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(please no lectures about what foods in this list you think i should or shouldn't be eating, i'm going to eat what i like, i just want to do it in the right moderation for a maintainable weight).

If I stay at or below 1500 calories a day and I work out for about 10-20 min a day 4-5 days a week (doing things like aerobics, belly dancing, yoga, running) will i lose a natural flow of weight?

(to give you an idea of what i will eat...i have some health shakes (160 calories per serving) that are like ensure where you can drink them when you are busy or to replace a meal but they have a meal supply of nutrients- 2 of those, a grilled chicken sandwich with no sauce at 400 calories, 2 ice cream sandwich bars that are 100 calories each, and a pack and a 1/2 of ramen at about 300 calories and i usually drink water but let's go ahead and add in 3- 8oz glasses of arizona iced tea at 90 calories per serving...1490 calories for the day.

i just want something regular that i can enjoy and keep up with. that is what i am doing right now. I just haven't made it totally regular yet.

Even though you have around only 1500 calories, a lot of those calories are empty calories or bad ones.
Top ramen is really bad for you because there's a lot of salt in it, salt makes your body retain water and then you get bloated so you look bigger.
For drinks, you can cut down a lot of calories if you only drink water.
Also, two ice cream sandwich bars aren't good for you and are filled with a lot of fat, even though there only 100 calories they're the bad kinds of calories, so maybe you can find other healthier things to replace these with, like fruits, vegetables, almonds, a sandwich, or granola bar. Those are just some healthy alternatives.
www.sparkteens.com is a really good website for managing your calorie intake vs calorie out take, how much water you drink, and a lot more.

Hope I helped :)

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Im not fat, but my legs do carry a lot of my weight. ive been trying super hard to work it off( i eat very healthy, i run at 2 miles every day, i have volleyball practice for 3 hours and its all running). the weight just doesnt seem to go off. i really want to loose the weight because im starting high school and i dont want to be critized because of my legs. please help.

Try and eat around 1,300 to 1,500 calories a day. Also don't eat a lot of heavy stuff, totally take away red meats, bacon, breads, ramen noodles, salts, ice creams, candies, soda, potatoes, and fast foods.
Keep working out, do lunges, leg lifts, wall sits, and stand up on your heels and lower them back down over and over again (heelups).
If you do that and what your normally doing the weight should start to go down, drink a lot of water, and try www.sparkteens.com it's a really awesome website.
If you want to try this new drink called the celsius calorie burning drink, I saw it on the news the other day for how good of an energy/calorie burning drink it is. You drink it before you workout and it helps you burn an additional few hundred calories.

Hope I helped :)

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hey i know alot of you out there will bash me for asking this question but

does nayone know of any good diet pills that actualy work?

i am in a situation where I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT and do diet and excersize but i wouldnt mind diet pills

any suggestions?

and if you are going to answer my question please dont be mean spirited

i want good answers with actual suggestions please

thank you!

Okay, so most people say that diet pills don't work and blah blah blah. And in fact, most don't but that's because these people that take them are LAZY and don't put in the exercise you need in order for the pills to take effect.
So there are a few:
Alli weight loss pills=if you don't follow the diet and exercise you will get some nasty side effects, so you NEED to follow these.
Celsius energy burning drink= I actually saw this on the news for how good it is, it only works if you exercise along with it, and burns around 100 calories, you drink it before you start exercising.
Apedexin=This got really really good reviews, they're more expensive than above though.

Remember that all of these you need to put in exercise and they just give you that extra boost to get you loosing a little more calories.

Good luck :) Tell me which you decide to go with if any and tell me how they work

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Ok. My boy friend has a lot of people who hate him and dislike him,he's nice, sweet and cares about people and people think that means he's gay! His friend told me that people started a rumor about him that he's bisexual and stuff. It ruined his reputation. I believe that he doesn't because he never told me he was, and he flirts and says he wants me in his bed LOL so, like idk what to do, it worrys me. See He's in 9th im in 8th. The homecomings coming up and i cant come :/ I asked him if he's going with anyone he said "ya with a guy tyler JK" SO i dont know.. what should i do? Is there any signs to if he is or not? I really love him, and he said himself he loved me two? so.. help?

