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lately it seems like life is passing me by...
like a feather and i'm letting it blow by, it's summer and im not doing anything with myself.
i mean im hanging out w/my friends & swimming, tanning, playing sports, games & everyting
but it seems like something is missing
im. . . BORED. I love feeling acomplishment & w/out extracuriculears going on its like
im not working for anything or trying or anything
=\ im happy and eveything but what can i do to fufill me? does ANYBODY know how i feel? and how to help??
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Wow, you sound like me. Art? Ever done anything with art? Go draw somethin, write a poem, paint, build something, carve something. Anything. Art is so much fun, whether you're doing it to exspress your emotions, or just kill boredom. I've been wanting to start volenteering. Look for some volenteer work around town. Or even look for a job? That'd be a lot of fun if you find something you enjoy doing. Just keep yourself occupied with new things! Good luck!
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the other day in gym, we were playing softball. i'm not very athletically inclined, if you know what i mean. i was up to bat and i like hit the ball and i screamed. my gym teacher goes 'i think she has issues' and she said this in front of the whole class. i asked her what she meant and she goes 'well when ever you get pressured or have the spotlight on you, you scream and flail your arms around, that's just one of your issues.' i didn't really think anything of this, but now the more taht i think about it, it is making me upset.
is this an appropriate thing to say to me [a 13 year old] ?
and i'm thinking of having my mom call her, would this be a good idea.
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yes, that definetly was not appropriate for her to say. she's there to teach you about sports and all that jazz, not to tell you whats wrong with you mentally. i think it's a good idea if you get your mother involved, the teacher needs to learn to have respect for her students.
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Hey I am for this school year I really want to get A's in every class. I am willing to work my butt off for it. I just would like any advice you guys think would help in keeping organized, and motivated…or just any tips at all for getting all A's. I would really appreciate it.
Thanks
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folders, folders, folders! haha. folders are a great way to keep your work seperated. get one folder for each class. make sure you do your homework right when you get home so you don't forget about it later on. and speaking of forgetting, don't forget to write down everything in class right when you are assigned to do something. start projects as soon as possible. go the extra mile for projects (always worth it). try and study everyday, even if its not for a test, study what you've learned in class, everyday. and make sure you remember to have fun here and there, so your stress doesnt pile up. just make school your first priority and everything will be great! good luck :)
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ok lemme get down to my question. well my last year in school i wasnt doing soo great.. i got by with Cs..what are some better habbits to get me back into getting better grades..i think my grades starting doing that because all i cared was how to get noticed better..i mean im semi-popular like i know everyone and all but i mean im not top-notch ya know? so any advice with better study habits while not going crazy over knowledge lol thank you soo much!!
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hm, totally went through all of that.
well, i think for habits, you should stay organized for one. for two, write down everything (hw/studying). right when you get home, take a while to relax, and then break out all of your homework. when that's done, go do somethings, and before you go to bed, study for 10 or 20 minutes, ya know? i think it'll help, that's my goal for next year. and about you saying the grades are slipping possibly from you trying to get noticed: i feel ya there, (laughs). i spent a lot of my time dealing with the whole social aspect of school, but you know, you don't have to spend all your time doing that. its all worth it in the end when you get your homework done. and you can even incorpurate the social part into the school part, you could have like study groups with people and stuff. ahh! good luck i hope everything goes hella good for you :)
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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do???
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i'm pretty much on the same page as you. hm, well what i try and do is focus really hard when the teacher first starts doing a new unit of math. i haven't gotten a chance to do math lately because of the summer vacation. but i think it'd be good to ask for help in everything you don't understand, the teacher shouldn't be bothered. and i think you really have to tell yourself that you can learn math, you just have to want to actually do it. my boyfriend tells me to just do it when it comes to something i want. don't just say you want it, just do it! :) it's helped me in a lot. and there aren't any tricks in math, everything is straight-forward, one path out kind of thing. i'm sure if you focus really hard you'll be able to get the job done. i hope everything works out!
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first i just want to say that you give awesome advice :).
okay well theres this kid that ive liked for around 3 years, we were together for about a week, the i just freaked out. it seems like whenever i get close to a guy & he starts to like me back i suddenly become scared. i have no idea why this happens. but like i said, i still like this kid. im kind of afraid that if he ever does like me again then im just going to draw back again. i doubt he will ever like me again, but just in case, id like a little advice on "facing my fear". thanks so much!
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aww thanks doll, ur sweet (=
i have the same problem.
well.. i think you should just relax & enjoy life with him. its the summer right? have fun, act wild, be freeee.. cause you are =P.
facing fears is one of lifes many.. "duhs," i guess you could say (yeah i know im corny). DUH you have to face your fears. you have to go for it if you like someone & they like you back. you may never get another chance with him. if you go out with a guy, dont let that be everything on your mind. keep busy & think about other things. thinking about it can only make it worse sometimes. taking risks & facing your fears will only make you stronger & help you in the long run.
all i can pretty much think of is to relax. it's helped me a lot in situations like this & similar to it. go with the flow chick! for example, if a guy is gonna make a move by holding your hand or something, just calm down and be yourself.
thats the best i cant do hun (=
goshh i hope everything works out for you. PLEASE tell me how everything goes darlin!
