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So this weekend I went swimming at a indoor pool with a friend and when I got home the next night my eye started to hurt at the bottom whenever I blinked. This morning I woke up and it was red and swollen underneath... Any ideas what it is? How did this happen? How do I fix it? HELP! (link)
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well, i'm no doctor and i can't see it, but it sounds like a stye. if you lay off make up or anything around it, it sohuld clear up in a few days. they sell drops at your local grocery store for it to help with the swelling and pain.
I would get it checked out though!
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can u buy them with out your parents or anyone knowing? do they sell them to 15 year old's? (link)
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yes! use cash and go to your local walmart or something. :) if you're embarassed, there's always self chck out.
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I am really not sure of their friendship I mean we hung out and stuff but I've only dated my ex for 2-3 weeks so it's not like I know my ex well enough to figure out who his best friend is...
All I know is they play football sometimes, go out to eat... and yeah... friend from high school...
Oh by the way I am 21/f... (link)
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Eh it's fine. If anything, your ex and his friend that's pursing you will have a chat about it. You aren't in high school anymore! It's okay. I would wait it out for a while longer than usual and if it goes well, then let the pursuit begin, if it's still just "whatever" then don't push it.
I would just take it easier in this "talking" phase. But your ex is an ex for a reason, so don't give him too much credit!
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Welll, Im Friends with this guy and i been talking on the phone with em for couple Days we dont sleep at alljust to stay on the phone and uhh we be talking dirty like him getting boners and im telling em im bi and stuff like that but i dont know if he likes me . he told me that my voice is sexy im like ahh weird (link)
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He likes how you make him feel.
Don't let it fool you.
If you're not hanging out in person, I'd cut the crap on the phone.
He's probably using you.
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I don't know if he means to be, but he has embarrassed me badly by saying things that hurt others' feelings. He insulted his teacher's daughter on the last day of school this past year when he thought telling her, "I like your sister" was a big compliment, even if he told her she should wish she looked more like her sister. She had come to eat lunch with her mom and when he continued with, "She's got a hot body and she knows how to work it" and made inappropriate remarks about the sister, he mad her feel so uncomfortable that she left the school. That's NOT okay, and when I heard, I knew she had probably told her mom all about it and she probably didn't like him anymore. I was sure of it when I heard he had gotten in trouble on the same day for calling a classmate ugly, I've tried talking to him, but he seems to just get worse, like he has zero empathy. Any advice? (link)
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Well, this kid needs to learn some respect. We live in a culture that ignore honor. Every single time he starts to make a horrible remark, you pull him to the side, punish him and keep on going. Punishing him may not be limited to talking but also to grounding him from important things. Or make him apologize directly to the person - he will become embarassed - hopefully. Put him in his place, this is no way to be talking to people.
You know what this could turn into? Emotional abuse to his future spouse. Nip it in the butt no matter how hard it will be. :D
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my 21 year old daughter has been sentenced to 5 months in the county jail (She never did anything like this before and it was a big shock) and I told her I don't really feel sorry for her because she committed the crime and she needs to do the time and maybe it will be a good learning experience and toughen her up. Is this too harsh? Am I a bad person for saying this? (link)
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You are being a good mom.
If you were to bail her out and baby her, she would appreciate it, but would learn NOTHING from it.
This is coming from someone who is 20. It sucks for her now, but in the end, she will learn her lesson the hard way. She will survive, it's the county jail - not the end of the world.
You can be there for her and continue to love her, the relationship may get rocky, but it will be stronger in the end. Keep pressing on!
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F. In order to practice safe sex (avoiding it for as long as I can) I have decided to try to masterbate. People say that everyone has done it before but I'm almost 19 and I haven't ever tried it yet. Sure I'll feel really horny but I wouldn't actually try it. Until today. I was wet...but I felt nothing. Maybe it's because I have nails that I was scared of scratching something inside of me but either way I felt nothing when I stuck my pointing finger inside me, Inside it curled around something. I don't know if I'm just out of touch with my body or what. (link)
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Hey girl!
So, the best thing to do is to RELAX. do it at home, when no one is there, watch some innappropro videos to kind of get yourself loosened, whatever.