It doesn't matter what other people say, as said below, but it matters about how you feel about each other. If he does have some feelings for other guys, and you love him, then it shouldn't matter.
But I'm guessing he's not gay because if people dislike him and it was a rumor, then obviously it was just a rumor.
Also, so what? gay/bi people are often more understanding and loyal and trustworthy than the average guy.
If you guys can't go to homecoming together do what me and my boyfriend did and just go out to dinner and hangout with each other.

I hope I helped :)

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sooo ok dont judge me because im asking this. im completely normal, i just love my boyfriend so much. weve been dating for 2 years and he suffers from schitzophrenia and he refuses to take medication because he hates the way it makes him feel. i feel so horrible 4 him because he is in so much pain and its just getting so much worse. i know he doesnt want to live anymore. yesterday he asked me to kill him and at first i didnt think he was serious but we talked for a while and he said it was the only way or he would do it himself. i dont want him to go to hell for committing suicide so i told him i would kill him so id go to hell instead. i havnt decided if im going to kill myself yet because my boyfriend says he doesnt want me to do that. but i dont know if i could deal with the fact i killed the boy im in love with. but what happens if a 16 year old kills another 16 year old who asked her to do it? jail? death penalty? psychiatric center forever? im not crazy im just putting the one i love out of his misery because i cant stand him being in pain any longer. id rather be in pain for him. just wanna know what would happen. dont try to do all that talking out of it and stuff either. wont work. thanks

"Everything will be okay in the end, if it's not okay, it's not the end."
Remember that quote, because it's very important.

I'm sensing that you and your boyfriend believe in god, because if the two of you didn't you wouldn't be worried about going to hell, so I'm asking you to think about this; do you think god himself wants this for you? He created the both of you for a reason, and put you on this earth for a reason, you are his children too, and he wants you to each live long, healthy, happy lives together.

I am also asking you to please not kill your boyfriend or commit suicide. You will either go to hell, or jail, or have to live with out your partner and with the guilt you will have. Ask your boyfriend, "don't you want to be married on day? experience kids? and the joys of life with each other as we grow old together?"

Tell him, if you kill yourself then you will leave me here, alone on this earth, without the love of my life. If you love me, you and me will stay together on this planet until god takes us up to heaven.

Please do not do this, it can be prevented. I understand where your coming from. If he doesn't want to take his medicine, tell him thats fine, but tell him to at least remember the things he can cherish in life.
You are one of the things he can cherish in life, and obviously he needs you now more than ever. Just explain to him that you want to grow old with him, and that he can get through it with you, and you will help him along the way. Tell him that before things get better, they always get worse, and death is not the answer.
Death may be the easy way out , but life is a huge privelege that god is handing to you, and there are some people that do not get to choose between life and death and there lives are taken from them or their family members, and they wanted to stay in life.

Life is always worth it in the end. You never get another one, and once its gone, there's no coming back.

I really hope I helped, tell me how things are going once you can please.
:)

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There's this girl in my class, and we were just sitting around talking, and she pulled a dollar out of her purse while she was digging for her phone and set it down for a minute, so i took and my uncle had taught me how to, so i made a ring out of it because i was bored, lol, and i set it back down. she smiled, and took it and was like, "aw, yes, i will" and we started laughing about it. Well anyways, later, i was singing 'I Want to Hold Your Hand', by the beatles, and i got to the part and said, "i hope you'll understand" and she was like, "I understand!"
Those are two specific things, but we flirt sometimes, and I asked her for her number so I could text her, and she gave it to me, but maybe just because we're friends. IDK!!!! ha, so, do you think she likes me..?

She DOES like you. Take it from a girls perspective. Yes, text her frequently and then ask her if she wants to go out to dinner and/or movie. If she takes a while to respond, say "just as friends"

Hope I helped :)

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Theres a show i want to go to around the end of November. The problem is that you have to be 16 or older. I'm still 14 but i turn 15 in October. I dont look young (i've had people that thought i was in college) at all so will that benifit me? I need to show an ID? I have my school ID and it doesn't show the year I graduate. could i use that?

Yes, use your school ID, but if you have any older sisters you could ask to borrow their license and dress up to look like them, same goes for older friends with the same facial features. You could dye your hair, or put on a wig and the rest makeup will do easy.
Also:
wear high heels &sophisticated clothing
dont act scared, just cool
dont giggle a lot

It may not work though because they might require a drivers license which will say how old you are not to mention you don't have one, but if you know anyone with a license or ID with similar features , ask for theirs to borrow.

