Hi I'm Lacey and I love to help others. Giving advice and listening to people vent is something I enjoy doing. If you have questions or concerns and need someone's advice who may have experienced what you are going through I am the perfect person to talk to. I've had my high and lows in life and am not perfect. Nobody is perfect, so ask away...talk to me. vent. Anything at all, I'm here as a friend.
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My favorite time of the season is fall. I love it so much that everytime I go to the store I always buy some little something to add to my decorations, all of which are being stored in a box in my attic. My question is, today Sepetember 1st, is it too early to decorate for the fall season? My family and I just moved in this neighborhood less than a month ago and I don't want them thinking we're odd balls lol. I really want to go ahead and decorate, the inside of my home is already FALLtastic lol, but just not sure if it would be weird. Thanks for any help I can get. (link)
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If you like your place like that and that's what describes you go right ahead. It's never too early or too late to start decorating things for the fall. I honestly don't think it would be wierd at all, it is your decision. My house is a lot like that as well, and everyone loves it. :) Hope i helped.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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ok well this guy friend of myn is really good friends with my brother and he is in my class but anyways this guy frind of myn stayed at my house with my bro and well we messed around a little and well like a month after wards i let him now how i felt about him and he said he just wanted to be friends but he says that he would date me in a heart beet but my brother he dont want to loose are really close friendship. But its been like a week since he told me he wanted to just be friends and three days ago well i stayed at my friends house and we went and hung out with him and someother guys and well we winded up messing around again and i was wondering if he is just using me and what should i do because i am tired of him acting like thier is something their and then breaking my heart to nothin except friends........i am a Sophemore in high school (link)
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okay, what you need to do is tell him that you want to date hime. Talk to your brother about it. ask him what he thinks about it, he should understand. I mean what if it was the other way around and he liked your friend and wanted to date her, but just messed with her. Talk to him about it, or don't let your brother's friend mess around with you anymore. If you need to, try dating other guys and if your brother's friend really cares he'll do something about it. thanks, hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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It's been like this for quite some time now. I feel lost, like I'm slipping away. I've been stressed with relationships, friendships, and school.And.. I feel so different with my boyfriend then before, and I'm not too sure why. I mean, I still care for him, but something has changed. And we got into this fight today, and it hasnt helped whatsoever. I've been in this big hole of depression. I don't know what to do. On top of this, I've had a really bad urge to hurt myself. I've already cut myself open with my nails. Any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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one thing that i always do when i'm depressed is go on a walk or jog. It gets you going, and you feel alot better. hurting yourself is not the answer. something i do to help me feel better is i get a sqishy ball and squeeze it whenever i feel bad or upset. Hope i helped. i'm always here if you need my help.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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PLEASE ANSWER ASAP.....!!!!!!!!!
okay so my best friend just told me that one of our guy friends has a crush on her and thinks she is hot ... but he moved away to somewhere like 17 hours away. BUT THE PROBLEM IS.... that he said "i think you are hot" (to my friend) and then he said "but your other friend ___(me)___ is not, i never thought she was hot" SO NOW... i am totally depressed cause i think that i am ugly and i feel ugly. i know that one persons opinion means nothing really especially since i dont even like this guy. UGH .... so now i have really low self esteem and i am kinda mad for my friend to tell me this .....it is kinda like bragging. so now i am kinda mad at her for saying like that he thought she was hot and i am ugly. so what do i do cause i dont wanna be mad at her and i am losing confidence in myself :( ANSWER ASAP!!!!!
