1 else from her school. im afraid she has a bad reputation of me from rumors about wut me and my friends do. wut should i do

I think you should call this girl up and talk to her and tell her your not an bastard or whatever she thinks you are! Tell her your a really nice boy and you like her alot! Say hey maybe we can make it together, but we won't know unless we try it out together! IF she doesn't listen just give her more time and plus get to know her better and maybe she will learn that you are an awsome boy and your not just some kid with a bad rep. that goes to a different school! Your something more!

-Katie-

Q: my brother is a homosexual, and has falen for my most recent boyfriend who ive been going out with for a month. My boyfriend has just dumped me and has been seen going out with my brother! I tried talking to my brother, he said he couldn't change and they were clearly solemates and deeeply inlove. I even found out that they had rented out a motel room and were heard having oral sex on the night of my birthday! My brother said he was busy that night and i now know why!What should I do because I know I'm only 15 but had sex with the boyfriend that now turns out to be a homosexual!!!!!!!

Well clearly you must let go of your ex! He is interested into men and it had nothing to do with you! But then again it does! Your brother is seeing your ex. Wow.... well there is someone else out there for you and that person isn't a homosexual and surely isn't your ex boyfriend! Just take time and spend that time with your friends and just don't worry about your brother and your ex boyfriend! It isn't your concern right now and when it is you will know!

-Katie-

Q: What do you do if you like somone but you dont want to? And you really think he likes you cause he alwas flirts with you, but your not sure.I'm 13 and a female

yeah this has happened to me once before and i was freaking out because of this situation! I liked this boy that i always hated and he was okay looking but i liked him and for 3 years i hated him and i said to myself how am i going to deal with this? He seemed intersted in me but i thought he didn't like me because he was always mean to me everyday but it turned out that i grew to like him but i really didn't want to like him at all! So you probably just grew to like him and maybe sit down and talk to him get to know him better and maybe he is a really nice guy!

-Katie-

Q: Today I found out that my boyfriend played dares at the weekend and tongued a girl for 12 seconds. He hasn't tongued me before. I play the same game and have kissed other guys before but not with tongues. Should I be mad?

Yeah hun i would be mad if i found out! Just sit him down and talk things out with your man!

-Katie-

Q: can dying ur hair or getting highlights make u go bald?

No!! I have highlights and i dyed my hair before and i'm not blad! So there is your answer! NO! I hope i helped!

-Katie-

Q: whats a six pack?

Six pack is muscle (six) that are fully strong and that is called a six pack!

-Katie-

Q: ok im 15 are you supposed to be depressed upset and wanting to cry all the time

No..... your just probably having one of those (everything is wrong days....!) I recently had one of them a few days ago! Your not moody and don't let anyone tell you that! Your just upset for no reason at all and you might feel like yelling at everyone you meet! Its okay..... Keep in touch and i can help you!

-Katie-

Q: Can I Give My Kitten Infants Tylenol?

I agree with Christine but just also go and talk to your kitten's vet! Good Luck and i hope your Kitten gets better!

-Katie-

Q: i just recently had sex and im worried im pregnet...what are some signs that your pregnet?

You will have morning sickness and tired all the time.... just go to your nearest store and buy a pregnancy test and you will find out for sure. But wait a week or two. You can also get checked out and find out that way!

-Katie-

Q: im nearly 16 and i have a small penis and its a bit worrying and im not sure what my gf will think
does it matter?

No it really doesn't matter that much.... some girls do like a big penis but then again girls also like a small one because it goes better and doesn't hurt as much. And a boy's penis isn't done growing until they are at least 17 years old so you have a whole year and i wouldn't worry about it that much! Good Luck....

-Katie-

Q: well, i know its strange, but sometimes i wonder if my parents were virgins before they got married. because they both married late in there lives )38 39ish) so i kind of wonder. is this strange to think? i mean im not going to go up to my mom one day and say hey mom how are ya doing? so btw were you a virgin before dad?

No this isn't weird to wonder..... my mom and dad were not before they got married.... so it is normal to wonder about that about your parents!

-Katie-

......If you need anything just ask...

Q: i went all the way how can i tell my mom

you going all the way as in having sex with your boyfriend..... Well you must tell your mom somehow and you must do it soon because if you wait long she might find out from someone else and that is the worst thing in the world! Just sit her down and tell her! Say you made a mistake and you need to tell her right away and today is the day your going to tell her! Good Luck and keep in touch

-Katie-

Q: hey whats up just answer this and i'll rate ya a 10 or no 5 yeaaaa.... 5. I think you should go on a kiling spree and kill everyone except me and someother people so what do you think about that?

I think that is a GREAT idea!! CHRISTY STEFL! omg i hate her with so much passion!! LOL okay thanks buh bye!

-Katie-

And my advice to you is next time christy does that to me in the hall again and you see it just don't stand there DO SOMETHING!!!

Q: I have never actually made out with someone and i can tell mi boyfriend and i r gonna do it soon. Plz if u have any ints or tricks i would realli appriciate it!

OH another question about making out..... well first of all it is just alot of kissing and do whatever you think is right and what comes natural to you when you are making out with your boyfriend!

