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Hey it's Michelle!

For a little about me, i like shopping, boys, listening to music, hanging out with friends, partying, talking, and MTV.

Ask me anything, & ill do the best i can to help! i wont lie to you, im not like a counselor or therapist or something, but ive helped my friends get through rough times and ive been through some myself! i really do appreciate ratings! tell me your honest opinion of my answer. i need to know where to improve!

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I have a track meet friday, and last time i had one, i fell! and couldnt run for the rest of that meet. Well, like i said above, I have a Track Meet Friday, and I am soo scared!!! and I am so nervous, i have been since monday, no joke! and i have been thinking about it since then! i know it sounds crazy, but it sure is true!! SO, what are some things that i can do to distract myself from being nervous? I have a fear of falling too, i fell in the open 100M dash! and i have to do it again tomorrow, and also the open 200M dash! and i am fine w/ doing the 200, its the 100 i am nervous about. when i fell i dontknow what happened, and i only had scratches on my legs, not my hands or anything. so, i think i was breathing funny because i was nervous and blacked out. well, I also dont know weather or not to use the blocks. :/

sorry, this is so long!!

Thanks so Much in Adavance

-Kelsa-


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hey.. i ran track too (track season is over for us) so i know how you feel. and i know, when you're not nervous, you run a LOT better. bring your CD player to the track meet and just chill. even dance! (thats what i did) most importantly, RELAX! hang out with your friends before your event, and have a good time. (just make sure you dont overdo it!) make sure you stay active, run across the field a couple of times with your friends to warm up. hope this helps, good luck!

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I really appreciate anyone who decides to read this and help me, I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.

I've been in a relationship, on and off with a boy for two years now - I'm just about to turn 18, while he's just about to turn twenty. For most of our being together our relationship has been really unstable, him always unsure if he wanted to be with me. I look back at myself and wonder why I spent so many nights worrying and letting myself become so attached.
We had what was supposed to be our 'final breakup' right around New Year's eve. I was hurt, and we were split for a little over a month, and started talking again. Not too long after, we started actually becoming connected in all of the ways we hadn't been before. To be honest, right now I'd have to say that he's probably my best friend, and we share everything with eachother. This is probably the best our relationship has ever been, and I should be loving every minute of it.

The problem? While we were split, I got to know a friend of his, *Jeffery, really well. This is someone who has betrayed my boyfriend in the past, there are shaky feelings between them although they still see eachother occasionally. I got to know Jefferey better and better and really began to like him, and him me. I stopped talking to him for the most part because I was afraid that it would hurt my boyfriend, although we were not together at the time. After a short time I thought that I made a mistake, but by then me and my (then ex-)boyfriend had started to talk again. My boyfriend and I have been together since.
Lately, me and Jefferey have been seeing a lot of eachother through mutual friends. We still have feelings for eachother, and it has been driving me crazy. While things are going really well in my relationship with my boyfriend, I feel like I will always have this question in the back of my mind, "what if". Recently me and Jeffery were hanging out together, and he tried to kiss me. I didn't let him, and told him we shouldn't hang out anymore unless I break it off with my boyfriend. I feel like this was a horrible mistake, but I feel very insecure about breaking things off with my boyfriend, who has been so great to me during all of this. We have no secrets from eachother, and I did not cheat on him. I think that Jeffery might have 'given up' on trying to be with me, and I feel a little defeated and negative about myself. I feel like I should have been more decisive, but I don't know what to think. I wish I had gotten to know Jeffery more while I was single.

Thanks to anyone who read this long thing, and thanks doubly to anyone who offers advice. My mind is a mess over this.

hmm.. well as long as your going out with your boyfriend, you should probably stay away from Jeffrey, to avoid liking him more or someone getting hurt. on the otherhand, it looks like you and your bf have had some bumpy relationships in the past. if you really like jeffrey, hey, go for it! although you & your bf have become closer, it might end up in a heartbreak again. but then again, it might not, because you guys have learned more about each other and have gotten into a better relationship. you have to decide who you like better, my best advice is to just follow your heart. i hope this will help you make your desicion!

