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some guys tend to think im annoying-so how can i not be? and what do they consider annoying? some girls do too but more so guys. i have lots of friends but i was just wondering. thanks :)

Well for every person theres going to variation of what they consider annoying.

Like for me, what I consider annoying is a person who asks alot of questions, or a person who says LIKE alot; or just an annoying voice.

But if thats you, thats just a part of who you are and THATS YOU. Ex: If you're a person to ask alot of questions,then thats just apart of who you are, and you do like to know things or have some good information.

Ex: If you have an assignment, then you ask some questions.
Advantage: You'll get some good information.
Some people may get angry that you had asked alot of questions. But at least you won't be confused, the more you know, the faster you go.

It varies on what people consider annoying.
There is probably some stuff you consider annoying too, but for some people its not considered annoying. So you just be who you are, and don't change. If people say your'e annoying, ignore them.

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i can't eat or swallow anything because my throat is so sore. what will this do to me?

DO NOT drink eat anything cold if you have a sore throat!
It'll make it worse, the only exception is water WITHOUT ice and PLENTY of oranage juice.
Try eating some soups that you like and warm them up.
Try eating hot foods instead of cold until your throat feels better.

Also this does wonders for me if you have a sore throat or cold. :

Boil some tea bags
After you boil the tea bags for about 5 min. take a cup for the amt. of tea your going to drink and put GINGER ALE (at grocery store) into it + with lemon. Drink that and you should feel better.

Also,there is some green throat spray for sore throats which you can get at the store and its called: Chloraseptic Throat spray for sore throats. For every few hours you spray 5- spritz.
It soothes your mouth, and makes it feel calm.
So I recommend that you use that.

It could be serious so if it persists even after you do this like say a week?, see a doctor.

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I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance?

Fudgin no! All the red flags to this guy,

1. He wants to change you. NEVER let a person change you even if you "love them"

2.SEXUAL THINGS-- there is lust here honey, not love. aka no girl wants to be a booty call.

3. If a guy is not happy with you, then he sure doesn't deserve you at your best! Tell him, that he's no better. And who does he think he is?

He just only likes you for what you have, your assets on your body. He doesn't like YOU he likes your body. This guy is a complete dick and needs a serious slap to the face.

Sorry, I got a little carried away, this guy is just so wrong and disrespectful he should be taught a lesson!

Find somebody who respects you for you, and not of what you have to offer. Be careful of those players, guys who use you. Protect yourself, and good luck!

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15 female
So i really dont care if guys grab or smack my butt. it doesnt bother me. if they want to they hey go aheadd. i think of it as a compliment.
is that hoeish? i mean some guys ask if i care and im like no not really. but i dont want people to start calling me a hoe.

Well your opinion is your own, and if you think it is okay for them to do that, then it should be okay. You're comfortable with it why not?. Don't worry about what other people think, but its just some (let me rephrase that) MOST girls for the most part, consider that is being disrespectful to a girl, but that doesn't mean you're a hoe or they have the right to call you that just because you let the guys do that, you are your own. :)

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15/f sophmore.

pep rally

so i'm at school and my vie principle wanted me any my 3 other friends to do this relay thing. And each person had to spin around on a bat 10 times around...so after i spun around the bat 10 times..i was REALLY dizzy. and i fell...but i got up and ran across the gym.

so my question is i know on monday people are going to make fun of me..or make jokes about this situation. So how do i act like i don't care ?!!!..what would you do in my situation?!!

please give me all of the advice you can think of.

You'll live through it, if you don't dwell on it. EVERYONE has had an embarrassing moment. You just have to brush it off, sure it happened. BUT things like that have happened to PLENTY OF PEOPLE, TRUST ME.

DONT'S ;
When you go back to school, DON'T talk about how embarrassing it was to other people, because that'll only make it worse; and you're really attracting yourself for bad attention.

DON'T hide from it either, it only makes you look ashamed and it will make people think that you should be.