Play with everything!!! boobies too!!
also, I don't get turned on by fingering myself, but i do like to play with my clit. the little ball of nerves at the top of your flap. it's delightful. if you were wet, you were totally turned on. fantasy is everythign too!! get creative :P
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Hi my name is Janie and I am almost 18 years old and going into my senior year of high school. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now and everything has been fine. Since I started high school some of my friends have been going further and further with their boyfriends (sexually) and I made a promise to myself and God that I would never go that far. I never had a problem with making out but before I knew it my shirt was up and my boyfriend went further than I wanted him to go. I still have my virginity but I can't shake this feeling like I'm dirty. I didn't know how to stop him and now whenever I think about him or see him I just feel uncomfortable, upset and well, for lack of a better word, like a slut. I know he enjoyed it and I'm positive he will be upset when I tell him to slow it down. How should I approach a conversation with him that I don't want anything similar to happen again and that it was too far for me? I know he isn't like me and hasn't made a promise to chastity and waiting until marriage. Should I break up with him if he doesn't agree with my boundaries? (link)
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Your boyfriend cares about you right?
Is he only using you for sex? NO.
If you answered yes to the second question, then break up with the boy. But if you guys have been together because you care for each other he WILL honor you in keeping your promise. Tell him even if it's hard. Tell him.
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19/F - good girl, Christ follower, never dated anyone.
This guy I've known for 3 years is 22. He loves Jesus - which is SUPER attractive, wants to be a pastor etc. I really like him, but the question is, does he like me? Tell me what you think.
Background info: he's super popular, has a lot of friends, is very honoring to his mom and other girls.
I saw him last week (i go to school a few hours away) and took pictures for an event he put on. we talk a lot, he tickles me (never seen him do that to others), he jokes about hooking me up with one of his good friends because we both want to move to Chicago, texts me when I leave and tells me he is thankful for coming and i should transfer to his school, or hang with them more.
I see him the next day at something him and friends are preaching at. I head out early and I make eye contact with him. He walks me out and to my car. Hugs me 3 times in a span of 5 minutes. Asks me if we are going to dance at a wedding coming up, asks me what color i'm wearing to it, we talk about other stuff, he texts me that night and says, "im so grateful you came, can't tell you enough".
Am i reading too much into this? or does this kid like me?! or interested? how can i tell!?! whatcha think? (link)
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How many tampons should I use a day? I heard you're supposed to take it out after two hours instead of what it says on the pack, but it hurts every time I take one out. I also wanted to know, will it ever stop hurting? I mean, a tampon usually feels ok going in, and I didn't even feel it when I used it, but when I took it out, it really hurt! I'd use pads all the time if I could, but since it's summer (and my family goes to the beach a lot) if I don't go in the water, it'll be really embarassing having to tell everyone I'm on my period. I hope you can help! (link)
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It's all good, everyone must learn sometime.
Okay, most likely if it hurts taking it out, it is too try or you didn't put it in correctly. It probs was too dry and you may be using too heavy of a tampon. Also, you can keep it in to what it says on the box - that's why they have that on there!
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Can an employer fire an employee because their pre-convicted mugshot appears online on mugshots.com? (link)
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Welll, let's be real, they can fire you for anything they can think of!
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I met this guy named C.J. about 2 weeks ago. I have seen him almost everyday since and he recently asked me out on a date. The only problem is when i first met him i told him I was 22 (I'm really 20). the only reason i lied was because he is 29 and i didn't want my age to get in the way of getting to know this great guy. I also told him i had a degree in political science when in reality i didn't finish :/ (i dropped out 3 semesters short of getting my degree). i had no idea I was going to be seeing this guy so much and like him as much as i do. i feel so childish for having lied but i want to make it right but i need to think of a good way of telling him. Thank you in advance if you take a minute to give me advice:).
P.S. i have always dated older men and my parents are 100% on board with the age difference (link)
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Hi! I totally understand where you were coming from when your first instinct was to fib.
Well, now that it's growing deeper, know that you cannot build a relationship of lies.
I would clear it up NOW.
Next date, get on a serious topic and let him know. It's not like youre 17 or something. Also, if he likes you, it's not because you're 22 or because you have a degree, it's because of who you are. If you're lying to him, the feeling might dwindle or leave him. Got it?
Good luck!
