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Hey. I love giving advice. I enjoying giving advice about the sexual things, I've been thinking about getting a degree to be a sexual education teach or, or a sex therapist. I my second best would be friendship[s] and relationship[s]. I am 21yrs old. I have a pit bull named Zip. I work at a middle school as a nutriton assistant. I have 4 god children, 1 boy, 3 girls.

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So, my best friend forever is a little opinionated, close minded, and loud. Picture Paris from Gilmore Girls, for example. She's a lot like that but a little more feisty, if you will.
My boyfriend is opinionated about peoples opinions. He made her cry today by bringing up a past relationship problem.
We were hanging out today, the three of us, and she's really trying to be his friend. She even gave him one of her birthday cupcakes! But she's probably given up by now.
He almost didn't kiss me goodbye after I walked him home.
I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place here.
he's my first real boyfriend, and we haven't fought so far--its been a month and a half.

Any ideas? :/

I think when it comes to relationships I'm a little old fashion. So first off, you shouldn't have walked him home!!??
But its hard when your in a relationship & have best friends [not saying don't have a BFF or BF]
You say its your first real boyfriend?
well look at it like this, if you hang with your friend all the time he is going to get jealous your not around with him, just like if you chill with him all the time she is going to get jealous yall aren't hanging out....
Talk to him about how he acts toward your friend, see if you can get to the "real" issue, like maybe she said or did something he didn't like a while back and hasn't gotten over it, if you 3 are always hanging out they could cause problems and conflict between everyone. its really hard to have to chose. you didn't state your age, but just think a head, is he going to be there for the rest of your life? or is your friend going to be there?
just give it time and see how everything goes, it may surprise you and they become good friends and every is happy, or they comments and will keep coming & u will lose both....just speak to him & take your BFF opinions, they are your BFFs for a reason right?! =)

[16/f] I can’t seem to get any pleasure out of masturbating. I touch my clit in various ways but it doesn’t really feel like anything special. Is there something wrong with me?

No, I'm 20 and I still can't pleasure my self at all. Maybe once in a blue moon I hit a spot that turns me on, But I do believe that its not for everyone, and I honestly don't think its for me, Maybe once your old enough to get a toy it might change, it did for me when I got one, But there are some spots that you will find your self that will just send that sensation through your whole body, so don't just play with your clit trying going fully inside and see if you can find the spot.

so im a girl, and for the first time i fingered myself today. it felt amazing but when i put my finger in, it felt like such a small hole. maybe because im a virgin? i just dont see how two fingers could fit in there hahaa. . does anyone else feel like this too?

Do you where tampons when you are on your period? Sometimes the tampon will help loosen up the hole. The more you masturbate with your finger, the hole will start to loosing up and then you will be able to fit more in there, you can also try getting a lube and trying two fingers that way, just don't force it.

I'm a 13 year old female and i've been getting the urge to masturbate.
-am i too young to masturbate?
-does it hurt?
-how do i do it?
please help me! i dont know anything bout it but i've just heard of it.

I don't think you are too young to masturbate. Your just I guess you could say "maturing" in your sexual feelings faster, its a normal and actually healthy thing. I was your age when I started wanting to feel that type of pleasure. There are many ways to masturbate, i think the only way it will hurt you is if you actually put a masturbating toy inside of you (vibrator, dildo, etc.) so just start out with the finger masturbation until your vagina is lose enough actually insert a masturbation toy of some sort, but you are to young to perches such a thing, so that's the only down fall on starting to learn about your bodies sexual needs, but the plus side is, you are learning what your body will like when it does become time for you to have actually sexual intercourse, witch i home is many years from now!

Okay, so I've always considered myself to be straight since I have never had a crush on a girl or anything like that. I don't have the same feelings for girls (sexual tension) as I do for boys. My relationships have always been with boys, and I've never thought of a girl as anything more than a friend.

However, sometimes I like to imagine myself having sex with women. Sometimes a threesome or more. Something about the naked female body intrigues me. Female porn turns me on. I've often wondered if I'd ever sexually experiment should the right person come along. But I don't really want to be bisexual, since I'd never have a relationship with a girl. So am I still straight?

To be honest, I'm 20, and I think about having relations with a girl. I call it bi-curious. I have never physically done anything with a girl, besides kiss, but I think everyone does that. Ha. You are considered straight, well in my eyes, but there are lots of girls who think and do get "turned on" by watching other girls, I think that's the one thing we have over males, we can get turned on by the same sex and still be straight. I look at it like this, we don't get called bi or lezbo if we check out other girls, just like guys don't get called whores for sleeping around with different girls. So it equals out. You are just comfortable with your sexuality to actually think of another woman like that. I have never personally had a 3some or anything like that, but if your mind wonders to a point that you want to do that, don't do it with your boyfriend and another woman, cuz I have herd that can cause some sort of problems in the long run.
But don't think having thoughts like that makes you bi-sexual actually there is no true reason why anyone should be labeled like that, it is 2 humans expressing a sexual act with each other.

what are ways to find out if someone likes you?

