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Okay so this week was the week that the eighth graders at my school went on the southern cities trip. I'm in the eighth grade but didn't go. This boy I like, we'll call him kevin, went. I miss him soo much and I can't wait to see him on monday, and I was even planning on asking him out, but there's one small problem. he's already got a girlfriend. they've been going out over a month already.
he flirts with me all the time when she's not around, and people mistake him for my boyfriend and me for his girlfriend all the time. it makes it really awkward sometimes, but we usually just make a joke out of it. he used to hug me and hold my hand before they got together, now he doesn't do any of that because of her.
I've missed him soo much this week it's made me not think straight. I've started cutting myself, smoking and sneeking out every night this week. I thought about commiting suicide several times and last night I was even about to steal some of the gin out of my mom's liquor cabinet. Is my missing kevin having to do with this? What should I do about it?
This week has barely been tolerable, but has because of a boy named josh. Because of the majority of the kids going on the 8th grade trip, out of 115 of us, there was only about 30 still at school this week. They put all of us in one big class all week and when we rotated, we rotated together. meaning I had more classes with josh that I usually do.
We didn't do much all week because of the people being gone, so the whole week was like a big study hall. well this week in science, 3rd period the boys would all play fast ball with a paper ball they made and the girls would watch tv/listen to music/play truth-or-dare or whatever. welll everytime josh caught the ball, he'd throw it at me, and ofcourse it'd always hit me. i'd pick it up off the ground and stick my tongue out at him. he'd pout and eventually I'd cave and give him the ball back. in which he'd smirk at me and stick out his tongue.
what should i do about him? I know kevin likes me..but I dont know or understand what's going on with josh.
I'm sorry this is long, and just for that, you all get 5's if you give me a good answer. :] (link)
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You're depending on Kevin too much. You depend on him to keep you happy, and to cheer you up and to make you smile and to just be THERE. I know the feeling.
At first, you were probably best friends or something. Then, he started holding your hands, hugging you and other physical stuff. Whenever you're alone with him, you feel so cared for and so loved and you don't want to let go of that.
The solution: Let go of him. Or at least, just be friends. Don't think of him as your boyfriend because you'll be disappointed. Tell him to stop with the public display of affection, because it'll just make you fall for him even more. It'll make it harder to let go. I know you're already starting to develop more feelings for him and it's gonna be hard to pull away, but you have to because it's unfair to you and his girlfriend.
If he doesn't like you (as a girlfriend) enough to leave his current girlfriend, then he probably doesn't like you in that way. It's not worth it. Don't be depressed over him. HE'S not worth it if he's playing with your feelings (especially when you both know that he has a girlfriend).
As for Josh, he might like you and he might not. Start being friends with him first and just go from there. Don't jump to conclusions... Spend time together and see if you feel something for him. If it works out, great. If not, he's not the right guy for you and there are other fish in the ocean.
Before I go, just remember one thing: You don't need a boy to complete you. You are just fine the way you are.
Good luck.
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I just got dumped today by my boyfriend. I don't know what to do to keep my mind off of the breakup. What should I do to get back ot my regular self? (link)
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Hi.
First, you can try not thinking about him. I'm guessing that didn't work. I'm guessing that whenever you just sit around, you can't help but think about him, what he's doing right now, etc. Well, I have to tell you that you shouldn't expect it to go away quickly.
You can try to have other activities. Keep yourself occupied. Have fun. You need time to heal. If you see him, chances are that your feelings will start to bubble up again, and you will find yourself falling for him again. So, you should try to avoid him at this fragile time. Maybe, when things are better for both you and him, you can become friends or even exchange decent words.
Until then, don't try to initiate anything, coz the hurt will just probably surface..
Honestly, I think the best bet will really be keeping yourself occupied. Have fun and love life. You don't need him, so stop acting like you do. Depend on yourself and your friends. Don't be impatient. Time heals.