thnxs :) :( (link)
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okay, this is what i say...if she's your friend then she should of been careful the way she told you about what happened. My opinion on girls is that every girl is beautiful. Guys do have different opinions and tastes on girls these days. I don't really understand it, but you shouldn't really care what this guy thinks about you. just be happy that a guy thinks your friend's pretty. I don't know you, but i'm sure you are much prettier than i am. Just be yourself and put some nice unique you style into your life. Guys like girls who are themselves, so just do that. I know you can do it girl. :) Hope i helped atleast a little.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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My boyfriend of over 4yrz cheated on me, he was drunk and kissed another girl...Do you think I should forgive him??? He been crying and is truly sorry he said, and he said he was drunk and it didnt mean anything at all..I found out becoz the girl told me..this was over 1 month ago...Now he is not friends with her and wants nothing to do with her at all.( they used to be really good friends) thats all that had happen a kiss. (link)
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so if it was a one day thing, then i say forgive the guy. Everybody makes mistakes, and thats okay...but if he's under 21 he shouldn't be drinking in the first place. Stuff like that really messes you up.Anyways, I'm glad to know that he hasn't cheated on you....cause then that shows a great commitment. Anways if you ever need to talk, i'm here.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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im 15/m
my parents divorced about 3 years ago.
ever since then, me and my older brother had been living with my mom. my dad moved into a condo 5 minutes away.
but not i just started living with my dad while my brother is still living with my mom. but my dad has a new gf that my mom doesnt know about. me and my brother know, but my mom never knew. its almost been a year already.
then yesterday, my bro and my dad had an argument and my bro told my mom everything about my dads gf and how shes been living with us.
she was crushed. everybodys crying especially my mom and i dont know what to do. my dad and bro hate each other and now my mom hates me because she feels like i betrayed her by not telling her all this time. my dad is quiet right now. also me and my bro arent speaking either. everythings going to shit and i dont know what to do.
Please help me. (link)
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Okay all you can do right now is pray about it. What goes on between your dad and mom is their deal, not yours. I understand that you care and worry about them but, but all you can do right now is keep your distance and try not to be in the middle of it. My parents are divorced to and they both have new loved ones. it's hard, and your mom will understand one of these days. If your brother isn't taalking to you, you should right him a letter about how you feel. I hope i helped. I'm always here for you.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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Well I like a couple girls but I like one more but I dont know if they like me a all I can say I'm not the best looking but I'm also not the worst. Any advice. (link)
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Okay well i'm just gonna let you know that girls like a nice smelling guy, so get some cologne and spray it on baby. I'm not saying that's gonna change everything, but you just need to be yourself. A girl likes a guy who can be himself and maybe crack a joke from time to time. if you need anymore tips i can give you some. Hope i helped.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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I'll make it as brief & clear as possible.
I am 19 and female. I live at home with my parents. My boyfriend and I are getting an apartment in a month or two (thank the Lord). But in my house, my parents always put me down and yell at me. I have clinical depression, and high anxiety. I am on lots of medication. I can't seek help b/c I am broke (just started working) and my parents think it's all in my head. My mom is an alcoholic so when she is drunk she likes to hit me, and yell at me. My dad doesn't drink [he's diabetic], but he yells at me and threatens me. Sometimes I have to go all day stuck in my room without food because my parents won't let me out.
I just started work at this bank. Well my manager has been very criticizing of me. I am a very emotional person. So when she does, I want to cry. And she says I need to be super happy with customers, like perky kinda happy. She got one complaint from a customer saying I didn't make her comfortable or something. I try my best to be happy. Yeah I smile.. but I can't be super happy. It's just really hard. At home I get all this crap, and I go to work. I feel depressed, and it's hard to be perky happy. I couldn't even pretend. I just feel so desolate.. I am trying to make everyone happy, but I don't know how.