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I have been going out with this girl for about a month an da half and now people are telling her that i'm saying things that i never said in my life. Now she thinking about breaking up with me and I love this girl so much I can't live without her. What sould i do to keep her in me life

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tell her you arent saying any of that, and prove it to her. then show her how much you really do love her. take her out, just the two of you, and tell her you love her so much and you cant live without her. hope things work out for you 2!♥

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Hello i like this guy and i dunno if he likes me?
he always talks to me and smiles and stuff. Today one of my friends asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt know but did i like him? and then she said well would you ever date her and he said he didnt know?
Sign tennesse chicko

most of the time when a guy says, "i dont know but does she like me" he does like you but he doesnt want to admit to it until you do, so he doesnt get hurt. i think you should go for it! hope you 2 work out!♥

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okay.. so theres this boy that likes me who i really like also... he told his best friend that him and i were going to go out.. but he hasnt asked me yet... his best friend tells me that hes most likely going to cheat on me... so thats a bummer right? well.. i realy really like him you know but i dont want to be cheated on.... so i thought maybe i could go out with him but not think much of it.. but that wouldnt make the relation ship work... than i decided i could realllly dedicate myself to him and that would stop him from cheating on me.. but no one wants their heart brokend.. WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?


signed... helpless!

tell him that you really like him.. but you dont want to commit to a relationship thats gonna end up with being cheated on. if he really likes you, he should confirm with you that he wont hurt you, and that he'll really dedicate himself to you (or something of that sort). if he can prove to you he'll be loyal, he's a keeper, otherwise, hope this helps!

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ok..the other day i was on my cell at a friends house (i was on the cell w/ my b/f) so then he started getting mad because of i was at elissa's house, who he hates...she tried to grab MY cell away from me and then purposly BIT my hand....what should i do for revenge?

revenge..? woah.. biting hands.. sounds like your boyfriend and bestfriend have some serious problems.. first you need to straighten them two out. see wth their problem is. your friend.. the biting one.. has some serious issues (no offense). if you want to get revenge on her, just go around telling people about her "snack". believe me, people WILL freak out. dont try anything crazy like your cannibal friend over there, or you guys are going to get into a huge fight. hope things work out.. and dont get bitten off..

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random question, but if you marry your highschool sweetheart right after senior year and before college, is that a bad thing? like will that cause problems with being married and going to school at the same time?

and basically is it bad to just get married at that age in general? is it hard to handle money, buying homes, etc?

because I really want to ask my beautiful girlfriend that I've known my whole love to marry me, but I don't want it to cause problems.

unless your filthy rich and madly in love, i wouldnt go for this. 18 isnt really a good age to get married, bcuz youre still young, and not quite as intelligent/responsible as to opposed to being oh lets say.. 25. you should probably at least wait until after college and you two get a job, so you can manage a household. if your thinking thats too long, you might be thinking thatll be over by then. lets put it this way, if shes the great girl you say she is, she'll still be with you throughout all this.♥

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Hey im 14 and i have this friend. We have been best friends for about 4 years but this year she is being different. She is always actin realy immature and i dont realy get it. She is always saying she is soo immature and like brags about it(witch i dont get??). I want to tell her how i feel but i cant...And that is really surprisiing cause im really stright forward with people and say what i think. But if i tell her she will be the type of peoson were she is just like "ok whatever" but i kno there is still somthing wrong. SOOoo plezzz help me!!

give her the cold shoulder for a little while. (1-4 days & dont act like you totally hate her) she'll relize that shes being stupid. either that, or she'll ask why you've been ignoring her. that'll give you your chance to explain what you think and her actually put some thought into it. hope this helps!