DON'T mention it if just so happens no one remembers it. People do have other things to talk about (like how their weekend went, etc.)
So if NOONE mentions it, DON'T bring it up.


DO'S;

Act like it wasn't a big deal (if someone mentions it) say " I was having fun , but I guess I took it a little over a bit"

Laugh it off

Make less of the situation, if you do it other people will make less of it too;

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i usually shave my pubic hair every so often but it hurts when i shave it.
then when it starts to grow back it gets itchy.
does nair work?
[15/f]

Well, CLEARLY written on Nair it says in BOLD blue letters, Not to use on pubic hair or genital areas. It will BURN.

Shave with ALOT of shaving cream or use wax on the-home kit, the instructions are inside the box. You cane get these at wal-mart,

[+PLUS] Waxing lasts longer than shaving does, I'd say about 1 week? or maybe even longer.


OR
You can get it waxed at a place, usually tanning salons have where other people can wax it for you.

Whatever the heck you do, DON'T EVER use nair, IT BURNS.

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ok so i am in the 2nd semester of my freshmen year in high school... i Right now i am very shy and am not making too many new friends i think it might be because i dont feel comfortable with my appearance so i am looking foward to sophmore year because inevitably there will be new kids who dont know me in my classes.. i want to reinvent myself and lokk really good next year and be more outgoing. i am afraid that no one will be willing to see me differently Do you think that reinventing myself will work or peoples opinions are set in stone?

Well you're still in your 1st year of highschool, so you have plenty of time to define who EXACTLY you are. When you're in you're early years of age, people run around with diffrent kinds of groups. That's because they really haven't figured out who they really are yet. So to find yourself, you may have to do a little searching for awhile. Like the person below me said, Highschool is the years to find yourself, and you really get to know who and and what kind of person you are. So it is okay to reinvent yourself, just make sure its something YOU'RE comfortable with, NOT what you THINK everybody else would consider comfortable. Don't EVER change the person who you ALREADY are to satisfy other people. Just be who you are. You can re-invent yourself by changing your looks or clothing style but justify that is what makes you you, not somebody else.

By I'd say maybe mid- junior yr. to senior yr. thats when you really figure out who you are. You have individuality. And thats when you find out who are really your TRUE FRIENDS. No one will be WILLING for you to do anything, but people CAN tell if you change, others may not say it to you but they will notice the diffrence, if you change about who you are to other people. All I can say is that, it's okay to re-invent yourself, just make sure its really you and what YOU want, not EVERYBODY else. :)

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i think im confidant n have quite high self estem bt im not sur so i want 2 know wat u guys think is confident+high self estem.

thnks xxx

Confidence is when you feel comfortable in your own shoes and confident , about who you are and not afraid of what others think about you, regardless of what anybody else says. That even means when you DON'T or WON'T EVER change yourself just for another person or people just to be accepted in a group. You're not afraid to spill yourself out to others and let people see the real you instead of hiding it. So thats what I thin confidence is :)

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im 16 and "tom" lets call him is also 16

okay so to make a long story short he's my ex and we've both had love interests since we broke up but we only broke up in the first place because my parents didnt want me in a relationship and when i could date he was "over" me. which i know from many sources that he was not. but anyway now its been around 3/4 of a year and he is showing sings of interest agian, like stairing at me and making it known, and he was talking about me to my friend which he use to always do when he liked me last year. i was totally over him for the longest time but a couple weeks ago i started to like him again. we never ever talk, our relationship didnt end well but we still say hi when we are close enough to. so im not really sure what i should do. i refuse to ask him out straight up because he isnt the kind of guy that likes that. he enjoys i chase i know that much, so i dont know how to show i like him again without being too open about it. like i need to find a mix between stand-offish and just going for it...but i really want him back. and it kills me whenever someone else asks me out because i just want him.

Well since you say you don't really talk so that could be a good indication for you that you shouldn't go for him.