Hope I helped :)

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Early on in our relationship, my now live-in boyfriend of 1.5 years admitted to me that he had cheated on almost every girlfriend he had ever had. But since we fell in love a few months later, he swears up and down that I am different - that he would never cheat. He says he loves me, respects me, and that we have a long future together. To my knowledge, he has never given me a reason not to believe him.

Despite all this, I find myself becoming more and more suspicious of him as time goes by. I secretly look at photos of his old girlfriends on his computer, I google them, and I am especially obsessed with one old flame in particular - a girl I know he has cheated with in past relationships. I look at her blog, dream about them together, and have even started doing things in the bedroom that I remember him saying she used to do. I know that he isn't seeing her right now, but I am obsessed with the fact that they might have cheated on me in the past, or might again in the future. Things have even gotten so bad that even I search through his email for her name.

I hate what I am doing, but I can't seem to stop. My friends say that I am worried about getting more serious with him - closer to marriage, etc. - and that it makes me worry more about his cheating. But I don't think this is an excuse for the kind of behavior that I'm engaging in! I need advice to help me trust my loving boyfriend, and to stop these awful, snoopy habits. Please help!

It's perfectly normal to doubt a previous "players" actions when your not around. Just sit him down, talk to him and say. Look I know I can trust you with anything, and you are a great boyfriend, but knowing about your past, I sometimes question wether or not you've cheated on me in the past.

See where that conversation gets you, and hopefully he'll reassure you.
Hope I helped :)

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So here's my situation. I started working at this sub shop back in June and I found out that one of the other employees was my brother's good friend. I'm 17, he's 20.

At first I thought he was...just not my type. I'm a straight-A student, graduated from high school 2 years early, pre-med, getting my AA degree next May, drank for the first time last June, hates drugs, etc. All that good stuff. Oh and I've never had a boyfriend or my first kiss. I'm not a prude and I'm not a loser--I just have met a lot of loser guys and I haven't had any interest in any that have liked me back.

So on a few nights at work that weren't busy we started talking and our conversations got...pretty deep. We talked about our opinions of love and about his past girlfriends and stuff like that. One night my brother asked me if I liked him and I didn't know how to answer because I wasn't quite sure yet--so I didn't say anything and he was like "oh so you do hahahaha". So now all of his friends know, including the guy in question. He didn't tell me that he knew. The guy I mean. He just left it alone and pretended he didn't know anything.

Well I finally talked to him about it because things were getting a little awkward. We talked for about an hour and a half. 1/4 of the conversation was about the subject at hand--dating eachother. The other 3/4 of the conversation was about other random stuff and joking around and etc. He said that when he heard about that I liked him he thought about it and considered it. He said he decided that I was really cool and cute and awesome but that I was just too innocent. He started saying how he has done such bad things in his life(of course i already knew about these things) and he said that we were just total opposites. I agree...we are. He's gothic and into metal music. I'm pre-med and love rap.

But...I think it was a cowardly excuse. He's only dated one type of girl--why not try something different? I'm not asking to get MARRIED here. All I care about is the feeling I get when I'm around him. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met. I don't care about how he has different intrests then me and is a little more experienced.

To conclude, I had that talk with him about 3 weeks ago. I have consistently had dreams about him everynight for about 2 weeks and I cannot stop thinking about him worth a dime.

I just wish that there was something I could do or say that would prove to him that it's not a lost cause and that it's worth a try. I don't really see what the big deal is. Any ideas on something that I should say? or do?

I've requested to my manager that I don't work on certain mornings in order to avoid him--so I can get over him. But the more I think about not seeing him at all anymore the more depressed I get. He really is a great guy. I'm literally down-in-the-dumps over him and that does not happen to me often. I don't know what else to do.

Even if he's done bad things in his life, it doesn't mean he doesn't deserve a nice girl. Also, opposites attract! Why don't you try and schedule some of your hours so that you are together more, and just be like, "you know how you said we were opposites, well opposites attract, and everyone makes mistakes in life. all I'm saying is giving it a try might be nice."
I don't really know how your conversations go, but something along those lines.