Could someone please tell me what I should do.. how can I make everyone happy? (link)
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Okay girl obviously you're going through alot, and i totally understand. I'm very emotional as well and it's hard for me to not cry at work. See what i did is i spoke to my managers about my situations at home and told them that i need all the help i can get. you have the right to do that to. My advice to you is to not worry about your parents anymore...because soon they wont be there to yell at you when you move out with your boyfriend. You're not gonna always make everyone happy, cause nobody is perfect at all whatsoever. I believe in you girl and know you can get through this. When you go home at night and go into your room i want you to grab your pillow and scream and yell into it. i gaurentee you'll feel alot better. Anyways, if you ever need anymore help i'm here for you girl. Hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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For halloween my friends and I don't want to use wigs because they arn't very realistic. We were deciding weather or not to use black hair dye. I have light brown hair. If I use black L'Oreal Colour Pulse will it actually wash out or will it become permanent? (link)
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yes L'Oreal colour pulse black would become permanent in your hair if you use it. It'll fade a little bit, but if you're wanting to go back to your normal hair color it's gonna take forever. be very careful with hairdye. If you have to, get the temporary spray dye. I don't know if you have those, but you're local drug store or market should have them. Hope i helped.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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Theres this guy i really like and he likes me too and we were gunna get together but he kissed one of my best mates and it was werid so nothing happened. thing is its been 2 month and we still both like each other only he likes my mate and there both goin my party on friday and im affraid there gunna kiss and ruin my party for me! (link)
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First of all if this guy so called likes you, he wouldn't be kissing some other girl. If he does though and he really did kiss another girl, talk to him about it. Ask him why he did that. If they're both coming to your party, make a rule for there to be no pda. Or simply ask them both to control themselves. If i were you i'd feel terrible as well and i understand sweetheart. So this is my advice to you, find a guy who is willing to pretend to be your party escort or date and let him know whats up. When yall are at the party together and he happens to kiss her or the other way around, you do the same. I don't normally give advice like this, but my friend told me this and i thought it was a cute idea. alright hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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Hello all :) , school starts tomarrow for me and i never have enough time in the morning to eat a really good break fast, usually i'm eating it as i go out the door! I want to eat healthy and things that give me a LOT energy- but i dont know what i should eat! not to mention with the pressed amount of time i have X.x . So, any ideas? thanks :) ! (link)
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there are these things called Gogurts....i've tried them before and they're pretty good. There called Gogurts for a reason. it's a yogurt on the go. You could also try eating a banana, apple, and orangejuice is always a good idea. One thing that's sugested for everyone to have atleast once a day is milk, so i strongly suggest that. Hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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ok so, i have the password to my brothers facebook. i log on to it a few times to check out recent pics and vids of my friends in the band, i dont have one, nor do i want one, thats why i use his. i logged onto it the other day and he had a conversation up with one of his buddies, admitting that he was high. that got me thinking, when your high, do you know you are? i thought it kinda made you crazy and your not thinking of reality. idk what to do anymore. he just had his buddy over and my brother went to the bathroom then him and his friend went into my brothers bedroom and i heard my brother's friend say "you made that? impressive." that only got me thinking did my brother concoct a drug in the bathroom? i dont want to go and tell my mom about this in fear of losing the relationship i have with my brother. i just dont want him getting high and doing drugs all the time, he's such a smart kid and he has such a life ahead of him. what do i do?! (link)