Just because he stares at you, doesn't mean he wants to start a new relationship with you. He could be just being friendly, and you're just reading the signs a little too closely. After a bad breakup its gonna be hard for that person to adapt to seeing that other person, often weird, seeing your ex.

Sometimes when a person sees their ex, sometimes they get that same feeling when they did like the person, but that doesn't necessarily mean for you to try again.

All your reading is signs, but that doesn't mean he likes you, AGAIN. Try talking to your ex. a little, if you get the sign that he's being stand off- ish when you talk to him back off. If you don't get the signs just try talking to him a little more, try asking who he likes, and see what he says. Take things slowly with him, I mean he is your EX. Things don't pick up immediatley from where you left off esp. if its been almost more than half the year. But you might wanna look a little more closely with the situation.

Do yourself and me a favor. Don't be too
settled in on the idea of getting back with your ex., it may not be what its all cracked up to be. Don't put yourself on hold, they way you have for months. You have to let yourself be of interest to other people. And other people are interested in you, and you're not giving them a chance because you THINK their is a possibility that you and your ex MAY get back together?

Truth hurts, but the probability of exes getting back together are slim. You did say because of you're parents, but even for that reason, it still doesn't mean that he wants to get back together with you. It has been awhile. If you don't date other people, you could be missing out on some really great guys out there. See what else is out there instead of looking just in one place, you'll never know what you'll find. But chances are the greater variety you have, the more you'll find the right fit that makes you happy. :) Hope I helped.

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ok so i'm a freshman and i've been thinking a lot about college, do you think it's too early? i'm just excited haha.

No!, absolutely not, in fact that is what you should do as a freshman. It's important for you from being a freshmen and all the way to your senior year to keep your grades up, its' really important. That's what colleges look at, your'e GPA all throughout high school. Mostly on the 4 most important subjects in school. #1) Being Math 2)English 3)History 4)Science. It is really important to keep your grades up in all of these subjects even beginning as a freshman. This determines what college you'll go to, even your junior and senior year. If you don't have the grade, you may not be able to go to the college you where you want to go. You can start applying to colleges your junior yr. rather than senior yr. because if you wait for senior yr. it could be late for that. Also, since your a freshman, its HIGHLY advicable that you should join extracurricular activities in your school such as: Sports, Band, Clubs (such as BETA, Mu Alpha Theta, Chess?) Any of those, can boost your chances of going to college you want to go to, that and your GPA (3.0-4.0) (Grade Point Average) and SAT and ACT (last tests you have to take Junior your Senior year of high school, they have test preps before you take these tests). These all determine what college you are going to get into. So keep these up, you'll probably get to go to any college you want to. Good luck and hope I helped.

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love songs are good too.
idontknow but they make me miss him.
here are some that i already like.

goodbye to you
tim mcgraw (taylor swift)
breathe
so contagious
the alamo is no place for dancing
with me
getting into you
your guardian angel
only one

i dont like metal/screamo.
or top 40 music.
so what are some songs that have to do with breakups? or love songs?



thanksabunchhxx

Frankie J- How to deal
Usher ft. Alicia Keys- My boo
Usher- Let it burn
Usher- U remind me
Toni Braxton- He wasn't man enough
Natalie- Goin Crazy
Eamon- F*** You back (I don't want you back)
Frankee- F*** you right back
Avant- Seperated
Madonna- Take a bow
Justin Timberlake- Still on my brain
Maroon 5- Say Goodbye/ Won't go home without you
Beyonce- Irreplacable
All- American Rejects- It ends tonight
Kelly Clarkson- Since you've been gone
Katharine Mcphee- Over it
Alan Jackson- Best I ever had
Nivea- Laudromat
Lily Allen- Smile
Hinder- Better than me
Sia- Breathe me
The grace- Neverending white lights
The Spill Canvas- All hail the heartbreaker
Jason Mraz- You and I both
Faith Hill- Like we never loved at all
Paramore- Never let this go
A fine frenzy - Almost lover
Jewel- Foolish games

Hope I helped. :)