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I really really like this guy and he is like everythink i ever wanted(cute, can talk to him, and actually has friends...lol)well, he recently broke up with his girlfriend and she was really not "loving" and never was by him when he wanted her to be. well, he knows i like him and when we hang out sometimes he flirts and i think he likes me, but when we r talking online, i have to be the one to say, "hi, whats up," and doesnt seem interrested at all, he only really talks to me when i bring up a good subject, but when i dont have a good conversation starter, words are minimal...and sometimes doesnt resopond to my little questions like, "how r you doing?" I dont wanna sound desperate and be like,"why arent you talking to me? or do you not like me? should i leave you alone?"...things like that...so im asking...should i keep going(if so what should i do)...or let him go and find someone else?
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maybe he's busy when you talk to him?
i dont know, this is my opinion but..
i think you shouldn't talk to him online a whole lot. it could get him mad at you, or vise versa. who knows?
good luck darling.
p.s. dont stop liking him (=
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hi everytime im on my period i kinda get itchy down there. does anyone no what this means? is it serious? and is it normal?
thanxz
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its normal babe (=
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I noticed how people bribe in their questions, as in "I'll rate a 5 if you answer". Isn't advicenators supposed to be about HELPING? What happened to the world?
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uh, duh.
i noticed it too.
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I see in many people advice thing that they have music and cuter back grounds with pictures and words floating by.. How do i get that?
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you need to learn html & all that good stuff.
its kinda hard to explain.
find tutorials.
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I feel empty. I want to be happy and I want to live my life like I always have, to the fullest extent. But now it seems like every reward is meaningless. And I hate to say this, but it is because of a guy. When I let guys control my life, I dont know. But it happened. I can not stop thinking about this one guy. I dated him for 7 months but then I was the one to break up with him. I mostly was just scared hed fall for someone else and eventually dump me. But I cant stop thinking about him and my heart hurts everyday from thinking about him. I feel lonely constantly even if i am around all my friends. I hate using that cliche about putting on a fake smile but its true. And I am even more depressed because thats never been true. Not only that but the guy I like is also liked by my really good friend. We have been friends just this year and she doesnt know I dated him. I dont want to tell her and I am determined that if they just date then I can get over it. I have cut myself over this. I dont do it to kill myself I do it because I want to hurt myself. This has been my freshmen year and one of the worst. I know I must sound annoying with all this teenage drama crap. But it just hurts so bad. And I dont want to hurt like this. I dont want to keep crying myself to sleep praying that this will soon be over. I know I am being melodramatic and I know im being whiny but I cant help it anymore. I have these thoughts of him constantly of when we would kiss and when we would cuddle. And it kills me. Ive told him I like him and he says he likes me too but he also likes another girl. And that kills me even more. I just want this to stop. I cant take this anymore. Please someone tell me what to do. Im 15, sick and tired.
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hun..
first of all.
did you know that around 611 people in the world that you don't even know love you? its true.
the guy. is a worthless punk. forget about him. try doing stuff that will make you feel better. your friends do love you, your family does love you! even i love you and i dont even know who you are =p (im one of those 611 some odd people (=)
dont worry about what your friend thinks. you and that guy are over with and it shouldn't matter whether or not you guys went out, because that relationship is over.
the cutting thing. its okay. just try to take out your frustration out on other things. because doing that to yourself isn't healthy. just try punching your pillow or something. or screamin in it for that matter.
just try your best to forget about him, hehe and maybe even try finding another guy
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I'm 14 years old and I would really love a summer job. The only thing is people don't really hire you untill your about 16 years old. Does anyone know of any way I could get some sort of a job at my age? Besides babysitting of course.
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funny you ask that.
im 14 also, & right now im at my grandmothers house. working. sort of anyways. i do house cleaning for her & a heck of a lot of it. i get paid minimum wage. working for relatives is a good way to earn cash.
you could cut grass, look after pets, house sit for someone gone on vacations & do all kinds of stuff. OH anndd if you live out in the boonies like i do.. try finding a packing shed and ask them if they'll hire you, they could always use a pair of extra hands.
just look around and im sure you will find something.
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Does anyone ever get questions in thier inbox???
I RATE WELL!!!!
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yeah i do.
if you dont get any.. the start answering more questions & you'll become more popular.
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My hair has been extra tangled lately. In the morning it takes 10 minutes to brush out my wet hair. Can anyone suggest some products to cure this problem. My first thought was Johnson & Johnson's No More Tangles shampoo, but isn't that for little kids?
