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I lied to this guy I just met about my college degree and my age...yikes
I met this guy named C.J. about 2 weeks ago. I have seen him almost everyday since and he recently asked me out on a date. The only problem is when i first met him i told him I was 22 (I'm really 20). the only reason i lied was because he is 29 and i didn't want my age to get in the way of getting to know this great guy. I also told him i had a degree in political science when in reality i didn't finish :/ (i dropped out 3 semesters short of getting my degree). i had no idea I was going to be seeing this guy so much and like him as much as i do. i feel so childish for having lied but i want to make it right but i need to think of a good way of telling him. Thank you in advance if you take a minute to give me advice:).
P.S. i have always dated older men and my parents are 100% on board with the age difference
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Hi! I totally understand where you were coming from when your first instinct was to fib.
Well, now that it's growing deeper, know that you cannot build a relationship of lies.
I would clear it up NOW.
Next date, get on a serious topic and let him know. It's not like youre 17 or something. Also, if he likes you, it's not because you're 22 or because you have a degree, it's because of who you are. If you're lying to him, the feeling might dwindle or leave him. Got it?
Good luck!
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Better to honest with him. Why did you lie? You are above 18 and are legally considered an adult anyway.
Either way to be honest it does not look good when you lie. You very well may of blown your chances, Maybe not but I personally would be second guessing whether I would be able to trust someone who couldn't be honest even before dating.
Tell him the truth. Better sooner then later
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There is really no good way to tell him. The best way is simply "sooner rather than later".
So don't wait for the right time. Tell him the first moment you get alone with him. Or, if you are worried you'll chicken out face to face, sit down and write him an e-mail, right this second.
It's only been a few weeks, so it's very possible that you're relationship with this guy can get past this initial dishonesty, but it'll be more damaging the longer you leave it.
So just blurt it out, all at once, at the first chance you get. You'll earn no points by being delicate or careful, there is no good way to slowly reveal it. You'll earn points with total, unreserved honesty. So get to it.
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Hey there, Okay the good thing about this situation is you didnt prolong it for months.You have realised your mistake and are ready to come clean. Just be honest with him. Tell him you panicked just blurted it out. Tell him you didnt intenionally try and lead him on. I have lied about my age once before and it turned out okay once I told the truth. Tell him you are truly sorry for having lied, but that you like him a lot and if he can forgive you hopefully you can make a go of it. Im not saying he will just forgive you but theres a chance he might. If not well then you will have learned a valuable lesson for the future. The only thing you can do at that point is move on.and not make the same mistake. He might understand and respect you for telling the truth. Eith er way you are going to have to. Good luck and much <3 Jess 18/f
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