There really aren't certain ways you can find out if someone likes you, cuz you have some people that are really good at showing they have feelings for you, and then you have the ones that are ex termly shy and don't know how to show them. If there is someone you think might have a thing for you, just ask them, its a lot easier and you don't have to play the guessing game.

I dont want to break up with my girlfriend, because I dont want to be known as the jerk by all of her friends. To prevent this, how do I get my girlfriend to break up with me?

Well if you actually care about her you should work on the "jerk" part her friends are saying. And if you make her break up with you then you really will me known as the "jerk". Just start doing cute sweet things to her around her friends, that is if you want to keep her around. Being with someone who takes in what there friends say is really hard, but its all part of being in a relationship. Sit her down, talk to her, if she points out what they think is the "jerk" part and she doesn't see it, then just work on that around her friends. But like i said, if you truly want to keep her around do that, if you don't want a relationship with her anymore, then break it off in a nice way.

I have a crush on this girl in school, but I no that she doesn't feel the same way about me(she has a boyfriend already). How do I get her to love me instead of him?

I agree with Trauma and also look at it like this, if you just so happen to get her to "fall" for you, then obviously it want be hard for another guy to come around and sweep her off her feet. Just well i guess find another girl. If your her friend then just be there for her, girls need that more then just a boyfriend. But don't be the "jerk" type and take her away from someone who she might actually have feelings for.

I'm 13(m) and I have a crush on a girl in school. I have been trying to give her signs and I have been flirting with her, but she never seems to notice. How do I get her to notice?

I am a very blunt person, you should just tell her. Get her a nice flower or something and let her know what you think about her and that you have a crush on her and see where it goes from there. If your to shy to tell her face to face, come up with a cute letter or something but still stick with the little flower idea, it will show her you are true about actually liken here. So run with that. =)!

My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex sometime soon.. within the month. We are both 16 + virgins and we are going out to buy condoms together. I'm also on birth control, have been for nearly 5 months and I'm excited for sex.

Is that strange of me? I'm actually looking forward to it and I feel really comfortable about it too. Most of my friends didn't feel like this before their first time.. so i feel out of place.
:/

your mature and your in love. its good that you feel this comfortable. but you might start to get shy when you get closer to the actual act. just like being excited and ready for a dance or something, and once you get to the school you get butterflys and start to get nervous. so if that does happen dont worry about it. you have been with him for awhile. so things are good between yall. but keep in mind, be safe everytime after your 1st, always have a condom. dont feel outta place, your being your self, they should just accept that. =]

people keep saying I am a rocker and I like that because I want to be rocker or emo BUT the problem is that I act like a preppy girl and I dress like that and this school year I keep think WHAT IS MY LABEL??????

don't worry about being labeled thats the worst thing to want during your life at school. be your self don't care what people lable you. just be you. if you dress preppy and act all punk rock. then thats who you are. you shouldn't worry about a label

Okay so today my bf fingered me for the 1st time and i wanna give him a handjob or blowjob but im really shy about that stuff. like i dont know how to start it, i mean i dont just wanna be like 'hey pull down your pants' lol but yea im not sure how to let him know i want to and get it started. Please help

tease him a little. when yall are kissing and such start rubing his penis [[one the outside of his pants]] then start messing with his pants like your going to take em off; or his penis out. give him the cute lil flirt smile and start to go down on him. you'll drive him crazy trust me =]

i have had sex with two guys in alittle over a year, but i did it about like 15 times. i think thats alot. is it ? i dont want my vagina to keep getting looser because guys think thats gross. what can i do to make it gradually get alittle tighter. will not having any sex for awhile help ?

you can do the excrise to tighten it. it's like your holden ur pee. some people can do this really easily and some have to get the right spot to tighten. and not having sex for a while will help. i've had sex a lot ((with one guy)) and i'm still really tight bC i do the excrise and go awhile with out having sex

i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months and all we have done is make out so far. i would like to go farther and im sure he does too. what is a good way to bring it up?

my guy friend in 4th period read this and wanted me to help you out he said:::
"when you are making out, slowly work your way down his stomach, then grab his penis, and start stroking it for about a min or 2. & if he likes it keep going."

he will get the picture! =]

ok well this really isnt about sex but i didnt know what it was really classified as..