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okay if you love your brother and care about him, you would tell your mom. tell her that you're afraid to admit the wrong doing of your brother. Tell her how you feelabout what he's doing. Just simply ask her not to tell your brother that you told her. My sister and i used to be extremely close but then i got worried and told my parents what she was up to and ya she got mad, but later on i know shes gonna thank me. I know you're brother will do the same. Do what you think is right and tell your parents. you're brother may get mad and not like you for a while, but he wont hate you. I believe in you girl. Hope i helped. I'm always here.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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ALRIGHTYY! So I'm dating this guy, and he's pretty cool. It's only been like two weeks that we've started dating. I just have this really iffy questionable feeling about this whole thing. He has a real good personality....buuut i'm really not that physically attracted to him. I know people say "looks aren't everything" but in my opinion that is complete bull shit, because hell they matter to everyone at my age! (16.) We've hung out like four times, we've done like everything "sexual" to do except sex and oral. That doesn't matter. But I don't know,when he left my house last night and my brother told me he looked like a rat, I really quickly thought i'd break up with him. I know, sounds so terrible! He's a real cool guy, a good personality. It's just I have other guys talking to me, and I feel at this age I shouldn't be tied down to someone that I have an iffy feeling about in the first place! But then again, I'm worried If I break up withh him the next day I'll totally be regretting it. I don't know, so confused! Can anyone help me out here? (link)
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give it a couple days more...and girl it's not all about the looks. it's especially not about the sex. who cares what other people think. ya it's nice to have a good looking guy in you're life, but what matters is if you can have a good time and be yourself around him. I just want you to know something i've learned in science is that more people are attracted to guys with a better personality than there actual looks. I hope i didn't affend you in any way, but i also hope that i helped you out. If you ever need anymore help i'm here for you.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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Hello everyone (link)
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okay here's what i do....i find something to hold on to when i'm on the phone. I'm not a big talker on the phone myself. i like to be doing something while i talk on the phone... if you need to write some things down on a peice of paper that you can alk about that's always a good idea. Alrighty....hope i helped.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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im a 16/f and i recently lost my virginity to an 18/m. we arent going out but he claims that were friends with benefits. he doesnt like me in that way and he doesnt want a relationship. we arent even friends, im kind of just his booty call. im also hooking up with a 16/m, but he likes me. i dont like him that much. each guy doesnt know that im hooking up with both of them, and the 18/m told me he really wouldnt care if i liked someone else but he said he would probobly care if i was doing stuff with other guys. why do you think he would care if he doesnt even like me? he said that he just would. but i want to know why.
and does this make me a slut..be honest. (link)
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okay....i'm not you, but sounds like you need to avoid this guy who just wants to be friends with benefits. I say its bad news. you need to leave both of them and start all over girl. you're putting yourself into a big mess sweetheart. believe me if you continue to be his booty call while you're dating some other guy that likes you you're life is gonna turn into a living hell. I'm sorry to dissapoint you, but you're putting yourself into a very bad situation. You're friend with benefits doesn't care, he just wants to be the only one to get some from you and that's not good. If you're going to be doing these things it's very wrong, and I don't personally like calling people sluts or anything, but yes that would make you one. get rid of both of the guys an find some friends to enjoy your life with. at 16 you shouldn't being having sex, but that's just my opinion. If you want to i can pray with you, cause when you get older and marry the man you love it's gonna probably hurt him that you had sex before marriage. Everybody makes mistakes, and that's okay cause nobodies perfect. you are an amazing girl and God loves you and i love you through christ. Have a wonderful day and i hope i helped you.
Your friend, lulabell aka lul
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should i have sex?i am in love and we have kissed,and we love each other like mad.he is crazy,and all my used friends to nag me aboutdumping him,but now they want us to sex!i would love to,but all my friends nag and are putting preasure on me too!help!from;desprate house wife(to true!) ps im21and a gorgeousgirl! (link)
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okay girl first of all, are you ready for sex? ask yourself that. But the thing is, do you want to get married some day? When you get married are you going to be able to look into your husbands eyes and tell them that you've already had sex and didn't save yourself for him? See your friends don't decide for you, you do. You need to be very careful about your choice. You may have a different viewpoint about sex or different opinion than me, and thats okay. I don't know if you're a christian or not, but if you are think about what it says in the bible about sex before marriage. i don't mean to affend you or make you uncomfortable if you don't believe in that stuff. All i have to say is that my advice to you is to save your body for that special man that you marry one day. hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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My cash drawer at work keeps being count short or over..and I'm on my final written...I don't know what to do. I count the money customers give me 4 times..twice when being handed to me and twice before putting it in..how can I stop my drawer from being short or over?? (link)