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Okay, does anyone know any good love songs/sad songs?
I like oldies, pop, rock, classic rock, some country. I dont really like punk and metal, but i

Buckcherry- Sorry
Rod Stewart- Don't wanna talk about it
Toni Braxton- Unbreak my heart
Madonna- Take a bow
Mariah Carey- 1.Cry baby 2.The One
Rascal Flatts- Whar hurts the most
Sia- Butterflies
Chris Brown - Heart to Heart
Taggiz -She's gone
Jason Mraz- You and I both
Amanda Perez- Never
Frankie J- How to deal
The Verve- Bittersweet Symphony
Maroon 5- Nothing lasts forever
Kid Rock ft. ?- Pictures
Blink 182- I miss you
Kelly Clarkson- The trouble with love is
Avril Lavigne- Sorry
Babyface -When can I see you again
Justin Timberlake- Still on my brain
Hope I helped.

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Ok well this is kinda weird and kinda random but i was wondering why do guys like girls' breasts? i mean whats the big deal? im a girl and i know guys like look at girls' breasts and talk about whos bigger and all that but why? why does it matter? how come they arent dying to see like our stomachs instead? is it just like how guys r brought up? its like in them to like girls' breasts?? thanx so much! haha i will rate for answering my question :]

Coming from a girl. (I know)
I'd say a guy is so into a girls body and her breasts because its something that they DON'T have. (Well they have them too but you know they aren't like ours (mounted lol). Rhat's why they are so fascinated with girls boobs. Small or big it something that guys don't have in sense that it attracts them.

And also, there are some guys out there who aren't very big on breasts. There's guys who are more of a big butt man that a boob man. But really I think, MOST guys see that as girls we can have so many assets to what makes our body look good. Being from face, long/short hair, smile, big/small breasts, big/small butts, and our vaginas. As to the guys we girls could only really see their faces ,and a butt and penis (lol) so we have so much assets, that guys just love to notice about us and our bodies.

If you got it flaunt it, if you don't you do, just accentuate it more. Be happy with your body :) Our bodies are like temples to guys ;)

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I'm in the 7th grade there this 8th grader i really like and he alway talk to me so i wanted too know should i tell him i like him or wait please and thanks

Well it depends on how long you've known him. If you've known him for awhile like the minimum to know him is 6 months then I say go for it. But if you've known him for less than that I'd say wait awhile longer. If you haven't known him long get to know him more before you even think about telling him you like him. That way, you can see if he's really the type of guy for you. Like, if you found out he's really a jerk, then you'll see that he's really not worth liking.

But you'll never know unless you ask. You could ask him if he likes you. Ask him that, instead of saying "Hey I like you silly!" Or ask him if he likes anyone, and you should get a response. If it's not you, well at least you know, you know? So try asking this first. At least you'll know.
But, hopefully and wish you best of luck that he likes you. So why not ask? :)

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so this kid and i have liked eachother for a long time and we've hooked up enough times. but i want to go farther than kissing with him. but i don't know how to initiate that. or tell him ahead of time. help? thanks.

Really its best if you don't plan this type of thing ahead of time. Trust me, its better that way, because when you don't plan, then its just more special that way. If you plan ahead then it won't mean as much because you expect things to happen. Just go with the flow with this kid, and let whatever happens HAPPENS. But if you really want to step things up, make a move (like when your kissing try leaning him back on the couch), see if he wants to take things further, but if he backs off then slow things down. Hope I helped.

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I started Middle school this fall. I made a lot of friends this year. My best friend and I are in the same lunch and she keeps giving off this vibe that she is angry with me. Z (my bff) and I haven't fought at all this year and I didn't spread any rumors or snub her or anything, but she seems mad at me. Neither of us are part of the "in" crowd, though we have friends in it. We sit at the same lunch table, but she barely speaks to me. We used to be really close. Sorry for the length, but any advice would be greatly appreciated!