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i've been having these dreams, about breaking up with my bf. and i know i never want to do that. i love him with all my heart. then i have other dreams where hes cheating on me. i cant help but let these dreams get to me b/c its not what i want. i see him once every couple weeks and i miss him terribly, and i know some of you might say "maybe you dont want a long distance relationship" but thats not it. we've been together for a while and yes i dont like it but i would never break up with him b/c of that. hes too important to me. i dont know whats going on but i want these dreams to stop but i dont know how. and i refuse to break up with my b/f. i would literaly die first. please help. thanks.

i know how you feel. this happened to me before. the reason your having these is because you're afraid to loose him! don't worry about it, this is just showing that you love him alot, proving your point that you wont break up with him. you guys are probably a really cute couple!♥

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k theres this guy i went out with him and we broke up twice its been 3 months and last month we started becomin good friends again talkin on tha phone and we were playing tha question game and he told me he loved me next day he told me he didnt wanna be with me though we got in afight cuz he told me he lied were friends again but there was 2 other guys i like but now just one other guy but the problem is im still stuck on him do i tell him? do you think it would make a difference?

let him go. by the way he acted, he probably knows you still have feelings for him. he just seems like the type of guy that likes to mess with your mind, an extreme flirt, &/or just a player. go for the other guy, things dont seem to be going any where with your ex.
hope this helps!

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13/f
Well, I've been going out with my bf for 6 months. Today I found out he still has feelings for his exgirlfriend from his old school. It made me question how I feel for him. When he came to our school, I was the only one who was nice to him. So I think he's just going out with me because of that. I really love him a lot and I want to know for sure if he feels the same way about me. Everytime I ask he says "You're the only person here I care about." So I think he'd rather be with the other girl. What should I do? How can I get him to talk to me? And how should I break up with him if I do? He's the only person I have so if I lose him I'll be miserable. And it's impossible for me to be "just friends" with him. I don't like him as a friend... Please help. PLEASE! I'm so confused!

if he still has feelings for another girl, i hate to say it, but you should make the break. but explain this to him when you break up with him, so he doesnt hate you. if he really likes you, he should beg you to come back and relise that he loves you more than his ex. hope this helps!

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yeah okay, so my friend is being so stupid right now. so i know i have been doing a lot more with another friend, but she's one of my best friends. they both are. i think she's jealous or something. me and the friend i've been hanging out with more were saying how she's really pissing us off and being stupid lately. but she didn't know that. so whatever. i know you shouldn't talk about your friends but still, you know most people have. so randomly, she hasn't talked to me in 2 days. she's giving me and my other friend really nasty looks. we say we don't care, but i do. i hate people being mad at me. also, i'm in a state of minor depression, so this helps me none. she keeps saying like through profile and away message that someone should be killed, some is such a such a fag, or my friends are such bitches. but the thing is, i don't recall EVER doing ANYTHING to her to make her do this. i'm really ticked off. i haven't said or done the things she has, nor anything to provoke this. NO WAY would my friend tell her i talked about her because a)so did she, b)the girl is mad at her too, and c) she continues saying things about her...i say some but i am NOT the only one. so i don't know what the hell is up with her...but yeah. any advice?
note: don't say to just confront her, because when i do she says "whatever" or walks away or ignores me. so ya.

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carly

i think you should get one of your friends that is also friends with her (and not in the fight) to ask her why she's mad at you. make sure she doesnt mention you at the time though. once you find out what it is, you might want to ask your friend to plan something on the weekend with her and just the 2 of you, so you guys can work things out. but you dont have to, whatever works for you! hope this helps!

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i have a really complicated sitch but here it goes: ive been with guy A for a bit over a month and since hes really shy, he wont talk to me or make time to be with me.he doesnt like talkin on the phone, in person and he never checks his email. i was the one that asked him out for this reason. he said he liked me and everything but he never shows it and im guessing its cuz hes a bit immature.
anyway, guy B has been my friend for a lil while and i got him together with one of my girlfriends (cuz he liked her) then she broke up with him for no reason...hes a sweetie and did everything to make her happy (he was goth and he kinda changed for her) its been 5 weeks since they broke up and i was talking to him about guy A and how i wasnt sure about him. he told me that bad side about him and how i should wait or just be paitient. then when he was helping me (after talking for 5 hours online) he admitted he liked me. im so confused... i like them both and well im on the verge (dumping guy A) and guy B is on the rebound so i dont know if its "real". please give me your honest view and help. ill rate you for answering honestly...not just go with the first thing that goes through your mind.