So, just wait. After a while, your feelings toward him will wane. If they don't disappear completely, though, don't worry because you just CARE about him. That's not necessarily a bad thing and it just proves that you are human.
Good luck.
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Okay I need help on this math problem!!
Find the height of a triangle with a base of 4 inches and an area of 6 inches2 (the 2 is sopposed to be small and at the top of the S if ya kno what i mean)
thanx a lot!!!!!!!!! (link)
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The others are correct with the value. The height is 2, but the unit is inches, not inches squared.
area = 1/2 bh
6 in^2 = 1/2 (4 in) h
you multiply 1/2 by 4 in, so the equation will now be:
6 in^2 = 2 in. h
then, you divide both sides by 2 in, so 6 in^2 divided by 2in is equal to 3 in. and 2 in. h is equal to h.
so, 3 in = h.
not, 3 in^2 (3 inches squared).
hope i helped. :)
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ok well i think i have social anxiety disorder because when ever people whisper i always thnk there talking bad about me and i always think that im getting negativly judged everywhere i go its weird then i get all self concioncion and then now i never go out and i always think my friends are mad at me and i dont know whats wrong with me...HELP!!
if you give good advice then i rate fives no smart alecs and
also im 13/f (link)
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Maybe you're just paranoid. I don't mean this in a bad way, but there really is a disorder that's paranoia...
Like the first person said, you can check with school counselors or psychologists and be properly diagnosed, because all the guessing we're doing now is just that: guessing.
Also, if you try to take online tests and such, they can't be completely accurate since they're standardized and it's really different when a person is talking to you..
I wish you luck and hope that you're gonna "fix" whatever you think is wrong...
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Im having trouble balancing equations.
The directions say this
The gas formed in the tube by the reaction of
HCL and Na(lowered 2)SO(lowered 3) was SO(lowered 2)
The other products formed were water and NaCl. Write a balanced equation for the reaction.
ahh how do you do that? (link)
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MFS is right...
by the way, the answer there is 2HCl + Na(lowered 2)SO (lowered 3) --> SO (lowered 2) + H(lowered2)O + 2NaCl
just look at MFS's explanation for the reason why it's like that... by the way, i think it's chemistry, not biology.. but i'm not sure..
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Girls: Do you think it would be cute for a guy to ask before kissing a girl? Would you find that cute or weird? (link)
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i think it would be sweet.. ^__^
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ohkay, my homework is overly hard. here are the instructions:
solve each system algebraically. Identify each system as consistent and dependent, consistent and indepepndent, or inconsistent.
The problem is:
3b=2a-24
4b=3a-3
Does anyone get that? Please step by step explain it to me..
5's for decent answers (link)
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Those above are equations for lines or linear equations. As difficult as it is for Meeshee to hear, the answers provided were wrong.
Let me explain each system first. Consistent and dependent means that the two lines are exactly the same, so it's easy to identify the equations which are consistent and dependent because the equations are exactly the same. An example would be: 3b=2a-24 and b=2/3a-8 ... both equations are exactly the same.
Consistent and independent means that the lines intersect. That means they touch each other at some point. For example, the letter X is an intersection of two lines and the point of intersection is the center of the X.
Inconsistent means that they are parallel. That means that they don't touch each other at all. It is also easy to figure out if lines are inconsistent because they have the same slope. For example, 3b=2a-24... and... 3b=2a-27..
To determine the slope, by the way, you have to isolate "b" and make the constant of "b" 1. Then, the number beside "a" is the slope.
Therefore, the system you mentioned is consistent and independent. If you follow Meeshee's method, but substitute the value of "b" as 2/3a-8, instead of only 2/3a, then you'll have the values of a and b if you substitute. Those are the points of intersection...
If what I said is still unclear, you can ask me to explain it more... good luck and sorry if this is late...