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hi im 16, a boy.

there is this really...reallly attractive girl who sits in front of me in class. I mean, the first thing i noticed was her body, which is really nice, she looks like...wow. i cant even say, she looks amazing. For some reason, this girl seems like the kind that i dont wanna give up on.

We never talked before, we only like look at each other once in a while. But i have no idea what she thinks. What does she think? How should i approach her? There is homecoming dance pretty soon btw.

any advice?????????
and please dont give me an obvious answer like "just talk to her"

I WANT DETAILS!

Hmm, well you could try and find out what your similarities are. you could do that by adding her on myspace and checking out what her interests are or what her profile is like, then bring them up in class. (dont actually tell her that you were looking on her myspace page, she might get creeped out)
Or, if she's wearing a shirt/belt/jewelry/shoes that you like the color of, say something like, I like your shirt, thats my favorite color/band/pattern/animal/brand ect..
Or, if she has the same cell phone as you (you would see it by noticing her texting in class or something) be like, hey I have that cell phone, or I like your phone, or hey do you have texting?(something along those lines)
You could ask her a question about the class, ask her what school she used to go to.
If you do have a myspace/facebook, message her with a simple "hey whatsup?"

Just casually bring up conversations every day, and warm her up, if you notice a spark, ask her cutely to homecoming! Put a note on her desk, buy her flowers, or something like that.

I hope I helped! 15/f

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ight well here it is, i like this girl like alot i might be in love with her idk but she thinks im cheating on her with this girl patty who i havent liked in 6 months and my girlfriend wont believe me that im not cuz rlly i aint i would never do that. and its making me feel rlly depressed like majorly and i cant focus on my school work. its always on my mind. btw im 15 m and lookin for a female to give me advice please, i cant imagine my life without her

Okay first off the dude below is wrong. I'm 15, and I'm a girl and I think that sometimes girls have trust issues because guys are basically known for cheating a lot of the time.
Just buy her flowers or a promise ring or chocolate or a stuffed animal, and explain to her that you really do like her and wouldn't do a thing like that, because of how much she means to you.
That guy said she wasn't worth it, but I know if my boyfriend thought I wasn't worth it when I didn't trust him, that would be stupid. Because now we've been going out for more than a year.

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me and this guy have been texting and he wants to hangout and i want to have sex with him so bad but i don't want to be a slut about it,so how can i tell him i want to with out acualy telling him "hey i want to have sex with you"

Just hangout a few times, and then in the heat of the moment it will happen.

But please please please use a birth control method and a condom. I'm 15, 25 weeks pregnant, and due in december, and I used a condom. I was with my boyfriend for a long time though, and I'm sure you don't want a commitment like a baby if you don't know the guy really really good.

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Anybody know a place that can help me make a resume without having to pay for their help or the finished product? I am trying to get a job and I don't know how to create a resume at all! It's really stressful and I feel absolutely stupid since I don't know how to even start a resume. Maybe somebody here knows or something? Please, any help is appreciated!

Well it's pretty simple, I made one in school you just fill in the blanks.
First you make a cover letter, with your full name on top. And basically a paragraph or two explaining why you want the job and what your prior experiences are. Also state if your a responsible person, and have a good work ethic, etc. At the end, write,
Thank you for your time,
full name.

Then for the resume, put your whole name on top, and list your prior experience, and some references of the peoples names phone numbers, and what you worked for them as. Make sure there not family.
Add any other additional information , such as charities you have donated too, and volunteer places you've worked at.

Make sure to have it look nice and neat with proper formatting and absolutely NO spelling errors, that's one of the first things a business looks at. Have your parents/friends proof read it.

Good luck! :)

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im 16 and i live in illinois. and im a girl.
im gonna be getting my first car. and since its my first car im not gnna be get a real expensive one.

my brother got a ford escape for his first car. and it had nothing but problems and we spent soo much money fixing it. but now he has a altima coupe and its like his life haha. but hes 18 now.

im in love with the scion xb. but not the new version. theres cheap ones over here for about 9,000 but my family/friends think its so ugly. so im sure my parents wont buy it for me.

i was just wonder what is another good first car for me?

ps. my dad is really picky when it comes to cars. he only likes like toyata, honda, volkswagon and that kinda stuff.
anddd for some reason i dont like really low cars cause i hate feeling like im drving on the ground. i like being up and being able to see.
but thanks so much !

