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question for guys....
I really like one of my friends, J, and I really would like to go out with him. What kind of stuff should I do to like try attract him and get him to know that I like him, besides the really obvious stuff like playing with hair? And what kind of girls do you think are really pretty. Sorry I don't have a pic of me but I have lightish brown hair thats a little longer than shoulder length, am 5"4, am fair-skinned, really big blue eyes, and kind of skinny.
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just do little things like...
walk away from the group [while hes in there]
and see if he follows you.
see if hes making contact with you.
bring up homecoming or dances.
give him a hug every time you see him,
and then dont give him a hug one day.
and see if he notices or comes up to you and
give you a hug. etc.
got it?
lol.
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telllllllll him !!!!!!!!!that u like him
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lol, tz, girls... ;)
things like playing with your hair are NOT obvious to the vast majority of guys. all the subtle stuff will usually be lost on them because guys are very dense when it comes to body language.
Reading your post I think you both are very young, and you might be still one of his first possible girlfriends. As a rule of thumb: a guy is attracted to any girl. guys are easy as long as you dont have competition.
So I think you could simply say something like "hey, why dont you invite me to some cool concert next saturday?" and it would work. but I dont think you want to do that.
1. You want to make him think he has a chance with you, so that he will try to attract you.
2. You dont want to show too much interest in him, because that can be a turnoff(dont worry about that too much, just notice that clingy girls get boring after a while).
so how do you attract guys?:
1. looks. and thats pretty much it. sorry to tell you but thats the first and most important quality a guy looks for in a girl.
2. not being a total psycho. I think you can handle that. some girls cant.
3. personality. being cool and fun and intelligent. having goals in life. etc.
I dont think there are any major things you could do to attract him(except wearing a skirt), because a guy can see a woman from BEHIND and know that hes attracted to her(well, until she turns around with the moleman-face). and for the minor part personality plays, you know each other already so there isnt much to do.
I believe you can assume that he feels at least some attraction for you(that does NOT mean he is in love, but hey, we have to start somewhere). So the problem isnt how to attract him but how to make him approach you. Why didnt he approach you already if hes attracted? Well, because getting rejected is a scary thing, especially in your social circle. and approaching a girl is hell of an emotional effort. I believe you can lessen his fear and strengthen his spirits if you make him think he has a chance.
So how could you do that?
1. start small first and see how he responds. try this: make him a really sweet compliment. just one. it does not matter what it is about but it should really boost his ego. Something he does not get complimented on often is better. If your compliment is good he will spent a lot of time thinking about you.
2. flirt. negging and banter is very sexy and great fun. it builds up tension. dont get mean, but understand that you can say "i hate you" and communicate "i love you". btw, thats like magnifying attraction.
3. smile at him and look at him, try to spend some time close to him. being close to a girl makes guys senses go crazy.
I think those are very powerful and should suffice.
For everything else, dont be too easy, or he wont feel like you dont have much value, dont be too hard, because then he will give up.
2nd questions answer:
all girls are pretty. some more than others :P
you sound above average pretty, so worry about something else. oh, and tastes really differ(eventhough there are tendencies, long hair, nice proportions, big blue eyes ;P etc.).
good luck
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