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hi im 15 and my boyfriends 16. although many adults say that us teens dont know what love is teens know when their in love. i just want peoples opinions (teens and adults) on if teens know what love is and also me and my boyfriend are really in love and its NOT lust. we know it. anyways we decided we were going to have sex (no my boyfriends not like that hes never pushed me into sex ever) but were not having sex for the fun of it we really do love eachother. please give us ur thoughts and please dont be mean thanx!~Kelley (link)
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If you are convinced that you are boyfriend are in love, why do you need the assurance of other people?
I'm also curious why you want to have sex.. Is it to prove that you and your boyfriend are in love? Somehow, I just don't get the logic of your having sex.. I mean, why aren't you content with just the way you are now? Why does it have to change? If you did not have sex, would it make the fact that you're in love invalid? I don't really think so.. Is it for pleasure? To feel your love for each other more? Then, there is a bit of lust involved in that, then..
Personally, I can't say that I'm experienced about teen love or lust since I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend as of now (I'm 14) and even if I did have a bf, I wouldn't want to have sex with them just because we love each other.. In fact, because we love each other, that's why I do not want to have sex with him..
Like Amanda said, it is ultimately your decision and few people can dissuade you. Just think it through.. A lot of accidents can happen and later, maybe you'll blame yourself or your boyfriend...
Don't rush into things.. If it is true love, it will last, so there's no need to hurry...
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i really need help im going out wid some1 but dont feel ne thing 4 him ne more just like him as a friend and really like another lad plz help i no he will cry wen i dump him but i fink its 4 the best wat bout u?
emmaxx (link)
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You should let him down gently... If you don't you're just leading him on.. Besides, maybe the guy you like likes you too and you won't be giving him a chance to express his true feelings since you're going out with someone..
The sooner you let him go, the easier it will be for him to accept, since if you don't, he'll get more attached to you... You will just save him some hurt..
Also, even if he cries now, he will just cry later.. and probably more...
So, I think it will be better if you dump him (but remain as a friend, if you want) and go out with the other guy..
Good luck! ^___^
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ok i was gone from school two days this week, and im a little confused on my math homework. this is the problem im working on 4x^2+8x-21=0 ((^2=squared)).. my question is should i add 21 to both sides or just start factoring. i tried to just factor, and i could never get the signs to be write for everything. thanks (link)
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Okay!! I know this is very late, but to just clear it up.. ^__^;;;;;
Okay, look for the factors of four which are (1*4) and (2*2).
Then look for the factors of 21 which are (1*21), (3*7)..
There are rules for this.. the rules are x^2 + 5x + 6 = 0... So, to factor this, it's (x+2)(x+3)=0. Notice the plus signs.
x^2 - 5x +6=0.. So, to factor this, it's (x-2)(x-3)=0.. Notice the minus signs...
x^2 + 5x - 6=0.. So, to factor this, it's (x+6)(x-1)=0.. Notice the positive and negative signs...
x^2 - 5x +6=0.. SO, to factor this, it's (x-6)(x+5)=0.. Notice the positive and negative signs...
In this case, it's (2x+7)(2x-3)=0.. Using the FOIL method.. (FOIL means, First term, Outside term, Inside term and Last term..) Using the distributive property, (2x)(2x) + (2x)(-3) + (2x)(7) + (7)(3).. So, multiplying that, 4x^2 - 6x + 14x -21.. Combining like terms.. 4^2 + 8x -21 =0.. Voila! The original equation!
So, since you factored (2x+7)(2x-3)=0, you can equate (2x+7)=0 and (2x-3)=0. YOu can only do this when it's equal to 0. GOt it? Okay.. Anyway, 2x+7=0.. To simplify that, 2x=-7 (you transpose +7 to the other side. It becomes negative and vice versa.) 2x/2=-7/2 (divide 2 in both sides because if you do one thing to one side, you have to do it to the other side too.) therefore, simplifying, x=-7/2.. So, that's one solution..