The honda elantra or honda civic are the highest safety rating cars for teens and are also very cheap when you get them used.

May I also reccomend a car thats under 100,000 miles, because usually after that is when you need to pay the most for maintenence,

good luck :)

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i wont to die

Just think about this, if you've ever been so mad at them you swore you'd never forgive them, but eventually get over it.

That's life, there's ups and downs. I mean sure I've thought about suicide but then I always get back to the point: life is so worth it. It always goes back up! Even if you hit rock bottom, it always gets better with time.

Life is filled with love, and love is the best thing to feel in the world.

Please don't kill yourself. Go to www.teenhelp.org

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well im 19 yrs old and im pregnat im probably like 2 months my boyfriend doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby i talked to his mom and she said she would support me. i kno i could just abort and get ir over with it but im against abortion idk what to do.

I know everyone says they dont think you should abort, I didn't , Im 4 months pregnant right now and 15.

But anyways, I think that it would be an incredible hardship in your life if you choose to raise this baby as a single mom. The baby would also have a lowlife father that doesnt want anything to do with him/her.

It's not ending a life, it's preventing one. Babies technically aren't babies until 14 weeks. That's why you can have an abortion up to 14 weeks pregnant.

Hope I helped :)
Do what feels right.

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This might be long, sorry.

I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He's really a great guy, comes from a wonderful family, works really hard in college, etc. He's probably the best guy out there. He's really perfect. I don't have anything bad at all to say about him.

Well, I've been cheating on my boyfriend for about a year or year and a half now. All the cheating has been with the same guy so I'm not like a whore or something. My boyfriend has NO idea that I've been seeing this other guy on the side.

Anyway, the problem is that I'm pregnant. I don't want to lose my boyfriend though!

Now, maybe you are asking, "Well, how do you KNOW it isn't your boyfriend's baby? Why not wait until you give birth and then have the baby paternity tested?" Well, because my boyfriend and I had decided to stay virgins until our wedding night. Yeah, in three years we haven't had any sort of sexual relationship. Yes, he thinks I'm a virgin just like him.

I REALLY love my boyfriend though! I want to marry him! I mean, I just feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not. If I tell him about cheating on him and stuff he's going to think I'm a whore. How can I like feel better about this?

Losing virginity to the perfect one, just feels amazing, you really should have waited. It's something you remember forever, and feel the strongest bond towards them.

If your boyfriend is "really perfect", why are you cheating on him?

Well, I think, if you just come out and tell him. It will be BETTER in the long run. If someone told me straight out, I might forgive them, if they never told me and I found out, I would dump them.

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hii guyss. well i just finished getting my period and today i had sex and iwas on top and when i got off my boyfriend said the condom fell off and it was in me. then i had sex for about like 2 minutes without a condom but he already finished before and he wasnt hardd.. so i wanna know is it bad the condom fell off ( i took it out like 10 seconds after) andd with the no condom is that bad? i know there is always a chance no matter what i do but i just wanted to know how worried i should be and if i should take the plan b pill or other wise known as the morning after pill..
thanks guys!

since it was right after your period, your chances of getting pregnant are lower because you dont ovulate for a week or so , and the sperm wont last that long.

Unprotected sex will get you pregnant 25 percent of the time. Especially if it's around the date of your ovulation.

You probably wont get pregnant this time, I wasn't so lucky. So please use a condom, and get on the pill, because then I'll feel like I've made a difference in someones life. And if someone would have told me this, I wouldn't be having a baby.

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So i have a boyfriend and i really like him a lot. We've been dating for almost 6 months now. How can i tell i am in love and it is not just another crush? Are there any signs? Because idk. How can i tell he really likes/loves me? Please give advise on the signs of falling in love.

If you feel you cannot live at all without him , and feel like your linked together and meant to be.
That's how you know.

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On my legs, i have really thick hair.

But of course, I shave it.


But for some reason, no matter how much I shave, you can still see black dots where my leg hair is.



Is there anyway I can get rid of it?

This is the same with me!

What I do, is use nair or veet hair removal. You can use the lotion kind or the spray on in the shower kind.

I reccomend the spray on, it's much more efficient. Theyre about 10-15 dollars per bottle, and last pretty long.

If that doesnt work , you can bleach your hair . :)

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