anyway well on Valentines day a guy and i were talking and walking around town in the dark. Well we stopped in the park and were sitting on the stage, he asked me if i'd flash him. I told him no a million times but then he was like ok well i will kiss you if you do it. Well it was like my first kiss and i really wanted it soo well i agreed, We kissed and after i was thinking about it and said i dont know if i can do this soo he stuck his hand down my shirt and pretty much took my boob out and looked at it ((awkward (SP?)moment))then he put it back and then we got up and well we were just like glaring at each other in the eyes and well he kinda came at me real fast and kissed madeout with me.
He told his best friend about it and well now im scared the whole school will find out and i will be called a slut..
do you think that makes me a slut or a whore or anything like that.
I regret it soo much!
he also told me that he cared about me and was thinkging about going out with me..and would tell me the next day but he didnt and now he wants me to do even more and i really dont wanna do it
what should i do.?
and does what i did make me a slut?

no it doesn't. but if you don't want to do anything with this boy then don't do it. stick up for your self. if he says he wants to have relationship with you and hasn't started yet. he is lieing he is just trying to get in your pants. so tell him you don't want to anything with him cuz your not in a relationship, & if he does ask you out then tell him you want to wait till your comfortable to do anything with him, if he respects that then he wants you for you, if he doesn't he just wants to get in your pants and feel you up.//but don't ever think you are a slut bC of something you did. girl life is rough, even if a roomer does start that you are, just keep in mind that your not, you know what happened and you know you didn't let it go to far.

ok down there it's really itchy and it smells different and it's so itchy that i guess i rubbed it raw and i havve a small cut now. i'm 15/female and i'm good and haven't done anything yet. so what's the deal?

more then likely a yest infection, you can get them from drinking lost of coke or wearing tight pants all the time. it's normal. they have over the counter meds for that. also try to douch.

I had sex one time , but i did all the other stuff [fingering,blowjobs,etc] more times.
All with the same person, and thats who I lost my virginity too.
Well we both lost our virginity to eachother and he's never done anything with anyone else except me.I'm constantly thinking about doing it again,literally all the time.I havent talked to him in a while but in the time we were doing it he said he thought about it.
He brought it up a couple times recently and said he would do it again, but he has a girlfriend.
Do you think he thinks about it alot like i do?
Im wondering because I dont want to be the only one.

most likely yeah. he lost it to you. his not going to forget his first. now. if he is thinking about it alot it might be with his new girlfriend. but if your this curious bout if he is thinking sexual thoughts about you, ask him.

hi. well, i'm not really here for me, i'm here for one of my guy friends.
he told me that he had sex with this girl the other night (that he's only been dating for a couple days). he said that he had it unprotected but he did it fast so he was pretty sure she couldn't get pregnant or anything.
apparently, they had sex right after the girl got off her period. and i heard, that if that happens, there's a higher chance of pregnancy? is that true?
what should i tell him if this girl does end up being pregnant? and how can you tell if they are pregnant in the first place?
please, any advice would be appreciated.

P.S. i'm not "this girl".

depends on when the girl is ovulating. witch can be before during or after her period. you wouldn't be able to tell if a girl is pregant until about a week plus after sex. even if your guy friend did do it fast so she wouldn't get pregagnat. you can get pregnant off of pre cum. the bes thing to tell your friend is to wear a condom.
you personaly want be able to tell if she is pregagnt only the girl can. but she might not even know untill she takes a test, but she needs to wait at lest 2 weeks before taking one.

alright i'm 15 - and i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. i'm still a virgin, and plan on keeping it that way until i am ATLEAST out of highschool. anyways, we haven't had sex, but he HAS fingered me. and i've bled before -- maybe because he was being aggressive, but maybe because he popped my cherry. i was just wondering if i were to go to the gyno, whenever i decide to go, if it would look like i wasn't a virgin anymore because my hymen could in fact be broken. like, would he/she be able to tell that i haven't had sex? or would it look like i have?

they know the diff. most girls get there "cherry popped" if they are athletic...but a doctor can tell if a female has had sex or not. unles your haveing girl problems or you have had sex there is no reason to go to the gyno. untill your 18.
also if your "cherry" wasn't popped he could have posible scraced your on the inside witch would cause a lil bleeding but nothing to worry about. you should be fine.

what are the pros and cons to the iphone and chocolate? similarities and differences?

thanks!=]

well for the chocolate i have heard nothing but negative comments about it, even some people at the verizon store have told me they would not recomend it.
as for the iphone, a friend of mine has it and he loves it, he has never complained about it, i've never played around with the iphone so i don't know to much about it.
but as for the chocolate some friends have it and it annoys me when i play around with it, i'll call people and i want even know i am just cuz i set the phone down, it's a very sensitive phone.
hope they help in some way.

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