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Im a female who is not a virgin and i dont think ive had an orgasm...even if i try to please my self i can not reach my orgasm...and if i was to have one what would it feel like (link)
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Alright. You probably didn't have the best partner if you didn't orgasm. Men can get there quick, but for women it takes time. I personally have experienced many climaxes just by rubbing my clit. It feels so good! Next time you sleep with someone, make sure you do a lot of fore-play. A LOT. Because as a women, you need the firting, kissing, massaging, etc. to become turned on.
It feels like a build up of pressure. You want to stop rubbing, but at the same time you know you should continue. There is a slight pulse, and you can feel your muscles tighten and loosen qucikly. Really, to me, the build up is the best - then the orgasm comes and I can almost feel my hormones just flooding my body. Good luck!
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F/19
I am about to be a sophomore in college. My whole life I have made fairly good grades up until high school. I started a bad habit of procrastinating and getting things done only at the last minute. My grades suffered a little, but ultimately I finished high school with good enough grades to get into a pretty big university. Anyway, this past year (as a freshman) my grades suffered a great deal. I couldn't focus in class, I couldn't motivate myself to do any of the work, even the night before it was due. And it's not like I party much. I hardly every went out. But when it would come down to doing my work, I TRIED to get focused and I couldn't. The week of finals, I had to write a huge paper, and sat in front of my computer for literally 6 hours and wrote a total of one paragraph. It's not that I find the work boring, and deep down I love learning.
Since my grades dropped so low, I was put on academic probation. And I know that all I need to do is focus. I just don't know how to get motivated. I know the consequences, I just can't make myself have the will to complete things. What I am wondering is.. how do I make myself focus? (link)
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Hey!
Okay typically high school students that excelled have trouble in college. Why? FREEDOM. I'm in college now and I totally understand the concept of getting excited to venture out of your everyday high school life. It's good to know that you must focus, but let me just tell you, knowing that is not enough. What needs to happen is that you need to find a way to MAKE yourself focus. That may be in study groups, a reward system, or simply logging off facebook/twitter and focusing only on the paper you need to write - whatever. Do you have a job? Sometimes having too much freetime is the problem. When you have a job, are involved with extracurricular or whatever and you have limited time to get stuff done or you start loosing sleep, then you become very focused!!
Good Luck :D
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I have a friend who has a partner,but lately,he has been calling me a lot telling me how much he misses me when he doesn't see me for a while or how much he needs me,in the night when he's in bed he sends me several texts saying'I wish you were with me right now'or'I'd like to spend the whole night hugging you',plus he knows I'm in a relationship so I don't know why he would tell me all these things.All I can do is laugh and asking him to stop talking nonesense,I don't wanna be disrespectful either,because I appreciate him as a friend,what can I say to him? Thanks! (link)
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well this is when you have to have a DTR with him. DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP. Ask him how him and his partner are doing, talk about your relationship, and then define that you two are just friends. let him know that the texts he sends are not honoring to his relationship and you arent a big fan because it makes you feel uncomfortable or you get mixed signals. :)
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A guy from my school that I recently started to talk to texted me the other day and asked if we could hang out at the park sometime next week.
I asked my mom if I could, and she said no. Her reasons were fair, legitimate reasons such as: she doesn't know practically anything about him, she's not comfortable with leaving me alone at a park with some guy, etc. I completely understand those reasons, and I tried to argue my point (in a responsible manner), but she still won't let me go. She trusts me, she's just unsure about him.
Now I'm afraid that he won't ever try to hang out with me again or he'll be scared off and we won't get a chance to hang out with each other. I mean, the only way we can get to know each other and learn more about one another is if we hang out, right?
So I should I just leave it, or do you think I should try to argue my case some more? (link)
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If this guy really likes you, he won't give up just because your mother doesnt know him.
that seems pretty dumb to me!
he will stick with you, and respect your parents.
take it slow, one step at a time...
how about you guys hang out sometime at your place where your mom can mingle with him... but don't make it too awkward, so play some guitar hero or soemthing!
don't stress!
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I am a 20yr old female.
I fell in love with a married man who is 44. I am not a fan of cheating but he and his wife merely coexist in the same household. Well, we have continued our relationship regardless of the fact that we both think it is wrong. I can't help my feelings and neither can he.
#1- can it work?
#2- ways to make it work?