The other is 2x-3=0 so that's 2x=3, simplified to x=3/2.. that's the second solution..
therefore x=-7/2, 3/2.. Those are the two solutions... If you try to substitute it to the value of x, you will get 0..
Good luck! HOpe I explained it well.. More questions, just ask me.. ^__^ Sorry, if it's a bit late.. ^__^;;; I didn’t notice the question.. ^___^;;
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Hi my name is shaby
as the question suggests im a totally confused ,insecure guy , a victim of inferiority complex ,introvertism ,shyness,underdeveloped social skills ........
I donot have many friends and i wanna be loved by people ...
i act like a pushover which I shoudnt be......
i also am a coward and i cant ask ppl for favours or refuse people for anything they want even if its for their own good ....
plus i try avoid uncomfortable social events bcoz obviously of which i wont be aware or known ...... nor i will know about other people ......
my mind goes conmpletely blank when someone asks me anything ....
plzzz help me .... im so depresesd i cry to myself ....... i find it dificult to open up ... im so lonely i feel like killing myself
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Well, you really have to change yourself, if you want to have more friends, etc.. Nobody else can do it for you. You have to desire it..
When did it start, anyway? You have to try to overcome the event that made you like that. There was a point of time in my life that I just waited for people to come to me. What happened was that I became a loner, and people thought I was weird and took advantage of what I had. When they did that, I became mad and crabby, which definitely did not win points with anybody..
Now, though, I'm more or less known by a lot of people, and I have a lot of friends and acquaintances.. I just tried to exert myself more and talk to more people.. Even if the people you meet won't be your next best friend, at least they'll be a good acquaintance.. ^___^
Not going to social events might hurt your social life, but at least you won't be forced to do something you don't wanna do. Honestly, though, you shouldn't worry about who's looking at you in the party, just have one and mingle! You'll have friends soon enough! ^___^
Don't pretend to be something that you're not.. Just be yourself! It's impossible that in the whole world nobody's gonna like you.. C'mon.. Smile.. ^__^
Instead of crying at home, go do something! Go out with the friends that you have.. ^__^ You'll have more friends that way, too...
Being nice is not bad.. In fact, it's great! Someone might remember you because of the good things that you do.. ^___^
Basically, be yourself and don't be scared to open up! Not everyone is bad or out to get you.. You'd be surprised how many people are actually good catches out there.. Don't force yourself to do something you don't like, but try to do it for yourself.. If you want it badly enough, it will happen..
If you need more advice, just write to me.. ^____^
I really wish you a lot of luck.. I know how tough it can be since I've been there, but I got out of it. So can you! ^___^
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i realize what problems i have but i dont know how to deal with them. What should i do?
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It depends on what your problems are.. It also depends on your personality.. Are you the kind to want to face it head on? Ignore it? Have another way to deal with it?
It really depends on a lot of things...
If you could give the people here a better view on things, maybe we can help you more.. ^__^
Sorry if my answer is a bit vague, but I can't really visualize your problems.. ^^;; I may say some things or advise some things for certain problems, but not for others, so I apologive again for the vagueness...
If I get a clearer view of your problem, I hope I can help you more... ^____^
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i want to act as a career but everyone doupts me my confidence is low what should i do (link)
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Well, don't let them get to you. If you believe in yourself, they will believe that you can do it eventually.
You can try to earn roles and stuff for community presentations.. Even minor roles are okay since "THere are no small roles, only small actors." ^____^
Be prepared to be criticized a lot, so you have to have an ego that isn't bruised easily. Listen to others' advice, especially if they're the ones who know what they're talking about.. ^__^
Since you won't be a star just like that, try to keep your options open... Try acting just as a side hobby, not as your main source of income.. WHen you do hit it on the big time, then you can give up whatever job you currently have..
Believe in yourself and don't take things personally.. A lot of people have helpful criticism.. Try to apply it to yourself and have fun! Acting is still a job, but at least you'll like what you're doing!