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use lots of conditioner, thats what my sister does becuase she has extremely curly hair. she also uses patiene pro v (& so do i).. if you put about two drops (size of quarters) in your hands, and just run it though evenly, (when you rinse out your hair, get the tangles out) im sure it'll be easier.
hope it works out doll
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I have liked this guy since I was in third grade, (I'm in tenth now) and he told all of my friends that he liked me too. But when my friends told him that he should ask me out, (with out me knowing so i was like incredibly embarresd) he said he wasnt alowwed to date yet. But just last Sunday when i was sitting in his car and we were listening to music (Hollaback Girl) he said it was his girlfriends favorite song! I just brushed it off at first and pretended that i didnt notice, but it really hurt! I dont know how to act around him anymore, cause he still acts like he likes me....Someone help me please!
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"im not aloud to date yet." thats so lame.
but i bet you hes shy becuase he likes you so much.
what i do when i like a guy, is just forget all about liking him & chill.
if it really bugs you, then i think you should talk to him about it. ask him why he said he wasn't aloud to date, yet he has a girlfriend.
seems a little fishy to me. but who knows.
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i asked a question before about my hair and so i got it cut. the lady cut it too short! i have dark brown hair- shoulder length- layered. what should i do with it?
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thats exactly what my hair looks like!
well..
what i do sometimes is straighten it so its extremely straight, and then put a small bow on the side of my hair. i also part my hair to the side so my bangs go over my forehead.
for a nicer look, i would curl the layers out just a tiny bit. you can also put it half up half down, and just curl the part that is half down.
if you have curly hair, like me. if im too lazy to straighten it or anything, i just put gel in my hair & scrunch it. its so easy, takes about 5-10 minutes.
have fun
let me know how things go.
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i have no friends no one will talk to me i am going into secondry school soon and i dont know how to makew any new friends please help
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my suggestion is, join clubs.
join clubs that you will enjoy & know that there will be a good group of people in.
if youre shy.
ITS OKAY (=
just sit next to a person & trrry and say something nice to them. find a common interest you share with a person.
i know its hard to be shy & make friends. but soon you've gotta grow up and face your fears. in the long run everything will be worth it.
good luck in junior high. i hope you succeed in everything you do, and have the time of your life. its a big transition into becoming older, and a new step in your education, but im sure you'll do fine if you stay relaxed and focused.
pleeeeasee tell me how it works out
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i'm trying to hook up my friend from one of my classes with my best friend. he really likes her...but she told me that she doesn't feel that way for him. i told her to tell him that, but she won't do it. instead she keeps on talking about how much she loves this junior friend of hers. shes left him hanging for a month now. i'm wondering if i should tell him that shes not interested. i told my best friend that if she doesn't tell him that i will, and she said no and threatened never to talk to me again.
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hmm.. this is a really tough one.
this is gonna take me a while to figure out =P
for the boy. tell him that she obviously isn't worthy of him (which in my opinion is so true) so he should move on and find a girl that won't be so rude & treat him nicer.
i wouldn't get too deep in the middle of it. i understand that you want to help your friend, but, when it comes to "i wont talk to you anymore," its time to draw the line.
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I just got out of 9th grade and my mother still will barely let me do anything. She won't let me go to the beach unless there's an adult there. I can't go anywhere with anyone unless she meets their parents first. She flips out when guys call. I wouldn't care so much but a lot of times a miss out on doing fun stuff because no one elses parents chaperone, they just drop their kids off places, and then I'm not allowed to go. Forget parties, because there are no parents she can confirm with that i'll be safe and not drinking or doing drugs. Does she expect me to never do anything in highschool? She doesn't trust my judgement, and doesn't understand that I won't make the same mistakes she did. I'm tempted to start lying 2 her and sneaking around so that I'm not stuck at home all weekend doing nothing. Soon my friends are going to be able to drive and she says I can't ride in their cars. I'm going to have a lot of boring weekends! How do I show her that I'm responsible so that I can go places? What can I say to her that will help her let go a little and not be so protective?
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sit down and talk to your mom.
tell her that you are not going to do anything she thinks is inappropriate.
tell her your not going to do drugs.
tell her your not going to have sex.
tell her your not going to get into trouble.
you're grown up now hun. you should be able to go out with your friends and party. i know how you feel because my parents were exactly like that when i was in 8th grade last year. you're in high school & if they keep you away from things that normal teenagers do, you wont get to live.
tell her that
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Hey everyone, um, i have a really bad problem with looking at porn. the longest i have gone without looking at porn is 1 week. I really honestly think i am losing my faith. I am afraid that i am getting further and futher from God. A lot of bad things have been happening to me and my friends. I cuss a lot more. I do stuff, I look at porn more and more and i cannot stop. Please dont tell me that what i am doing is wrong cuz i know that. I need some really good advice
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lol looking at porn is perfectly fine.
im guessing you are a guy.
all guys look at porn.
& the thing about God. just read the bible & stuff.
God gave humans the desire to want, look at and have sex.
dont worry
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