hmm.. well before you totally give up on guy A, talk to him about it. ask him why he doesnt talk to you. if he doesnt change his act within a few days, dump him. guy B seems like a really nice guy. i mean 1) he cared about you and tried to help you by telling you to be patient with your guy and 2)you can tell he's a loyal, loving boyfriend by the way he treated your friend. hope things work out for you!♥

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i play basketball and i was the third leading scorer last year on my team. number one rebounder and number one all around defensive player. but my dilema is i really want to play golf which means i cant play bbal couse htye over lap. i cant make a decision.

i think you should take a year off bball. try golf this year, and then next year you can decide if you wanna take it again or go back to bball.

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ok so there is this guy at my school and i dono if i like him or not... but everyone is asking me and i am always like i don't know and we are always flirting so do you think he could like me too b/c ppl are saying that we would be a cute couple and i dono this has been going on for like a week now so do you think he could like me?

well it depends on who is asking you.. if its people hes friends with, they're probably asking because they know he likes you, and they wanna know how you feel about him.
if its your friends, they may just wanna know if hes a new crush in your life. hope this helps!

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Ok, so my friends are telling me this guy likes me, but it's not the guy I like. They said he might ask me out, but I don't have feelings for him. How can I say I don't want to go out w/ him without sounding mean?

say something like, "i'm really sorry, but i just like you as a friend." be nice about it. he should understand that you do care about him, but not that way

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ok..well..to start this off...I am a prep and most of my friends are...my best friends are Ashley, Samantha, and Vicky (all preps)...Well lately Samantha has been soo soo so snobby!...Me, Vicky, and Ashley have all tried talkin to her but she just goes well I am Snobby so get over it!...I mean me and her have been best friends for over 6 years!...shes like soo stuck up and it makes me Vicky and Ashley soo mad!...I still wanna be friends with her and stuff but not if shes gonna act like this...What can i do to make her stop???...sry its long I Rate high

dont do anything. just give her the cold shoulder! hopefully she'll relize shes being a total bitch, and go back to her old self. hoped this helps!

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I have alot of friends at school/church/cheer. But no one invites me to do stuff with them on the weekends! I spend my time on the computer cus no one invites me over, what should I do?

maybe they're not inviting you over because you dont invite them over. try inviting a bunch of friends to hang out sometime. then see how many events you get invited to ;)

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he and his girlfriend broke up about two months ago almost
so now we hang out a lot because we're getting to be close friends, last week he asked if i wantd him to walk me to the door...this week he came over, we sortof snuggled/had heads on eachothers shoulders. then he gave me a huge hug, spun me around and gave me two kisses on my forehead at the end of the night.

two days later he IMed me and was like "i missed you today" ..is this just stuff a classy guy would do with a close friend....or is there something else there??

dont think so.. he's got a thing for you! do you see him doing this to other girls? probably not! (if he is, stay away, players are no good) i think you should go for it!

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Short versions of a verrrry confusing story:

this guy likes me so much. hes nice, soo sweet, easy to talk to, pretty cute and funny. but i keep comparing him to this guy i used to like. the guy that likes me now. he seems like the perfect guy, but always tells me about his feelings for me..i think its clingy and annoying. hes soo perfect but i just don't have feelings for him! i keep trying to stop comparing him and i think if i give it time, i might like him. but, i just don't see that happening. he likes me soo much and thinks i like him a lot too and thats my fault because i let him think that. but WHAT should i do! i'm not into talking about feelings and he is, its like hes obsesed w.me. should i break it off now or just wait?? PLEASE HELP!!!

dont like totally ditch him, but quit leading him on. if you dont stop soon, he'll probably end up getting hurt, and hating you. whenever he brings up his feelings, do your best to change the subject. this may sound evil, but if you flirt with other guys in front of him, he may get the message and stop. hope this helps!

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