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my best friend smoked weed
my best friend, ricky, is generally a really good guy...hes a good christian and doesnt smoke, or cheat, or drink, or do anything like that...hes really happy and has always been there for me through anything...but hes been hanging out with bad people lately, and i told him i didnt want him to change because of them...he promissed me he wouldnt, and i believed him. he told me he would never lie to me.
but last night, we were talking, and he told me he needed to tell me something, but he couldnt. i was really worried, and i got it out of him. he started by telling me he was sorry he lied to me...so i got scared...he told me he smoked week with some of his friends...i got angry, but he doesnt know that. i didnt want him to feel like i think i can as him anything..but when he needs help, i block him out. but i dont know how to help him..what should i do?
sorry this is really long...
14/f
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If he only smoked it once I wouldn't be to concerned. Be happy he was honest. If you get upset with him he will keep things from you next time. Just forget it.
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Don't worry, long questions, mean better answers :). Sounds like peer pressure. Have you ever had DARE? in 5th grade I had it. What's happening is, your friend feels he must fit in with these people, let him know you're there. Picture him in a pool drowning with these other kids...wouldn't you grab something to save him? Same case here, save him...he's drowning...he needs you now.
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See sometimes it isn't easy to be on the advice end of things!! I understand how hard it is to help out someone who always helps you out. Maybe you should get your crew to hang out with him some or get some kind of good influence going. If you come to where he is so bad that he becomes an addict maybe you should suggest Rehab or lyk talk to his parents. i understand how hard it is but I think you can help him out bcuz you obviously care about him!! How I helped Mybe you can write me back on how things go...
~*Tori*~
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I think that you should talk to him. It would be better if you talked to him soon, since he's still in the early stages of smoking..
I've found out that it's easier to get out of smoking the earlier one starts... i've researched about it and at first, the smokers will hate it but the nicotine will start them to get addicted.. slowly and slowly, until his breath will stink more, his teeth will yellow, etc..
I don't mean to lecture, but it really will start to be bad.. and it will turn worse..
try to calm yourself first, then talk to him about it.. If you are really close friends, then he will listen. Try to make him understand that it's bad for him.. Also, he might want to have a new set of friends since apparently, the friends are bad influences..
He's your best friend.. Don't block him out at his time of need.. Try to tell him that you can and will listen..
You can work it out! If you need more help, just write to me.. ^__^
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Thats a hard situation but my best advice is just be there for him. And let him know that this whole weed thing could change your friendship..if he keeps doing it alot. Tell him if he needs someone to talk to..youre there for him. Also..if youre going out one friday..invite him..and tell him you really want him to be there. This way you know hes not doing drugs and at the same time youll have a great time with him.
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