If you know you didn't do anything wrong, then I wouldn't worry about it that much. Just ask her if she's mad at you or something, it can really help you out alot if you just ask, it can take the weight and the tension of your back. Just ask at least you know whether or not she's mad at you. Try asking her something like this : What's up with you, we haven't talked in awhile?, hope I helped. :)

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ok so we just got back to school on wednesday because of winter break..and of course i hadnt talked to some ppl over break because well it was break..when i got back, i really wanted to talk to my friend kevin because i hadnt seen him in so long.well i actually really really like him and i missed him..anyway..on wednesday he smiled at me but that was really the only time he really acknowledged me..on thursday at lunch i looked over at his table and smiled and he kinda smiled back but then he like stared off into space and i could tell he was really thinking about something but idk what. then i was walking like right behind him and i know he saw me because he turned around and half glanced at me but didnt say anything.friday morning i was walking to 1st period with my 2 guys friends and we passed him but and he smiled at me but at lunch he didnt look at me once..[usually during lunch we smile at each other alot and he gives me alot of attention]..then when i passed him in the hall we made eye contact for like 3 seconds but then he kept looking straight foward and i could tell he was trying not to look in my direction.

i dont get why hes acting like this at all..i didnt do anything in the past 3 days to make him mad or not want to talk to me..i dont understand it even more because all of his friends would talk to me during the week.i cant stand it when he wont talk to me and it drives me crazy..i just get all upset and now i have to wait until monday to talk to him..that is if he even will talk.do you have any ideas as to why he wont talk to me?

any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

So I'm thinking, maybe there's a chance that he likes you. Does he know that you like him? If he got the message that you do in fact like him, he may just be in fact shocked and likes you you too but doesn't quite know how to react to this or respond.

Try talking to him, ( don't have to bring up that you like him) just talk to him like you usually do. Try saying: So ______ (his name) what's going on we haven't talked in awhile whats going on with you. This maybe give him an ultimatum and it takes the awkardness of this situaution, and that you are indeed comfortable talking to him.

So really, I think that he may have found out that you liked him and he doesn't really know how to respond to this, it seems like he likes you though. So check up with him, see whats going on between the two of you and see what he says. Don't let words go unspoke, you'll regret it later. Hope I hepled/

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how can i get a bigger butt??
lol
15/f
my news years resolution is to gain weight this year
and my friend said i have no butt
so now i want one..lol...

Do you really want to gain weight or do you want to gain weight so you can get a bigger butt?

SQUATS
Do squats about 20 on each side left and right.

STEP- UPS
Where you step- up on a play form and lean forward. You can use weight belles along with it.

BRIDGE
Where you lay flat on your backside with your knees bent. While your in this position lift you butt from the floor. Do this about 15-20 times.

These exercises lift and tone your butt, making it firm.

There is no cream solution to make you have a wonderful cream to make you have a big butt, you just have to work with what you have or you can make it appear that you have a big butt.

When wearing jeans, where jeans that have big pockets on the back so it makes it appear that way. That can help, there is also butt padding but I think you can work with what you got ;) Hope I helped.

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what do you do when you dont like
any one but you have alot of guys
after you and if you do something
or hang out wiht another guy they
get all mad and then when you try
and tell them you dont want to date
they get mad and say your leading them on?
and all i want to do is be friends wiht
them.

All the better, is just to be completely honest with them. Tell them that you don't like anyone in particular right now and that you only think of them as friends. Be clear on what you say because thats what probably led them to think that way (that you lead guys on) , just explain it to them. You probably flirt with your guy friends (and there is nothing wrong with that) they just probably get the wrong idea that you like them a little, thats probably another reason why. WE ALL LIKE TO FLIRT, its human but it doesn't necessarily mean that when we do that , we automatically like you, right? Take this into perspective hope I helped. :) Good luck!

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my friend told me if you like a gay guy youre considered a lesbian, is this true?

Uh-uh by no means! All my friends and inc. me think there is some hot gay guys out there, and wishing that maybe 'one night' can turn him around, lol, by no means you're a lesbian. That's ridiculous.

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