Good luck.. ^__^
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Okay well sometimes I have a problem with talking about people behind their backs. I never really realized it until I started getting in trouble for it. Now I don't even like the girls I hang out with, I try to stop my VERY bad habit but its hard, and without thinking I do it again! It makes me feel so bad and I can't really say that I've tried my hardest...but I need some new ways and tips of how I can keep the thought of "this is bad, stop!" in my head. Also how can I say sorry to my friends? I've said it a million times but then they do it to me! I don't want to be their friend anymore, and I want a new group of friends..how can I do this? Also, with all the drama in my life right now my grades have been slipping, its terrible and it needs to stop! I need to get my priorities straight, but right now I'm not really sure what they are. Any ideas of what I could do? Please help me! (link)
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Try to think of good things about the people you usually back bite. Those good things will be what you relate those people at this time. Keep thinking those good things and try to block out the bad things that you don't like about them, or think about how those bad things can seem like good things, or maybe some of those bad things are things you also do, so when you're insulting them, you're insulting yourself...
You can't change your friends, if they don't want to. If you've already said sorry to them, or asked for their forgiveness, and they don't accept, it just shows you why they SHOULDN'T be your friends..
You can just look around your school or neighborhood, and check to see which people share the same interests with you.. If they know you were backbiting them, say sorry.. Try to start again with a clean slate..
It has happened to me, except I was the one being talked about.. THe girls said sorry to me, and after a while, we became friends.. not the closest, but enough to be at least decent to each other..
After you fix the friends thing, you can do your studies well... Or, to gain new friends, you can even have a study group.. Whatever works for you.. ^__^
GOod luck! ^__^
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my best friend, ricky, is generally a really good guy...hes a good christian and doesnt smoke, or cheat, or drink, or do anything like that...hes really happy and has always been there for me through anything...but hes been hanging out with bad people lately, and i told him i didnt want him to change because of them...he promissed me he wouldnt, and i believed him. he told me he would never lie to me.
but last night, we were talking, and he told me he needed to tell me something, but he couldnt. i was really worried, and i got it out of him. he started by telling me he was sorry he lied to me...so i got scared...he told me he smoked week with some of his friends...i got angry, but he doesnt know that. i didnt want him to feel like i think i can as him anything..but when he needs help, i block him out. but i dont know how to help him..what should i do?
sorry this is really long...
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I think that you should talk to him. It would be better if you talked to him soon, since he's still in the early stages of smoking..
I've found out that it's easier to get out of smoking the earlier one starts... i've researched about it and at first, the smokers will hate it but the nicotine will start them to get addicted.. slowly and slowly, until his breath will stink more, his teeth will yellow, etc..
I don't mean to lecture, but it really will start to be bad.. and it will turn worse..
try to calm yourself first, then talk to him about it.. If you are really close friends, then he will listen. Try to make him understand that it's bad for him.. Also, he might want to have a new set of friends since apparently, the friends are bad influences..
He's your best friend.. Don't block him out at his time of need.. Try to tell him that you can and will listen..
You can work it out! If you need more help, just write to me.. ^__^
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i think my sister is anorexic or bulimic....idk what to do tho bc every time i ask her about it, she just denys it, but all of her friends tell me she is, what should i do?! (link)
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Well, do you notice that she's has a disorder? Maybe you should search online or in your public library about the signs and symptoms to really check. Who knows? you might be stressing over nothing..
Also, you can talk to someone who specializes in that area to ask for advice. Once again, the internet can be used.. Maybe you can e-mail or contact someone or just find someone locally.
If your sister really doesn't open up, don't force her. By forcing her, you're just making her close up to you, no matter how weird it sounds.. ^__^;
Don't act like there's anything weird about it... Just act like you acted before.. Accept her for who she is.. Gradually compliment her.. But don't make it so obvious.. Just let her know that you're there if she needs you.. Let her know that she can lean on you..