Well first of all, put your hand on his back or his neck and he will probably do the same or put his hand on your leg. Just kiss and keep doing that... kiss with the tonuge and maybe he will french kiss you sometime through that. But give him time.... once you do this (making out) once your bound to know what you are doing the next times..... he might put his hand up your shirt in the back or something like that! You will definitly have fun doing this!

Good Luck Hun!!

-Katie-

Q: Ok so I am 13 years old and I want to start babysitting. I'm not sure if there are laws on how old you have to be (I live in England.) Is 13 old enough? How would I go about it?

Look in the news paper and see if there are any columns in there for babysitter's wanted and then call the family and then they will tell you... Good luck!

-Katie-

Q: I have a boyfriend who I adore, I'm only 13 so I don't wanna have sex or anything but what are some good intimate things that we can do? We already put our arms round each other, kiss, hug and he puts his hand on my ass but it's getting boring, any ideas?

Maybe make out.... your really to young to have sex and plus you shouldn't give him head or have him finger you unless your ready for that. But your 13 years old and huging kissing arms around eachother and his hand on your ass is good plus making out on top of that so there you go! Keep in touch on this with me if you want....

-Katie-

Q: i was in a serious relationship, some things happened and now we cant be 2gether, how do i let go? how do i get over some1 i luved so much?

Well it took me alot of time to let go of my boyfriend and it will take you alot of time also. So just give yourself some time and you will be over him in a few weeks. Try not to think so much about him and you will be fine. Try not to talk to him so much or maybe not at all. Good luck

-Katie-

Q:

i'm in eighth grade and my mom doesnt think girls my age should have boyfriends. im not really close with her either. and ive never had a bf either. i dont know what to tell her if i get asked out..? please help, thx !

Well i'm in 9th grade and my mom is the same way but i kind of just don't tell her but you must sit your mom down and talk this out with her. Explain to your mom that your reasponsible enough to be in a realationship and just talk to her about how you feel about this problem with your mom not letting you have a boyfriend! Good luck...

-Katie-

Q: Ok..Me and this guy lets just say his name is Bob.Well,me and Bob talked for a month and we eventually went out.I have really strong feelings for Bob.Well,we broke up 2 months later because he thought I cheated on him because one of his friends said I did.Well,we still were best friends after we broke up and we can talk about ANYTHING!Well,after me and Bob broke up I started talking to his brother(i know thats SO wrong)Well,me and his brother talked for about 3 months and we eventually went out but we only lasted for 2 weeks.After me and his brother broke up,Bob called me out of nowhere.I didnt realize it was his # and so he got on AIM and I asked him why he called me?He said because I missed talkin to u and I want to be in a relationship with u and I want it to last this time.I've been with a lot of girls but ur the only girl who has been there for me through everything and I want our relationship to last.I asked him if he really meant that and he said he did.We're not exactly goin out again yet but were about too.Anywayz...to my question.I've always had feelings for him as the b/f type and I can actually picture myself marrying him if thats crazy!But...ever since he said that to me,hes ALL I ever think about!!!He calls me his "boo"all the time and tells me he loves me.Could this be love?does it sound like love to u?I've known him over a year.I have been there for him through everything.I know everything about him.Please help me because I'am not sure if I'am in love or not!I RATE!Thanx!

Okay first of all HI!
Second of all, to me it sounds like your in love! If he is what you think about day and night and think your going to marry him and you see that happening then your in love! Love is a really great feeling but if you trust him like you just told me then give it your all. But i am not saying love is ALL that and i bag of chips because it isn't love is like heavan but then again it hurts like hell. Trust me... i thought i was in love but it only caused me heart ache in the end! But like i said your in love! Good Luck and be careful! Keep in touch with me about this!

-Katie-

Q: Ok. I like this guy (his name is Felipe) and I think he likes me back but I'm not sure because he comes over every single Sunday (to go to church at night) and we hang out (a lot), do stupid things together (climbing trees then jumping down), and basically have a lot of fun. He jumps on my back to give him piggy back rides (even though he's 18 [turning 19 in November] and I'm 13). But then when we go to church, he completely ignores me (not during church but after the mass ends and everyone talks). What's up with that? Does he like me or not?! Please answer quickly! !~*CoNfUsEd GiRl*~!

It sounds to me that he likes you a little but not alot! Don't worry give him time and maybe he will come around to liking you more and talking to you after mass. Maybe get up and go talk to him (that lets him know your interested in him!) Good luck!

-Katie

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I am here to help teens like myself deal with pressure of relationships and parents and sex! Things i go through as a teenager are normal but i can't talk to my parents about them like sex with my boyfriend if i think it is right and if i am ready for it right now. That is why i am here because i know there are other girls and boys out there that have the same problem and i can help.

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Age: 15
Birthday: 01/16
Color: Red and Pink
Dream Guy: Heath Ledger
Eyes: baby blue
Fears: being alone in the dark and heights
Greatest love: Victor
Hair Color: Blonde
Intrests: sexy boys, cheerleading, and PARTIES
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