#3- I think I'm pregnant. What the heck do we do?!
We are financially stable and willing to raise this baby together but he has a son my age and a wife who is clueless about us. I'm so lost. Experiences? Advice? Thanks guys! (link)
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1. Sorry to say, but it may feel right now, but it won't in the ling run. If he is willing to give up his marriage now, what will he do to you later in life?
2. Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel it is very wrong.
3. Does he know your prego? Tell him. This might help end his current marriage.
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Ok...well i dont know where to start exactly but here i go. It started at the beginning of november that i felt this way for this girl and what doesnt make sense is why i cant be with her because she has this guy that doesnt treat her right and doesnt pay attention.. but anyways ive been talking to her alot the pass 4 days and i could see from her how much she cares about me and she knows how much i care about her and i cant get over the fact thats what she has been feeling and said. im head over heels for this girl and ive told her everything and i feel like i can tell her anything. but whats keeping her from dumping her boyfriend and going out with me is that hes threatened to kill himslef and shes scared hes going to actually do it. but ive been told hes only saying it because he wants her to stay but i dont know what to tell her and i dont know what to do. haha im usually able to take care of this but im really stuck and ive been really depressed for the past 2 days because ive been worried about her and im scared of whats going on and im hoping everything is going okay but i dont know what to say to her now i just need help of what to do.. (link)
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Well, as you know shes in an abusive relationship.
She may not realize it, but her friends do. You may be the only one that has the heart to point that out to her. You may have to do that. Talk to her about it. And if she wants to break up with her boyfriend, tell her to do it over the phone. If they do it in person, he might rage at her and hit her or something like that. You cant control your feelings, so just go for it. Start out slow. If her and her boyfrannn break up, dont go for her right away. Comfort her, and wait it out. Then you go right ahead and treat her well!
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I really like one of my friends, J, and I really would like to go out with him. What kind of stuff should I do to like try attract him and get him to know that I like him, besides the really obvious stuff like playing with hair? And what kind of girls do you think are really pretty. Sorry I don't have a pic of me but I have lightish brown hair thats a little longer than shoulder length, am 5"4, am fair-skinned, really big blue eyes, and kind of skinny. (link)
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just do little things like...
walk away from the group [while hes in there]
and see if he follows you.
see if hes making contact with you.
bring up homecoming or dances.
give him a hug every time you see him,
and then dont give him a hug one day.
and see if he notices or comes up to you and
give you a hug. etc.
got it?
lol.
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(14/f 8th grader)Sorry for this being long!Also sorry if this will sound stupid or anything but I've had a crush on this guy since the last days of my 7th grade year.Anyways,lately hes been staring at me or when he makes joke he all ways turns around(or look at me when i turn towards him)he looks striaght at me with a smile.I like the fact that he does that(of course)but I'm not really sure if he likes me.Also,my friend(sorta like a best friend)keeps telling me hes looking at me when hes in the lunch line.She also likes him too,but not as much now cause now she likes another boy shes obsessed with.I do take a peek amd see if he is and HE IS but i'm not sure if its me or something or someone else...Also i caught him 3 times looking at me an a monday.I guess you could sorta say our friend(hes sorta cool to talk to when you'er bored in class) umm...lets call him Kyle.well Kyle had detention the whole day for a offending a photgrapher pretending his hand was like a pistol and trying shoot him(the photographer)and he got detention for friday and monday the whole day.So it was boring the whole 1st period and the frist time I cuaght him was:1-I was looking around the room bored outa my mind and I saw him and he quickly turned around.
2:I was fixing my shoe looked up saw him staring at me agian except this time it took him longer to look away.
3:Got up to turn on the lights he stared at me till i sat on my seat.
My friend keeps telling me that maybe he does like me but I'm always not sooo sure.All i wanna know if those are signs that he likes me or somethin' cuse I'm really confused...Also just to give you an example of what kind of guy he is,he's like the skater guy who likes to listen to the band KORN and hes not really much of a flirt hes more of the sweet kind of guy who'll help you on your homework or let you copy his homework..... (link)
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go for it girl!
take a chance.
theres no real way of telling if someone likes you until you just ask them or something along those lines.
it sounds like he does.
but start out by talking to him alot.
and move on from there.
i think you'll get the hint if he likes you or not from there!
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