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okay here's one thing....take a deep breath before each order and after. i've been short in my till before and all you can do is count the money they give you and put that in your till and count the money that you owe them. i don't know if you're screen tells you the amount you owe, but if it doesn't bring a calculator to work.if it continues...talk to your managers. they should understand. if they don't, thats not right. hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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I'm 17 years old and i suffer from major depression. about a year go i had my first love and lost my virginaty around this time. We only dated for a month but i truely did love him... everything about him scared me because i never felt that way about anyone. i got really high one day when i was with him and my mind told me i didnt need him. it was the hardest break up ever but for some reason it didnt bother me till later that day. Not even a week went by and i found out he had sex with my bestfriend (at the time). and it hit me hard. i went into such bad depression i didnt even want to get up in the morning. all i did was eat and sleep. i gained 30 pounds in a matter of 3 months (not even). and now 10months later i'm the same weight. it sucks. I have a boy in my t we're not offical just yet and everyday i think about my first and how much i wish i coudl take it back and how i wish i was still with him and how much he still means to me. i go to his myspace almost everyday and just wonder how it would of been if i was still with him. p.s. he knows i gained weight and told me i look like a cow and to lose it. that just mad me cry.... help (link)
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first of all if you "love him" i say go with heart girl. nobodies going to stop you, but from what you've said about him and what he's said to you it's not worth it. Why? because a guy should never talk to a girl like that. You're beautiful in God's eyes, and i don't know you but i'm sure youare gorgeous. You just need to be yourself and pray everyday. I've suffered from depression so much...i don't know about you're past, but i'm sure we are alike in many ways. I've been in love 5 times...and the guy i'm with now is real love. you're going to experience what you think is love, but really is lust and needyness. I know how feel girl. i've gained alot of weight to, but my boyfriend who has been with me the longest now for 1 year and 3 months doesn't care about my weight. see if a guy loves you and really cares about you, he wouldn't care about your weight or appearance. Yes he may worry about you, but he wouldn't call you a cow and force you or tell you what to do about it. my best advice for now is to drink lots of water and go jogging for atleast 25 min everyday. trust me, you will feel alot better. I find it takes alot of stress and depression off yourself. I believe in you girl, so have faith and God will be with you in every step of the way. if you need help or have anymore questions, you let me know. i'm here for you.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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My boyfriend of 5 months hasen't talked to me in 5 days and I'm wondering if he dosen't like me anymore I have called him but there is no answer and he won't return my calls!Is he going to dump me?Oh and I am from Canada. (link)
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well if it's a long distance you have something t worry about. normally long distance relationships don't last. especially during the school years. i've been in 3 long distance relationships and they never worked out. my advice to you is to send him a message and let him know that you're done, so he doesn't break up with you first. Girl you need to move on and try to have a relationship with someone close to you. if this is not a long distance relationship, then go find the boy and ask him whats going on. No guy should just all of the sudden not talk to a girl in 5 day straight. That's rude and just plain wrong. My advice to you is to throw it all away and start over with something new and better. you got alot going for ya, expecially if you live in canada. Canada girls are beautiful, so don't ever think you cant just get a boyfriend there. I believe in you and if you have anymore questions, you let me know and i'm there for ya.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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okay so i'm going mini golfing with some friends and my ex is gonna be there and i'm trying to win him back...our friends are probably gonna leave us after, so i have the rest of the night with him. i was thinking of going for a walk in the park or something and watching the stars :) so what should i wear that's impressive but doesn't seem like i'm trying too hard. i was thinking mini skirt and tanktop? or should i drop the skirt and wear shorts? idkk help pleasee. (link)
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If you wear a skirt, you will give him the wrong impression and you have chances of flashing some bod. my advice to is to wear some nice tight shorts....I have plenty of guy friends and asked them wat they would think of this situation, and they all agreed that girls in short tight shorts give off a much sexy and flirty look. See wearing a skirt can give off the wrong pointer to a guy. if you have any further questions, you can always ask me.
Your friend, lulballe aka lulu
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