Slowly, she will realize that you guys really care for her and desire only the best for her..
If you need more help, you can drop something in my inbox.. Hope your sis is fine! ^___^
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im a fourteen year old gurl. i have alot of freinds but ive never had a boyfreind and i think its becuase of my weight i dont understand why guys dont like me just becuase of that one thing im a good person and really does hurt. what should i do to help me? (link)
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Hey, it's definitely not you! I know from personal experience.. I am also 14 and "healthy".. In my school, though, a guy almost courted me, but I said "no" since I wasn't allowed to have boyfriends yet...
There's even a couple in school.. A basketball player and a not-so-thin girl..
It just goes to show that there are guys who can look beyond the physical appearance.. Also, there are some who can but just aren't right for you.. It's happened to me, too so I can totally relate..
Don't worry! Just be yourself and don't stress so much! ^__^ If the right guy comes, you'll definitely be happy you waited.. ^__^
GOod luck! ^__^
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My friend and I were making fun of our French teacher in class yesterday. Well, we didn't notice but our teacher was walking by and she kind of stopped for a second. We only thought she heard us but, today she was being extreamly mean to us. And just us. So know we know she heard us. My friend doesn't care that she heard becasue she hates her but I do. I feel really bad about all of it. I don't blame her for being mean and I don't know what to do. Should I just drop it? (link)
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I think you should apologize to your teacher. You can't force your friend to do the same, though, if she doesn't want to. What matters is that you want to.
Or, if you don't really want to confront your teacher, you should try to improve your behavior in her class... Or you can write her a note. Be sincere..
If she won't forgive you, then that's her wrong, not yours. You did your part, and if she doesn't accept it, at least you have a clear conscience and can sleep better at night.
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I kno Im to yung, but I had sex wit my bf like 3 months aftr we went out and I didnt wanna do it but he prssurd me into it, so we did it. Now I unno wat to do but I like him a lot and I dun wanna break up wit him but he keeps makin me do it! Wat shud i do? (link)
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In my opinion, you should ask him to respect you and your boundaries. 3 months is definitely too early. *In fact, it would be better that you not commit premarital sex, but since it's already done, there's nothing one can do.*
If he doesn't respect your wishes, then, as tough as it is, you should break up with him. A guy who doesn't respect you doesn't deserve your love OR respect.
Even if you feel strongly for him, obviously, he doesn't feel that strong enough for him to just back off a little.
If you talk and he does abstain from it, you should try to give him a second chance..
Good luck and if you want to talk, drop me a note in my inbox.. ^__^
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Me and my boyfriend loved eachother so much! Well.. Just to piss off my best friend he always said "I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!" to her! i started to get a little mad! Besides my best friend has a boyfriend! When i slept over my best friends house.. she said "if your bf wud stop throwing things at me at lunch..i'd actually love him!" Well My boyfriend and me were talking on-line and he said "HAHA! Elise (my best friend) finally said she loves me too!" I was soo pissed off! Then he said "It would be soo cool to have 2 girlfriends!" "what wud you do if something like that happened?" I had enough! so i dumped him yesterday! should i be mad at my best friend or should i not be? I havnt talked to her yet and she still doesnt know i even dumped him! wud do i do? (link)
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Well, as the previous poster said, you could've been jumping to conclusions... Maybe you should've talked to your bf first..
ALso, they could've been really insensitive to your feelings... As they say, "It takes two to tango."
Personally, I'm leaning towards the joking thing.. I think you can still patch it up, if you choose.. you should talk to both of them that you don't particularly like it when they say "I love you" to each other so freely..
Basically, it's a play of feelings... and the fact that maybe they're not so in tuned to you your feelings..
Bottom line: Talk to them. Try to straighten it out.. You don't want to lose your best friend and your boy friend for something that might even be tht big of a deal. Give them a chance to explain and follow your gut! ^___^
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